http://www.answerbag.com/profile/36300 New Answerbag answers from Ausbabe Wed, 30 May 2012 03:54:48 -0700 Wed, 30 May 2012 03:54:48 -0700 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/10397903 i my son married my daughter. i have not idea on how to tolerate this<br /><br />Depending on where you live it's probably against the law. You might want to get some legal advice on this one. Thu, 03 Mar 2011 21:17:49 -0800 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/10397903 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/4461187 What would you do if the accounts recievable girl in you husbands office was sending him pronagrafic pictures of herself to him via text on his work phone?<br /><br />I would get a copy of the photos and send them to a boss with a note of explanation - alot of workplaces frown on that kind of behaviour - especially if it involves the inappropriate use of work resources. That&#039;s fairly ordinary behaviour. And this way it becomes the bosses problem... Sat, 01 Nov 2008 20:37:03 -0700 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/4461187 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/4461175 I used to friends with this older lady and shes going behind my back talking about me to others, before I resign from my job I wanted to tell my supervisor all the nasty things she said about her, what should I do?<br /><br />You&#039;ve got two choices here. You can let it be your old work&#039;s problem and move on with dignity and grace. You can tell your supervisor what was going on and point out that you&#039;re leaving so you don&#039;t have a reason to be dishonest as you&#039;re moving on either way and... Sat, 01 Nov 2008 20:35:04 -0700 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/4461175 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/4461099 Please look at my first comment for this question and tell me what went wrong and what I should have done or is it that my expectations are wrong (There is not much space to put the scenario in the question, and so I have put it in the first comment)<br /><br />I don&#039;t think your boss will be able to tell you off that much - they&#039;re adults, they did what they wanted to do. Whilst it is inconsiderate by some standards, they might have thought they were doing the right thing by finding someone else and not inconveniencing you. They most... Sat, 01 Nov 2008 20:25:39 -0700 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/4461099 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/4461027 My cousin planned to take me to movies, while I was getting ready, she called to tell me her husband was going to church and she wanted to go with HIM instead, I was disappointed, was she right to pick the husband over me? Isn't blood thicker than water?<br /><br />It is with the exception of marriage/ partner and children - then the order is Children, Marriage/ Partner, your parents, your spouse / partner&#039;s parents, your other imnmnediate family, your spouse / partner&#039;s immediate family, then extended family so whilst I hate to say this, blood is... Sat, 01 Nov 2008 20:17:28 -0700 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/4461027 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/4460832 How should I go about confronting a friend that abuses my 'my house is your house' attitude? He leaves things out and trash everywhere. If I tell him to put/throw it away and he does it with much resistance if he does at all.<br /><br />Show him the door and tell him he&#039;s not coming back till he learns to clean up after himself and learns some respect for you, your house and also for himself. Put it this way, if you&#039;ve got a friend who&#039;se not to be trusted in certain situations, don&#039;t provide those... Sat, 01 Nov 2008 19:56:53 -0700 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/4460832 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/4450819 How can I handle a situation where I had a dispute with my sister-in-law, which I let go and she acts like she wants things to be okay between us to my brother, but then tries to start more issues when he's not around.(And he always takes her side)<br /><br />Keep yourself safe and make sure you&#039;re not around her alone. Clearly she&#039;s not someone you can trust and it&#039;s not worth exposing yourself to that kind of awful treatment. Good luck! Fri, 31 Oct 2008 17:39:39 -0700 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/4450819 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/4450795 What would you do if your brothers wife was mean to your kids?My sister in law acts like she is better than me and treats my kids like crap. They live close so my 3 yr old wants to visit all the time, but she wont even let him in the house.im gonna snap!<br /><br />That&#039;s an awful situation. Specially for your poor 3yr old who clearly doesn&#039;t understand what&#039;s going on and just wants to go and play. Can you talk to her with your brother present to make sure she&#039;s not going to go behind your back? Also invite both of them to... Fri, 31 Oct 2008 17:35:22 -0700 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/4450795 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/4443997 How do you say "No" (politely) to your boss? If you really like the job and only need to be assertive without being offensive.<br /><br />I am really sorry but I don&#039;t have capacity without my current workload being compromised and I don&#039;t want to let you down by rushing things. Thu, 30 Oct 2008 22:57:49 -0700 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/4443997 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/4443962 I think my neighbor is having an affair with a married woman from down the street. My kids were leaving for school the other day and noticed her leaving his house. is very friendly and loves to talk. How do I even think about talking to him?<br /><br />well, does it matter if he is having an affair? She could be one of many things - a cleaner, a relation, a friend even. unless you have proof, there&#039;s very little you can do in relation to forming a judgement. However, in saying that, if you feel uncomfortable, there&#039;s... Thu, 30 Oct 2008 22:52:13 -0700 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/4443962 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/4443893 Is this a piece of your brain?<br /><br />Could be - I&#039;m always leaving things laying around so who knows... Thu, 30 Oct 2008 22:42:45 -0700 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/4443893 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/4439686 I have been working for a great job, and in about 3 months I need to move on, because I am moving out of state, how do I go about telling my boss, who has been so good to me, that I need to leave the company, I am so torn.<br /><br />I think how you&#039;ve put it is pretty good. I also think that if your boss is as great as you say, they&#039;ll understand and support you. Also, it might be an idea to let them know as soon as possible and perhaps offer to train up the person who comes in to take your place. ... Thu, 30 Oct 2008 15:01:19 -0700 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/4439686 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/4439652 What can I say to someone who thinks that they are always the victim and advice is not what they want? How do I stay calm and not beat the $@#^ out of them upon hearing this everyday?