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by suzycue on November 8th, 2008
Love and honour..yes. Worship? Obey? Are you kidding?
That's right from the dark ages....directly from the bible, written in times when men had to oppress women and have total control. (As in parts of the mid-East today).
by jer818 on June 27th, 2009
the bible not only states that a women should let her husband lead, and she respect,honor and worship him but it also says that a husband reciprocates those same demands, get it, you should love, honor, worship and respect each other, and i am a man giving this statement
by Firefly on June 27th, 2009
Love--Agree
Honour--Agree
Worship--R u crazy?????
by Sweet T on November 8th, 2008
Love - Yes
Honor - Yes
Worship - Yes
Obey - I have always had a problem with that one, I am an adult, I am able to make decisions for myself. No.
by Candygirl on November 8th, 2008
As long as the woman's husband/partner does all of the mentioned back to her. To a point...I still have a problem with the obey part.
by Marinesweetie09 on January 28th, 2009
I don't know about worship....but yes. However it must be said, that a man should do the same thing for their wife. Peace.
by MeMySelfAnEye on November 8th, 2008
Love, yes. Honor, yes. Respect, yes. Worship and obey ... no. He's your husband, not your deity.
by Rinmarie on June 27th, 2009
We left 'obey' out of our vows and replaced it with 'respect'. I thought it was a healthy compromise, and we EACH said it.
by Tigger on June 27th, 2009
yea as long as the demand isnt something unreasanable
BUT so should men!!!
by Aaron wears a COAT of Fantasy on June 27th, 2009
Minus the worship part, I say it should be the other way around. Men should love, honor, and obey women...
Hope this helps... :D
by Anonymous on March 4th, 2009
There are some blogs and books out there that teach the exact opposite that the husband is to love, honor, worship and obey his wife. My mother in law could have written it because she convinced him that he had promised to obey him in the marriage vows and she made him worship her like an emasculated slave. He could not even order tea on Father's day without her permission. I've seen my share of hen pecked husbands and dominated wives, but I've never seen an enslaved man until him. Men like this live in fear of their wives because they have given the total power of validation of themselves as men to their wives. That is not a healthy way to live nor is the other extreme.
Thus, I think love and honor are constants. In place of worship, I'd put respect and this is greatly missing in many marriages I do believe. In place of obey, I think cooperate would be better. Obey is something my dogs do because I've trained them. Respect is something that I earn.
If you take an objective look at many popular TV commercials and programs, we have too much male bashing. It sometimes seems like in America, the worst thing to be is a white man.
by duke.of.data on January 28th, 2009
YES! and the MAN should DO THE SAME THING. the word obey implies a one sided balance, but no marrage is compromise. both should be submissive in the other domaine. when her friends are over he should distribute food/drink and when his friends are over she should play hostess. this is not about dominance...marrage means you will need to tolerate that person for a long time.
by miss skellington in mushroom land on November 8th, 2008
my mom made them remove obey and worship from the vows before she said any yes's :) i admire her for it. that is ludicrous.
by Gonzo on November 8th, 2008
Why only women?
by Jen-Jen on November 8th, 2008
Being a submissive wife isn't for everyone, but with the right man, it is for me.
by AIR_INDIA_says_Wass_Up on August 31st, 2009
that should be both ways !!
by MRSHINYSHOES on August 4th, 2009
"Obey" is a little dated in my opinion, but they should love, honor and worship their husbands, just like husbands should love, honor and worship their wives. I would replace "obey" with the words "respect, and listen well and with an open mind" instead.
by laaayla on June 29th, 2009
Love and honor. Yes. Worship only God. Obey? he's not your daddy and you are not his child. Marriage is a partnership not a dictatorship.
by Treval on June 27th, 2009
Love, and honor? Both sides should. Worship and Obey though? Are you trying to make me die laughing? No.
by ladyshakespeare on June 27th, 2009
this really is a lot simpler than people make it out to be. A husband AND and wife should love, honor and respect each other mutually. As for obey, this is ridiculous. neither one is the slave owner of the other. Both parties should consider the requests of the other, AND both parties should consider the repercussions THEIR own requests will have on the other. If you are requesting something that is hurtful to the other, why on earth would you expect that to be obeyed? why would you even ask if you loved that person?
by person1593 on June 27th, 2009
love them if their loved one loves them back, honor them if they are honorable, and obey reasonable request if they feel like it
by trynfinity on June 27th, 2009
Whether you are male or female you should love honor and worship your partner, The word obey signifies someone who owns the other or is the higher in the relationship. The two of you are equal in who you are therefore either both should obey the other or obey should be stricken all together. Personally I don't think any one has any right to TELL someone what they should or shouldn't do past a parent to a child. But not everyone believes in such.
by Gingerminx on January 28th, 2009
Love-Yes
Honour-Yes
Whorship-No
Obey-No
by Anonymous on January 28th, 2009
I personally believe that, in an ideal relationship, both partners should love, honour, worship and obey their partners.
