Why would a man end a 3-year relationship with a pretty, smart, funny, and educated young woman to be with a jobless, controlling, and unfaithful party girl?

The party girl is more fun right now. I would distance myself from this man. He is immature. Thinking of what he has chosen will only cause you more grief.

I feel so bad for you. He is so cruel. Your question made me cry because it reminded me of a friend who had a similar end to her relationship after several years. It was so hard on her, and she cried for about a week. It took her a while, but she recovered and found someone else. I know you will be able to also. Hang in there. <3

Bootie yo...;)

The "party girl" fills a need of his that the "smart one" couldn't.

Tell the smart girl to figure out what that is and she will have a better chance of winning him back.

Because she seems helpless. He wants to be a hero to save her day, to be the one she clings to for dear life. Perhaps he wants someone to need him. This is just my guess. Keep your spirits up.

Because he's a douche?

Well there could be many reasons for this. This young woman shouldn't worry about it. His lost not hers. Someday as Educated smart pretty and funny as she is she will surely find a guy much better who will respect her Be faithful and LOVE her unconditionally and he may not realize it now but someday when this Jobless controlling unfaithful partying girl Leaves him and breaks his heart .... He'll know what it felt like and Realize what a Good woman this young woman was. She definitely deserves better.

Scientists would say- snapping pussy. I'm pretty sure thats the technical term. Don't quote me.

Chemical unbalance, mental illness, self sabotaging....thinking with the wrong head.

cause he's an idiot?

She may have a better personality, or make him feel good about himself.

No.1 Men are dogs and i should know I'm a man.
No.2 Once a man see's a woman use a dance pole
that it his brains turn to mush.

he is probabl afraid of commitment with the more serious woman. seeing how deep he was getting into the first relationship was probably scary to him. a party girl type is one he doesn't have to worry about a future with, so it's an easy way to go.

Because he was looking for excitment and not love, and wasn't appreciating what he had until it was gone.

The question is the answer.

she has no opinion, no money, no where to go and no place to be, making her totally available all day some men like jobless whores who are in control of whatever

Cause he retarded

Who knows - the mysteries of the human heart are impenetrable. But one thing that does come to mind is that perhaps she had a modest view of herself.

Sounds to me like his priorities are not in order. Maybe what he needs right now is an immature little party girl because deep down, he is an immature little party boy. There are tons of men out there who will feel like they have hit the jackpot to find an attractive, motivated, intelligent young woman such as yourself [if it is you that you are talking about]..

There are a lot of idiots out there.

the party girl has better drug connections.

better match perhaps

Men just find themselves desring someone else because their currently relationship is not making them happy. The woman should not be the one to blame or jusdged. As you said in your blog, "He left you for her" Why put her down.

The best thing is to not ask why. You can't get in his mind, even if you could it would be illogical most likely, and by asking why it's like we look to ourselves for fault. His loss.

Some guys want to have fun and tap into that wild side. He probably got bored and alot of times the "party girls" mean less responsibility and that probably appealed to him.

Because he's a flamming idiot thats thinking with his litte brain.

because you're full of yourself.

Most men seem to find the party girl personality a desirable taboo.

For instance, I had a friend who had a really good head on his shoulders. Worked hard and took care of his family. He met this nut case I knew who was an absolute mess. He voiced interest in her so I warned him that she was a lunatic and would just be bad for him.

My warning caused him to become smitten. He ended up having a short tryst with him that eventually costed him his job.

Its the same mentality as with most teenagers. When you tell them that something is bad for them, they want to do it ten times more.

1) Sex.
2) Lots of sex.
3) Lots of immature sex with a chick who has very little self-respect.
4) Immaturity.
5) Sex.
6) Stupidity.
7) Sex.
8) Sex.

grass was greener... just be glad he didn't try to have his cake and eat it too

He has become bored with the relationship. If you have been together for that long and never married then he has decided you are not the woman he wants as a wife and mother of his children. This party girl he has met has put some excitment into his life and even though he may never marry her or have a lasting relationship with her, she is a new change and he has become bored with life. He is looking for fun and excitment with a new wild partner...and there isnt a lot you can do except hope he tires of her and returns to you but if he does tell him its time for marriage or dont go back to him.

