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  • I have worked in Juvenile Delinquency for over 34 years and a christian chaplain for the past ten years. Inform your son he is headed for trouble to move into his father's house if he is using marijuana. Your son has a full life ahead of him and he need's to start looking at his future. After high school he will be facing a new road facing the responsibilities of an adult. Enjoy your youth with your loving mother and be thankful you have a mother who cares. I have seen many broken families with mothers who let the children run wild and raise themselves. Be thankful you have a loving mother. Moving in with your father,who uses drugs, is asking for trouble. Join a christian church with a youth group. Listen to your mother, follow and obey her for she is looking out for your best interest. Follow my advice and in ten years, if not sooner, you will be thankful you listened, or wish you had. I will take this prayer request to my church and hold you and your son up in prayer. God Bless both of you. Love in Christ Robert
  • Sending him there is a bad idea. Do you have any other family members he can stay with temporarily? Aunts/uncles, grandparents, etc?
  • I dont think i was clear when i say he is on drugs i am refering to my son and not his father but thanks for the advice and i wish i couls get him in a church but you try and get a 15 yesr old to have a bath and your hard getting them to it but its a great gesture, many thanks :)
  • Mr. Fifteen year old, going through teenage years can be a tough. Many teens are defiant, anti establishment, rebellious, have an I don't care attitude, and experiment in sex and drugs. This can be a tough time and many teen's don't look past tomorrow. Often they see thing's for today and give no attention to where they are heading. Experimentation with drug's usually starts with marijuana. After the first few high's they continue to capture that first high, that never comes, and they graduate to other drug's. Many ending up addicted to crack, meth, or heroin. I worked in Juvenile Delinquency for 34 plus years with 10 years in a drug rehabilitation unit. I have seen many youth's lives destroyed through drugs. Marijuana is a mild hallucinogenic and is more dangerous to the body than many teens know. Don't destroy your future through drugs, or a lack of education. If you desire to work minimum wage your entire life then education is not important. If working in a car wash, or flipping burgers is your goal in life then ignore your education. In ten years, if not sooner, you will be glad you listened to your mother and followed her guidance, or you will wish you did. The choice is your's to make. I pray you make the right choice. You are very lucky to have a loving caring mother. I have seen many broken families with mother's let the kid's raise thenself. Make the right choice. I will keep you in my prayers. In Gods care, Robert
  • Listen it may be for the best if his father takes him as it will get him away from the crowd he is doing drugs with, also dads are notoriously better at handling those kind of problems. My brother went through the same phase at 14, mum was at her wits end and wanted to put him in care, my partner and i decided to take him in as we lived 100 miles away, ok he didnt stop doing drugs, but he calmed right down on them but the cannabis took affect on him when he approached 15, he ended up with psychosis and needed to be admitted to a mental institution for a few months. he's 20 now and still does drugs and lives with my mum, doesnt help that she takes them too but i know right now that if he were to get away, he could sort himself out. Let your ex deal with him, explain you cant cope and that your at your wits end, i am sure he will be able to help you out, failing that you could always take him to rehab, not to be admitted but for him to see how he will end up himself should he continue on the route he is taking good luck
  • I have many a time asked his dad to take him bk and everytime he has made excuses, one being that when my son was in a school living with him he got thrown out. he is at a good school here but he has found the wrong friends and i see him going into a pit of distruction and i know his dad is a lot stronger willed than me. but there is someone else to think of and he throws this in my face all the time and that is that he has a child just over 2 and he says he does not want drugs in the way of his child and his wife has alot in it also and i have never had a descussion with her as he has his new life but my son was there before she came and my son feels that he took her over him and that is sad but i see both sides and i see that when my son lived with his dad he always felt that his dad took his wifes side and that he never listened to what he had to say basically my son feels that his dad chucked him out because it was him or his wife. he took his wife me i'm different yes he is like most 15 year olds that smoke weed he has attitude, lazy and lies but if i had someone telling me that he had to go i would leave with him he is my son and i love him and i will always be there for him till the day i leave this earth. I am at my witts because it is frustrating but he is at an age where the feeling he gets from weed is better than anything else that he wants and he sells anything to get it that he owns, i tell him about the life he will lead if he continues this path and i know that he is living for today and not for the future. he has a wknd job but that is i know to feed his habbit but its the only thing he does that is constructive and i want him to see that when he gets paid that when he sees his hard earned money gone on drugs that you dnt see i lot after it. the rehab is a good idea and i will look into it as i need to get him to see reality and how it destroys your life before he has even started it. the real point here is that i listen to my son i hear what he says to me i dont do much with him now as he doesnt want to do things with me but we sit together we talk and he has had a bad start to school but he is a c graded student and loves art he talks about what he is doing in art and its good to see that he is interested, though my son has never liked school i see he likes that he is getting praised at the positive talks we give him. i use to shout at him ages ago but i learned that sitting down and talking gets you a long way,we cuddle and i kiss his head and we just relax in a way a son and mother should do its a perfect loving devotion between her son and mother but its not enough for him to give up the weed, all i can do is to be there and not shut him out.

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