<br /><br />There are a few ways to deal with this: Avoid them if you&#039;re able to and if they approach you, tell them you are busy. Be direct with them and point out what they&#039;re doing - they may not even realise. Try saying / asking: &quot;I understand that you&#039;re feeling really... Thu, 30 Oct 2008 14:58:28 -0700 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/4439652 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/4439595 When the season turns dark and cold my boss comes in griping every single morning. This will literally go on for months. What can i say that will get him to quit his whining?<br /><br />change the topic as soon as he starts by giving him a hot cup of coffee - it&#039;s worth making the coffee if it gets him to stop complaining. Or if he literally says the same thing, join him and go along with him - he&#039;ll either realise he&#039;s sounding like a broken record and stop... Thu, 30 Oct 2008 14:53:29 -0700 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/4439595 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/4439209 How do you tell someone nicely to not be a passive-aggressive bitch?<br /><br />just like that but with a wide, engaging smile? Depends on what it is about them makes them passive-aggressive. Address the symptoms that make up the diagnosis not just the diagnosis itself. ie, rather than tackling the overall diagnosis of passive agressive bitch, look the symptoms - what... Thu, 30 Oct 2008 14:12:00 -0700 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/4439209 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/4438421 At my night job, a few of us use humor in dealing with customers. The customers find it amusing and actually compliment us. However, there is a group of about 4 stiffs who say it is unprofessional. How do you deal with co-workers like this?<br /><br />by remembering the customer is always right. As long as the humour your using isn&#039;t crass or likely to offend minority groups, go for it. There will always be those who don&#039;t think you&#039;re doing things right. Tough to them and they can live with it. Thu, 30 Oct 2008 12:39:48 -0700 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/4438421 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/4438282 At work, how does it make you feel when someone less qualified with no real substance gets promoted above someone else who is much more qualified, just because one is a much smoother talker and knows how to put on a better "show" and talk the talk?<br /><br />Honestly? It sucks big time. I hate when that happens at my work. The loudest ones get noticed the most. But then it&#039;s not just their fault, it&#039;s the fault of the place you work at - they&#039;re not looking at their workers evenly and instead are happy to play favourites. ... Thu, 30 Oct 2008 12:22:41 -0700 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/4438282 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/4438264 I have a mild disability and sit next to a very kind woman who helps me with work but all these other people constantly come over to her desk for help or a chat. Is it fair that I feel a bit upset if it's in the middle of her helping me with something?<br /><br />I&#039;m probably saying what everyone else has here but for what it&#039;s worth, I think that&#039;s pretty selfish of you. You don&#039;t own the exclusive rights to your co-worker&#039;s assistance or time. She&#039;s helping you out because she&#039;s a good and generous spirited... Thu, 30 Oct 2008 12:20:17 -0700 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/4438264 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/4438231 When is the last time you thought, "I'm quitting" due to a bad day at work?<br /><br />When I got bawled out in front of my team (I work in a unit of 16 with 3 teams and my team has my team-leader and my four colleagues in it) for something that wasn&#039;t actually my fault and when I asserted myself I wasn&#039;t given much of an apology AT ALL and then when I said that I wanted... Thu, 30 Oct 2008 12:16:19 -0700 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/4438231 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/4437984 How to get rid of my boyfriends ex without him finding out?<br /><br />Why do you need to? Is she hanging around all the time? Is she affecting your relationship with your boyfriend or are you worried she&#039;ll &#039;win&#039; him back? I&#039;m wondering if you need to think about how secure you feel in your relationship with your boyfriend. I know exes... Thu, 30 Oct 2008 11:49:31 -0700 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/4437984 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/4437946 My future wife is very sweet,head strong,good mother etc. Although she can have this temperment where she can get into an argument and not let it go! for hours it's driving me crazy. I have already talked to her about it. though it still happens.What 2 do<br /><br />It might be worth going to counselling before you get married - go with her. There&#039;s a chance she&#039;s either really passionate about things in which case you may need to work out whether you can simply bite your tongue and say nothing and find a way to agree with her or if this is the... Thu, 30 Oct 2008 11:46:05 -0700 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/4437946 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/4437822 I left my wife for another woman. I'm in love with this woman and getting a divorce. We've been intimate on a few occasions but now she says we can't anymore until my divorce is final. whats going on?<br /><br />Sorry if my answer isn&#039;t one you&#039;re keen to hear but I think the person you&#039;re now with is self-protecting and also trying to do some damage control even if it seems too late in the day. She wants to make sure she&#039;s not going to get burned - she&#039;s got no absolute... Thu, 30 Oct 2008 11:33:13 -0700 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/4437822 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/4437704 A few weeks ago our new neighbors invited my husband and i over to bbq. we hit it off had a great time. they hugged us and said we needed to get together more. well i invited em over and now they are giving us the cold shoulder. any thoughts?<br /><br />I&#039;d say that there&#039;s a chance they may have meant what they said at the time but that now that they&#039;ve talked about their experience, they may have realised or &#039;created&#039; the feeling that they didn&#039;t have as much fun as they thought... Is there a chance that... Thu, 30 Oct 2008 11:20:21 -0700 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/4437704 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/4431232 What's the worst thing in life (other than regret in my opinion)?