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i my son married my daughter. i have not idea on how to tolerate this Depending on where you live it's probably against the law. You might want to get some legal advice on this one.

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What would you do if the accounts recievable girl in you husbands office was sending him pronagrafic pictures of herself to him via text on his work phone? I would get a copy of the photos and send them to a boss with a note of explanation - alot of workplaces frown on that kind of behaviour - especially if it involves the inappropriate use of work resources. That's fairly ordinary behaviour. And this way it becomes the bosses problem to sort out, not yours.

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I used to friends with this older lady and shes going behind my back talking about me to others, before I resign from my job I wanted to tell my supervisor all the nasty things she said about her, what should I do? You've got two choices here. You can let it be your old work's problem and move on with dignity and grace. You can tell your supervisor what was going on and point out that you're leaving so you don't have a reason to be dishonest as you're moving on either way and that you felt you owed your employer that much - to know what was going on with this older employee....

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Please look at my first comment for this question and tell me what went wrong and what I should have done or is it that my expectations are wrong (There is not much space to put the scenario in the question, and so I have put it in the first comment) I don't think your boss will be able to tell you off that much - they're adults, they did what they wanted to do. Whilst it is inconsiderate by some standards, they might have thought they were doing the right thing by finding someone else and not inconveniencing you. They most likely didn't realise the effort and lengths to which you had gone in order to try and make...

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My cousin planned to take me to movies, while I was getting ready, she called to tell me her husband was going to church and she wanted to go with HIM instead, I was disappointed, was she right to pick the husband over me? Isn't blood thicker than water? It is with the exception of marriage/ partner and children - then the order is Children, Marriage/ Partner, your parents, your spouse / partner's parents, your other imnmnediate family, your spouse / partner's immediate family, then extended family so whilst I hate to say this, blood is thicker than water but not partners and children. And that's not even counting friends. ...

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How should I go about confronting a friend that abuses my 'my house is your house' attitude? He leaves things out and trash everywhere. If I tell him to put/throw it away and he does it with much resistance if he does at all. Show him the door and tell him he's not coming back till he learns to clean up after himself and learns some respect for you, your house and also for himself. Put it this way, if you've got a friend who'se not to be trusted in certain situations, don't provide those situations to them. If you don't want to do that, two choices - put up with it or stop being...

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How can I handle a situation where I had a dispute with my sister-in-law, which I let go and she acts like she wants things to be okay between us to my brother, but then tries to start more issues when he's not around.(And he always takes her side) Keep yourself safe and make sure you're not around her alone. Clearly she's not someone you can trust and it's not worth exposing yourself to that kind of awful treatment. Good luck!

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What would you do if your brothers wife was mean to your kids?My sister in law acts like she is better than me and treats my kids like crap. They live close so my 3 yr old wants to visit all the time, but she wont even let him in the house.im gonna snap! That's an awful situation. Specially for your poor 3yr old who clearly doesn't understand what's going on and just wants to go and play. Can you talk to her with your brother present to make sure she's not going to go behind your back? Also invite both of them to your place with your husband also present and talk about it but try not to be agressive. Just...

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How do you say "No" (politely) to your boss? If you really like the job and only need to be assertive without being offensive. I am really sorry but I don't have capacity without my current workload being compromised and I don't want to let you down by rushing things.

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I think my neighbor is having an affair with a married woman from down the street. My kids were leaving for school the other day and noticed her leaving his house. is very friendly and loves to talk. How do I even think about talking to him? well, does it matter if he is having an affair? She could be one of many things - a cleaner, a relation, a friend even. unless you have proof, there's very little you can do in relation to forming a judgement. However, in saying that, if you feel uncomfortable, there's nothing that means you HAVE to talk to him. Good luck.

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Is this a piece of your brain? Could be - I'm always leaving things laying around so who knows...

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I have been working for a great job, and in about 3 months I need to move on, because I am moving out of state, how do I go about telling my boss, who has been so good to me, that I need to leave the company, I am so torn. I think how you've put it is pretty good. I also think that if your boss is as great as you say, they'll understand and support you. Also, it might be an idea to let them know as soon as possible and perhaps offer to train up the person who comes in to take your place. It's a hard decision to make but you need to ensure that if things interstate don't work you...

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What can I say to someone who thinks that they are always the victim and advice is not what they want? How do I stay calm and not beat the $@#^ out of them upon hearing this everyday? There are a few ways to deal with this: Avoid them if you're able to and if they approach you, tell them you are busy. Be direct with them and point out what they're doing - they may not even realise. Try saying / asking: "I understand that you're feeling really disadvantaged / put out/ strongly about this however I'm not the best person to talk to - if it's...

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When the season turns dark and cold my boss comes in griping every single morning. This will literally go on for months. What can i say that will get him to quit his whining? change the topic as soon as he starts by giving him a hot cup of coffee - it's worth making the coffee if it gets him to stop complaining. Or if he literally says the same thing, join him and go along with him - he'll either realise he's sounding like a broken record and stop OR he'll hopefully see the funny side and you could've started a new tradition... If it...

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How do you tell someone nicely to not be a passive-aggressive bitch? just like that but with a wide, engaging smile? Depends on what it is about them makes them passive-aggressive. Address the symptoms that make up the diagnosis not just the diagnosis itself. ie, rather than tackling the overall diagnosis of passive agressive bitch, look the symptoms - what it is that makes them a passive agressive bitch. Work out if it's possible that you're...

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At my night job, a few of us use humor in dealing with customers. The customers find it amusing and actually compliment us. However, there is a group of about 4 stiffs who say it is unprofessional. How do you deal with co-workers like this? by remembering the customer is always right. As long as the humour your using isn't crass or likely to offend minority groups, go for it. There will always be those who don't think you're doing things right. Tough to them and they can live with it.

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At work, how does it make you feel when someone less qualified with no real substance gets promoted above someone else who is much more qualified, just because one is a much smoother talker and knows how to put on a better "show" and talk the talk? Honestly? It sucks big time. I hate when that happens at my work. The loudest ones get noticed the most. But then it's not just their fault, it's the fault of the place you work at - they're not looking at their workers evenly and instead are happy to play favourites. Unfortunately, this isn't something that's going to change in a hurry so if you keep feeling...

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I have a mild disability and sit next to a very kind woman who helps me with work but all these other people constantly come over to her desk for help or a chat. Is it fair that I feel a bit upset if it's in the middle of her helping me with something? I'm probably saying what everyone else has here but for what it's worth, I think that's pretty selfish of you. You don't own the exclusive rights to your co-worker's assistance or time. She's helping you out because she's a good and generous spirited person and you need to realise that she's also going to be helping out others also. Okay, so...

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When is the last time you thought, "I'm quitting" due to a bad day at work? When I got bawled out in front of my team (I work in a unit of 16 with 3 teams and my team has my team-leader and my four colleagues in it) for something that wasn't actually my fault and when I asserted myself I wasn't given much of an apology AT ALL and then when I said that I wanted to leave because I didn't sign on to work in a unit where I was being gossiped about...

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How to get rid of my boyfriends ex without him finding out? Why do you need to? Is she hanging around all the time? Is she affecting your relationship with your boyfriend or are you worried she'll 'win' him back? I'm wondering if you need to think about how secure you feel in your relationship with your boyfriend. I know exes can be quite inconvenient - specially if they continue to hang around like a bad smell but you need...

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My future wife is very sweet,head strong,good mother etc. Although she can have this temperment where she can get into an argument and not let it go! for hours it's driving me crazy. I have already talked to her about it. though it still happens.What 2 do It might be worth going to counselling before you get married - go with her. There's a chance she's either really passionate about things in which case you may need to work out whether you can simply bite your tongue and say nothing and find a way to agree with her or if this is the deal-breaker for the relationship. What happens when she does finally let 'it' go? Do...

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I left my wife for another woman. I'm in love with this woman and getting a divorce. We've been intimate on a few occasions but now she says we can't anymore until my divorce is final. whats going on? Sorry if my answer isn't one you're keen to hear but I think the person you're now with is self-protecting and also trying to do some damage control even if it seems too late in the day. She wants to make sure she's not going to get burned - she's got no absolute guarantee that you won't go back to your wife and even though she agreed to be in a relationship...

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A few weeks ago our new neighbors invited my husband and i over to bbq. we hit it off had a great time. they hugged us and said we needed to get together more. well i invited em over and now they are giving us the cold shoulder. any thoughts? I'd say that there's a chance they may have meant what they said at the time but that now that they've talked about their experience, they may have realised or 'created' the feeling that they didn't have as much fun as they thought... Is there a chance that there's been something happening at your place to make them irritated? I'm not blaming you...

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What's the worst thing in life (other than regret in my opinion)? I know you only asked for one thing, however I think these two go hand in hand: Addiction and Abuse

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If your pet was just a little bit bigger, would it eat you? I rekon mine would - she hates me and when she thinks I'm not looking I catch her giving me these evil looks - like she's trying to work out if my head would fit in her mouth Python style...

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I read an article once about an futuristic and advanced tactic in war. It was to approach your aggressors cradling a lamb. I don't know where I read this but I distinctly remember a drawing with the article and would love to read it again... It sounds like what you were reading was taken from The Art Of War by Sun Tzu. It's a good approach to take as it disarms the enemy and can be a a way to resolve feelings of ill will quickly.

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Why do you women stay with men that treat them badly and then complain about it? Because regardless of their gender or the gender of the person they are with, all individuals have the right to be in a relationship with the person of their choosing (providing they aren't breaking the law) and to do so safetly and without being treated poorly. If you spend time talking to victims of domestic violence, you'll find that they will often say that they still love (or...

