you would have een better telling the truth in the first place. if he finds out the truth from his room mate he migt not believe him, but if u tell him the truth now after saying it was only a kiss.... u might risk loosing him telling the truth is the best idea if you want to try and make your relationship last, the guilt will build up inside you if you dont tell him soon good luck

If you feel guilty and you want to tell him i think you should, but be aware that it may be the end of your relationship but then again if the guy tell him about it then it will be worse/-

Why would you even wanna cheat on someone you love? If you love him. I wouldn't sa anything more.

If this is a serious relationship, first of all you should not have slept with this guy, STUPID! BUT now that it has happened understand it is NEVER a good thing to build a relationship in a lie!!! Truth has a way of comeing out on you no matter how small it might be.

Sure. You should tell him. He should know what kind of person he's dating.

You owe him the respect to tell him the full and complete truth. You did not share your reason for cheating, so I cannot say you are fault. (Maybe he was cold and unaffectionate or maybe you desired your freedom more ...) But, it hurts ten times more to be a told a lie and then learn about the truth later than it does to hear the harsh, ugly truth in the first place. It would not be wise or mature in the least bit to deprive him of the truth.

Is the reason to make you feel better? Your going to hurt him just to make you feel better, just shut and never do it again. If you can't stop, break up and let him go to find someone who will be true.

Might as well. It takes off a stressful burden. And there is a chance he perfers you to be completly honest with him.

Yes. Without a doubt. But, be prepared for possible consequences that may hurt you; but better to get it over and done with than having it hanging over you. The truth will out. Good luck.

That is going to be a huge heartbreaker! You've got to let him know now and I hope he can get back on his feet soon enough to find another better girlfriend!

Tell him the complete and total truth. He has the right to know.

U should tell ... no use be'n afraid of a guy

TELL HIM!....he'll probably dump you, but at least you came clean to him

You should tell him because there is a possibility he is going to find out, then he is going to be pissed because you lied to him and slept with the guy and will never be able to trust you again. How would you feel if he did that to you? Cheating and lying gets you nowhere.

hmmmm, if he ever finds out, just tell him u were drunk and that u dont remember anything but making out with that other guy lol

If your sex was unprotected, yes I think you should. If it was protected, I think you still should, but it's up to you. It could bite you later on if you don't, but if you do it could still cause problems. If you plan on having a good long term relationship I think it's good to be honest and faithful.

No, no! Wait until your s/o comes home and start having sex right there in front of him, with your new little fuck buddy. It's good to be really upfront, you know what I mean?

Ouch... you're a heart breaker :( He's going to find out sooner or later... people talk regardless of what you may think. It'll hurt more discovering the truth from someone else other than you. You can be a cheater or a liar or both. Take the risk and be honest with him. It will definitely test the strength of your relationship. There will of course be some deep consequences and you're going to have to live with it. My boyfriend cheated on me and he admitted it after I found out through a mutual friend. He was always paranoid that I would get revenge and cheat on him even though I'm definitely not like that. You'll always wonder if he's going behind your back with one of your friends room mates or if he'll distrust you forever.. It's in your best interest to tell him the truth. If he decides to end the relationship then so be it. The two of you are better off without each other then and you can learn from your mistakes. If he decides to stay with you, then realize it will be the hardest road you've ever been relationship-wise. Trust won't be earned in 4 or 6 months like my boyfriend assumes.. it will take years. Are you ready for that?

That's entirely up to you, although if you cheated on him THEN lied about how far you went, it's only going to cause unnecessary anxiety and pain for both of you in the long run, if both of them stand a chance to meet face to face. And even if that wasn't the case, you should tell all right now, because any kinda relationship built on lies like this is doomed to fail, but, really I don't know. It's your decision.

My friend always said to bear three words in mind r.e. such situations: deny, deny and deny. I don't know...

whoops sorry, but your a whore a easy lay.

Tell him. You obviously don't care enough about him to be straight in the first place and you might have given him something he didn't ask for. And, don't get into a relationship until you are mature enough to be straight with a guy. People hurt one another enough without getting hurt by totally immature, selfish, irresponible people.

For me, there isn't much difference in making out or sleeping together. You were intimate with another man so the betrayal is there. If there is a chance that your BF will find out that there was sex then you should confess before that. You should keep in mind that from a mans perspective, if you were violated then most men would be through with you. Which is why you shoul'nt lay everything on the table unless absolutely necessary..............

First rule when cheating, DENY.You might think you have done a good thing telling your boyf, but this usually leads to arguments in the future as he will probably throw it in your face. If you want to stay with your man dont cheat again but if you get in a situation similar again, keep it to yourself and file it under MISTAKE. What he dosen't know won't hurt him.

You should of been honest in the begining. Tell him asap the truth. He probably will find out and that will make the whole situation worse. You should tell him the truth besides that.

The truth will come out eventually - it always does. If you really love your bf, he deserves to know the truth from you. He may leave you, but that is his decision, my dear. It'll hurt but at least you won't be living in constant fear of being found out. Good luck!

I always thought that it would be best for the other person to be kept in the dark... however I have just been in a similar situation, and I told me boyfriend, as we were about to move in together, and I didn't want our life together to start on a lie. He has forgiven me, but I am finding it hard to forgive myself... if I could turn back time and not tell him, I probably would still tell him... it's better to be honest and upfront as soon as possible. He will appreciate your honesty... you may not be as lucky as me, he may not be able to forgive you... but I still think you should be honest, a relationship based on lies cannot last forever. Good luck! And learn from your mistake!

My, my, my...what a tangled web we weave

Why bother? You can't be trusted, so it'll be a waste of time! In the meantime, why don't you DUMP your boyfriend (do him a favor) and continue screwing his roommate?

your a whore, just thought i would mention that first. Alot of women wonder why some guys out there treat them like objects not like humans. Most of the time its because someone like you hurt them so from then on they just treat all women the way they were treated. At least have the respect to tell him the truth so he can move on and find a woman who actually appreciates him.