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  • try to forgive and forget
  • Cuz its what your Grandma would want.
  • Ask yourself how your grandmother would feel if she saw you suffering for something that is out of your control (her leaving). Your anger will hurt only you and she would not want that to happen. And, we never really say goodbye to our love ones that passed away, it is better to remember them for their love and the times shared.
  • I feel for you.I've lost loved ones without the chance to say good bye,but,have faith .When your time comes,the 1st one to see you will be your grandmother,she will be welcome you with open arms and all the time apart will be gone in the blink of an eye....As far as your aunt,never forget what she did but find it in your heart to forgive her.Everything in this life happens for a reason,you may not realize it today or this year,one day however ,the light will come on and you'll say," Now I understand"....
  • The anger isn't going to accomplish anything. We always want a perfect chance for a last goodbye. The truth is, it doesn't usually exist. And people aren't perfect. No matter what your aunt did or didn't do; how right or wrong she is; and anything else.... The truth of the matter is that you are grieving the loss of a loved one. You are grieving and angry. Maybe it could have gone more smoothly, but honestly, I doubt your aunt's intention was a malicious one. And even if it was, sweetheart, it doesn't change your love for your grandmother or your relationship. Take the time to grieve and heal the negativity. Turn it into positivity. Your grandmother will live on in your strength. I've already expressed my condolences, and as I've already said, I'm here for you.
  • It's not healthy to deny how you feel or to supress it. Anger is an entirely natural and healthy human emotion. Why shouldn't you feel what you feel? Forget about 'letting go' of the anger - that's new age gibberish for the most part. The thing is to hold the anger with awareness and let it work it's way out naturally, without being consumed by it or acting out on it. Meditation helps with that.
  • Confront her. Let it allll out. Your aunt should understand how you feel. Not only would you be able to let out your anger, you may know her reasons or also get her apologies. Sorry to hear about your grandma :(
  • Saying goodbye is for you not for your grandmother. The important thing is your grandmother knew you loved her and is all that really matters. I realise she was your grandmother but she was also your aunts mother,remember that and respect that relationship too.
  • Realize that your anger is not going to benefit you or your aunt. All you have left of your grandmother now is memories and you should cherish those without resentment.
  • I'd go with time and patience, myself.
  • I am sorry to learn of your loss. You need to realise your aunt was just trying to do what she thought was best. I'm sure she feels bad enough about the whole thing. Give her a break for now and see how you feel about it at a later date. Again, I'm deeply sorry for your loss.
  • i am very sorry for your loss. it is never eay losing a loved one. and it is going to take some time to get over this. but you can say your goodbyes to her at anytime. she will always be with you everytime that you think of her she is there with you. it is going to hard for sometime to get over what your aunt did. but i think that it might have been a right desition at the time.at least that is what your aunt might have been thinking. but just remember that your grandmother is never far from you. just remember her always and she will be there. i will pray for you and your family.
  • I know how rough losing someone you love is. Dealing with death comes in stages, shock, denial, anger, grief and acceptance. It sounds like your at the anger phase...it will pass so dont beat yourself up over it!!
  • I am so sorry for your loss - Please think as sisters are closer. What would you think that hurts more loosing one relative or two?
  • Acknowledge your anger. Feel it with all your heart -expose it to the light of mindfullness - and let it go when you're done with it. It's healthy to feel anger. It's not healthy to be angry forver. I'm very sorry for your loss and I wish you the best.
  • I'm sorry for your loss. Everyone is different and there is no easy answer, but I'll tell you the way I would look at it. Realize that your grandmother knows you loved her very much and no one could take that away. Your grandmother wouldn't want you to be angry with your aunt, she would want the family to get along. It would probably make her sad if she thought that there was anger at this time. I can understand your anger, I would probably feel the same, but it will only hurt you in the end. I'll pray for you tonight and you have my sincere sympathy.
  • talk first to you grandmother, she is waiting to hear you tell he how much you love her, she knows already, but she is just waitinig to let you tell her ! :) she was with you, just not right by you ! :)
  • i am very sorry to hear of your loss miss anubis. i understand your pain in losing your grandmother is compounded by your aunt doing something you perceive as very hurtful. anger and sadness are two sides of the same coin. in order to heal, you should talk to your aunt as soon as possible and let her know that you perceived her actions to be disrespectful. she needs to know how you feel. and you may be surprised by her answers ~ maybe there were legitimate reasons for her decision ~ and maybe she wasnt thinking clearly either due to her own suffering. whatever the reason, youll have the opportunity to clear the air, grieve about your loss together, have some understanding of one another, and get apologies if they are due. after the discussion, you will have clarity, which should help mitigate the pain. but in order to let go of the anger completely, you will need to forgive. although time generally heals wounds, you dont want to hold onto anger ~ its not healthy for you or the person you are harboring anger against. and when i say forgive ~ you need to forgive everything. you can do so through compassionate reflection. forgiveness is probably the hardest thing for any person to do, but it is the most important in healing the soul. i totally understand your sadness over not being able to say goodbye ~ i didnt get to say a final goodbye to my mother or either of my grandmothers because of the suddenness of their passings. but i take solace in my lifetime of memories with them, feeling their spirits still about me, and knowing that they knew my love for them. i visited my mothers grave at arlington national cemetery yesterday and i spoke to her ~ and i feel somewhere, somehow, her spirit is listening. my thoughts are with you and your family, miss anubis. i wish you all the best.

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