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I am dating some one who told me that he is "not ready for a realationship" Why do Men say this?? and what exactly does that mean?? All answers are appreciated, thanx There are two books I'd recommend 'He's just not that into you" (I forget the author) and another one called "You Didn't Hear it From Us" by Dushan Zaric and Jason Kosman. The first is about how to tell when you're in a relationship that you shouldn't be in as it's not going where you want it to. The second is about how to get 'back...

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Is my gf cheating if she lies everytime she is in a situation when she would be able to cheat ( about six times ) ! then says she lies because im paranoid but accepts she made me paranoid and after saying it wont happen again does the same thing again By accepting her dishonesty you're effectively endorsing and encouraging it. My best advice, consider how much longer you're prepared to put up with this behaviour and what you're willing to sacrifice in the process. Does she have that much control over you that you have to accept her behaviour? Do you have such a low sense of self-esteem that you believe you honestly...

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I am attending a bridal shower this week-end for by boyfriends future daughter in-law. We have lived together for 5 years and do not plan on getting married. When they ask at the shower how do you know the bride, who do I answer? Her future husband is my partner....

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Currently, at nearly $4.00 a gallon for gasoline, there are several "empty" cars on the road. if gasoline hits $10.00 a gallon, our highways will be clogged with "empties". will America come to a halt? could terrorists be behind the high oil prices? Hmm. Well, if those Terrorists are wealthy westerners living in western countries an controlling the prices of oil, then sure, we'll call them terrorists.

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Sally Field said that if moms rule the world there would be no war. Do you agree or disagree? Awesome Q. I think that there might be wars still if the children were competing for recognition. Cheerleaders anyone?

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We are going to visit my in-laws in a few weeks. My father-in-law is "ok" but my mother-in-law is a work of art. She's noisy, brags (and doesn't have it) and knows everything about anything. How can I make it through the weekend? Do you absolutely need to stay with them? If not, book into a nice hotel nearby and see them for a dinner or two but other than that keep the contact to a minimum - no longer than you feel you can handle without wanting to start having a go at her about her faults etc. I'd also recommend that if you can't help avoid the in-laws, take some work to do or a good book or even an MP3...

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I feel as though I love my friends more than they love and care about me. Is there anything I can do to become more important to them? Oh hon, I do feel for you and know where you're coming from on this. You're going to think I'm just 'psycho-babbling' but, you need to put aside your perception of how you're valued by your friends and focus on how you're valued by the one person who really counts - YOU. Do you have a feeling of self-worth? Do you put your needs before the needs of...

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What is your opinion on racism,sexism,and gay and lesbian rights? All forms of discrimination are created from fear of the unknown and a desire to make ourselves feel better about our own faults and negative aspects by making others seem inequal or somehow lesser than us. In a utopian society, there would be no such thing as discrimination. However it is something unfortunate that persists in our society. I think alot of discrimination is religiously...

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My mother was murdered by my father when I was 1. I had a copy of her obituary but lost it over time. I have tried everything to get another copy but I have yet to find anything. I know it exists but how do I get it? I'm sure I'm not the first to say this but check your local library, public records, your newspaper's archive section and also ask around at the cemetery etc - some people collect things like that. Good luck.

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My doors occasionally close itself, when clearly no one is at home, what does this signify? (No Windows are opened) It could be the house moving - all houses do this - they shift slightly and this is why we have creaks etc. It could also be the energy in your house moving about.. I'd prefer to believe the former however.

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Why is the past important? Because we all have one - even newborns if you're phisosophically tuned that way. We need to remember the mistakes of our past, to learn from them ad to move forwards with our learned maturity. Our present is our past and our future is the present just waiting to happen. It's all tied in... Also, if we don't learn from our mistakes from the past, we're doomed...

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My brother works for a newspaper and claims they cater to straight men and lesbians. I feel that is sexist and papers should cater to all. They are not allowed to be racist but they can be sexist. What Bull! What do you think? it's target demographic - all forms media need to have them in mind so that they know how to style their services. It's like 17 magazine is styled towards teenage females. Whilst it could be said that they exclude males or anyone outside the age group or gender group, it's still not discriminatory. The reason for this is because they style themselves towards those who they...

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Me and my boyfriend are both 16 and my mom hates him and his mom loves me. What can i do to make my mom like him? Firstly, here's the reason I think his mom loves you. It's easier for her as she's not thinking of the possibilities of things like pregnancy etc having an effect on her life or family. Sorry hon but it is easier for her. Now, as for how you can make your mom like him more, here's a few ideas: Take things slow. Treat him like a friend when your mom's there....

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Is it normal to be attracted to someone else when you're in a committed relationship? It's about as normal as having a pulse. Human beings are driven by stimulation and this motivates us to keep progressing, evolving and maturing. We face temptation in all forms all the time, however it's what we do with the temptation when we face it that counts.

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My girlfriends bestfriend is a huge slut and when my girlfriend is with her she is called a slut and i dnt want her to be called a slut i tried breaking them up but ts hard...what shall i do? You're not with your girlfriend because of who her friends are or are not. Do you really care about what people are saying about your girlfriend? What matters is what you think and as long as that's based on fact rather than heresay, that's all that counts. You can't control who your girlfriend is friends with and unless you've known both of them for all of...

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The opposite to my last question: Do you yhink your partner would die to save your life? Absolutely without a doubt.

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How do you feel about groups like PETA(people for the ethical treatment of animals)? DO you feel they are too extreme? Or do you agree with them and their methods? Well, we don't have B&J's ice cream where we live. But that said, I think that if I had no idea what was in the ingredients, I'd probably try it anyway. Put it this way, considering that coca-cola is a great cleaning product, if we knew the real ingredients of the things we eat from fast-food places, we'd probably think twice (or at least hesitate for the slightest...

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What is the stupidest thing you saw someone do in the checkout line? Complain really loudly to the checkout operator that they needed to get more staff working at the other checkouts - the poor staff member was already rushed off their feet and it was just too much as they'd been friendly, tolerant of the grumbling and actually sent out an announcement over the PA system for more staff to come to the checkouts- they reacted by shutting down the line after...

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I hate monthly ___________? bills

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How does society cope with the Battered Women's Syndrome? First off, I can't believe someone downgraded your question. It's a fairly valid one. Generalising, but battered women's syndrome (BWS) is the term given to the 'phenomenon' of women who remain in situations of domestic voilence and do not leave. It's also given to those who do leave but do not leave it behind and thus, the experience becomes who they are...

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I inherited a family geneaology that hasn't been updated since 1969. How can I find dates of death for people on it who must have passed away by now? Try contacting the younger members of the family geneaology. Also check with the records departments of the areas that your relatives lived in - cemeteries can have information like that as well if needed because there were a reasonable amount of people who had pre-determined burial plots - and family plots also. Also, ask some of the other family members to help you with this - it can be...

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What kind of person are you? Mint flavoured mostly

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My b/f said we can get engaged but not get married for 2 years, is it really bad that I cant stop looking at wedding pictures, locations, magazines and much more? Because I can't help myself. I don't think that's a bad thing really - it's a good idea to start looking at magazines etc and putting together a scrapbook of ideas. Plus it gives you time to start saving for the wedding. I think you'd just need to be careful not to become so obsessed you start to lose friends as they'll become bored after a while. Congratulations!

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PLEASE EXPLAIN NECK DOPPLER FOR ME. There was whoosing sound and nothing on other side pls help Check out this website: http://www.webmd.com/a-to-z-guides/doppler-ultrasound It basically checks for blood flow and can be used to assess clotting. A Doppler is a form of ultrasound and is used externally - hand-held and non-intrusive unless there's painful areas that are being assessed and there might be slight discomfort if this is the case. I assume that if you're...

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How many songs can you think of that have a woman's name as the title? Janie's got a gun - Aerosmith

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If your older brother swears profusely on every 2nd word in public how can you politely ask him to stop without him retaliating on you? Tell him to watch his language and if he refuses, tell him you don't want to be out in public with him - you have the choice to walk away from him.

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How many squirrels would it take to lift up a truck? Depends on the motivation - is the pack of squirrels lifting a truck to rescue a baby-squirrel? If there are women squirrels, their maternal squirelly instincts would kick in and they'd lift that truck like no-one's business. Or are they lifting the truck as they're on strike from cracking nuts and just worked out that if they roll the nuts out infront of passing trucks...

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Men aren't you happy women are put on this earth for you, if their were no women guys what would you do honestly? I assume you're being tongue in cheeck with this question? If not, that's a pretty offensive question to ask - it offends women, it offends same-sex preferred men and women and it offends men. it's reverse sexism and the women's movement has come a long way. Equality is where it should be - the same rights for all etc... if you are asking in a tongue in cheek...

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What do you think about a group of high school boys who are friends,who use girls for sex,them dumped them,and keeping scores and rating the girls they sleep with?What do you think about this? I think they're putting themselves and the girls they sleep with in danger of STD's (Sexually Transmitted Diseases) and STI's (Sexually Transmitted Infections). They're also making choices that ultimately will reflect poorly on them. I hope they do get to the point (with assistance or without) where they realise what they are doing and feel a sense of shame. I also...

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If god is Pro-Life, then why do people die? And, if god isn't Pro-Choice, why would he give people the ability to choose? That's the thing, god's not necessarily pro-life or pro-death. God is god and the rest is up to us, nature and science. God isn't Pro-Choice or Anti-Choice. We however are human beings with brains that function (for the most part) and the ability to make choices. - my answer is of course based on my own belief system and I acknowledge that I'm not an expert on...