I find the assertion that "women" should "worship and obey" their husbands/partners to be a sexist, bronze age sentiment that is as antiquated as the scythe. Women are not inferior to men, and should not be treated as thus.
by BigDaddyBS on January 28th, 2009
I believe the last two have been removed.
I don't really remember Worship in the vows, as wouldn't that be making the man (or woman) equivalent to God (against the commandment "Thou shalt have no other God before me")?
Obey? Depends on what we're talking about, but not necessarily.
BTW: The same is true of men, you know... Men should love and honor their wives/partners.
by Jess on January 28th, 2009
I love, honor, and RESPECT my spouse. No one deserves to be worshipped, and many women have minds of their own, why blindly obey?
by JaKs Angel- NEW MOM 7/10 on January 28th, 2009
How about Love, Honor, Loyalty, and Respect your partner at all times
by MizzBailey on January 28th, 2009
Love? Absolutely. Honor? Absolutely. Worship and Obey? Dat a no-no. I never really got the meaning of obeying your husband. I mean i dont worship but one man and thats God and to the best of my abilities i try to obey him but why obey your husband, hes not your father, youre not his child, so why should you. I mean you should listen to what he has to say and take it into consideration but to obey i think that someone has went too far about that situation. It should be a fifty-fifty thing not just him running you. Okay he pays the bill i know he's the man but i think that no man is worth giving up your soul for. I mean thats just ridiculous to me but everyone is entitled to their own opinion but i just gave you mine.
by Original Gangster on January 6th, 2009
I think you should both be on an even footing. It must go both ways.
by mtndewman44 on January 6th, 2009
If a relationship is to work,both need to love and honor one another.The very thought of obeying and worshiping is not a healthy relationship,in my mind.That would be a very old way of thinking(like maybe from the '50's or something)
I believe both should have boundaries and set the rules for treatment as the relationship matures,if one can't see the need to be a partner,,make up you own mind if they are the right one for you.
by jeanie16 on November 9th, 2008
well, not all of those, in that way exactly,
I wouldnt think you should obey , your own morals and ethics should be enough in life to form partnerships and enjoy lifes journeys, you shouldnt worship a mortal as such, but I guess to love and honour would have been part of the reason the relationship formed in the first palce ! :)
by Patty Melt... on November 9th, 2008
LOVE HONOR WORSHIP OBEY……..
LOVE ----you did marry the man, so LOVE you should.
The other three I think you are thinking too far into them.
When you love someone all of these should play a roll.
When you love someone you do HONOR them they are everything to you…… (They should be, and they should also HONOR you)
WORSHIP….. In the bedroom I worship my man, and he deserves to be worshiped.
As for day to day we are both equal, and we LOVE each other and we are each others life….
OBEY--- This words sounds like you are a child and you need to obey rules, or a dog and your owner is telling you want to do. So OBEY let’s erase the meaning of that word. OBEY is such an old word used back in the day when women did Obey their mate, but times have changed we are no longer servants of our man. Always value his opinion; Take into consideration on his views. Work as a team and meet each other in the middle.
by Star Girl One of THE KEWL KIDZ on November 8th, 2008
I was with you until you said worship. Im not goin to worship any man. And that obey thing. It depends. Ill listen to them. But if they say jump, they are never gonna hear" how high". Men you do that take away a womens choice is stupid
by mode9 on November 8th, 2008
Only if it is mutual thing.
by Violet on November 16th, 2009
OBEY!? What is this? 1700?!
by -O-uknow on November 11th, 2009
One drop of poison in the pot spoils the stew. You added "Worship" and none may put anything before God.