<br /><br />I know you only asked for one thing, however I think these two go hand in hand: Addiction and Abuse Wed, 29 Oct 2008 17:18:07 -0700 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/4431232 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/4431138 If your pet was just a little bit bigger, would it eat you?<br /><br />I rekon mine would - she hates me and when she thinks I&#039;m not looking I catch her giving me these evil looks - like she&#039;s trying to work out if my head would fit in her mouth Python style... Wed, 29 Oct 2008 17:07:08 -0700 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/4431138 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/4430963 I read an article once about an futuristic and advanced tactic in war. It was to approach your aggressors cradling a lamb. I don't know where I read this but I distinctly remember a drawing with the article and would love to read it again...<br /><br />It sounds like what you were reading was taken from The Art Of War by Sun Tzu. It&#039;s a good approach to take as it disarms the enemy and can be a a way to resolve feelings of ill will quickly. Wed, 29 Oct 2008 16:51:28 -0700 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/4430963 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/4319245 Why do you women stay with men that treat them badly and then complain about it?<br /><br />Because regardless of their gender or the gender of the person they are with, all individuals have the right to be in a relationship with the person of their choosing (providing they aren&#039;t breaking the law) and to do so safetly and without being treated poorly. If you spend time talking... Sun, 19 Oct 2008 03:09:42 -0700 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/4319245 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/4319194 I am dating some one who told me that he is "not ready for a realationship" Why do Men say this?? and what exactly does that mean?? All answers are appreciated, thanx<br /><br />There are two books I&#039;d recommend &#039;He&#039;s just not that into you&quot; (I forget the author) and another one called &quot;You Didn&#039;t Hear it From Us&quot; by Dushan Zaric and Jason Kosman. The first is about how to tell when you&#039;re in a relationship that you... Sun, 19 Oct 2008 02:52:36 -0700 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/4319194 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/4319162 Is my gf cheating if she lies everytime she is in a situation when she would be able to cheat ( about six times ) ! then says she lies because im paranoid but accepts she made me paranoid and after saying it wont happen again does the same thing again<br /><br />By accepting her dishonesty you&#039;re effectively endorsing and encouraging it. My best advice, consider how much longer you&#039;re prepared to put up with this behaviour and what you&#039;re willing to sacrifice in the process. Does she have that much control over you that you have to... Sun, 19 Oct 2008 02:45:51 -0700 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/4319162 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/4295640 I am attending a bridal shower this week-end for by boyfriends future daughter in-law. We have lived together for 5 years and do not plan on getting married. When they ask at the shower how do you know the bride, who do I answer?<br /><br />Her future husband is my partner.... Thu, 16 Oct 2008 12:14:39 -0700 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/4295640 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/4193956 Currently, at nearly $4.00 a gallon for gasoline, there are several "empty" cars on the road. if gasoline hits $10.00 a gallon, our highways will be clogged with "empties". will America come to a halt? could terrorists be behind the high oil prices?<br /><br />Hmm. Well, if those Terrorists are wealthy westerners living in western countries an controlling the prices of oil, then sure, we&#039;ll call them terrorists. Sun, 05 Oct 2008 04:18:27 -0700 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/4193956 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/4193944 Sally Field said that if moms rule the world there would be no war. Do you agree or disagree?<br /><br />Awesome Q. I think that there might be wars still if the children were competing for recognition. Cheerleaders anyone? Sun, 05 Oct 2008 04:16:10 -0700 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/4193944 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/4113109 We are going to visit my in-laws in a few weeks. My father-in-law is "ok" but my mother-in-law is a work of art. She's noisy, brags (and doesn't have it) and knows everything about anything. How can I make it through the weekend?<br /><br />Do you absolutely need to stay with them? If not, book into a nice hotel nearby and see them for a dinner or two but other than that keep the contact to a minimum - no longer than you feel you can handle without wanting to start having a go at her about her faults etc. I&#039;d also... Thu, 25 Sep 2008 22:01:48 -0700 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/4113109 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/4113035 I feel as though I love my friends more than they love and care about me. Is there anything I can do to become more important to them?<br /><br />Oh hon, I do feel for you and know where you&#039;re coming from on this. You&#039;re going to think I&#039;m just &#039;psycho-babbling&#039; but, you need to put aside your perception of how you&#039;re valued by your friends and focus on how you&#039;re valued by the one person who really... Thu, 25 Sep 2008 21:49:36 -0700 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/4113035 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/4112905 What is your opinion on racism,sexism,and gay and lesbian rights?<br /><br />All forms of discrimination are created from fear of the unknown and a desire to make ourselves feel better about our own faults and negative aspects by making others seem inequal or somehow lesser than us. In a utopian society, there would be no such thing as discrimination. However it is... Thu, 25 Sep 2008 21:33:07 -0700 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/4112905 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/4112861 My mother was murdered by my father when I was 1. I had a copy of her obituary but lost it over time. I have tried everything to get another copy but I have yet to find anything. I know it exists but how do I get it?<br /><br />I&#039;m sure I&#039;m not the first to say this but check your local library, public records, your newspaper&#039;s archive section and also ask around at the cemetery etc - some people collect things like that. Good luck. Thu, 25 Sep 2008 21:25:54 -0700 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/4112861 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/4112849 My doors occasionally close itself, when clearly no one is at home, what does this signify? (No Windows are opened)<br /><br />It could be the house moving - all houses do this - they shift slightly and this is why we have creaks etc. It could also be the energy in your house moving about.. I&#039;d prefer to believe the former however. Thu, 25 Sep 2008 21:24:32 -0700 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/4112849 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/4112836 Why is the past important?