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I decided that I am not going to allow my son to see his father because of his dads drug addiction, lack of work and no means of caring for his child!!! Is this wrong of me? and how should I deal with this? From the point of view of someone who works in child protection, I think that whilst your son has a right to know who his father is and to have time with his father, I think that time would need to be strictly monitored to make sure that his dad isn't going to expose him to drug abuse. Lack of finances doesn't make someone a bad parent and I'm sure you're aware of this...

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My son won't talk to his kindergarten teacher when she greets him at the door. He was the same in pre-school. He approaches kids easily and is a clown by nature, but clams up during greetings. She took away his recess because of this. Any suggestions? As a teacher and welfare worker I can tell you this for certain. The kindergarten teacher should be taken to task over her actions. Taking away his recess isn't going to make him feel more positive towards her. From what you've said he appears to socialise appropriately with his peers - or at least engages with them. The important question is what have you done to manage the...

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Everyone!! i am now single..it hurts like a beep..but its something that must be..any words of advice? nothing mean please..i don't wanna cry anymore lol =/ I think that the best thing you can do for yourself is set some time aside to allow yourself time to grieve the end of the relationship - crying is a big part of 'getting it out of your system'. Make sure you find things to do to keep yourself busy after giving yourself the appropriate time to grieve. Surround yourself with friends and loved ones. You'll get to the...

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I think my boyfriend is looking at porn on his PC. He clears his history, and temporary files regularly. Is there any way I can recover the deleted info or monitor his actions from another PC without him knowing? I know this is an old question, but I couldn't resist answering it anyway. I'm wondering why you can't just ask him about what he's doing rather than reducing yourself to the level of having to break into his computer - you do know that doing this is the biggest way to destroy what little trust you share? Clearly you don't trust him. Can I ask, why is it an...

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Have you been ever bullied at work? Felt low? Belittled? Yup I have unfortunately. I've been tolerating my supervisor / team-leader (same person different roles at times), not just asking or suggesting but TELLING me I should relocate to an office branch in my local area rather than where I a right now for work. This person has done it so much I felt like I was being harassed and bullied. I talked to a couple of colleagues and of course, it...

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How would you convince someone your a better person like not the same person you used to be? There's an old saying, 'actions speak louder than words'. You can tell them you've changed till you're blue in the face, but it's up to how you show them your changes and that you can actually sustain them rather than simply talking 'big'.

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Do you like going to the library? No... I love reading so much but I really get irritated when I go to the library and all the newer / good books are borrowed out so I find myself pathetically sorting through the crappy left-over books that no-one really wants... that and I've gotten so many fines over the years from late book returns... So whilst I love reading alot, I don't like going to libraries for these...

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How do you deal with a marriage that is falling apart, but you do not want to leave it? Well, leaving isn't something you want to do, so I guess you need to stay and at least try to fix things. It takes two to tango - that's the saying anyway and I guess a marriage is like that too. Talk to the person you've married, suggest counselling and don't do it in a way that tells them you think they're the one to blame. There's lots of reasons why...

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Does locking a two-year-old girl out of a house for extended periods of time classify as abuse/neglect? Is the excuse that the child was on "bad behaviour" really acceptable here? As someone who works in Child Protection, this is something to be concerned about. You do need to make a report to your local protective services office - Child Services etc. If you don't and the child dies, you will find yourself being questioned by police as to the reasons why you sat and did nothing. Please let them know as they can then go and investigate and make a decision so...

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My wife is always verbally and physically abusing me,how can I get help with out her knowing. Sorry you're going through this. I'd advise against being verbally or physically abusive in return. That doesn't solve anything, you're just sinking to her level and being a male, you're likely to end up being charged and the likelihood of anyone believing that she started it is less than zero. If the abuse is constant, you really need to leave her. Are there...

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Me and my husband have beeing fighting (yelling,insults) at each other because I want him to find a job I'm so mad at him, we have a 2 year old together and I want it to work, any tips? When did you last get a good result by yelling and fighting? Are you supporting him to get a job? Are you helping him look or encouraging him to keep trying when it's not working? Are you around your child when you're arguing? That shouldn't be happening - kids pick up on that kind of negative energy and it stresses them out massively. Is your husband going to...

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I know someone who is subject to domestic violence. She does not know I know, however i want to help but i don't want to appear interfering, should i just mind my own business or try and help out? This is not something i believe I can ignore. Domestic Violence (DV for short) is like bullying. It's a cycle that needs to end and by ignoring it or minding your own business, not interfering, giving her time to come to you... all of those things, allow the behaviour to continue. Be careful in how you address this with her though. Do it in a way that tells her it's okay for her to talk to you and that you won't be...

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How do I deal with the swearing and taunting of my husband after he tells me that I don't love me kids? When he's in a good mood, nothing comes up, but when something strikes a nerve, he goes off on me, swearing and telling me that I am not a good parent. Can I offer a suggestion? Instead of asking about the same issue but via different questions, try one question and say "see my answer for more info on situation". That said, let me point out I work in child protection. If you were referred to me due to your husband's behaviour, this is what I'd say: "Your husband's behaviour and yours impacts on your...

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A 21-year-old NSW mother has admitted injecting contaminated water into the intravenous drip of her hospitalised six-month-old son with intent to harm him. She says she was not in control of herself at the time, and so is innocent. What do you think? If you consider what she's accused of doing then perhaps it was done with calculation and control. Let's look at what she did, step by step - Her six month old son was admitted to hospital and was found to be sick enough that he required an IV drip. The mother (as she admitted) had a desire to cause her son harm. The mother came up with (or was provided with) an idea of...

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What would you do if you had a friend,that borrowed $200.00 from you three months ago. and hasn't even tryed to give you not even $5.00 at a time. keep in mind that we have been friends for six years.he lives with his 73 year old mother. Whilst I'm inclined to say that we should never give anything away we're hoping to get back (or returned in kind), it does hurt that they're so inconsiderate and selfish that they don't realise they're doing the wrong thing by not paying the money back. Have you asked them to return the money? If you're able to work out a payment plan or something like that...

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Would you inform HR if you overheard two coworkers using the company phone to contact a drug dealer, make arrangements to meet on company property to buy pills, and then see them take the pills while on the job? I'm still new to the company (2 months). Firstly, I'd be wary of informing HR of what's going on - companies - no mater how big / small, do keep an eye on their staff and due to your place of work having a 'HR' division, that tells me that it's a reasonably sized company. I'd take it externally just for the fact that I wouldn't be sure that HR didn't already know and were either...

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What do you do about bullies at work? The kind who only bully you when no one is looking. I have one who acts like she's hurt that I am not friendly with her but then she frequently calls me a b**** under her breath! Try not to make yourself available to her - ie, walk away, don't leave yourself in a situaiton where she can harass you without any witnesses. Perhaps record her behaviour towards you and play it to a boss etc - get more than one occasion and leave it running (ie, the tape recording device or camera etc depending on your sleuthing abilities and what you can access technology wise) for a...

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What should I get my friend who is graduating from teachers college? He is 24. I have absolutly no idea, can you help me out? It depends on your budget, how close you are to your friend and if they'll read anything inappropriate into the gift you give them. If you can afford it or if you can get some mutual friends together and each put in, perhaps a nice satchel for him to use to store his teaching stuff - books, stationery etc. If you want a humourous gift, then perhaps a funny coffee mug that relates to...

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Is it okay to re-gift something I received but don't like/have any use for? I guess it depends on a few things - 1. Was it chosen for you especially or simply a generic gift that doesn't bear any personal connection to you or the on who gave it to you? 2. Under what circumstances did you get it? Was it, for example, a gift from a former employer that you can't find a use for? 3. Is the person you're thinking of giving it to going to actually want /...

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What are some good backhanded compliments? I forget where it's from or if I made it up myself (not likely though - so if someone can help me with the reference, please do), but I have been known to turn to people and say "(insert name) is S-M-R-T Smart". Not everyone gets it right off though... I've also used it in reference to myself on a good many occasions when it's relevant.

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Do you like smartasses? Depends on a few things: 1. How smart they actually are - I'm a fan of clever humour (go the Brits for cornering the market on this one) 2. How much of an 'ass' they are at the time - ie, are they being smart as a way of putting someone else down or making themselves feel better (although the two tend to be synonymous for these particular breed of smart-asses). 3. If...

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My sister-in-law didn't invite me to her house party but she invited my sister. Should I feel offended? Hmm, interesting, I'm thinking there's lots of ways to read a gesture like that - She doesn't like you and is rubbing it in by choosing your sister even though she knows she wouldn't know your sister at all if not for you marrying into the family. She's got a separate relationship with your sister that isn't connected to you. You could've ended up...

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When ur best friend wants to leave for another country, how do u handle it? How do u get over it once he leaves? Should u stop him/her? Unless you really do believe them going isn't going to be in their best interests, stopping them would be selfish and that's not what friendships should be about. I understand you'll miss them terribly once they go, but you do need to keep in mind that there's a whole world out here for them to explore and they need the chance to do it. The only thing you could do is...

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How many people here still celebrate when they are having a Birthday and how many skip the whole thing? I tell my Parents to just forget it. But they always want to do something. Mom will want to give me some Money, but my Dad will always buy something. Kricket, don't take that away from them - it's your chance to celebrate your birth into this world literally, but it's also their chance to celebrate you, the awesome creation they made and also the person you are and I'm sure they're really proud of you. If you don't want gifts, ask them to join you in an activity the three of you would enjoy or even perhaps if...

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When did the word Gay become associated with homo sexuallity and why> Whilst traditionally the word 'Gay' means 'carefree and uninhibited', it became associated with 'happy' - ie 'Happy and gay'. My understanding (I may be off the mark here though) is that historically speaking, the creative world - art, music, dance, design, was one of the few forums within which self-expression without prejudice or censorship from...

