Why do people we've never met ask US what their boyfriend's / girlfriend's / spouse's latest utterance or facial expression means, instead of asking their partner? How would we know?
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HasntBeen
ANSWERS: 17
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Ahhh, if ever there was a million dollar question! That's why I'm recommending these:
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Hello my friend... Long time no see! I have no idea personally... But this is an excellent question that I imagine can be answered in the assumption that most people just like the outward sound of their own head space, for some strange reason?
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Exactly. It's not like WE'RE stupid enough to be going out with them or anything. Sheesh. Always my answer: Ask them.
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I have been saying that for some time. As if people on the net can tell anyone why their SO does anything. We can't possibly have enough information to answer any questions of that sort unless we actually know the people in real life.
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If life was only that easy. For one thing WHY does anyone here think they will get a straight answer from asking the person? Here is a good example. If someone asks you do you like them, and you dont. But there your friend or somewhat friend. Are you just going to say NO I dont like you. Your ugly. blah blah blah. No your going to say maybe we should be friends blah blah blah. People come here to try and pierce through all the BS everyoen spews everyday.
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Second opinion? Don't answer them if they get your knickers in a knot.
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I'm all for asking for second opinions but I absolutely see what you're getting at here. When I answer questions like those, that are too vague, when I don't have any prior knowledge or background about the situation, I try to help by pointing that fact out and asking for more info. After all, any response they get is 100% conjecture, we don't know most of those people at all.
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I wish I knew....all of them are so very vague there's no way we could ever answer them. Same goes for the "am I/could I be pregnant" questions, "I found this pill what is it?" or even worse, "my child/cat/dog is vomiting/bleeding/running a fever what should I do?" I mean, does no one know how to call a doctor?
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I believe the answer is simple: they're scared. People are scared of making choices and taking responsibilty. In my opinion, the strongest evidence of this exists in the many different religions people use to avoid taking responsibility for their own lives. If someone tells you what to do, you can choose to place the blame on them if something goes wrong and thus escape truly dealing with it. Of course they should suck it up and bite the bullet... But in a society where people are catered to and fed SSRIs like cure-all candy, can you really expect that from the young ones?
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Yes I avoid those questions because I cant tell you if he/she "likes" you or what it means when he/she stares or flirts or avoids or says . . .
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Great question
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They are probably looking for an impartial answer from strangers instead of from someone in their life (ie: mother who isn't really that crazy about their current partner and who might hold a grudge or paint it negatively no matter what). As for asking their partner, we all have met people who say one thing and mean another. So sometimes a little help decoding the message under the message saves jumping to the wrong conclusion. Personally, I suspect they ask us, take a consensus, search their own feelings, and then do talk to their spouse/significant other. Possibly with a little more tact and lot less knee-jerk assuming. I don't mind helping someone with that.
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funny question hasnt been. it is truly ponderous. as if we know their s/o any better...right...let me grab my telepathic answerbag hat. i can see why they might ask our opinion on facial expressions. although its subjective and expressions can vary widely based on a persons personality and the type of situation theyre responding to ~ some types of expressions and body language are fairly universal. im assuming the questioner hopes we are better psychologists than they are. but interpretations of something their s/o said are a totally different matter. only the horse truly understands what came out of the horses mouth. and even the horse may be confused. i gather that theyre usually very inexperienced in romantic affairs and in the early stages of the relationship. i think some may be scared to communicate with their s/o for fear of rejection. and then there is a remote possibility they could be venusian or martian and completely unable to read alien behavior.
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I'm sure I do not know. Great question though. What's that saying about arguing on the Internet? I think we need one for looking up relationship advice on a Q&A site.
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The assumption is that anonymity will guarantee greater honesty, which is not entirely unwarranted. And of course it provides a great line: "I was talking to some friends recently, and THEY said..."
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its good to get an opinion of someone else who knows nothing about either party and therefore has no favourtism towards either side. plus its just a hell of a lot easier emotionally
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When I ask questions like that, they are usually very general to gauge what other men are thinking. As a woman, I often wonder if I am being too sensitive or I just don't believe what he is telling me. I Know that there are other people who have experience with what I do and may know more about what happens next. I don't make major decisions in my life based on how people answer my question, but I believe that I do get some valuable input.
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