<br /><br />Because we all have one - even newborns if you&#039;re phisosophically tuned that way. We need to remember the mistakes of our past, to learn from them ad to move forwards with our learned maturity. Our present is our past and our future is the present just waiting to happen. It&#039;s... Thu, 25 Sep 2008 21:22:33 -0700 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/4112836 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/4112268 My brother works for a newspaper and claims they cater to straight men and lesbians. I feel that is sexist and papers should cater to all. They are not allowed to be racist but they can be sexist. What Bull! What do you think?<br /><br />it&#039;s target demographic - all forms media need to have them in mind so that they know how to style their services. It&#039;s like 17 magazine is styled towards teenage females. Whilst it could be said that they exclude males or anyone outside the age group or gender group, it&#039;s still... Thu, 25 Sep 2008 20:12:32 -0700 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/4112268 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/4111861 Me and my boyfriend are both 16 and my mom hates him and his mom loves me. What can i do to make my mom like him?<br /><br />Firstly, here&#039;s the reason I think his mom loves you. It&#039;s easier for her as she&#039;s not thinking of the possibilities of things like pregnancy etc having an effect on her life or family. Sorry hon but it is easier for her. Now, as for how you can make your mom like him... Thu, 25 Sep 2008 19:20:19 -0700 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/4111861 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/4111403 Is it normal to be attracted to someone else when you're in a committed relationship?<br /><br />It&#039;s about as normal as having a pulse. Human beings are driven by stimulation and this motivates us to keep progressing, evolving and maturing. We face temptation in all forms all the time, however it&#039;s what we do with the temptation when we face it that counts. Thu, 25 Sep 2008 18:22:20 -0700 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/4111403 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/4111392 My girlfriends bestfriend is a huge slut and when my girlfriend is with her she is called a slut and i dnt want her to be called a slut i tried breaking them up but ts hard...what shall i do?<br /><br />You&#039;re not with your girlfriend because of who her friends are or are not. Do you really care about what people are saying about your girlfriend? What matters is what you think and as long as that&#039;s based on fact rather than heresay, that&#039;s all that counts. You can&#039;t... Thu, 25 Sep 2008 18:20:33 -0700 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/4111392 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/4111359 The opposite to my last question: Do you yhink your partner would die to save your life?<br /><br />Absolutely without a doubt. Thu, 25 Sep 2008 18:16:38 -0700 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/4111359 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/4111322 How do you feel about groups like PETA(people for the ethical treatment of animals)? DO you feel they are too extreme? Or do you agree with them and their methods?<br /><br />Well, we don&#039;t have B&amp;J&#039;s ice cream where we live. But that said, I think that if I had no idea what was in the ingredients, I&#039;d probably try it anyway. Put it this way, considering that coca-cola is a great cleaning product, if we knew the real ingredients of the things... Thu, 25 Sep 2008 18:12:46 -0700 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/4111322 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/4111279 What is the stupidest thing you saw someone do in the checkout line?<br /><br />Complain really loudly to the checkout operator that they needed to get more staff working at the other checkouts - the poor staff member was already rushed off their feet and it was just too much as they&#039;d been friendly, tolerant of the grumbling and actually sent out an announcement over... Thu, 25 Sep 2008 18:07:05 -0700 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/4111279 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/4111209 I hate monthly ___________?<br /><br />bills Thu, 25 Sep 2008 17:58:32 -0700 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/4111209 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/3922975 How does society cope with the Battered Women's Syndrome?<br /><br />First off, I can&#039;t believe someone downgraded your question. It&#039;s a fairly valid one. Generalising, but battered women&#039;s syndrome (BWS) is the term given to the &#039;phenomenon&#039; of women who remain in situations of domestic voilence and do not leave. It&#039;s also... Wed, 03 Sep 2008 15:31:51 -0700 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/3922975 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/3922899 I inherited a family geneaology that hasn't been updated since 1969. How can I find dates of death for people on it who must have passed away by now?<br /><br />Try contacting the younger members of the family geneaology. Also check with the records departments of the areas that your relatives lived in - cemeteries can have information like that as well if needed because there were a reasonable amount of people who had pre-determined burial plots -... Wed, 03 Sep 2008 15:20:43 -0700 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/3922899 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/3922887 What kind of person are you?<br /><br />Mint flavoured mostly Wed, 03 Sep 2008 15:18:21 -0700 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/3922887 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/3922883 My b/f said we can get engaged but not get married for 2 years, is it really bad that I cant stop looking at wedding pictures, locations, magazines and much more? Because I can't help myself.<br /><br />I don&#039;t think that&#039;s a bad thing really - it&#039;s a good idea to start looking at magazines etc and putting together a scrapbook of ideas. Plus it gives you time to start saving for the wedding. I think you&#039;d just need to be careful not to become so obsessed you start to... Wed, 03 Sep 2008 15:17:41 -0700 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/3922883 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/3922872 PLEASE EXPLAIN NECK DOPPLER FOR ME. There was whoosing sound and nothing on other side pls help<br /><br />Check out this website: http://www.webmd.com/a-to-z-guides/doppler-ultrasound It basically checks for blood flow and can be used to assess clotting. A Doppler is a form of ultrasound and is used externally - hand-held and non-intrusive unless there&#039;s painful areas that are being... Wed, 03 Sep 2008 15:15:23 -0700 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/3922872 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/3873246 How many songs can you think of that have a woman's name as the title?