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If the hobo on the street asks you for a dollar for some water,do you go buy him a water and bring it back, or do you give him the dollar? Why I'd be saying first off it's unlikley that a 'hobo' would be wanting water purchased for them when they know it's free from taps / drinking fountains etc. However let's say it was for a coffee, I'd buy them the coffee. It doesn't cost me much and whilst there are those of us who would believe with certainty that people who are homeless are only like...

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My boyfriend's best friend refers to me as "whats her face" even though he has known me for a year. What does this mean? It depends... There are three people referred to in your question - yourself, your boyfriend and his best-friend. In order of priority, you're the one who'se opinion matters first and foremost. Does it bother you that he does that? I'd guess it does otherwise you wouldn't be asking right? It depends also on what it means to your boyfriend's best...

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If someone cooked you dinner, and they served you fish sticks and bacon, what would you do? ARe you going for the company or the food? Perhaps this is all they can afford? I'd be grateful for what was being put down in front of me. For some people, this is considered a full meal. Next time, you offer to cook but remember, you cannot expect them to have the same standards as you in terms of food - ie, if you make a gourmet dinner, don't expect them to do the...

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This morning I went shopping with my daughters in a large department store. I was shocked to see a lot of parents opening up packages and damaging them, making a mess, and letting their kids run loose without minding them. What do you think about this? I think this is one of the reasons why things cost alot more these days, the reason why security is far more prevalant and they play a far more intrusive role. I think the parents are setting their children up for a life without things like manners or consideration for the belongings of others. We need to be mindful that till we purchase items they belong to the store, not us so...

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There is a possibility I did a very bad thing when intoxicated - but my precise memory of the event has failed me. Should I try and find out whether I have anything to apologise for or should I just leave it be unless someone mentions it? Depends on what it is, however considering that you're feeling that you may need to apologise but nothing else in terms of making up for what you may have done, it couldn't have been that bad. I'd advise that you take it as a lesson for next time and make sure you don't end up at the point where you can't actually recall what you've been up to whilst drinking....

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Have you ever not tipped a server in a restaurant? In Australia it's not required so, if we tip it's because we think it's deserved, not compulsory.

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Do you think it's wrong for you to bust your butt to help someone only for them not to help you do their job? Then let someone start talking about someone then accuse you of starting it when they know they did? Can you redo your question as two separate q's? You've got two issues here - the fact that they're using your good nature and not crediting you for your efforts or reciprocating the gesture in kind (or rather that you're knowingly helping someone who won't help you back in return), and then the fact that there's office gossip going on that you're somehow...

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I get annoyed when someone at wk brings hot food to their desk at non-lunch times and smells up the whole office. Whether it smells good or bad, I'm still annoyed. Do you agree? Your thoughts? Hmm, yes and no. I do agree but I don't. In one way, if they're heating their food at a microwave, there'll be a 'lunch room' or 'kitchen' somewhere. Surely they can eat there then return to their desk? It's actually considered unhealthy (psychologically speaking) to have lunch at your desk as that means you're still in work-mode during lunch....

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I hurt my in-laws when I raided their alcohol cabinet. They trusted that I wouldnt do it again & I did. Im now a recovering alcoholic (5mths). How can I gain their trust back & prove 2 them that I have truly changed my lifestyle & ashamed 4 what I did? Trust is something that needs to be earned and once it's been broken (whether once or twice), it's going to take a lot longer. In saying this, why didn't they put a lock on their liquor cabinet back then and after the first incident? I know that alcohol is everywhere so if you really wanted to get alcohol, you could, but would that have been something they could've done...

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I am in my office and having a fantasy with my colleague at the next cubicle. Any of u ever have this kind of thought? Oh Absolutely - it's pretty normal. The thing is that we spend the majority of our waking hours at work so it would make sense that we also find our eyes straying at work. It's like when we were at school, we look at what's nearest. It's like when we're single for such a long time, we start looking at those nearest to us - even if they're in relationships...

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If a woman having an affair with a married man is called a mistress, what is a man having an affair with a married woman called? a histress?

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My wife received a love sms from a colleague who provided her emotional support during a period of strained relationships between us.She continued talking and smsing him saying that he was a nice person and she has done nothing wrong and nt betrayed m I guess it depends on how you found out about the 'love sms'. Was it by accident? Were you suspicious and looking for evidence of cheating? Did she outright tell you? I'd ask her if she has any feelings for him and if this is the case you need to talk more and perhaps look at some couples counselling / therapy. (Will finish answer shortly... )

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You know you messed up with your s/o when......? you find out she's sold your car for $1 you come home and find all your belongings on the front lawn..... in flames...

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What is the difficult of friends becoming lovers The difficulty is that if the relationship as lovers doesn't work out, then the friendship is most likely over as well. Also, we seek out people for different reasons - some people are better suited as friends, others as lovers. It's like work-colleagues, some work-colleagues also make excellent friends, others, not so much. And you'd also have friends you couldn't...

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So my best friend is a girl, and I want to show her how much I appreciate her because she's always been there. But it has to be in a way that can't be taken as me liking her or something because her boyfriend already has suspicions of that. How can I? Try a gift that they can both use perhaps? Perhaps even a double movie voucher. Definitely not things like jewelry or flowers. You could try a voucher for a shopping centre - that way they can both use it together. The other thing you could do is let her boyfriend know you want to get a gift for her - seeing as she's your best friend and ask him if he's got any ideas. ...

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I am a brown man married to a white woman for two years who thinks we will have ugly kids because they will not be white. So she does want to have any kids while I do. I never thought she felt this way till I started talking about kids. What should I do? I think that by the way you've asked the question, you know what to do. Do you really want to have children with someone who'se racist? I'll answer more on this q but need to get in gear and go to work... no points (either positive or negative) till then please, thanks).

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Why don't people want to admit it if they have a problem? Because.... For those who really don't believe they have a problem: a) They don't really believe they have a problem b) They think that they're not the one with the problem - it's everyone else. c) They know what they're doing but don't see it as a problem from their point of view. d) They're in denial and hope if they keep saying they don't have a...

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Just got a new job with an MD; he tells you he is leaving for poss. year to write a book and another MD is going to take his place. then you find that the reason is for misconduct for the second time...should you stay or go? I guess it depends. Whilst I'm inclined to ask what his misconduct has to do with the price of tea in china, I'll hold onto that inclinatinon :) I guess the thing is that if it affects how you're going to do your job, then perhaps you might want to consider seeking other work. Are you worried about how people will regard you as a result of the MD's actions? ...

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This guy at work flirts with me, looking at me a lot sometimes looks away. he is my bestfriend and i'm falling in love with him. how can i tell how he feels about me? he waited for me outside in the parking lot at work so we could walk together inside. Can I ask you to firstly consider how you're going to handle things if he turns you down and also how you're going to handle things if you do get together but it doesn't go well and you end up breaking up? If there's a really good chance things will go really badly if you do break up or if he does reject your advances, you could be in for an awkward experience. Now...

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I am the mother-in-law of a daughter-in-law whom I just discovered is cheating on my son. Should I tell my son? Depends. If you are okay with getting involved (which, let's face it, you are to a degree just by the knowledge you have), then talk to her and let her know you're aware of what's going on but be wary as she may try to convince you she's justified in her actions - ie, we've agreed to have an open relationship, he cheated first so he's agreed I can cheat as well,...

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What are the signs of a mamma's boy? And why is it bad? I believe this can go both ways - you can have mamma's boys, papa's boys and also mama's daughters, and papa's daughters... given this, I've chosen to refer to 'parent' rather than mama or papa. Your partner: is unable to express an opinion that either isn't their parent's, or isn't approved by their parent. Thinks it's reasonable...

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Are mother-in-laws scapegoated? Could it ever be the daughter-in-law or son-in-law causing the problem? I think it's a traditional thing. Way back when, possibly in the age (even though I know it's still common in alot of cultures) of brides coming with a price that involved land or farm-animals, Brides were brought into the husband's family with the intention of them assuming the role of carer for the family. Also, the very act of bringing a Bride into a family of in-laws...

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What do I say to an amazing girl I met 2 years ago, had the time of my life with, got her #, but never called because of my situation at the time? (without being weird) Call her first of all. Invite her for a coffee - make it a non-pressure situation - ie afternoon coffee - don't make it around alcohol as then you end up doing things you may regret later, suss things out and if the attraction is still there, then do something about it! Ask her for dinner as a date. I guarantee you, she'll be keen to catch up, even if as a friend, unless she's...

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I've developed a great friendship with a female student in my class and all of a sudden she asked me for my email and phone number.!! She's married and pregnant with her first child. What to do? Well, if you're worried about what she intends, then it mmight be worth openly discussing the issue with her and pointing out that you want a friendship but that it can't go any further. Of course, you may risk offending her though - she may only want a friendship with you. Also, if you think it's better to slow things down, then do that. of course when it comes to...

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Is it a truism that if you talk to even the nastiest person for a few mins, rationally, you ususally find some common ground on which a friendly conversation then builds? I ask because this happened recently w/ a neighbor. I think that also, it's hardest to be mean to someone you actually know. Some people clearly don't care at all, but there's times and certain neighbours who you can 'break' through to by being nice and saying hello first. I think you've done a good thing! Well done.

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What's the most awkward experience you've had in a publics bathroom? Before you tell me I'm being gross, I'll point out that we all have bodily functions and I'm sure I'm not the only one who'se been in this situation. There's nothing worse (well, for females like myself) than when you need to go to the bathroom and it's not to urinate and you just know it's going to be smelly, noisy and take a while so you try really...

