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by marisol guerva on December 29th, 2006

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My boyfreind wants to have anal sex, but I am afraid it will hurt. I want to do it, but are there any tips that can make it more enjoyable for the woman?

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  • by Helen of Toys on January 9th, 2009

    Helen of Toys

    He will get used to it......Wear earphones so you do not hear his screams.....Play music loudly and remember...Men have very low pain thresholds..it is not hurting as much as he says....

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  • by Annton Cabibble on June 9th, 2009

    Annton Cabibble

    Your boyfriend needs to understand a few things. First, the anus is not designed for sex. It is a tight set of muscles designed to hold stuff in. The vagina is designed to be more receptive. Two, a woman can be injured by anal sex, because it could tear tissue. Three, for a woman, it can be VERY painful and if he loves you he should not want to cause you pain. Also, according to Wikidediait can lead to... Loss of control over the bowels, though rare according to some, is thought to be a valid concern[41] and is reported to be caused by repeated injury, or by the insertion of large objects,[42] or simply by regular anal sex, which "leads to internal sphincter dilation and soiling."

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  • by bowlinggreen on December 29th, 2006

    bowlinggreen

    Yes, you should purchase a butt plug. This will stretch out your butt hole so big, it won't hurt when he puts it in. Another advantage to using butt plugs is you won't have to squeeze hard when passing a bowel movement anymore. This will save a lot of time in the bathroom.

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  • by bebe chick on June 21st, 2009

    bebe chick

    if there is no lube or you are not relax it will definitely hurt. you need to be mentally and physically ready in order to do it or enjoy it. if you are not up for it, he should respect that.

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  • by frodis on June 8th, 2009

    frodis

    yea do it when she is passed out, and hump away!

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  • by altgirl84 on January 20th, 2007

    altgirl84

    De sensitizing lube :)
    http://www.amazon.com/Toys-Antibacterial-Desensitizing-Anal-Benzocaine/dp/B000L62QAA That's the one I use and it never hurts.

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  • by Anonymous on June 12th, 2009

    Anonymous

    Read this:
    www.babeland.com/sexinfo/howto/buttsexbeginners

    It's short and it's the best anal how-to I've read.

    Keep this in mind also:
    The anus has 2 sphinter muscles, one is voluntary and the other is involuntary. The involuntary muscle only relaxes when you feel comfortable in a situation, so if you feel tense about doing this act with him it's almost definitely gonna hurt.

    If you're not relaxed and he just rams it right up you a** your involuntary muscle will spasm and it will hurt like HELL. I am speaking from experience.

    So, please please please read as many how-to's as you can and be familiar with the anatomy of you butt.

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  • by Doe_John on January 10th, 2009

    Doe_John

    The three most important things are 1) to be relaxed 2) there should be lots of lubrication and 3) communicate. In addition, you might want to use a small dildo or vibrator (again, well lubricated) immediately prior to trying. Patience is key. If it doesn't feel comfortable, you probably aren't ready yet. Another suggestion is that you may want to try it on top. That way you can control the depth and the intensity of the thrusting.

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  • by thattypeofgirl on December 17th, 2009

    thattypeofgirl

    make sure u go # 2 at least a few hours before, clean yourself well, start with fingers, use lots and lots and lots of lube, relax and enjoy!!!

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  • by King Daniel on December 21st, 2010

    King Daniel

    Lots of forplay. Have him eat your ass, get you nice an excited. Take it slow, no need to rush. Use lots of lube.

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  • by Paul_M2713 on June 30th, 2011

    Paul_M2713

    Don't go to the toilet the day you plan on doing it. Just before you go to bed go to the toilet. Even if you have to put fingers into your pussy and push some No.2 out of your arse. This will relax your muscles. Have him massage you consentrating on your bum. Put heaps of lube on a butt plug and have him put gently put this in you while he massages you. ( maybe you can practice using the plug while you are masturbating alone ). Continue with your normal foreplay and sex always moving the plug around in your arse. When you fell he is close to cuming then have him remove the plug, put heaps more lube on it and put it back in you ,making sure you are lubed deep inside, while you cover his cock in lube. Yiou may want to try reverse cowboy, at first, so you are in control, but once his whole cock is inside you your arse will produce its own lube and you can move onto your hands and knees, giving him total access to your hot tight hole. I have been many womens first anal. I have a quite large cock but they have all loved their 1st time becouse I took my time and thought of their pleasure the whole time. Also you may want to use a vibe on your clit while he's in your arse becouse when your pussy comes your arse will flood and the muscles will totally relax. Have fun and let us know how it went

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  • by thattypeofgirl on December 17th, 2009

    thattypeofgirl

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