<br /><br />Janie&#039;s got a gun - Aerosmith Thu, 28 Aug 2008 15:34:16 -0700 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/3873246 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/3873170 If your older brother swears profusely on every 2nd word in public how can you politely ask him to stop without him retaliating on you?<br /><br />Tell him to watch his language and if he refuses, tell him you don&#039;t want to be out in public with him - you have the choice to walk away from him. Thu, 28 Aug 2008 15:21:42 -0700 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/3873170 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/3873130 How many squirrels would it take to lift up a truck?<br /><br />Depends on the motivation - is the pack of squirrels lifting a truck to rescue a baby-squirrel? If there are women squirrels, their maternal squirelly instincts would kick in and they&#039;d lift that truck like no-one&#039;s business. Or are they lifting the truck as they&#039;re on strike... Thu, 28 Aug 2008 15:15:33 -0700 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/3873130 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/3873097 Men aren't you happy women are put on this earth for you, if their were no women guys what would you do honestly?<br /><br />I assume you&#039;re being tongue in cheeck with this question? If not, that&#039;s a pretty offensive question to ask - it offends women, it offends same-sex preferred men and women and it offends men. it&#039;s reverse sexism and the women&#039;s movement has come a long way. ... Thu, 28 Aug 2008 15:08:27 -0700 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/3873097 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/3872942 What do you think about a group of high school boys who are friends,who use girls for sex,them dumped them,and keeping scores and rating the girls they sleep with?What do you think about this?<br /><br />I think they&#039;re putting themselves and the girls they sleep with in danger of STD&#039;s (Sexually Transmitted Diseases) and STI&#039;s (Sexually Transmitted Infections). They&#039;re also making choices that ultimately will reflect poorly on them. I hope they do get to the point (with... Thu, 28 Aug 2008 14:44:46 -0700 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/3872942 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/3872874 If god is Pro-Life, then why do people die? And, if god isn't Pro-Choice, why would he give people the ability to choose?<br /><br />That&#039;s the thing, god&#039;s not necessarily pro-life or pro-death. God is god and the rest is up to us, nature and science. God isn&#039;t Pro-Choice or Anti-Choice. We however are human beings with brains that function (for the most part) and the ability to make choices. - my... Thu, 28 Aug 2008 14:32:58 -0700 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/3872874 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/3872847 I decided that I am not going to allow my son to see his father because of his dads drug addiction, lack of work and no means of caring for his child!!! Is this wrong of me? and how should I deal with this?<br /><br />From the point of view of someone who works in child protection, I think that whilst your son has a right to know who his father is and to have time with his father, I think that time would need to be strictly monitored to make sure that his dad isn&#039;t going to expose him to drug abuse. ... Thu, 28 Aug 2008 14:28:39 -0700 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/3872847 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/3872765 My son won't talk to his kindergarten teacher when she greets him at the door. He was the same in pre-school. He approaches kids easily and is a clown by nature, but clams up during greetings. She took away his recess because of this. Any suggestions?<br /><br />As a teacher and welfare worker I can tell you this for certain. The kindergarten teacher should be taken to task over her actions. Taking away his recess isn&#039;t going to make him feel more positive towards her. From what you&#039;ve said he appears to socialise appropriately with his... Thu, 28 Aug 2008 14:18:18 -0700 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/3872765 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/3807476 Everyone!! i am now single..it hurts like a beep..but its something that must be..any words of advice? nothing mean please..i don't wanna cry anymore lol =/<br /><br />I think that the best thing you can do for yourself is set some time aside to allow yourself time to grieve the end of the relationship - crying is a big part of &#039;getting it out of your system&#039;. Make sure you find things to do to keep yourself busy after giving yourself the... Wed, 20 Aug 2008 22:26:20 -0700 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/3807476 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/3353921 I think my boyfriend is looking at porn on his PC. He clears his history, and temporary files regularly. Is there any way I can recover the deleted info or monitor his actions from another PC without him knowing?<br /><br />I know this is an old question, but I couldn&#039;t resist answering it anyway. I&#039;m wondering why you can&#039;t just ask him about what he&#039;s doing rather than reducing yourself to the level of having to break into his computer - you do know that doing this is the biggest way to... Sun, 29 Jun 2008 01:52:21 -0700 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/3353921 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/3161100 Have you been ever bullied at work? Felt low? Belittled?<br /><br />Yup I have unfortunately. I&#039;ve been tolerating my supervisor / team-leader (same person different roles at times), not just asking or suggesting but TELLING me I should relocate to an office branch in my local area rather than where I a right now for work. This person has done it so much... Thu, 05 Jun 2008 07:29:23 -0700 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/3161100 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/3161063 How would you convince someone your a better person like not the same person you used to be?<br /><br />There&#039;s an old saying, &#039;actions speak louder than words&#039;. You can tell them you&#039;ve changed till you&#039;re blue in the face, but it&#039;s up to how you show them your changes and that you can actually sustain them rather than simply talking &#039;big&#039;. Thu, 05 Jun 2008 07:24:31 -0700 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/3161063 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/3161054 Do you like going to the library?<br /><br />No... I love reading so much but I really get irritated when I go to the library and all the newer / good books are borrowed out so I find myself pathetically sorting through the crappy left-over books that no-one really wants... that and I&#039;ve gotten so many fines over the years from... Thu, 05 Jun 2008 07:22:47 -0700 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/3161054 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/3120159 How do you deal with a marriage that is falling apart, but you do not want to leave it?