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If you have a neighbor that you know is being abused by her live in boyfriend, do you confront them that you know what's going on there? Keep yourself safe and ring the police but offer her support if you can and are able to.

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If you had neighbours that for 10 yrs, had woken you at all hours, screaming and foully abusing each other, stealing, and generally being revolting what would you do? Call the police - make sure you call 911 not just the local station because like Australia's 000 service (our version of 000), all calls that come through are logged onto a computerised database and they have to respond and also register their responses on the database. If you can, record the going's on with a video camera - do so in a way that keeps you safe and so that...

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I have done few things in the past I regret. and a much better person now. If I try to give my younger sister any advice she doesn't listen, since i have made some mistakes in past. should I stop giving any advice or suggestion? Whilst as an adult I sit there and say, 'if only someone'd told me... when I was younger, then I wouldn't have done it...' I don't know how many times I've said that. However, the thing is that at the time, if that had been the case, then I'd doubt I'd have listened and I'm not sure I'd have acted on the advice. All you can do is be there...

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I just spent the last week being increidibly kind to my bitch of a sister. I left the house for a few hours, and the first thing she does is go through my laptops files and shares the contents with a freind, how do i keep her from doing this again? Get a password active on your laptop, get a lock on your bedroom door with 2 keys - one for you and one that your mom / dad can have if needed) and give her a wide berth for a while. Don't do the revenge thing - That's just sinking down to her level and then some.

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Earlier today, I caught my little sister stealing some of my mom's money. She told me that if I tell, she will beat me up. I don't want to let her get away with doing the wrong thing,but I also don't want to get hurt. What should I do? If you don't tell your mom, you're letting her get away with it and you're just as guilty as your little sister. What's to say she doesn't get caught some other way and then your little sister dumps you in the middle of it by saying that you knew it was happening or that you joined her? Also, when kids do the wrong thing but aren't made to face up to it,...

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I have a sister in law that has been living with us for 10 months. She does not help with bills, she binge drinks and is extremely messy. My husband feels sorry for her and tells her nothing! What do I do? She's your husband's sister right? Well, theoretically that should mean he needs to tell her to straighten her act up, however that doesn't mean he'll do it. 10 months hey? I think the time has come to help her move out. I know that some may suggest getting tough with her but I'm not sure it'd work. If she can't live how you do or at least...

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My husband is out of state. So I move to live with inlaws. Sister in law does not work she is homemaker. I cannot drive. she takes me to work and pick me up. I found out that she been use the car during time i'm at work. she didn't use her car. how i do? At the end of the day, considering your in-laws have helped you out with a place to stay whilst your husband is out of the state, I think it's not a bad thing if she's using your car during the day. However if you're concerned, talk to her about it. Just make sure you're ready to accept her response - whether it be an apology and continuation of a positive situation but...

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When I promise someone that I will/will not do something, I keep my word.Then why is it that when I ask someone the same they will not...ever...no matter who it is. I've been fighting over one issue b/c people beg me for info & swear they wont tell and do It's not a bad thing to learn from your mistakes. There is a saying, "Fool me once, shame on you, fool me twice, shame on me." It means that it's okay to make mistakes but not to learn nothing from them and then make the same mistakes again or worse yet, repeatedly. Yes, it does sometimes take a fair effort to learn a new habit etc, but to be honest, it's sometimes...

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I know a guy who is really mean to everyone. However, people say that he has a heart of gold so no one should let it get to them. What do you think? Should people be allowed to get away with things just because others think they have a heart of gold? If he really did have a 'heart of gold' metaphorically speaking, he shouldn't be that mean. And the thing I don't get is that people say he's actually a good guy. Is it his family members who are saying that he's decent? I don't think people should be able to get away with things because of that. And for letting him get away with that stuff...

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A guy in my Spanish class said this:"Is anyone in this class gay?,because if you are I'll kill you",and also when he think one of his friends is gay,he saids this,"Are you gay?","If you are then get the hell away from me",what do you think about this? I'm thinking it could be one of the following three options: Option 1: He's gay himself. There's a quote from Shakespeare "the lady dost protest too much, methinks." (Hamlet, Act III, Scene II) It's like in our modern day sense, we'd say, 'he's fronting'. I think perhaps he might be hiding his true identity. Option 2: He's a...

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My friend and i are going to double date. The only problem is, my parents are going to be in the same theater(movies). This makes my friend and his girlfriend mad. They r going to still makeout. This will mess my date up. What should i do? Sit as far away from your friend as possible or even tell your parents (if you can trust them to not let your buddy or his parents know that you were the one who gave them up). Do you mean your date will get messed up because they'll get caught and you'll have to end your date early? If that's going to happen, perhaps move your date to somewhere else - another date or time...

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What do u hate the most about your job? Inefficient staff who don't do their job properly and as a result tear families apart unfairly due to not interviewing all involved parties or don't investigate all parties and as a result put children's lives at risk. I did write a pretty long answer to this that provided 3 examples of this but the short version is that I work in child protection and when our intake and...

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Can an employee give an employer a written warning? It depends on what it's in regard to. I would think that there's a protocol that needs to be followed with regard to this issue. I'd recommend that you speak to your human resources section or personnell if that's what they're called. They can look into it for you. Also from what I know, they can only give you a written warning if they've at least...

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I once worked in a gift shop. A customer left me her number and later we met OUTSIDE OF WORK of work and had a brief relationship. Can an employer discipline you for that? It depends on what your contract says or what the 'code of conduct' says. Ignorance of what's in the contract or code of conduct wouldn't be considered a completely succesful defence either because it's your responsibility to find out about that stuff - it's also your employer's responsibility to provide stuff with you but that would only work as a succesful...

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What would make a person treat someone who likes them like crap? You don't stand for it and get on with your life, but they still treat you like crap. What's their issue? Perhaps what's needed is for the person who'se being treated like crap is for them to just walk away or file a formal complaint and keep their distance from the other person. There's ways to 'not stand for it' as well. If the person being treated like crap is going to yell, scream at or even threaten the person treating them badly then that sends a clear signal...

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Ok straight ladies: who do you have a girl crush on? Hmm... that's the one thing I like about being a girl, that I can have crushes and even a little more and it's not something that causes me to be labelled as either gay or bi... I'm not into Angelina Jokie in case you wondered. For me a crush is about the person not their gender - males and females fit into my crush categories... Funnily though I can't remember...

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What happens when you bounce a check? What are the consequences? I wrote a check for $80 ystrday, didn't realize I only had $50 in my checking till today! I had a -$30 balance and transferred $ from savings to checking immediately. Now what? My best advice is to put $30 into the account as soon as possible and also contact the bank and if they're prepared to hear you, explain the error and ask if they can put a note on your account to say the check was written for a larger amount in error as you thought you had the money in the account and hopefully it won't go against you or cause you to have a dishonourment fee or...

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My sons, their in laws are warped and twisted how can i deal with them ?. can I ask, is it the parents of your son's wives that you're referring as being warped and twisted rather than your sons in law that are warped and twisted? If it's the parents of your son's wives, here's a few suggestions - Always keep in mind that you're only responsible for your own behaviour and no-one else's (unless you've children that are...

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If your school know you are self harming do they have the right to tell your parents Not sure if others have said this or not so sorry if it looks like I'm simply repeating others or trying to earn points by answer-stealing. Anyway, here's the answer. Schools not only have a right to tell your parents (or significant carers), but they have an obligation and are legally bound to do so. We have what's referred to as Mandatory Reporting in Australia and...

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What is being normal human ? is it even possible? I believe that 'normal' is a concept that was created by those who felt they were 'right' for living the lifestyle they have. It's also a concept that's used as a weapon against others and when those using it see that the people they use it against begin to feel inadequate and as though they will never measure up to this 'standard' that has been...

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Do you think that rich people always get special treatment? For sure. They can either afford to hire the people who give them that 'special' treatment or they have people falling over themselves to do them favours in hopes of being noticed and admitted to the inner circle of the rich folk. Of course there is a down-side to the 'special' treatment - that they're expected to continue splashing out money for them. And the...

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How can I encourage someone who just got assigned their college internship and is discouraged that it isn't what they were hoping for and that it will be more stressful and demanding and not lead to a job in their chosen field? Having been in a similar position with both a new colleague and also with a student who did a placement at my work, I kind of know what you're saying. My best advice is to support them as much as your own personal and work commitments, energy levels as well as risk-taking abilities at your work, will allow,. Just make sure you don't offer what you can't come through with -...

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If justice is blind then why when celebritys get caught with grams and ounces of cocaine all they get is rehab maybe. When the everyday joe is years or life. Or is it that money talks and thats the way it is? Ah, the age old question of why do the rich and famous get preferential treatment... Well, with celebrities, I'd imagine it's a matter of it being 'not what you know but who you know'. They get the best defense attorneys - look at OJ - he's out and walking around when if he wasn't such a celebrity that he could afford a show-biz type lawyer who won the case...

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Can you make yourself become phsycic like read into peoples thoughts and stuff ? how? I guess anything's possible really, but I'd say as far as I understand, being psychic is also about turning into the 'energy' and 'unspoken communication' from the other person. It also helps if you can read body-language and learn to understand those subtle messages that we send by the slightest facial movement or change. That's one way I can thik of to...

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If you love someone but can't be with them, what should you do? It depends on the reasons why you can't be with them. If it's because you're in jail for having committed offenses or being unfairly accused but still in jail, there's not a great deal you can do other than appeal your sentence or try for good behaviour. It also depends on whether it's them who says you can't be with them - ie they don't love you. You...