Quite frankly, the longterm girlfriend is predictable and probably boring at this point. He wants fun and a bit of a challenge...freedom to a degree. When you're with someone, you're not as free (as they say) to experience other women when and how you want them. At least he broke up with you and didn't do it behind your back.

Some guys just like that part in women. They just have to be absoloutely "party girl". Its not really cute, and its not what I really look for. Maybe thats just what he likes.

How old is this guy? He might be having some sort of mid-life crisis. Spending three years with the perfect woman only leads down two paths - either you continue the relationship (usually on a more committed level), or you start looking elsewhere. He might have just freaked out at the thought of the next step. Whatever the reason, you should consider yourself VERY LUCKY. You are now free to pursue someone with a bit more maturity and class.

Because many men are pathologically stupid and think with their glands instead of their brains.

She must do sexual favors the other won't do.

Sounds like it's for the excitement. When that gets old, and it always does, he will come crawling back on his knees to you. Then, the choice will be yours to make. Take him back, or kick his ass to the curb.
Personally, I would choose the latter, because if he did it once, he will probably do it again.
Sorry, I know it hurts, but it's better to end things now, grieve for the loss and get on with your life. Better things are on the horizon. I promise!

maybe she makes him feel better about himself

get the other chick back dude!and trust me if ur just
with her cause she lets you drink ur booze it's not worth it!

My ex left me for some uneducated penniless single mom, I had a degree, a career, and my own money. I often wondered what did she have that I didn't. Very simple, He knew she NEEDED him, because he supports her shes trapped in a way. She makes no money so what he says goes. She can't or won't fight with him, therefore He gets to do what he wants and she will tolerate it! The stuff he bought, gave, and provided are all things that I could have bought myself. I treated him well but she treated him like a god because he provides and gives her way more than she could ever get on her own. AND he likes that, I look at it as "bought control"!

Maybe the party girl makes him feel needed, and maybe he is intimidated by his old girlfriend. Maybe this good woman should find a man who values her and acts like an adult.

holy shit, u just described my friend. he ended his relationship with his baby mama to be with some girl that turned out to be a total whore

Maybe you were a little conceited and he likes down to earth girls...

idk, just a guess

On something of this matter there are so many things
that come in to play. We don't know this man or or the woman who he had the 3-year relationship with. He's not
married to her maybe he's tired of her, maybe she nags him all the time,maybe when she gets of work she goes home and starts throwing back a few cocktails. You see
there could be more to him leaving besides shes all of
3-years,pretty,smart,funny and educated.we would have to
do some investigating?

Its probably that the party girl is hot in the sack, but you will get the final laugh because she will leave him high and dry in about 4 or 5 months. He will find himself alone in a Denny's at 3am in the middle of Vegas without a clue of how he got there or how he will get out and wondering who will help him pay for the food he just ordered.

If the party girl isn't real "yet" do you suspect something because he shows interest in a girl that fits that description? If so, my answer is this. Some guys are attracted to that particular personality because she comes off as overwhelmingly confident and that just does it for some guys. There is something exciting about the utter unpredictability of her. It's kind of a rush being a part of something so opposite. The sad truth is that she's most likely wildly insecure and lives an apathetic life to hide the fact that she hates herself. When he discovers her broken side, he'll wish he stuck with you. If he isn't satisfied with how "boring" you are, find someone that appreciates you. Good luck my friend.

depends about how did this man get along with his girl.

mostly could be a dumb but, questioning isn't either so much of help.

citating a song, i'd might say, 'erase and Rewrite'.

Let me know if you ever figure it out. Sounds to me like hes just stupid.

The grass is always greener. In 3 years (or less) he'll be seeking a smart woman with a job. BTW are you the educated one or the party girl?

Many reasons; she might make him laugh more, or be better in bed, he might find her better attractive and more fun, he might be the kind who just wants a housewife or someone to party with.,