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by juiceylou on December 29th, 2006

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My boyfriend talks to another girl everyday and texts her all night, she works at the same place as him, im worried that there is somthing going on between them as he hides his phone. They say nothing is going on and im paranoid is this the case???

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  • by EarthAngel on December 29th, 2006

    EarthAngel

    You should always be suspicious if he's hiding his phone from you.If there is nothing going on then he has nothing to hide.If you're not allowed to see the messages between them,then I think you need to find another boyfriend.I just showed my husband your question and he said the same thing.If there is nothing going on,then he shouldn't be hiding his phone from you.

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  • by munchkin_kids_downunder on December 30th, 2006

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    gees, my husbnd texted day and night, yes he was cheating. especially if he hides it. my husband hid his phone in his pocket. he always had it on silent with the vibrater on. when it went off, he always went outside for a smoke. he always deleted everything. one night i got up at 2am and went through his phone. there where sms there from women that texted him after he had gone to bed. i also got the excuse it was a friend from work. they never worked together, unless you call sleeping together work! if he can't be honest with you, and hide things, he probably is cheating. if he can't give you a full committment then he is selfish and seriously not worth it. sorry.

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  • by Redhawk on December 29th, 2006

    Redhawk

    If you are both younger, say, 16 to 22, it may be a bit of a challenge to honestly talk in a calm manner to each other about this, simply because you haven't had a lot of practice at doing successful relationship negotiations.

    However, this sounds like a whole lota not right to me, and like you, I'd want some honest answers at any age. This means you have to talk about it. A person who is in a "committed" relationship with someone else could, should be allowed to have friends...FRIENDS...you might have lunch together or do some other activity with them that your "partner" has no interest in doing; and other times as a group w/partners AS FRIENDS....or even with the two partners and the friend.

    What you don't do is become FIXATED on the friend. Speaking to each other at work, even every day is fine, and normal, texting or calling each other all night is more in line with being fixated on each other. And would make me feel uncomfortable, personally...not paranoid!

    If you feel as uncomfortable as it sounds like you do, I'd say so and be prepared to learn weather your B/F is as committed to having as loving and respectful relationship as you might be.

    He may well NOT BE and that means you prepare to MOVE ON, grieve that it wasn't all you thought it was but accept that there are many other nice guys out there who ARE capable of being both faithful, and happy to be with YOU.

    As you mature and learn, you'll find there are many areas of relationships that you CAN comfortably negotiate and compromise on. This probably isn't one of them. If something makes you feel really uncomfortable...there's probably a reason you feel that way.

    Talk first, get your truth if you can, and then make your own decision that will serve you best. Relationships are suppose to be FUN, loving and supportive of mutual goals...not full if mistrust, worry, lies, and disrespect.

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  • by llitteral on December 30th, 2006

    llitteral

    Take it from someone who was in the same boat. Most of the time like 99.9%if he is hiding his phone it's because the text's are something he doesn't want you to see or read. Go and confront the girl and then dump him because as the stupid old saying goes "once a cheat always a cheat" SAD BUT TRUE.

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  • by JUSTNORMAL on December 29th, 2006

    JUSTNORMAL

    I would suggest you ask him directly. If he continues to deny it, explain how it makes you feel. If then he does not stop, knowing it upsets you, then maybe time to take some time away from him

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  • by Mirage V2.0 AWOL on December 30th, 2006

    Mirage V2.0 AWOL

    Only people with secrets have to hide their activities.

    He is deeply insulting your intelligence, hope he isn't right.

    What are you going to do?

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  • by Redhawk on December 30th, 2006

    Redhawk

    With the change to your question,..I'd say NO you are not being paranoid. He is acting strangely for nothing to be going on.

    Granted, I personally don't bother to "check" my partner's cell phone, which is used mostly for her business calls. Nor, to my knowledge does she check mine.

    We do both look over the phone bill in general when it comes and we do track our son and his girlfriend's use...because they pay their respective portions of the bill.

    Neither of US hides our cell phones however, they are usually just sitting out, or in a bag or by the bed.

    As mentioned before, I think this guy HAS something to hide. His behavior is NOT normal for a loving, committed relationship with ONE person.
    Good luck...I'm sure this is painful.

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  • by asairel on January 12th, 2007

    asairel

    wat does ur instinct tells u? women's instinct are much more sensitive than men, instinct can give u warns even for a single or a bit sign of unfaithfulness by ur partner... if he doesnt do anything he dont need to act strange that way..

    "if there's a smoke there is always a fire"

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  • by Anonymous on January 11th, 2007

    Anonymous

    If he hides his phone, there seems to be a lack of trust between the two of you. I know firsthand that an untrusting relationship is destined to fail.

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  • by Vesper on January 11th, 2007

    Vesper

    Dump him. Trust me, he's cheating.

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  • by Spunts.answered 67 questions in 1 hour. on January 11th, 2007

    Spunts.answered 67 questions in 1 hour.

    you are a very insecure person.how do you know what he does with his phone.you just said he hides his phone.if you distrust him,discontinue the relationship.it's too early to tell if you are indeed,paranoid.

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  • by venegas03 on January 24th, 2012

    venegas03

    the same thing is happening to me idk wat to do its killing me inside..we have been together for almost 4 years already n im at the point that i wanna give up n let go before its harder to let go. he dont work there with her anymore n i thought they would just stop but no....idk

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  • by channyrose05 on January 27th, 2011

    channyrose05

    my finace is texting some other girl.and iam worried theres something going on between them and he doesn't want me to see.

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  • by rOCkEr-cHIcK on December 30th, 2006

    rOCkEr-cHIcK

    i don't think so. you have every right to think what you think. but have a little faith. if you are someone who has trouble doing that then let things fall into place. you could try to catch him in the act...

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  • by ChrisDG on December 30th, 2006

    ChrisDG

    To be absolutely, brutally honest with you, there's not much point asking us because unless one of us is either him or her, we know even less than you.

    Yes we can give impartial advice and opinions, but only those two know, so ask them yourself to find out.

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  • by JudithLover on January 11th, 2007

    JudithLover

    You should tell him that this bothers you but don't push him too much about it.
    It will take some time till he fixes this,unless he is not willing to fix it.In that case find your self another man.But before you get the wrong conclutions for his will,you should give him some time and see how things are goin :)

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  • by refuse2conform on January 11th, 2007

    refuse2conform

    Some people just can't: a)tell the truth, b)admit they are wrong. These two jerks say YOU have the problem 'cos YOU know it ain't right! THAT in itself tells me these two selfish creeps deserve each other. It's in your best interest to throw out the boy"friend" and give yourself kudos for refusing to let the lying cheaters make a fool of you. You asked, they denied, then tried to make you look bad. Even if they are just rude and stupid, you don't need those kind of people.

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  • by meikant on December 30th, 2006

    meikant

    you have a reason to be suspicious but dont forget some people just have really good friends that they like to stay in contact all day.

    ive had friends who i sms'd like 6 times a day and spoke to every night. just dont run around being suspicious and angry at him because if he is just good friends and you do this is can lead to big trouble with your relationship

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  • by craaze on June 10th, 2010

    craaze

    I finally figured out how to keep my girlfriend from going through my text messages. I downloaded a program from Faketexts.com and it hides the iPhone SMS button and replaces it with a fake one that you can edit. Basically it doesn't show all the girls I am talking to just go to Faketexts.com on your iPhone.

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