<br /><br />Well, leaving isn&#039;t something you want to do, so I guess you need to stay and at least try to fix things. It takes two to tango - that&#039;s the saying anyway and I guess a marriage is like that too. Talk to the person you&#039;ve married, suggest counselling and don&#039;t do it in... Sat, 31 May 2008 20:47:18 -0700 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/3120159 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/3114982 Does locking a two-year-old girl out of a house for extended periods of time classify as abuse/neglect? Is the excuse that the child was on "bad behaviour" really acceptable here?<br /><br />As someone who works in Child Protection, this is something to be concerned about. You do need to make a report to your local protective services office - Child Services etc. If you don&#039;t and the child dies, you will find yourself being questioned by police as to the reasons why you sat... Sat, 31 May 2008 05:21:01 -0700 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/3114982 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/3114511 My wife is always verbally and physically abusing me,how can I get help with out her knowing.<br /><br />Sorry you&#039;re going through this. I&#039;d advise against being verbally or physically abusive in return. That doesn&#039;t solve anything, you&#039;re just sinking to her level and being a male, you&#039;re likely to end up being charged and the likelihood of anyone believing that she... Sat, 31 May 2008 02:30:59 -0700 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/3114511 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/3083547 Me and my husband have beeing fighting (yelling,insults) at each other because I want him to find a job I'm so mad at him, we have a 2 year old together and I want it to work, any tips?<br /><br />When did you last get a good result by yelling and fighting? Are you supporting him to get a job? Are you helping him look or encouraging him to keep trying when it&#039;s not working? Are you around your child when you&#039;re arguing? That shouldn&#039;t be happening - kids pick... Tue, 27 May 2008 16:49:43 -0700 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/3083547 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/3083383 I know someone who is subject to domestic violence. She does not know I know, however i want to help but i don't want to appear interfering, should i just mind my own business or try and help out? This is not something i believe I can ignore.<br /><br />Domestic Violence (DV for short) is like bullying. It&#039;s a cycle that needs to end and by ignoring it or minding your own business, not interfering, giving her time to come to you... all of those things, allow the behaviour to continue. Be careful in how you address this with her though.... Tue, 27 May 2008 16:36:55 -0700 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/3083383 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/3083219 How do I deal with the swearing and taunting of my husband after he tells me that I don't love me kids? When he's in a good mood, nothing comes up, but when something strikes a nerve, he goes off on me, swearing and telling me that I am not a good parent.<br /><br />Can I offer a suggestion? Instead of asking about the same issue but via different questions, try one question and say &quot;see my answer for more info on situation&quot;. That said, let me point out I work in child protection. If you were referred to me due to your husband&#039;s... Tue, 27 May 2008 16:21:41 -0700 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/3083219 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/3083017 A 21-year-old NSW mother has admitted injecting contaminated water into the intravenous drip of her hospitalised six-month-old son with intent to harm him. She says she was not in control of herself at the time, and so is innocent. What do you think?<br /><br />If you consider what she&#039;s accused of doing then perhaps it was done with calculation and control. Let&#039;s look at what she did, step by step - Her six month old son was admitted to hospital and was found to be sick enough that he required an IV drip. The mother (as she admitted)... Tue, 27 May 2008 16:00:46 -0700 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/3083017 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/3082821 What would you do if you had a friend,that borrowed $200.00 from you three months ago. and hasn't even tryed to give you not even $5.00 at a time. keep in mind that we have been friends for six years.he lives with his 73 year old mother.<br /><br />Whilst I&#039;m inclined to say that we should never give anything away we&#039;re hoping to get back (or returned in kind), it does hurt that they&#039;re so inconsiderate and selfish that they don&#039;t realise they&#039;re doing the wrong thing by not paying the money back. Have you asked... Tue, 27 May 2008 15:35:31 -0700 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/3082821 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/3082719 Would you inform HR if you overheard two coworkers using the company phone to contact a drug dealer, make arrangements to meet on company property to buy pills, and then see them take the pills while on the job? I'm still new to the company (2 months).<br /><br />Firstly, I&#039;d be wary of informing HR of what&#039;s going on - companies - no mater how big / small, do keep an eye on their staff and due to your place of work having a &#039;HR&#039; division, that tells me that it&#039;s a reasonably sized company. I&#039;d take it externally just... Tue, 27 May 2008 15:22:07 -0700 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/3082719 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/3082642 What do you do about bullies at work? The kind who only bully you when no one is looking. I have one who acts like she's hurt that I am not friendly with her but then she frequently calls me a b**** under her breath!<br /><br />Try not to make yourself available to her - ie, walk away, don&#039;t leave yourself in a situaiton where she can harass you without any witnesses. Perhaps record her behaviour towards you and play it to a boss etc - get more than one occasion and leave it running (ie, the tape recording... Tue, 27 May 2008 15:12:12 -0700 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/3082642 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/3082442 What should I get my friend who is graduating from teachers college? He is 24. I have absolutly no idea, can you help me out?<br /><br />It depends on your budget, how close you are to your friend and if they&#039;ll read anything inappropriate into the gift you give them. If you can afford it or if you can get some mutual friends together and each put in, perhaps a nice satchel for him to use to store his teaching stuff -... Tue, 27 May 2008 14:42:46 -0700 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/3082442 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/3082220 Is it okay to re-gift something I received but don't like/have any use for?