by JessicaMariexo on October 12th, 2009
Women and men should both love and honor eachother. Obeying and worshiping is to much. Everyone has their own life, and you shouldnt stop what you want to do to worship and obey. You shouldnt be under control from your partner if they love you, and if they did love you they wouldnt respect your wishes NOT to obey them. If that's the case then you need to leave that realtionship and be happy, or talk things out with them and tell him how you feel about it.
by forget brenda on August 31st, 2009
Only if he loves, honors, worships, and obeys me.
by Bull wears a COAT of many colours on August 5th, 2009
Both should, not just the woman.
by Angelsite on July 7th, 2009
If you are going to bible way then I understand. But worship was never in the picture. It is a quote that I use in my house but most people take it the wrong way. Yes I give away final say but for two people that love and respect each other, there is still a partnership. If a guy chooses to take advantage of that then it is a waiste of time.
A simple example was when he didnt like dishwashers. We had one that became a glorified dish drain. No big deal. He did the dishes to. Not like I was the only one doing them. Though now we do use it and I almost never do the dishes or clean the kitchen at all, but he never touches the laundry. I do all of that. Do you see what I am getting at about giveing so much respect but it still being 50/50?
by Shemarq the Wamama on June 28th, 2009
Love and honor - yes
worship and obey - no
by Alice on June 28th, 2009
Love - Yes
Honor - Yes
Worship - Only if he worships me back baby!
Obey - This is the one that bothers me.
by Rahbar on June 27th, 2009
Except Worship a woman should do all the things with her man!
by ccpen123 on January 28th, 2009
Just love them, you first need to love yourself, then all woreship and obey stuff would be sencond... You are to love and cherish and yearn, but also be you... if your man is saying you need to worship and obey me you need to also say you do the same for me... WOMEN AND MEN ARE EQUAL.... there is none of this Man and wife bull anymore, its me and you as one...
by Dracool on January 28th, 2009
ha,ha,ha,ha .. should? .. ha,ha,ha,ha. Sorry, but that's hilarious.
by InsomniacAthiest on January 28th, 2009
only if the man does too.
by shrinkess on January 28th, 2009
I prefer a partnership, myself. Mutual respect is the big deal in my book.
by Mentalmum is back on January 28th, 2009
Love and honour - definitely, worship, yeah as long as he worships me too, but obey??? i dont think so! :)
by Silent Night on January 6th, 2009
says who? Men are human and treat them like one!...
there was also a certain theory that women should be kept on pedestal and be treated like a queen...I've never seen that happen!
by Yahoo Answers Is A Fraud on January 6th, 2009
Love and respect, yes.
Why do many women use shaming language and act rude when a man even hints at robogirls in the future? It's all about choice, right?
by Robogirl_roboguy_robodog_robocat_in_2030 on September 24th, 2010
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When someone says "it's not goodbye" and keeps away from you suddenly for a long time and not return, what stupid folly is this?
by WABOO on September 21st, 2010
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Why do girls claim to believe it's bad to let someone pressure you into something you don't want to do yet pressure guys to marry them?
by Piano Player on October 6th, 2010
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How do I prove I am not lying even though it started out with a lie?
by Stephanie12 on September 29th, 2010
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What do you think my boyfriend thinks of me... if he walks 6 blocks to a game, with strepthroat, risks detention or a F, just to see me?
by SirenNecko1 on September 18th, 2010
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thanks suzycue
by -_You Can Leave Your Hat On....- on November 8th, 2008
Right on girl. I cannot for the life of be figure out why women keep going back to someone who controls and abuses them. I can't find one definition of love that includes beating and abuse.
by Dave2222 on January 28th, 2009
Even as a believer in the Bible, I answer: Love and honor, yes. Worship, definitely not. Obey? Only as far as the husband obeys Christ and treats her as a husband should. I for one have no problem submittng to my husband, but he never demands it and is always considerate of my wants, needs, and wishes. +'s for the answer and for the question.
by Big Purple Blob in a rainCOAT on June 28th, 2009
I am still being downrated for my answer...go figure! Someone doesn;t know that downrating is reserved for rudeness and innappropriate responses....not for differing opinions>
by suzycue on November 20th, 2009
Not in this day and age. Back in the day men used to take care of their women. So I would have to agree with Big purple blob...
by Yours Truly on November 20th, 2009
..and I respect your opinion, even though it differs from mine!
by suzycue on November 21st, 2009
Worship?
by Sharona Life is a Tale Told by an Idiot on November 24th, 2009