Yes. I dont think someone having a drinking problem makes them not trustworthy

I did then he ask for a divorce so he could be with his girlfriend.

I would not trust them to drive me anywhere.

nope. how could I trust someone who not only chose to lose their decision making ability, but does so so often they have even lost the ability to choose not to not drink.

Depends on if they are a practicing or recovering one.

No, because you can never believe them.

Yes. Would you trust someone on prescription pain killers? If so, then how could you not trust an alcoholic?

Being an alcoholic I'd say no. We are a catty bunch.

An alcoholic remains an alcohilic for life. Alcoholism is a desease same as diabetics. It can only kept under control and not be cured totally. So an alcloholic who has realized his mistake and given up the drinking habit for about an year and does not intend to return to the old drinking days can be trusted as much as you can trust any normal person. But an alcoholic who still has not given up his drinking is a totally untrustworthy person. The drink will prompt an alcoholic to break solemn promises.

A practicing alcoholic? No A recovered alcoholic? Maybe

I try not to generalize. I like to treat every person as an individual.

Rule of thumb: addicts LIE. Recovering addicts may not lie if they are working a program to build integrity and honesty. Stopping the substance abuses isn't enough....changing your value system is equally important.

NO! And I will explain... As the daughter of a hopeless alcoholic, years ago, I remember one very important thing. Alcoholism makes a person treat strangers (people in the bars) like family, and family (their loved ones waiting anxiously at home) like strangers. So true! My father gave most of our most treasured toys away to his drinking buddies for their kids, it was nothing to him. He was always nice and generous to other kids, but not us. We were terrorized and threatened with a fishing knife at home. He would tell us he was going to cut us all up and fry us and eat us. He even got the frying pan hot on the stove! He was terrifying and for years I had nightmares. I still can't sleep well without a nightlight. I don't trust anyone or anything.

no they lie and lie some more. ask if they are an alcoholic they will say no. they lie and need help

I agree with the previous answerers - recovering alcoholic may be trusted, sometimes, but the practicing one - nope.

I haven't met one yet....but that doesn't mean you can't either...just in my life I haven't....

Nope

Nope. The only thing an alcoholic cares about is obtaining his/ her next drink.

I would trust an alcoholic more when he/she has been sober for a while.

you cant he is ill and not in charge of what he does anymore trust me on this!

i do...my dad. i wouldnt want another one in my life though

I would trust a person on prescription pain killers if they take them as prescribed by there doctor. Would you not trust a person that say has leukimia, and it taking pain meds for the pain?

No Been There Done that Bought the Tshirt BUT If in Recovery a definite Maybe?

No, rare are the moments (if any) when they do think right and are coherent.

I would trust an alcoholic in the same fashion I trust ANYBODY...to be true to their nature. The subject of trust has come up many times for me. The question really should be more specific..."Do you trust this person to (fill in the blank)." Let's take the case of my 6 year old daughter. This would be Daddy's Buttercup, otherwise known as "Shiney Object Girl" with the super powered ability to become distracted by the least little thing when she should be doing something else. When it's bed time, she knows the routine: brush her teeth, potty, and put her jammies on. I trust her to do that when she's told. BUT, I also know her nature as Daddy's superhero "Shiney Object Girl". She needs the guidance required to ensure she will actually get the job done in a timely fashion. Would I trust an alcoholic? It depends on what I'm trusting him/her to do in the first place and what I know of his limitations and nature. Perhaps he never lets his problem affect his work routine. Perhaps he never starts drinking before 5 p.m. Perhaps he gets drunk off his *ss every opportunity. If I task him with something, it's my responsibility to follow up as required to see that he gets it done, regardless. Trusting someone is ALWAYS a balance of a persons nature and abilities.

nope never

depends on if u no them, i wouldint have no trust at all for some 1 i dont no. i dont think it matter what there addiction is, unless there in desperate need of a substance whatever it may be.. i wouldint trust them

I wouldn't trust an alcoholic alone with my liquor cabinet, but outside of that, the alcoholics I've known have been quite lovely people. Don't forget that they were the life of the party... that was part of the problem.

