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by Anonymous on December 28th, 2006

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Why does it feel so great to fall in love, and hurt so badly when the person we loved leaves us, or says they do not love us anymore? Is love just a romantic illusion? Is it our ego?

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  • by Anonymous on December 28th, 2006

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    Its not an illusion and its not our ego. ever heard the song Love Hurts by Roy Orbison?

    Sometimes, love is a hit and run relationship. what happens? maybe, it was not love after all, rather a sexual attraction.

    True love lasts forever. no power on earth is stronger, when love is equal from each partner.

    A broken heart is hard to repair.

    Only time can be the healer.

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  • by StillThinking on December 28th, 2006

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    It does hurt, firstly because you're left asking yourself why they left you and whether you're worthwhile, and secondly in long-term relationships you've become so attached to that person that living without them leaves an empty space in your life. Love is real and involves a lot of hard work and sacrifice and to see it all fall apart is hurtful. All I can say is with time it does get better.

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  • by booda on September 29th, 2009

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    i been in the same time and it hurted like hell like i say and some of u have read im boisexual and i sometimes i fall in love with both and sometimes one will leave or maybe both. but u hear those big words I DONT LOVE U NO MORE that makes u think that u was not good or and punching bag. and i think that romantic is an illusion and sometimes u cant say that u love everyone that u go with

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  • by claudiasilence on July 7th, 2009

    claudiasilence

    The love we feel is a chemical reaction. Love to us is also the sense that everything we feel we "need" in life is fulfilled, and soon after the first stages of love, we come to a sense that the person we fell in love with is actually what makes up most of us because it fills the void we have. Therefore, when the person leaves us, we feel that part of ourselves has left, and we know that we can never win this back. We feel incomplete again. At least, that's what I think. I'm only 13.

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  • by BKing on March 31st, 2009

    BKing

    its not love if it doesn't hurt. Second name of love is pain. The only day you will be happy when you fall in love after that is all pain full.

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  • by Lonely Girl on May 13th, 2009

    Lonely Girl

    true love is the greatest gift one can ever had, so it makes sense when it nearly kills us as it's taken away.

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  • by FrostBittenSpirit on May 7th, 2010

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    Its not an "illusion" per-say,it has been scientifically proven our brains get different chemical balances when we fall in love,a different hormone becomes dominate,but love isn't just made up of "i like you only because thats what i feel" its apart of being possessive,greedy,needy,ect, we find someone we are so fascinated by,especially when we meet "Weird" people who are so interesting and different from who we normally are around, its one of the reasons people tend to love foreign people,the accent, their language,their culture,their life style, is all different, and therefore interesting,but "love" does leave, just as the love people get for a band,singer,food,drink,ect,may someday leave, and they get a new, more interesting favorite band,love last longer the weirder you are,though,the more you do, the more personality you have the more people will love you because when people find something special, they feel the need to savior it,take care of it,value it,and these feelings we call "love" but we are merely obsessed with the person.
    But we hurt from being broken up WITH because the balances in our brain didn't change yet to make us "fall out" of love, we still have the loving feelings, the need for them, this happens when the person you loved didn't love you as much back,truth is he probably even had a better personality then you,was more interesting, had goals in life, and you became boring to him, to be "lovable" you must love,value,and respect yourself, you can't spend all your time on that persn, you gotta be special, have opinions,do something with your life so you have something to actually enjoy and talk about, if you have very little personality,not many hobbies,all you can talk about is the same old same,if you come home to the person everyday with something brand new, something interesting to say,then your love will last forever..but if your just gonna talk about cleaning,cooking,and taking care of kids,don't expect the man to really "love you" men only stay with certain women because hes self fish, he will be with whoever he can get anything he wants with, someone to make his ego grow,he needs someone whos less then him in his life and also knows you always being there,and he going out means he can also cheat and have a life outside of the house she'll never know about,having your own life with your own hobbies,friends,will keep him interested till you both die together but remember just being together doesn't mean they love you,they stay because they know they got it good,if you want to be loved, be interesting,have self respect,self value, hide away the best parts of you,keep secrets,make him wonder,never be a slut,no man "loves" sluts, he uses them for his enjoyment,love is very rare scientifically, many people never even "love" anyone even when they beilieve they did..men only love what they have respect for,adore,and believe is all his,realize that jealousy is also a sign of love,him being protective of you and getting jealous is signs of him knowing you are special,and that he values you and wants you for himself because anything valued is rare, kept safe and protected,but theres a difference between getting jealous cause of love then getting jealous just because you were talking to another guy about a tv show,or something, being controlling and simply getting jealous are different things..and remeber any man who will abuse you DOES NOT love you,also scientifically proven in neuro lab.

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