Having too much time on his hands can be dangerous. That's why working is beneficial in more ways than one. Having a girl 'friend' outside of marriage is not healthy, and can lead to temptation. If he doesn't believe this, he's only kidding himself, or not being honest to you. If he loves you, he will honor your request to stop this outside relationship. And yes, being intimate with another woman-- even if it doesn't involve sex, can be classified as 'cheating'.

He needs to get a job~ SERIOUSLY! And show more respect toward you. Sounds like he's making excuses because he doesn't work, so it's "OKAY" to talk to another woman. Come on! He needs to grow up.

Really? He cant talk to another woman?

YES!

I would be more worried about why he isn't working first of all and second if he isn't able to work then it would all depend on how he met this woman and who she was and what they talk about.

I would not call it cheating but I would call it a window of oppotunity to lead to cheating. I would appreciate his honesty but I would question it for sure.

Not yet but it is in the works, so tell him to stop it or see if he would like you talking to a male. Watch how fast he stops you!

That's not cheating yet but surely will be if he keeps doing it. I tell you what... Singles deal with singles, couples deal with coples... When you get married you should have married friends so you have commun things to talk and share. he is wrong and must stop while is time.

I'm getting Dred for this for sure.... What's wrong with him talking to another human being??? A relationship shouldn't feel like a trap. Once I start seeing someone why should I no longer talk to anyone else but her? That's just foolish. Oh my GOD, He talked to her! Sheesh. He should be castrated!!!

not technically if he loves you he'd respect himself and you by keeping him and his "friend" conversations at just that no further and if they start talking bout sex and things he should tell you and yawl discuss whether he should continue being friends and such but i think it's ok to have a friend of the opposite sex and what did his employment have to do with anything you don't have to have a job to have friends

I ould not consider this a form of cheating, however I would probably want to know more about the person,how they met, etc Questions of a subtle nature that don't make him feel under scrutiny or untrusted would be best and less likely to end up in an argument. You would not like it if he grilled you about every guy you speak to but as you say he doesn't work I would be wondering where he met and how often the get together etc. If your questions are reasonable, fair and polite there is no reason he cannot answer. But don't accuse him. Is there some reason you already have to not trust him? It seems like there must be more to it for you to be so worried. If you haven't met her maybe you should suggest that she come over for dinner, she might be just a really nice lady and you might make a new surprise friend. Anyway we are all insecure at times, try not to panic as these 'hunches' can often be wrong and come from low feelings about ourselves an a desire for affirmation. He could also be just trying to make you jealous, depending on what he is saying it might be all talked up to make HIS ego feel bigger. If it is a game, reacting that way will just encourage that kind of behavior from him. Also, the worst thing you can do if it is innocent, is to carry on all jealous and paranoid - it will just make the guy who adores you not adore you so much and can be scary from his point of view - put yourself in his place. Best of luck!

I guess it just depends... I let my man talk to woman because I trust him. I know all the chicks he talks to. Now if he starts talking about another chick that I don't know then I might get a little questionable but that is what women do. All I can say is ask him if you can meet her. Hell she might be cool as hell.

It would depend on what they talk about. As long as is not inappropriate, it shouldn't be a problem.

If they are just friends, then he should have no problem with the two of you meeting. He has nothing to hide, right? Tell him to invite her over for dinner!

Conversing with a woman would not be considered cheating in my book.

I'll tell u right now there's a 50% chance he wants to have sex with this woman. There's also a 50% chance it's completely innocent. If the woman is pretty I'd bet a bundle on on the former. If she's just ok looking or plain, it might be very innocent.

Not if it's under control and he's telling the truth...

So you don't talk to any men, ever? How do you expect him to work out in public without talking to any women? Talking to other women is not cheating.

ball too light? chain not long enough? gotta put him in a cage and feed him bread and water once a week? DAMN...

As long as he's not talking about why and when he's going to leave his wife for her.

My experience is this, any woman that has started to talk to my fiance, usually is trying to sleep with him. They usually start out by talking about her problems, then it is a bad marriage, then it is how long she has gone with out being physical with her partner, and then it gets to the point that the women tries to be my friend. Then she starts to email him ALL the time, then he tells her to go away and leave him alone for good. That is my experience.

Get more info................remember, he is a MAN!!!

Unless it's a recruiter, or a therapist...Yeah, it's a red flag.