<br /><br />I guess it depends on a few things - 1. Was it chosen for you especially or simply a generic gift that doesn&#039;t bear any personal connection to you or the on who gave it to you? 2. Under what circumstances did you get it? Was it, for example, a gift from a former employer that you... Tue, 27 May 2008 14:10:56 -0700 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/3082220 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/3082136 What are some good backhanded compliments?<br /><br />I forget where it&#039;s from or if I made it up myself (not likely though - so if someone can help me with the reference, please do), but I have been known to turn to people and say &quot;(insert name) is S-M-R-T Smart&quot;. Not everyone gets it right off though... I&#039;ve also used it... Tue, 27 May 2008 13:59:04 -0700 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/3082136 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/3082115 Do you like smartasses?<br /><br />Depends on a few things: 1. How smart they actually are - I&#039;m a fan of clever humour (go the Brits for cornering the market on this one) 2. How much of an &#039;ass&#039; they are at the time - ie, are they being smart as a way of putting someone else down or making themselves feel... Tue, 27 May 2008 13:56:39 -0700 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/3082115 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/3074624 My sister-in-law didn't invite me to her house party but she invited my sister. Should I feel offended?<br /><br />Hmm, interesting, I&#039;m thinking there&#039;s lots of ways to read a gesture like that - She doesn&#039;t like you and is rubbing it in by choosing your sister even though she knows she wouldn&#039;t know your sister at all if not for you marrying into the family. She&#039;s got a... Mon, 26 May 2008 15:39:06 -0700 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/3074624 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/3074539 When ur best friend wants to leave for another country, how do u handle it? How do u get over it once he leaves? Should u stop him/her?<br /><br />Unless you really do believe them going isn&#039;t going to be in their best interests, stopping them would be selfish and that&#039;s not what friendships should be about. I understand you&#039;ll miss them terribly once they go, but you do need to keep in mind that there&#039;s a whole world... Mon, 26 May 2008 15:31:00 -0700 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/3074539 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/3074330 How many people here still celebrate when they are having a Birthday and how many skip the whole thing? I tell my Parents to just forget it. But they always want to do something. Mom will want to give me some Money, but my Dad will always buy something.<br /><br />Kricket, don&#039;t take that away from them - it&#039;s your chance to celebrate your birth into this world literally, but it&#039;s also their chance to celebrate you, the awesome creation they made and also the person you are and I&#039;m sure they&#039;re really proud of you. If you... Mon, 26 May 2008 15:10:03 -0700 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/3074330 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/3074098 When did the word Gay become associated with homo sexuallity and why><br /><br />Whilst traditionally the word &#039;Gay&#039; means &#039;carefree and uninhibited&#039;, it became associated with &#039;happy&#039; - ie &#039;Happy and gay&#039;. My understanding (I may be off the mark here though) is that historically speaking, the creative world - art, music, dance,... Mon, 26 May 2008 14:44:42 -0700 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/3074098 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/3074026 If the hobo on the street asks you for a dollar for some water,do you go buy him a water and bring it back, or do you give him the dollar? Why<br /><br />I&#039;d be saying first off it&#039;s unlikley that a &#039;hobo&#039; would be wanting water purchased for them when they know it&#039;s free from taps / drinking fountains etc. However let&#039;s say it was for a coffee, I&#039;d buy them the coffee. It doesn&#039;t cost me much and whilst... Mon, 26 May 2008 14:35:36 -0700 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/3074026 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/3073996 My boyfriend's best friend refers to me as "whats her face" even though he has known me for a year. What does this mean?<br /><br />It depends... There are three people referred to in your question - yourself, your boyfriend and his best-friend. In order of priority, you&#039;re the one who&#039;se opinion matters first and foremost. Does it bother you that he does that? I&#039;d guess it does otherwise you... Mon, 26 May 2008 14:32:29 -0700 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/3073996 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/3004265 If someone cooked you dinner, and they served you fish sticks and bacon, what would you do?<br /><br />ARe you going for the company or the food? Perhaps this is all they can afford? I&#039;d be grateful for what was being put down in front of me. For some people, this is considered a full meal. Next time, you offer to cook but remember, you cannot expect them to have the same... Sat, 17 May 2008 18:50:19 -0700 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/3004265 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/3004238 This morning I went shopping with my daughters in a large department store. I was shocked to see a lot of parents opening up packages and damaging them, making a mess, and letting their kids run loose without minding them. What do you think about this?<br /><br />I think this is one of the reasons why things cost alot more these days, the reason why security is far more prevalant and they play a far more intrusive role. I think the parents are setting their children up for a life without things like manners or consideration for the belongings of... Sat, 17 May 2008 18:45:39 -0700 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/3004238 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/3004206 There is a possibility I did a very bad thing when intoxicated - but my precise memory of the event has failed me. Should I try and find out whether I have anything to apologise for or should I just leave it be unless someone mentions it?<br /><br />Depends on what it is, however considering that you&#039;re feeling that you may need to apologise but nothing else in terms of making up for what you may have done, it couldn&#039;t have been that bad. I&#039;d advise that you take it as a lesson for next time and make sure you don&#039;t... Sat, 17 May 2008 18:40:00 -0700 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/3004206 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/2936914 Have you ever not tipped a server in a restaurant?