Ok, first thing first, Alcoholism IS A DISEASE!!!!! I'm a sober alcoholic, so this answer comes directly from the source. We (alcoholics) will lie, cheat, steal from our own mothers with no remorse and sometimes no consequences to get what we want. Trust is something that is earned through actions, not lip service. We can all say, "oh I wont do that again, I promise" knowing damn well we will as soon as we can. A person who wants to get sober, will get sober. A person who wants to be trusted will earn trust through their actions, and really prove without a doubt they can be trusted.

Nope

You could trust anyone. But I would be careful about serious stuff..

I am an alcaholic.I am currently in a one year treatment program for recovery.Alcaholics are like people, some have good intentions some bad.Its about who you are not what you do.

it all depends if they are an "active" alcoholic or not. if the person is currently still using, i would not trust them, not for one moment. if the person is currently in recovery, then it all depends on the person. if you see them lie and scheme to other people-- chances are, they are doing it to you too...

Unless I had reason not to yes!!!

Id never trust an alcoholic because wen they are under the influence of alcohol they could do anything. Like speaking nonsense things. I seen many alcoholic ppl and i wouldnt like to be like them.

I would. Just because they have a drinking problem doesn't mean they're an a$$hole.

NEVER,NEVER EVER

my dad is an alcoholic and it is ruining so much for me i might have to be put in foster care fir a littke while because of his stupid mistakes. he made me numb as everything. I cant trust him, depend on him, anything. i got tired of getting hurt over and over again so i dont talk to him anymore. His last DUI was intense he lost his car his license and now he's loosing me. He says he is gonna get help but i dont think i can trust him. At least not until he proves to me that that was his last beer.

No, never again.

Doubtful very doubtful. My dad was one and lets just say he hid a lot from us. The drink wound up killing him too. So I sincerely doubt i would trust an alcoholic again.

Alcohol doesnt make a person lie, that person would have lied without the alcohol. Yes I would trust them if they have proved to me to be trustworthy.

Yes, i think the question is, why wouldn` t you? Maybe if you gave them money, you might be a bit cotious of what they would do with it, but it really depends on the person themselves, everyone is diffrent. God Bless.

My answer is NO. I was married to one and the lies and sneakiness were enormous. I divorced him. They love thier booze more than anything.

...To finish their drink???? of course!

Not to look after my kids, but to drop something in the mailbox for me, sure. I've known plenty of alcoholics and most of them have figured out how to function in social groups fairly well, and can usually be trusted. Just don't stack the deck against them.

It depends on the person. Some people in my family are alcoholics, and when they are sober they are normal people, but if they are not, then it is like Jeykl and Hyde. Remember that these people are addicts, and sometimes can not control their actions when they need their fix or are getting their fix.

Only if he is confined permanently in his home.

you have to consider the fact that once someone has admitted or accepted that they are an alcoholic it doesn't mean they are currently drinking. there are alcoholics that have 20+ years of sobriety and are great trustworthy people. Especially if they are an avid A.A goer they build a good spiritual foundation as they grow in the program and and learn ways to apply the 12 steps and traditions to all aspects off life. some of the best people i have ever met i met in A.A. and my friends i really trust are recovering alcoholics.

depends i know alot of functioning responsible boozers

To paraphrase Lincoln ... you can trust some of the people all of the time, and all of the people some of the time, but you can't trust all of the people all of the time.

Yes, I would.

this hits home, my ex husband is an alkie and well i dont trust him as much as i can throw him when i was with him but we do talk for other reasons for mutual respect for friendship and time has past. Alcoholics depending on the person can recover but not recover fully. Alcoholics are the ones who put themselves in their own situation. When i was with my ex husband he would constantly lie to me about things and now that i am divorced it is different and the friendship is different.

i trust them i wont let them drive either but i still trust them

Sorry trust them to do what?? I was(am) alcoholic and could be trusted to do things that would benefit me and only me caring nothing about others or the conciseness.

I would trust that if they had a choice between spending their last 20 on food or booze they would choose booze.

Thats like trusting a hobo with ur money and asking him to pay u back in a week. Wich my answer is no.

If they are still drinking, the answer would have to be no. The addiction controls them and everything else comes afterward. If it serves thier purpose to lie then they will.

Yes I would..for just about anything but a ride..I would never get into the car with an alcoholic driver, even if they swore to me they hadn't been drinking :)

Of course yo...

Not to drive. Otherwise up to a certain extent.