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Why is being elitist such a bad thing? Well, someone I know as a relative of sorts is an elitist. They've chosen not to attend their own immediate family member's significant birthday celebration due to instead choosing to go to another event (non-birthday) in another state that will provide them excellent opportunities to 'schmooze' potential colleagues and rub shoulders with potential clients - yes, they are a...

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My boyfriend moved out 7 months ago and left a fish tank and a bunch of stuff in my basement. I have told him to come and remove it several times and he has not. What can i do with his stuff??? I pay the electric bill and the fish tank i Donate it to a local grade-school. Isn't posession 9/10ths of the law? Plus he needs to prove his items were there and that he purchased them - given that the chances of that are lower than low, the likelihood is that he won't have much of a legal leg to stand on. Legally, I'd be thinking you're the one with the rights. Course, that said, I'm not a lawyer...

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I have a 4yr old who has slept w/ me since he was born. Never has he slept in his own bed. My boyfriend (who i live with) of 3 years is getting tired of the sleeping arrangement. How do I get my son to sleep in his own bed? I have tried everything! Make bedtime a fun-time for him and a time for you and your son to have shared time together. Also make his bedroom an attractive place for him to be. Keep 'energy' inducing / provoking objects out of reach of the bed and out of his line of sight from the bed so that he can't spot and access them. Get him used to bed-times by having him bathed and in bedclothes after...

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Do you let your toddler sleep in the same bed as you? Whilst some children / toddlers / infants sleep with their parents and whilst this is considered recommended / standard practice within some cultures, it is not advised. Even the most conscientious parent can accidentally roll over in their sleep and smother their child. Even the most energetic child with the best reaction time possible isn't quick enough to avoid the 'dead'...

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Do you answer you phone during dinner? I don't unless I'm alone and not too hungry but I have a friend plus an ex-friend who both do that and not only that but will actually make time to spend with me and then spend the majority of it on the phone. Regarding the ex-friend, there was another issue that led to the friendship ending but needless to say it was based on a lack of ettiquette. It's also highly rude.

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What's the biggest/most valuable thing you've ever given to a stranger? I'd say my virginity but that would just be cheeky of me - mind you there's lots who would say that and not be joking. Anyway, I did pay for dinner and later taxi-fare for a stranger - a young woman (from memory, a uni student from overseas) who'd been robbed and had no idea how to get home and who hadn't eaten in a couple of days. But I think that's only...

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As a gift, would you rather get an expensive piece of jewelry (ring, necklace, earrings..etc) or an expensive piece of electronics (TV, computer, mp3 player..etc)? I'd say that providing it was timleless (ie a classic setting etc), I'd prefer jewellry because technology is always being upgraded,supersededd and has an expiry date unless it 'breaks' or for some reason, stops working. Plus alot of technology out there needs to be either upgraded or have software loaded not to mention the countless 'add-ons' that are required to...

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What is a proper gift of appreciation to someone who is moving out of a luxury beach front house for a week so our family can have use of it? (4 bedrooms) Perhaps a really nice and good quality vase with fresh flowers organised for them on the day you leave so they have the flowers to return to? Even things like a giftbasket of cheese, wine and chocolate etc?

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Is it possible to steal someone's husband/wife? Wouldn't the spouse have the ultimate decision as to whether they wanted to get "stolen"? i.e. If the husband didn't want to get "stolen" there is nothing another woman could do to steal him. Unless you're talking about someone's spouse passing away and either being buried or cremated and then another individual digging them up or stealing their ashes, then no it's not possible to steal someone's husband / wife. You're right, despite how relentlessly the other individual may pursue the spouse, ultimately it's the decision of the spouse to enter into...

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What do you say when a parent is letting their child run wild in your store and the child is tearing everything apart? The mom just watched and didn't do anything! I've got a friend who'se child is like that. Whilst I know that this is an out of control child, I still don't think it's an excuse and I've let her know that if she's not going to keep a better eye on her child or take some time teaching her child how to behave AS well as modelling good behaviour for the child (as children only do what they see and are learn),...

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What kind of questions do you get offended by? So, where are you from? I live in Australia but was born a Sri Lankan. However when people ask me where I'm from it's as though they are trying to pigeonhole me and I hate that people do that to me. I hate being identified by my skin colour. If I had 'white' skin, people wouldn't ask that. I mean it's not as if Anglo Saxon's get asked where...

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My girlfriend lied to me, a couple of times, and I still give her my trust after so many times of disappointment I still understand and consider her, why does she keep on hurting me? She does it because she knows you'll just keep taking her back. Sorry buddy but you've got yourself to blame for this one. You're letting her back even though you just know she's going to keep doing this to you. Also you probably know yourself, if you don't start putting youself and your real needs first you're in for a long road of suffering. Give...

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I just found out that I am pregnant. My boyfriend has been acting like a complete jerk ever since. Being really controlling, always giving me ulimatiums to resolve his issues with me (because he knows I will always give in and just say ok or sorry). Help! You're going to have a baby so when you give birth, make sure you have only the one child to be responsible and take care of, not two. It sounds like your boyfriend is being a child. When your child is throwing a tantrum because he or she isn't getting their own way, are you going to be giving in and risk ending up homeless because you feel guilty when you think of denying them...

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My boyfriend shuts me out when he is mad at me, won't answer his phone, won't let me in his house, etc. Is this a healthy way for him to react? I think it depends on what he's reacting to. it also depends on if it's something that's happened more than once.

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What is the hardest branch of education to learn? Not that I'm being a smart-mouth or anything but I think that overall, the hardest thing to learn is humility and that despite our ego-trips and celebrations of knowledge that we are still pretty ignorant overall so should tread carefully and make sure we don't judge others for what we percieve as a lack of knowledge. As for the actual q of what the hardest branch of Ed to learn...

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When was the last time you saw a sockpuppet on a wanted poster? Okay, I'm giving you points due to that question being as cute as 10 buttons (not that I understood that saying EVER) and just completely adorable etc. my answer is I don't recall and I'd like to ask when yours was. Meg

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My best friend is expecting her 2nd baby,and she is due in 6 weeks,she has been under alot of stress recently,and i would love to do something for her,but im stummped,any ideas for me?Something that can involve her first child and something memorable? Perhaps a framed ultrasound photo if you can sneak one away without her looking and also a photo of the older child in a matching frame with the dates written on them? I know you want to involve the older child but perhaps even offer to care for the older child whilst the mother gets a massage or manicure etc...

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Heaps of the kids at school tease me because i have no boobs, i am in year nine now, i know its not 'abnormal' but i want your advice, what would you do if u were in my situation? You could just ignore them. You could get a bra and stuff it - how many of us adults did that as kids??? - they'll never admit it though) You could get a training bra and get those 'realistic' chicken fillets. We don't all develop at the same age - somne of us are really early, some late etc. It's all part of being an individual. The other thing you could...

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When watching chlidrens tv with your child/children do you think sometimes the programes are shocking , surprising, rude and that it wouldnt of happened when you was young? Of course but that's reflective of how open our society is now and that things aren't as taboo anymore. It's also reflective of the fact that children are reaching puberty and becoming interesting in sexual issues far earlier than when we were kids. It's also that as kids we didn't really notice that much stuff but now as parents, we're living by a...

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How do I get my 3 year old daughter to stay in bed at night? Every night it is a fight! Keep her active before dinner time, then after dinner (or even just before sitting down to dinner), get her into a bath and into bed after doing her teeth. Make her bed and bedroom an attractive place to be - cute nightlights, stuff she can watch from in bed like those glow stars from the 90's. Read to her or talk to her but set a time limit. During this time, use a calm,...

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Is it ever too late to call child protective services? If I have witnessed something several days ago, but want to report it now, does my word look less credible and reliable? Whilst it's best to call straight away due to the likelihood of physical evidence still being present or other witnesses being able to come forward - not to mention knowing you'll remember more on the day than later than that, it's still of great use to call even if a few days ago. It won't make you look less credible. I work in Child Protection in Australia and we...

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Where does the wind come from? At our house, usually my husband, but occasionally our tiny, cute, fluffy kitten who rips off the worst wind that I've ever known to come from such a cute unassuming snuggly, cuddly creature... Sorry - would give you a scientific answer but not a science boffin - I do have a sneaking suspicion that Wind is related to cloud formations and also air-pressure or something like that...

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Is a human's life more important than a dog's? It depends on your value system... I believe this is not the case - I'd put an animal's life before my own as I've seen and read of times where animals (dogs moreso than any other) have put their lives on the line for their human companions. Such loyalty isn't always guaranteed in the two legged variety of being. My dog got between me and someone who was hurting me a...

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I dropped my dog and now she has been limping? if we pick her up she will whimper i DO NOT know if her leg is DISLOCATED please help me PLEASE. Please take your dog to a vet. Even if her leg is dislocated, if you try and pop it back in, you could cause her further damage and possibly even cause breakage of the leg or tendons etc. Don't leave it any longer as it's not fair to the dog as it causes her further trauma and pain which she clearly could do without. Good luck.

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How can a man please a woman without touching her( with anything) in the bed room? By getting into bed and not asking for sex... By getting her jewelry.

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My hubby thinks it's OK for his 16 y/o to sleep over @ his GF's mom's house. I say no. How can I say this to him? He knows that they already had sex, but he thinks that his son is an angel & they do not sneak off anywhere, that they are supervised. It depends on a couple of things - when you married your husband, and you became a part of the family, did he say that you had the right to be a mother to his kids? Sounds like an offensive question, but it's not meant to be - sorry if I've offended you. Try letting him know that if his son ends up getting this girl pregnant that he will have to help his son pay the...

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I lost a bet to my friend Julie and she says I have to ask you guys how I have to run down my own block right now. Can you please go easy on me? Dressed as a woman - in a wig, full makeup, short skirt, boob-tube and heels. Well, it was either that or nothing... If you want to be funny though, you could run down the street wearing a Bunny Rabbit disguise.

