Do generally happily married people ever have brief moments when they secretly think "I've married a moron" or something similar?
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lady fuschia
ANSWERS: 31
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well i suppose if they have an argument they might think it in the heat of the moment
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Uh, yeah... Mostly when he gets angry and has a "fit".
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Yes, she does. We all have mad moments and, if we're going to be honest, we embarass our partners occasionally - by accident or deliberatley. I have made the odd faux pas in my time, and been roundly chastised after the event, but that is life and it helps to separate the good moments as well.
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I refuse to answer on the grounds that these answers will be eternally archived and although my husband is not NOW an AB'er...what if he happens one day to google "husband idiot" and sees my zazzy up there at the top of the list?
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Absolutely, but as you point out in your question, these moments are brief. Every partnership, whether a marriage or business or other type, has these moments and the way to survive is to remember that it is the other person's behaviour and not their character that is irritating you at that moment. Otherwise, you are setting yourself up for long term friction and conflict with your partner.
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Yes frequently and then I realise that I must have been the moron to have chosen to marry him Actually he is a wonderful man just annoying on occasions but not as annoying as I can be I am sure.
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Always. and sometimes we think they are freakin' geniuses. the kids too. I asked myself one time. "How could this possibly be MY child?" But they catch me in the stupid moments too. God made it so we all balance each other out. How could anyone live with someone that was perfect? YUK.
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No so much with this husband (which I love with every fiber of my being), but my ex, OMG!!! Everytime he opened his mouth, I asked myself what in the world I ever saw in him!! My husband now, I only think that when we're arguing and he is obviously wrong!!LOL
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yes of course and guess what, you tell each other it too. I often wonder if my moron is also the most irritating moron on the planet.
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Yes, In fact people who say they never argue, never fight, never say a mean word to their partner I think are either on drugs, lying, or they live in a constant state of denial. Everyone has their moments of frustration with their S.O. or spouse. They might think them a moron, silly, stupid, crude, cruel, not compassionate, lazy, dishonest or many other things. Allowing yourself to think that and then re-framing it when you are through being insulted-hurt-pissed etc., and mending fences in your mind with them or with them in person, is what makes long term marriages long term.
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Sometimes, when i have a bad day or i have a day when i drop everything, i could conceive that my wife has said or thought that about me. No matter, its short-lived when i look into her baby blue eyes and give her a SMOOCHIE!
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I've been married for over 30 yrs now and have had many, many, many of those "brief" moments. Actually some of those moments lasts for days...but I'm sure he has too! lol
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Yes. Usually when we strongly disagree about something. He's definitely not a moron, though. Just good at annoying me. ;)
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I cannot answer from the perspective of a generally happily married person. I do not recall ever having been such. As an unhappily married person, I had thoughts that I married a moron on a daily basis (sometimes hourly).
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I'm a registered GREEN. My partner is a Republican. I think I've summed it up just about enough here. (we just try NOT to be nasty to each other if any political topics come up...I walk away...better than yelling, or crying.)
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At times when you are angry with them.But you soon realise why you married them and everything is ok. It is normal to feel that way at times. If you feel that way all the time,then you may have some marital issues that need to be worked on. :)
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Heavens yes. And those are not entirely bad moments <s>.
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I can only speak for myself, but my husband has very little common sense, so yes I do have these moments. I'm quite sure he thinks the same of me just as often. lol
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Even the happiest of us sometimes have our doubts. Mine is more that I wonder about common sense than anything else.
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No 2 individuals can ever not have moments when they wish to other would just fall off the planet. We all have different ideas, thoughts, and needs. It's unrealistic to think someone else can fulfill your emotional needs 100% of the time. Besides that I think she is evil and avoid her as much as possible...lolol..just kidding dear.
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everyone has their moments. so i definetly think that at some point people think that. heaven knows i think that about my boyfriend sometimes. i love him with all my heart. but some of the things he does just makes me laugh cus i cant understand his logic sometimes. but part of being in a relationship is that you arent always going to get along, and you both dont always think alike. thats what keeps the relationship interesting to me.
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My wife has that thought every day.
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HA! Yes. My husband is one of those extremely smart people who routinely do very stupid things.
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Well, she married me didn't she?
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My dad tells my mother that she is the smart one and yes, most of the time she thinks he is a moron. They love each other to death though so I guess its ok.
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yeah i think so...im sure there are moments when my husband thinks "Gawd what have i done" and I do at times lol...
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Of course, but then again sometimes I look in the mirror and think "wow, I am such a moron" so I guess we are even!
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Yes we do but what we have to keep in mind is nobody is perfect so before you call names and judge someone else you should first look at what you are doing
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Yes. My wife thinks that all the time.
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I think most of us married people have those brief moments. If we don't then we are probably dreaming or not living in reality.
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I know my mother thinks that of my dad sometimes, she tells me. The thing is, I can't say for sure that they're generally happily married.
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