I am an alcoholic(In recovery mind you) and I trust me,many others too,but not all of them,no. Many 'recovering' alco's are still rampant in their disease and still act like they did while drinking,too bad for them.Most of the people in recovery I hang with are much more in tune with their addictive nature and try to do the right thing in most circumstance.

alcoholic person is not consious about what he is talking about or how he behavin.some times he or she also can open the secreats or also some fake information.so there is depent upon the situation whether trust or not.but the best thing is to not trust on the alcoholic person.

Most of the time, not!

"Yes, except for the driving while under intoxication!! Why?!!"

This questions was bound to get the array of answers it did. It asks if you can trust alcoholics..so all the alcoholics or people that knew actual alcoholics are speaking from personal experience, the peopel that have never met an alcoholic are reffering to made for TV movies and what they learned in school about "drinking is bad mm'kay". The thing that few, though some did, don't mention is that there is a difference between being an alcoholic and being a drinker. Some people are able to drink and maintain control of it. Some people are responsible drinkers that won't have a tendancy to continue nor will they become an alcoholic. There are those of us though, that can't control ourselves. The interesting thing about alcoholism or substance abuse is that it's the only disease you get yelled at for having. Someone has cancer, aids, or diabetes and everyone feels bad and asks how they can help. There are parades and fund raisers, there are quilts sewn and concerts held...but if you are alcoholic, you drink alone with the world welling at you for it. The true irony is that lonliness is the most prominent trigger to relapse...so we drink when we are alone, and the world makes us feel alone, so we drink and the circle continues. There is nothing wrong with trusting an alcoholic, eiter active or recovering...just remember that they have a disease and you don't want to put THEM in a situation that they could hurt themselves. If you know someone is an alcoholic...don't trust them with the keys to your car and your checkbook on a beer run. Not because you might end up out some money...but because your friend that you have begun trusting might slip farther into his hole. He needs help...don't turn your back on him and maybe he'll have the strength to get that help because he won't feel alone anymore. I'm 2 years clean and sober and I think everyone that said I can't be trusted because I can't stop drinking needs to learn what true addiction is. Just because I don't drink doesn't mean I don't want to. It doesn't mean I don't feel the urge to...but I have to fight it all of every single day. That doesn't make me untrustworthy..it makes me an alcoholic

yes

If they are an active alcoholic they tend to lie a lot. No, I wouldn't trust them. Or take what they say with a grain of salt.

Sure,if I'm in a path of self destruction,only an alcoholic would render the needed help.

with what ...?

What does that have to do with trust? I mean, would you trust a cigarette addict more? Some people are addicted to the internet etc. A lot of people have addictions.

that would depend on if they were still practicing or if they had some sobriety

It would certainly depend on the indivdual and/or your defintion of alcoholic. I have known many people who regularly consume larger amounts of alcohol than is considered healthy, but go to work, provide for families and act responsibly in general.There are other people that I will never trust,drunk,stoned or sober.

Yes and Yes

u can never trust them

i would trust them to drink what ever they could get their hands on

yes,my uncles one and a great laugh

Wow.. i saw this question randomly and couldnt help answering it... would i?! Do i?? I know an alcoholic.. we have been close... i want to trust him very much and i have in many ways. However i know that i will never win with the alco.. if he stops drinking maybe... but at this point i trust that he will not do anything bed to me but am careful at the same time.. but its so sad to know that youre losing, that he prefers a drink over some sober time with you... hurts much but i know he is a good person

Of course. Alcoholism is an illness...I would trust someone if they were diabetic too.

After having lived with alcoholics for a good portion of my life, I would have to say no to trusting one. As it has more than proven itself to me, an alcoholic can have a successful recovery, however it has to be something that not only they initiate but something they really want, not just to please or save what they discover is being lost. The proven part is my sister, mom, dad and stepfather. Of all of these important people in my life, it was my stepfather who I would never have thought to win the battle. Despite his job at the time, he woke up and went to bed with a shot of JD and a beer chaser. When he quit, there was no massive argument or event that took place prior, he just stopped. That was 28 years ago. Of all the people I had been around that were alcoholics, only one actually hurt my heart, more so I believe because I failed at what I thought I could fix. Once I finally realized that his pledge of love and devotion was alcohol based on a regular basis, I found the strength to move on. If it's one thing that I have learned when it comes to alcoholics is that you can't reason with a drunk. Constantly telling them or threatening them with leaving doesn't work, it just gives them another excuse. Unfortunately I still have one person in my life that is in a full arms combat with drinking, to her it's just 'relaxing after work' with a few beers, for us as a family it's that dreaded hesitation to answer the phone every time it rings after 9pm, and yet we find ourselves thankful that when it is her, she's home and not out driving around.

