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  • they don't look you in the eye when you talk to them or they're always trying to get away from you
  • Loss of eye contact, fidgeting, looking at watch/cell, interrupting, no time for you.
  • Absolutely interesting question! Thanks for that great thinking on your part. Perhaps one pre-condition for an answer would be to ask 'in what situation?' I agree with the others here regarding general indicators, loss of eye contact, fidgeting, crossed legs (no kidding: this may be considered as a standard signal of shutting down. When one unconsciously crosses their legs, they 'close off' and intimate part of themselves, protecting, if you will. And 'privates' doesn't always have a sexual meaning. It can mean any intimate feeling as a body language that 'closes.' This is true of crossed arms too. Interesting, eh? In a friendship I'd add the indicator of a person who is now not easily available 'as before' when there was once a actionable, previous sense of closeness. If the person is usually animated and gregarious and you find them more introverted and quiet now, another sign. If a person is usually quiet and now seems to shout a lot, another sign. Some people do get invisible by shouting as others shut-them-out or dismiss them as 'too loud.' Also, check out the seemingly uncomfortable feelings YOU HAVE around them 'now.' This could be called 'The Two To Tango' rule. Sometimes people get uncomfortable because the other person is just trying way too hard to impress. Is this something you can relate with? IF 'the other' is so uncomfortable with you that you are seriously picking up on this, I'd ask another question. Why are they important to you and are you willing to give what you wish to get? Another: perhaps you and [the other] HAVE moved on! While most of us are loyal dogs, sometimes this gets in the way of allowing ourselves or cherished others to move on, to improve or change with new elements or dimensions in our or their lives. I believe it is a good thing to move through space and time with consistent and constant empathic goodwill toward all. To even have a reliable reputation surrounding it. In most situations I believe the best way to understand something is to ask the question outright, without preconceived tension, a presumed answer or agenda. We all need to beloved and cared for just as we are, really accepted for just that. Its very uncomfortable and impractical, and in the long run ruinous, to 'have to prove' oneself to anyone. [The exception to this might be in a work force situation but that is a different dynamic.] In all situations emotional intelligence and cooperation wins more than loses. Our 'greatness' improves with time and is individualistic. Sometimes we shine, sometimes we don't. That said, a person's character will always rise to the surface as an element of their personality and action. Be yourself...always. Be comfortable with THAT. Make this something you know for sure; you are your own best friend. By the way, don't just tolerate others. Learn to accept and celebrate all the diversity in this world and CELEBRATE that you have the heart and brain to do that, okay?

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