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Ask. We have no practice lives. This may be the only one we get. What are you waiting on. You and your mother are both adults, right? If she doesn't want to tell you because it is too painful for her, perhaps it will end there. But if she's been wanting to tell someone for a long time, but didn't know how to start, you will have the information you are curious about. You may win, you may lose. But for sure you won't find out unless you ask.
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go slowly, piece by piece...
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I would bring the subject of abortions up generally, ask her opinion and then move into personal wxperiences. Gauge her reactions along the way and if it looks like it's getting too uncomfortable, you can choose to back off if you like.
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Certainly, if you feel comfortable bringing it up with her. Chances are the event meant a lot to her, and even if it's a painful memory, she'll appreciate you asking. The discussion that may result could be rewarding and a good bonding experience. If you don't ask, you may regret it later on in your life.
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I agree with the first three answers and the cautions. I would say that you can help your mother to be willing to talk by dropping hints that you are open to anything she needs to tell you and talk about. You can even say, "Mom, some day when you feel OK about it, I'd like to talk with you about your abortion - not today, but some day when you are ready." That will pave the way and give her time to get used to the idea and know that you are not attacking her.
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