ANSWERS: 13
  • It sounds to me like he is the one not compromising. What could be unreasonable about what you wanted?
  • Ummm... yah I don't understand? Your request is normal. Maybe the real issue is the cost and he's too embarrassed to say so? If it is the money get it cleared up! Financial stress can ruin relationships, it's important to be open about them.
  • my fiance's and my bands don't match.. her engagement ring and her wedding ring don't even match... my ring is a beveled tungsten ring and her engagement ring is a 3 diamond ring.. wedding ring is 3 stones non-diamond... our rings are nowhere near matching... he could think of it being a tradition.. ask him if his parents bands match.
  • no they do not have to match... however diamonds are the ultimate vanity. they are not rare. the only reason they are expencive is because debeers owns nearly every diamond mine in the world so they can prevent the true value from being reached. my wifes ring was twice as expencive as it had to be because I made them melt down a ring I used to wear to make it. it is silver with a 14k rose gold symbol on it. $110. what is more important, some rock with no functional use, or a smaller mortgage?
  • They do not have to match, and it is pretty normal for the woman to have a rock or two in her band and the manly man to go plain.
  • No, but it could be the cost more than anything. Wedding time is extremely stressful. If he can not afford your ideal ring right now, you could always go for the simple bands now and get each other your dream rings for your first anniversary present.
  • If it matters to him, it matters. Guys have so little to say or do with a wedding why not give him this? You can get you anniversary band with the diamonds later.
  • You two need to work harder at communication before you get married. Happy people do not make demands or accuse their partner of not compromising. If he gets angry instead of having a simple discussion, you might want to rethink this whole thing. I suggest the two of you visit a counselor for some tips on how to have a simple discussion when there are differing points of view.
  • You are right. I have been thinking about it a lot. He originally agreed on non-matching bands but then when we actually planned to go shopping for the bands, he said he never agreed and insisted we would go for matching bands. I was upset and then he said I don't compromise. He asked me to go to a counselor and I suggested we go together but he said he does not need one. I feel strongly that WE both should work on it together instead of making any one-sided effort. I don't know what I should do now...
  • The night ended up he says then I will pay for my own ring. Cost is not really an issue. He just wants his way.
  • lets see... you want an expensive ring that you love and adore. you want him to buy it. but you want him to be unhappy rather than happppy with a simple inexpensive ring that he would enjoy. nah... youre a typical narsicistic single female
  • More often than not they don't match. Often you buy a bridal set which includes engagement and wedding bands that "match" or are some sort of set, and the man gets a different band altogether.
  • No, I got my ex a diamond one which I think was about $900 about 20 years ago. Bought mine at the same time. Fifty bucks...plain old gold band.

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