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  • Just keep reminding yourself of what he did and how cruel it was. That ought to do it.
  • the best way you should do is getting a better pleasure life than before. and let him compunction for cheating on you.
  • If someone's important you'll never be able to completely forget about them. However, his cheating can provide further justification for the break up, so you don't have to feel bad about leaving him. If you find yourself longing for him, write down a list of 5 bad habits or things he did, and keep them in your purse. Whenever you think you want him again, read the list. You will also need a positive dose of self affirmation. Do things that you like outside the home. If you like to read, go to the bookstore. If you like live music, attend free concerts. Treat yourself well, and then positive feelings about yourself will follow the actions. Practice affirmative self-talk. After I broke up with an unfaithful partner, I wrote encouraging positive affirmations to myself on the mirror using a dry erase marker. You may feel cheesy at first, but seeing the nice words will channel your thoughts in a more positive direction.
  • Stay busy. You're eventually going to have to get closure on the issue and accept what happened as something that happens to everyone. Yeah, it sucks but being miserable isn't going to do you any good. In the immediate future, try to keep yourself distracted until you're ready to put him past you.
  • I've ben in this position before. After we broke up because I found out he was cheating. I hung out with my friends alot. I have 2 kids so I was just paying attention to my kids all the time. I would go with my kids to family and friends houses and hang out. I just did my own thing. I also realized that I dont need a man in my life to make me happy. My kids are the most important in my life and with them I am the happiest ever. Even if I didnt have kids, I would still have my family and friends. There are SO many other guys out there...
  • You should try to remember the positive things about YOU. There are good things about you that have nothing to do with the choice the other person made. We have to remember what WE bring to the table and focus on continuting to grow as individuals, while doing productive things that keep our minds busy in a good way. As time passes so will the pain. The worst thing you could do is dump this situation in a little basket with all the other hurts in your life and then bring it to the next relationship- that dooms the possibly wonderful relationship to struggle and ill will before it even starts. Not everyone is a cheater, just be aware of possible red flags next time that you may have chosen to ignore this most recent time. Remember- there is alot of good in you (and everyone) and the focus should be on that in the future, not in the waiting for history to repeat itself. You past partner made a stupid and bad choice and is chasing something that may never be found- better you found out now and move forward than years down the road. Blessings to you- hope your future is happy and fulfilled.
  • I was with my ex for 8 years. I loved him, I was going to marry him. He had an affair, got her pregnant, she had the baby, he tells me when - after the baby is 6 months old!!! I really didn't know! I am focusing on me, having fun, keeping busy, staying positive, laughing, smiling, enjoying life. Sometimes I get sad because it hurts so bad, but there are only good things in store for me. Stay positive!
  • accept it, ask yourself what u learned and move on
  • You don't have to forget him, just be disciplined and live in dignity without him.

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