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Is it offensive to shout "Hail Satan" during a baptism? Hmm, well, that depends on how seriously those taking part consider the baptism. My assumption though is that if you did shout out "Hail Satan" during a baptism, you will get dirty looks and possibly a request that you remove yourself from the event you are attending. If this occurs, you would most likely have the following options - which I would recommend you take: a) Give...

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Do you feel like you have a really fantastic life or a really crappy one? Crappy for the last 25 years but getting better now that I've got more control over the decisions made about my life.

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My friend who agreed to come out, now finds excuses not to come. What should I do? It depends on what you mean by 'come out'. Let us know that part and we'll try to offer our advice.

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If you continue to have an affair and don't really know if you want to end it or not with your current partner, how do you proceed, carry on the affair and hope that one day your mind will be made up or what? Well you shouldn't be in the first place. But that said, I believe that alot of us don't fully realise what we're doing - ie that we're even having an affair, till we're smack bang in the middle of it without a way to reverse the situation. Once that realisation is clear, then it's time to do something about it. I'd advise against consciously continuing...

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Have you pictured the day after the death of your partner? How will / did you cope? Wow, this is a fairly deep question. I'd imagine that the next day would be a horrific one - planning funerals, making financial arrangements, trying to endure the other mourners who would want to spend time with me. IT would be hard because it would be as if life was frozen yet at the same time, spinning out of control and with an almost dream-like (or nightmare-like as the case may...

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Doesn't it make you sad to know that so many people die each day without getting to enjoy life to it's fullest and not being able to aquaint themselves with people that possibly could of changed their outlook on life? It does for me. In a way it does I guess, but also in a way I know that these individuals have made their choices and have perhaps been unwilling to enlighten themselves via these means. I also know that everything and everyone has their path to lead - you are born, you live a life and then you die. It is science, it is religion it is part of every belief system and it's what you do between being born...

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Who do you know that you can't possibly imagine your life without? Everyone I know, basically... everyone who I've become friends with, stayed friends with, fallen in love with, fallen out of love with and ended friendships with... They've all, in some way, impacted on who I am now right in this moment and whilst there are individuals I'd prefer not to have known or met, I need to acknowledge that in some way, that they too have contributed...

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How far would you go to put food on the table for your family? I would steal it if I had to and if I was desperate enough, I'd sell my body. Is that too honest/close to comfort for AB? If so, I do apologise.

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If you feed chicken to a parrot, is that sadistic? It isn't sadistic, but is cannibalistic and not recommended given that parrots (like most birds) are meant to be vegetarian.

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Do you ever run errands in your pajamas? I used to until I got into a bad car accident and ended up being taken to hospital via ambulance - it was embarassing because I was wearing the most ratty PJ's - it was a sunday morning and quiet on the roads and I was returning a video to the store which was down the road and up a nearby street. Now, I don't do it anymore.

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Why do dogs howl along with the police/firetruck/ambulance sirens? Are they in pain? I always thought it was a frequency thing. Sorry I can't be more specific or helpful. And no, this isn't an attempt for points.

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My cat has grass in his throat causing him to cough and try to clear it . he has just refused his food we gave him hoping to clear it. how can we help? vaseline or olive-oil on the paws - they'll lick it off. Also, you can try a tablespoon of olive oil in their food... But remember, I'm not a vet so beware when taking my advice.

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I have two new kittens, both male any suggestions for names one is ginger one is beige. Nuts and Suede... Thank god I don't name babies for a living.

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How can you tell if a woman is flirting? If you ask my brother, he'll tell you that the surefire sign is... She has a pulse. Seriously, the ego my brother has, knows no bounds - if he had anymore tickets, he could host his own Live Aid concert (cept the charity would be his ego).

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My husband doesn't like it when I'm fat. I am now at a good weight, always do my hair & make-up. So why does he flirt back at the fat women? I think you need to realise that your value as a human being doesn't require confirmation by your husband and you need to begin valuing yourself. I also think that if you've lost weight for your husband, it might not last - that's again, something you should only do for yourself, no-one else. I also think your husband is flirting with overweight women because he's...

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Last night some freshers splashed a bucket of water over me and mine as we walked past their house. so i emptied their binbags over their front path. i feel kinda guilty, but people keep telling me thats pretty reasonable. whatchu reckon? There's a saying that two wrongs don't make a right. But two wrongs can make a rort. Keep it up, then how far does it have to go before one of you realises it's gone beyond repair. Are you a freshman as well? (I assume that's what you mean when you use the term 'fresher'). Or are you at a higher level. If you're higher, then you need to lead by...

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I have a 11 mth old kitten, and he is insane. he attacks, bites, hisses and snarls and growls for no reason. i got him fixed to think that would help. and i tried the water bottle thing. i can sit and watch tv and sleep and he attacked me. please help!! Does the kittne have toys he can play with? If he is one of siblings, you may want to get in contact with his siblings' owners and see if they're having problems. Try discussing the kitten's temperament with his vet. Also, try some dog-training techniques - they may be different species, but they're still able to learn - cats more than dogs if anything given their...

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Sleep routines got really out of whack during the summer. My schoolaged kid is back on track, but the preschooler and 1 yr old are sleeping most of the day and up all night. I tried to fix it but only made it worse I think. Suggestions please? Let em run ragged when they're at home during the day and into the evening. Cut out the sugar / salts etc from lunchtime onwards and a hot drink before bed. Get them into a routine that lets their body clock adjust to a pattern. Also, stories at bedtimes and if unable to sleep, a backrub, a cuddle and if nothing else, lights out and no more stalling (ie, I want some water, I need...

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Why do men (myself included) love to watch women dance well? It's a sex thing. Saying is that those who can dance well are also satisfying bed partners. Dancing is meant to be like sex - movement, rhythm, flexibility... use your imagination. No wait, you already have ;)

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If you were out of work on sick leave for a month and nobody from your office contacted you in any way, would you: A) be angry B) feel disappointed C) not be surprised? If I was sick on leave, given how stressful my job is, my coworkers and bosses would respect that and let me recuperate in peace - not being contacted at my work is a really good thing. But yes, if it was a different place of work, it'd be a mixture of A and B.

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I can't afford to give anymore. Yet, I'm repeatedly meeting takers who feel I don't deserve anything: I'm attractive, smart, fun, hard-working or insert any excuse here. Whenever I don't give I'm immediately labeled as not getting along. How can I change? Perhaps it's the energy you put out. You can only expect others to treat you how you treat them and how you present yourself as wanting to be treated. If you started out in your place of work (I assume this is a work related question given the area in which you've chosen to have it posted) as being generous to a fault, the fall-guy, the instant wingman etc, then people are going...

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There is this lady who works in an affiliate company who has a negative attitude, interrupts conversations, and bosses people around where I work and she doesn't even work here. Yet people seem oblivious to her like I'm the only one who dislikes her. WHy? The key word here is 'Seem'. They 'seem' oblivious. Someone like that tends to get noticed. I don't know many people who like being around rude, negative people for long without eventually losing the plot and well, plotting their demise or looking for other work etc. Perhaps you're more in touch with how you feel and honest enough to admit you work with...

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So does anyone here have a co-worker(s) they can't stand? No need for names (unless u want), but why do u hate them? I actually do. And I pray that they don't use answerbag but anyway... This individual (not necessarily at my current place of work) has a filthy, potty mouth and despite them being a female, they drop the 'C' word (think of 'Can't' with a different vowel and no apostrophe...) constantly, is single and embarassingly man-hungry. They also have shared far too...

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In Chirstianity there are so many denominations headed by the Spiritual head of the denomination. But all teach and preach Jesus Christ! Why cant the spiritual heads of the denominations join together and have a single denomination! It's because politics has gotten in the way of the pure spiritualism aspect of religions and that's how we have had breakaway religions - not just for Christianity, but also for the others - Hinduism, Islam etc. Religion is like a fable. We twist and tweak it to serve our purpose, belief system, cultural status etc. Also, it's because we, as a society (and for the...

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We hear a lot about violence towards women in society. Why hasn't violence towards men been highlighted to the same degree? Is it because violence towards men is more socially accepted? Is it because it is so common we ignore it? This is a pet topic of mine... I've got alot to say about it and will do so but in the morning so stay tuned (hopefully I remember to do so)... Okay. so here we go... I did a research paper on this very topic. I'm currently working hard to pay off a stupidly expensive house, but when I finish doing that, I want to start up a support group for male victims of domestic...

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Is an SUV the same as a penis extension? Perhaps the SUV is to the new milennium what the Convertible Sports car was to the 1990's... If so, then definitely, yes.

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Are you bringing sexy back? If big is beautiful, then hell yeah!

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My fiance and I have been together for years. I recently met another guy who has made me happier more than I could ever imagine and I am doubting my fiance and I now. Should I break up with my fiance, with hopes that time will let me know, or move on? I think this could be the 'thrill of the chase' at play - temptation - adam and eve and the apple, kind of stuff. When we're looking at committing to someone for what would ideally be life, it's only natural to have wandering eyes (even those who say they don't, actually do- well, that's my belief anyway) - you're looking around and seeing those who will be...

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My family is awesome... and me and my fiance get along with them greeatt. he loves allll of my family. but i think his family is weird... and we don't spend much time with them... i can't be myself around them. is that bad for us? It depends on what he thinks of his own family. If he wants to spend time with them, despite the saying that you're marrying him, not his family, the thing is that you're marrying INTO his family so whether you like it or not, you are going to be part of it. I'd encourage you to find a way to work around it - ie, go and see them but stick together and have each other to...

