| About me: |
Blood and Milk. They both come out in many ways.
At the end it's all one.
Without duality, there is nothing.
PERSONAL NOTE:
I'm not so much around lately. Still there though. I'm just pretty busy and find AB to be increasingly boring at times. On the up-side, there are still many people on my friendslist who I value a lot. Consider me on stand-by. ;-)
ABOUT MOVIES:
I absolutely, totally love movies! :)
You have to forgive me though, I have seen so many that often I forget what a movie was about or how it ended, unless a movie really stands out for me.
My favorite genres are psychological thrillers, horror, crime and film noir. At times I like to watch a good drama, but I stay far, far away from romantic movies or chick flicks!
I'm not that much into mainstream movies, I have missed many top Hollywood productions.
A few of my favorite directors:
Asian:
Takashi Miike, Park Chan-Wook, Shinya Tsukamoto, Takashi Shimizu, Kim Jee-woon
European:
Michael Haneke, Gaspar Noe, Alejandro Amenábar, Danny Boyle
US:
Alfred Hitchcock, Stanley Kubrick, Roman Polanski, David Lynch,
Greg Araki, John Waters, Quentin Tarantino, Robert Rodriguez, Tod Browning, Wes Craven, Kenneth Anger.
Some of my favorite tv series:
The Sopranos, Dexter, Breaking Bad, Six Feet Under, Absolutely Fabulous, Black Adder, The Young Ones, Shameless, Deadwood, The Avengers, The Persuaders, Monthy Python, Twin Peaks, Carnivale, Top Gear, South Park, Theo en Thea (Dutch), Jiskefet (Dutch).
ABOUT ANDROGYNITY:
In the west we are having a binary gender system. Which means that we only acknowledge two genders, man and woman. However, there are many people who feel that they don’t fit in there. This is not just a cultural or linguistic thing. I strongly believe that gender identity is attached to the way our brain is functioning, and to the hormones we have. This does NOT mean that there is something wrong with androgynes, or other people who identify as transgender. (transgender is the umbrella term for those outside the binary gender system)
In many old cultures transgender people had an important role. They where seen as people who could walk in both worlds. In North America for instance, the Indians had the Berdache. This person was educated to be a shaman. Still, today, in for example the Philippines or Thailand the third gender is accepted. It is merely in our modern society that the acknowledgement of the third gender is rejected.
Being androgyn is not the same as being transsexual. People who are transsexual feel that they are from the opposite sex, and many of them go through transition. Androgynes, or genderqueers, don’t fit in the binary gendersystem either, but they do not feel that they are on the other side. Many genderqueers don’t look at all like the stereotype most people have. This makes it even more difficult to understand what this is all about.
Personally:
I don’t feel a big need to shave off my long hair and thus look more like the gender I wasn’t born with, though you will hardly ever spot me wearing a dress and high heels. ;-)
Being a 'woman' makes it easier to dress inbetween than it is for a man, but the true issue is in the way I feel, not in the way I dress. I identify as in between, and I have felt this my whole life. When I was a child I looked more like a boy and I hated being a girl. But since then I have realised that I am neither and both, and I have accepted myself for who I am.
I feel very complete.
Some quotes from http://androgyne.0catch.com/ :
“Contrary to popular belief, having an androgynous appearance does not necessarily make a person (an) androgyne. Many transsexuals are transsexual without looking at all like the opposite sex, and many androgynes are androgyne without looking the part. The word androgynous can apply to both superficial and psychological characteristics, whereas the word androgyne pertains almost specifically to gender identity, not to looks. Just as all squares are rectangles but not all rectangles are squares, all androgynes are (psychologically) androgynous but not all androgynous(-looking) people are androgynes. Many psychological androgynes do not understand who and what they are. They may agonize for years, wondering how it is that they can feel androgynous if they don't look that way. Self-perception and self-identification are often problematic for androgynes because, in many cases, their androgyneity is not readily apparent.”
One more quotation:
“The term transgender tends to confuse androgynes because it is generally polarized into crossdressers (formerly known as transvestites) on one side and transsexuals on the other. Setting the two categories up as opposites implies that transgender individuals either want to wear the other sex's clothes or else want to change their anatomy to match the other sex. Androgynes, however, may well want to wear the other sex's clothing, but they do not want to change their anatomy to match the other sex -- although some may opt for partial changes to make themselves more physically androgynous. What differentiates androgynes from crossdressers and transsexuals is that they do not identify fully with either masculinity or femininity: they are either somewhere in between the two, or they consider themselves to be something else entirely. Other names for androgyne (Greek for man/woman) are agendered, ambigendered, epicene, gender gifted, gender outlaw, intergendered (a term coined by intersex people), non-binary gender variant, nongendered, the third gender, and the fourth gender. Related but non-synonymous terms would be eunuch, bigendered (which applies mostly to crossdressers), gender bender, genderqueer, gender variant, hijra, neutrois, the third sex (which is usually a misnomer), transgenderist, and two-spirit. The terms crossdresser, transgender, queer and even the seemingly more focused terms gender variant and genderqueer tend to be too vague in that they all have macrocosmic (umbrella) and microcosmic (specific) meanings. The term transgender is especially problematic in that it can imply that one changes from one gender to another, which in the case of androgynes generally does not apply: once androgynes find themselves, masculinity and femininity often cease to be polarities for them. At first, newly self-aware androgynes may feel a need to explore those aspects of themselves that they have long repressed due to peer pressure or self-censure, but once absorbed, the aspects are re-incorporated into the individual's identity -- which is a solitary persona.”
An other interesting site:
http://genderfork.com/
ABOUT FRIENDS REQUESTS:
I'm a very openminded person, and we do not have to agree on everything. After all, personal differences make things often interesting.
But there are some things I will never tolerate.
This includes discrimination against race, gender, sexual orientation.
You can always send me a friend request, and if I have had some interesting interactions with you, I will be happy to add you. But if you fall in the category that I really dó find offensive, save yourself the trouble.
An other thing that is high on my annoyance list is manipulation and dishonesty. If you consciously manipulate people in deliberate attempts to make yourself look good and others to look bad, or you pretent to be someone you really are not, consider yourself not welcome on my friends list either. |
