It sounds like your friend probably got frustrated because if you're being abused and your friend keeps telling you to get out of the relationship and you end up doing nothing, then they probably feel like it doesn't matter what they say because each time is the same story. If you're being abused, you need all the friends you can get, call this person and tell them you really do need their support because you are really getting out this time, and then do it!

Personal story - I consciously chose to stop seeing my best friend because she was constantly down, never stopped complaining (about legitimate family problems etc), but I spent YEARS trying to help her, gving her advice and she did NOTHING, continued to bitch about her position. Eventually she could get herself out of it, but she couldn't see the gap because she was too busy crying about it. I stopped seeing her because I too, felt like my life wasn't woth living after hanging out with her depressed mood. You need to actually do something to actively fix your issues, not just complain about them. You lose friends by just complaining and never doing anything because they start to notice parts of you in themselves. I don't want to be depressed and unhappy, so I stopped seeing her. Maybe it has something to do with that. It could also very well be because he is a boy and can't be screwed with constant emotion, which is totally understandable. You've got to remember that you're not the only one dealing with issues, and there are a hundreds places you can go to help yourself so that others don't feel like that burdon is on them. Friends are there for advice and for an occasional shoulder. If you use them as a 'punching bag' for your emotions, you get exactly what you probably deserve for bringing that person down as well. DO something, you are not alone and you have people out there who want to help you, who are paid to help you. So go and see them, not your poor friend, who obviously just wants some down time. You should just update your friend on what you are doing to help yourself from here on in. Being friends with girls for most of my life and then losing all of them to a group of guys that I hang out with I have noticed one main difference between guys and girls - girls whinge, non-stop, and their friends like that. Guys explain the situation once, and from there on in they update on how they are fixing that situation. It's probably just biology that's making your friend go away. (Disclaimer - I know that on a deep, somewhat unconscious level, you were probably looking for some sympathy by coming to AB with this. My answer is just a critical opinion.)

Honor what he wants and don't speak to him any more. Your pain is real and it sounds like the relationship was a one-way street. If he comes back down the road, tell him 'no thanks' and remember that he lost interest in your friendship before and it is probably just a matter of time before he does so again. You've already cried once over this dead friendship - make sure you don't find yourself crying over it twice. Find some TRUE friends - you deserve them.

If you've got no-one to talk to maybe you need to get help from professionals who have been trained to answer your worries. Maybe your friend just got too depressed or exhausted because they didn't have the skills to help you and whatever they said never made a difference? The Family and Children's Services of Central Maryland have a good list of contact number just for adolescents (teenagers) on this page: http://www.fcsmd.org/issues/adolescence.htm - just scroll down a bit. If you can't phone out then the site has an email address too: info@fcsmd.org I hope you find a shoulder to lean on!

Your struggles....you need to see what is keeping you in "struggles." The way you phrased it, it sounds like you have endless problems and well, it has to end sometime. Examples.....If you have spent ten years crying about your weight and have done nothing about it, stop overeating and go take a long walk. If you are in bad relationships, you need to look at yourself and find where you are repeating same mistakes. If you have a drug problem, you need stop using and treat it. If you have cancer, well, that's really rough, and I’m sorry but you have to keep your chin up, eat healthy foods, take your medicine and think of positive things. If you are merely looking for any shoulder to cry on, well, you're crap out of luck and he did the right thing by giving you the curb. You need to look at your "struggles" and see which ones you are bringing on yourself, which ones you can fix right now, and which ones you have no control over. The ones you have no control over, leave them alone. If you can't fix them now or within the next three months, leave them for now and deal with them later. But in my own personal opinion, you sound a little immature, like you’re looking for pity and looking for someone else to fix your issues. You need to stand on your own, stop crying and take care of what you can take care of. No one, NO ONE, no God or person or amount of money will fix any problem unless you see that you are the problem. Read a book, get a job you like, visit someone who is worse off than you and wash their dishes or do something for them. Go to the library. Take a walk near open water or in a park. Go to a pet store and play with the puppies (BUT DON’T BUY ONE!!!). Keep your head up, keep your mind open, find out what you are doing or not doing and get busy.