Is it Fair that I have to give my X a million dollar house, $108,000.00 a year,a $50,000.00 car of her choosing every 2 years, $500.00 a month fun money. a gas card for her car, paid vacations out of the country every year and I make $245,000.00 a year?

I would give her a vacation out of the country and while she is gone contact homeland security and tell them she's a terroist!

Bend over and take it like a man...There is 1 bright spot...make sure every penny is designated as alimony in the divorce decree. That way it is taxable income for her and tax deductible for you.If she does not claim it as income the IRS will prosecute ...

Of course not. I understand alimony is based on many factors, but I think at most you should have to support her to meet a basic standard of living for a couple of years and pay basic university tuition costs... she can use her education to go and earn herself $245,000 a year.

Child support is another matter entirely, but your ex is an adult. She can (and should) be trying to stand on her own two feet, no matter what the cause of your divorce.

It all depends on what broke up the marriage. If you boffed the babysitter, then pay up pal! If she just fell out of love, get a better lawyer.

The car is excessive regardless.

If that's the best deal you could get, I'd say that you should have spent more money on your attorney up front.

Sounds like you need a better lawyer than she has.

What surprises me is that you're wealthy and you're wasting your time on answerbag.

Maybe that explains a lot about your situation.

WOW! Did you have a lawyer? Sounds like you could do much better.

Unless she put you through school, produced all your clients, did all your work for the last 30 years and you tied her to a stump and anally raped her until she bled to unconsciousness...

If this has not been formally decreed by the court fire your attorney at once. If it has fire your attorney at once and petition the court for relief.

Go for it!

How did you get in to this mess? Then reask.

I suppose the fairness depends on what level of education she has. The compensation goes up the less she can provide for herself.

was she a trophy wife?

get better lawyer, was married 20yr husband left with
girlfriend, i only got $500 a month and from that
i pay for son school and and food

You should have spent all the money on a much better Attorney.

What the hell did you do to piss off the judge?

well, that depends. it depends on if you were caught cheating and if you have children together. however if that not the case, then tell her a@@, if she's not working to get a da$% job to pay her own way. hell, it's a recession, and her ass better realize it. what is she gonna do if heaven forbid, you cant afford to give her the things that she has become used to?? i'll tell u what, her ass is gonna get a job, right? well as i stated earlier, if u got caught doing something that u had no business doing, that broke ur happy home then u shouldnt have to suffer that hard, but if u didnt and she's jsut a greedy broad, then i suggest u do get or retain counsel who has more expeerience, understand? hell who knows, in today's time she couldve been buffing t he divorce lawyer and that how she was able to get so much, u better check on that. i do sympathize with u though, hell i hurt for u baby.

If that's what your lawyer ok'd...will you marry me and then divorce me???

Jesus Christ who was your lawyer Forrest Gump.

You are full of crap...no judge would order that based on what you claim to be your income. If you are being truthful, which I highly doubt, you should definetly appeal that ruling in a higher court.

What state do you live in?

You say you are divorcing HER, because you don't love her? In my opinion, people should think about this before they get married. If she helped you out while you were climbing the career ladder, and she gave up her youth, years of work experience, as well as her education, while making sure your kids were taken care of and enabling you to earn good money, and you are getting rid of her because you hate her, (you hate the mother of your kids? Eh.) and she was always faithful and believed you would always be there for her, why would she deserve much less? Do you remember your vows? Did it occur to you that people are not disposable?

Unless she was unfaithful, or abusive, then she deserves everything she can get, IMO. However, I doubt, in our society that values marriage so little, and women who give up a life outside the home even less; I doubt she will get it.

I think she certainly deserves at least the $108,000, it is less than half of what you make. She should get what she helped you attain, plus compensation for being disposed of like waste. Ok, maybe not the car, because that is excessive for anyone under any circumstances. The vacation sounds a bit excessive, but again, I think getting a "No fault divorce" that one party doesn't want, should hurt. There are tax penalties if you withdraw from a retirement plan early, there are fees for terminating a cell phone contract early, so why should dumping a human being that you had a lifelong commitment to, be made easy and inexpensive?

I see a lot of men disturbed by this. Don't get married people, it is that simple! Or get a pre-nump.

His wife need not have paid for his school and produced all of his clients or BE RAPED,(Thank you "TROUBLE", for proving that some men should be sterilized and unallowed to every marry.) to be entitled to her share of the money he earns. She was his PARTNER. She had his kids. She, at the very least, made it possible for him to have kids and continue increasing his salary. If she didn't, and she had a nanny, or was on crack the whole time, then never mind, otherwise, she helped make a future for THEM, and just because he decides that THEM is not in his future, doesn't change that.

Just reading the "raped anally to death" comment really says it all. People with the mind set of rape and disposing of another human- they go hand in hand. It is a shame that they let people with such low moral standards, compassion, and integrity get married. Our country tells gays that marriage is sacred between men and women, and that is such bull. Marriage is used like a car lease anymore. Humans who think of humans in terms of what they are worth money wise once you are done with them... Anal rape...

As hard as it is for a woman here to get a year or two of laughable alimony, I'd have to say that this story does not add up. I think divorcing someone who you committed your life to should be costly, but the courts rarely agree anymore. There must be more to this story.