<br /><br />In Australia it&#039;s not required so, if we tip it&#039;s because we think it&#039;s deserved, not compulsory. Thu, 08 May 2008 16:41:57 -0700 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/2936914 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/2890581 Do you think it's wrong for you to bust your butt to help someone only for them not to help you do their job? Then let someone start talking about someone then accuse you of starting it when they know they did?<br /><br />Can you redo your question as two separate q&#039;s? You&#039;ve got two issues here - the fact that they&#039;re using your good nature and not crediting you for your efforts or reciprocating the gesture in kind (or rather that you&#039;re knowingly helping someone who won&#039;t help you back... Fri, 02 May 2008 16:57:46 -0700 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/2890581 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/2890304 I get annoyed when someone at wk brings hot food to their desk at non-lunch times and smells up the whole office. Whether it smells good or bad, I'm still annoyed. Do you agree? Your thoughts?<br /><br />Hmm, yes and no. I do agree but I don&#039;t. In one way, if they&#039;re heating their food at a microwave, there&#039;ll be a &#039;lunch room&#039; or &#039;kitchen&#039; somewhere. Surely they can eat there then return to their desk? It&#039;s actually considered unhealthy... Fri, 02 May 2008 16:28:29 -0700 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/2890304 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/2890272 I hurt my in-laws when I raided their alcohol cabinet. They trusted that I wouldnt do it again & I did. Im now a recovering alcoholic (5mths). How can I gain their trust back & prove 2 them that I have truly changed my lifestyle & ashamed 4 what I did?<br /><br />Trust is something that needs to be earned and once it&#039;s been broken (whether once or twice), it&#039;s going to take a lot longer. In saying this, why didn&#039;t they put a lock on their liquor cabinet back then and after the first incident? I know that alcohol is everywhere so if you... Fri, 02 May 2008 16:24:23 -0700 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/2890272 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/2885776 I am in my office and having a fantasy with my colleague at the next cubicle. Any of u ever have this kind of thought?<br /><br />Oh Absolutely - it&#039;s pretty normal. The thing is that we spend the majority of our waking hours at work so it would make sense that we also find our eyes straying at work. It&#039;s like when we were at school, we look at what&#039;s nearest. It&#039;s like when we&#039;re single for... Fri, 02 May 2008 05:17:25 -0700 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/2885776 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/2885735 If a woman having an affair with a married man is called a mistress, what is a man having an affair with a married woman called?<br /><br />a histress? Fri, 02 May 2008 05:12:07 -0700 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/2885735 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/2885729 My wife received a love sms from a colleague who provided her emotional support during a period of strained relationships between us.She continued talking and smsing him saying that he was a nice person and she has done nothing wrong and nt betrayed m<br /><br />I guess it depends on how you found out about the &#039;love sms&#039;. Was it by accident? Were you suspicious and looking for evidence of cheating? Did she outright tell you? I&#039;d ask her if she has any feelings for him and if this is the case you need to talk more and perhaps look at... Fri, 02 May 2008 05:11:11 -0700 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/2885729 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/2885632 You know you messed up with your s/o when......?<br /><br />you find out she&#039;s sold your car for $1 you come home and find all your belongings on the front lawn..... in flames... Fri, 02 May 2008 04:48:55 -0700 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/2885632 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/2885581 What is the difficult of friends becoming lovers<br /><br />The difficulty is that if the relationship as lovers doesn&#039;t work out, then the friendship is most likely over as well. Also, we seek out people for different reasons - some people are better suited as friends, others as lovers. It&#039;s like work-colleagues, some work-colleagues also... Fri, 02 May 2008 04:27:59 -0700 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/2885581 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/2885574 So my best friend is a girl, and I want to show her how much I appreciate her because she's always been there. But it has to be in a way that can't be taken as me liking her or something because her boyfriend already has suspicions of that. How can I?<br /><br />Try a gift that they can both use perhaps? Perhaps even a double movie voucher. Definitely not things like jewelry or flowers. You could try a voucher for a shopping centre - that way they can both use it together. The other thing you could do is let her boyfriend know you want to get... Fri, 02 May 2008 04:26:15 -0700 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/2885574 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/2863774 I am a brown man married to a white woman for two years who thinks we will have ugly kids because they will not be white. So she does want to have any kids while I do. I never thought she felt this way till I started talking about kids. What should I do?<br /><br />I think that by the way you&#039;ve asked the question, you know what to do. Do you really want to have children with someone who&#039;se racist? I&#039;ll answer more on this q but need to get in gear and go to work... no points (either positive or negative) till then please, thanks). Tue, 29 Apr 2008 12:55:16 -0700 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/2863774 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/2863748 Why don't people want to admit it if they have a problem?<br /><br />Because.... For those who really don&#039;t believe they have a problem: a) They don&#039;t really believe they have a problem b) They think that they&#039;re not the one with the problem - it&#039;s everyone else. c) They know what they&#039;re doing but don&#039;t see it as a problem from... Tue, 29 Apr 2008 12:52:08 -0700 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/2863748 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/2852345 Just got a new job with an MD; he tells you he is leaving for poss. year to write a book and another MD is going to take his place. then you find that the reason is for misconduct for the second time...should you stay or go?<br /><br />I guess it depends. Whilst I&#039;m inclined to ask what his misconduct has to do with the price of tea in china, I&#039;ll hold onto that inclinatinon :) I guess the thing is that if it affects how you&#039;re going to do your job, then perhaps you might want to consider seeking other... Mon, 28 Apr 2008 04:09:34 -0700 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/2852345