Some people say that when people drink, truth comes out, Is that true? I thought that, alcoholic people act like out of mind and crazy. Also they don't know that how to behave in public places. What do you think?

no not to drive or any other way they lie

Neither a continuing nor an ex-alcoholic.

I have a very good friend who was an alcoholic, but she's a person I would trust with my life if I had to. She's a nurse and a very good one. She hasn't had a drink in several years.

they r the people who actually speak the truth...not everyone

No, it's already hard to trust non-alcoholic people, soooo definitely NO!

Ive been an alcoholic and a cocaine addict and I think there are many people who should and do trust me!

absolutely not. especially if they have other fixations too. alcoholics are still addicts and they will manipulate anyone to get to their fix. and once they become intoxicated if they do have other fixations they will probably try to deal with those as well such as drugs, sex, or all of the above the best thing to do is not to enable but to be "the sponser" be the one person that says "no bob you don't need to go to the bar tonight" he/she will thank you in the morning when they are sober, alive, not in jail, and didn't do something stupid or regrettable with someone stupid or regrettable. I know someone who use to get drunk at bars and bring random bums home with him. he is lucky that me and another friend were at his house. he went and passed out in bed and the other friend made sure that the bum didn't steal anything or try anything. pretty much made him leave. I made sure my friend didn't die from alcohol poisoning. you might have to fight this alone but he/she will thank and remember your strength and condemn all enablers when he/she becomes sober.

well it depends,,think about this for just a moment now,that is a broad field to cover----alcoholism does not discriminate-its in every social class there is just like sickness.politicians,lawyers,judges,doctors,teachers, piolots,execs,managers,workers,the unemployed,the homeless,get my drift.I think the alcohol is kind of a transmission fluid for that persons attitude and personality that has developed already.example-you may have a homeless man who drinks and does not bother a soul(except maybe to ask for money from strangers at times,in which someone will finally give it to them)and then have a person who is vice-president of a big firm,has bad days at work comes home hits the bottle-abuses his kids,wife,ect..)so thats my answer.the trouble with drugs and alcohol-the world paints a picture of a person looking mean and scary,and who is going to harm you and lives in a black dark room with all the other "bad" people--sorry ,,thats not how it works

yup..i trust

I would and I did. I worked under one who was a genius and given much liberty, too much for his own good methink.

I trust me,I am an alcoholic(recovering)

Depends on what state they were in.

depends on what I have to trust them with.... Driving me somewhere ? HECK NO!...... Now, if I had to trust the fact that they told me they had to throw up .... Yes, I would trust that STATEMENT .... would I trust anything else ?....No

Some of the answers are from recovering alcoholics, which means you are a sber person. I think this question applies to those who still let alcohol rules their lives. My ex was an alcoholic and let me tell you, he was no trustworthy. i don't think a person who is not in a balanced state of mind is hard to trust.

When active I don't believe they trust themselves, so it would be difficult to trust them, however when in recovery I believe the trust can and will be earned back.

Once my husband began drinking, he started abusing me, lying, cheating, and one day held a gun to my head. I tried counseling, talking to him when he was sober, everything. I finally left, and he committed suicide. He broke my heart and made me unable to trust anyone. It's just not worth it. If someone puts alcohol before their friends or family, they have a problem.

I am a sixteen year old girl, who has delt with an alcoholic mother for over four years now, I would say no i wouldnt trust them. Just because i have experienced it.

Nope...nor someone addicted to pain killers, or any other drug...not worth it.

so we all have our standings on if alcoholics should be trusted or not. the next step. what do we do? what is most helpful? would babysitting add to the crippling loneliness leading to a relapse? what does this person need? when someone has aids or cancer or diabetes. there is certain things you do. certain things you don't talk about. where is that guideline for alcoholism. if you stand back and are just present. your an enabler. if you step up and take control then they themselves are not healing. and they will be left even more alone because a friend or acquaintance is sitting here babysitting them. so how do we help? where is the line drawn?

I'm one mistrustful m/f and that would be a big fat NO!