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What do you say to a mother who refuses to support their daughter, who is going through a rough break up with her fiance of 4 years?. The mother does not agree with her breaking up with him. Here's what I'd say to my mother: "I love you, but I feel like you're not supporting me. I was the one engaged to him, not you. You may have loved him to death, but I was the one who'd have to marry him." "I don't need your approval to end this relationship, it has been my choice and now it's done." "We need to move on and whilst...

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How long would you say it takes to get over a breakup? I broke up with my ex about 8 months ago and I feel like we just broke up yesterday. People tell me it's because I haven't met anybody else, but is getting over someone supposed to take this long? It depends on how long you and your ex were together for. It also depends on the level of emotional commitment you put into the relationship. When any relationship ends, for whatever reason, you go through a grieving process. There's no timeline for grief (well, there is, but 8 months is still acceptable for grieing). I think people might want you to move on. But if you're...

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About a month ago I split up with my long term partner. I have now met someone else. a) Is it too soon to think about dating someone else. b) Why do I feel like I would be cheating on my ex. (she still texts me every day wanting me back) Think long and hard about what you want. Your ex or your new relationship. Give yourself some room in your headspace as it's hard to get over a long-term relationship - even for the person who ended things. That's why you feel like you'd be cheating - you still share an emotional attachment with your ex. If you don't want your ex back, make it clear to her -...

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Would you date someone with no long-term goals? It depends on how old they are and if they should be at a stage in life where they are actually thinking of the future. Dating someone with no long-term goals could lead you to be in a relationship that feels like it's not going anywhere due to the person you're dating not having much idea of where they want to be. They could simply be unmotivated or in a 'transition'...

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I wake up at 3am with the a racing heart, and the sense that my digestive system is in overdrive. It takes an hour or more to pass. It's worse if I eat after 6pm. I'm going through the menopause. Treatment suggestions? Go to your doctor and tell them the symptoms. We can give you suggestions for what it might be, but as we're not qualified, we'd hate for you to act on advice and find yourself worse off for doing so. That said, could it be possible that your digestive / gastric complication may not be related to your menopause? You could be having heartburn but as said,I'm not a...

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Have you ever fallen asleep on the toilet? Only when I've been drunk beyond comprehension or on drugs to help me sleep (prescribed thank you very much!) that have kicked in during an unfortunate moment.

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Have you ever fallen asleep and forgotten where you were? Wow, yes I have!! I used to work in residential care with young people (I now work in a different area of welfare) and had to do overnight work. The number of times I've woken with a shock when I've gone to roll over and nearly fallen out of a single bed as I've been expecting to roll into my husband sleeping beside me in our double bed (yes, I am a bed stealer apparently)......

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Have you ever fallen asleep and forgotten where you were? Wow, yes I have!! I used to work in residential care with young people (I now work in a different area of welfare) and had to do overnight work. The number of times I've woken with a shock when I've gone to roll over and nearly fallen out of a single bed as I've been expecting to roll into my husband sleeping beside me in our double bed (yes, I am a bed stealer apparently)......

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What does it mean when your boyfriend askes for a break, is it really over or does he just need time to think about things? I'm not sure how old you are but there's a really good book worth reading (so my single friends tell me) that's called 'He's just not that into you'. I forget the author but the book basically explains relationships from a guy's point of view and what he means when he says things like 'let's take a break'. It's the intention behind the...

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My boyfriend just asked me out 2 days ago,i thot i liked him but then i heard about wat bad things he does how do i break up with him ???????? :( please help me Okay, let me start by asking you, how do you know he's done bad things? Just because someone's told you, that doesn't make it true. Ask him about what you've heard and see what he's got to say. It also depends on what bad things he's supposed to have done and how he reacts when you talk to him about them. However if you've changed your mind and...

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What does it mean by when you are pregnant your boyfriend treats you very well; he will be by your side for sure... but he ask you to do alot of things; like help him take things like kind of helper ; his mum also do that.. ?? Perhaps it means your boyfriend is going to have to grow up between now and when he becomes a Dad. Perhaps it means you and his mother need to speak to him and explain to him the responsibilities of parenting and make sure that he's going to be ready to be a good parent. Perhaps you also need to become more organised and create a schedule between you and him for feeding, caring,...

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Why would anyone think of beating a child? Have you seen that Martina McBride music video about a little girl that gets beaten by her mother, then killed? That breaks my heart every time I see it. I haven't seen the video and unfortunately I haven't read the answers above so am unsure if I'm repeating others (apologies if that's the case). Let me preface by saying I come from a background of abuse that was so bad that my best-friend (and now husband) was brought to tears when he heard and saw what was going on for me. Let me also add to my preface by saying that I...

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What breaks your heart when you see/hear about it? Animal cruelty makes me cry (unless it's spider cruelty and well, I think the spiders have it coming) and when I've seen animal cruelty I've become a screaming banshee on a mission of blind rage.

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I was told when i was a child i had slow brain waves what does this really mean It could be an actual literal scientific concept by which the brain slows down and as such the person reacts more slowly etc. It could also be a person trying to find an alternate way to say they thought you weren't the brightest child on the playground. Either way it's not the nicest thing to hear. When I was in Year 7 (1st year of Junior High I think that would be - I was 12...

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If a child lived with wolves from birth would it adopt wolf traits, i.e howling, scratching, eating zebras and other general tomfoolery? There was a famous case of a girl in Europe who was neglected by her family and so she moved into the kennels her family dogs stayed in. She stayed there and began taking on their traits including running on all fours, barking, howling, scratching and eating without her hands from a dog-bowl. She was taken out of her home and put into an institution by her local authorities. In the...

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If a new type of dinosaur was discovered what would you name it? rexosaurus

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Do you prefer to be around fake, happy cheezy people or honest, grouchy people? Well, I prefer a blend of happy and honest but if I had to choose, I'd choose the grouches because cheezy just drives me nuts after a while. But then again, that depends on my mood - sometimes I'm suitable for cheezy and sometimes for grouchy. It also depends on the person - some people are tolerable when they're grumpy or cheezy and there's some people who you...

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Are you a forgiving person?Would you be able to forgive anything without exception? I am a forgiving person, and whilst I've been able to forgive alot in my life, I'm sure there are thing that, if I put enough thought into it, I wouldn't have been able to forgive. I think in general that all humans (well, apart, perhaps from Mother Theresa and Ned Flanders) have their 'final straw' point. You know, that point where you've forgiven and forgiven...

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I've just lost the only person who was keeping me alive and sane, and now I have aboslutely nowhere to turn, life is meaningless and I have no reason left to keep going, so what can I do now? I'm sorry you're going through this experience and whilst I'm not here to tell you to stop living or to continue living, I'd like to ask a few questions and make a few suggestions. Before this person came into your life what did you do when things got tough? Since this person has come into your life, what do you do when you're not in their company and things get...

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You know that lonely feeling you tend to get when someone leaves? how do i get rid of that feeling? Refocus on the positives - reminisce over the good times you spent with that person and if they're going to return, keep in mind that they will come back and the time they are gone can be used for a hobby, used to get to know other people or time for yourself. I do know the feeling you're talking about. And remember, if none of that works, come to Answerbag and answer some...

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If you really did'nt like someone and they really needed your help, would you help them or leave them hanging? Well, it would depend on what they needed help with - burying a body? Perhaps not... But it also depends on the kind of person you are. I'm the kind of person who has an irritating habit of seeing the best in everyone despite how badly they've screwed with me and I have a stupidly large capacity to forgive people for the most horrendous acts upon me. So, even if I...

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What not to say to the help-desk technician? A few more my techie husband has shared with me: "On button? What on button...?" or "What does fatal system error mean?" or "What does it mean when your coffee tips over on your laptop's keyboard and suddenly you hear a pop and then see a puff of smoke coming from the keyboard...?" or "Whilst you were away I was fooling...

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What would you say to a parent who kicked their kid out just because they were gay? I'd approach it as follows: I'd sit and listen to them tell their story without anyone else in the room but me and the parent. Once they'd told their story, if it didn't include any storying about the child's upbringing, stages of growth etc, I'd ask about them. Once this was finished, I'd ask them what they perceived their own future to be prior to...

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Do you hate it when people brag? Only if they're not funny or interesting or if whilst bragging they don't put others down...

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What does S.I.N.G.L.E. mean to you? Supposedly I Need Greater Life Experience or Sadly I Never Gave Love Enthusiastically or Superman Is Never Getting Laid EVER

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What not to say to the help-desk technician? "When you're not busy surfing the net for porn, hows about taking a look at my piece of shit computer which by the way you put together..."

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Ever had thoughts of hooking up with the same sex maybe just once? Yup. I'm not so much heterosxual / homosexual or bi-sexual as adult-sexual. I don't see the person for their gender and can find women and men attractive... In fact for those in Australia who do watch either All Saints or It Takes Two, I'd definitely jump into bed with the girl who plays 'Ricki' (full name Erica Templeton) - her name's Jolene Anderson. ...

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What turns you on more than anything else? That low guttural growl a man emits when he's turned on... That moment just before a really great, passionate kiss... The sight of someone - male or female, slowly dragging their upper teeth up their lower lip (like biting their lip but really, really slowly)... Sorry... hope that wasn't too 'R' Rated. And this pic is for the midget/donkey lover...

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My Partner looks at porn, i have agreed 2 let him look but only because i am tired of all the fights, it has caused. I have had a really hard time as i feel really ugly becuase he would rather look at pron & then expects me 2 be happy. what should i do? First off, let me apologise in advance for what might be a controversial / un-wanted answer or an answer that might offend. I want you to think of the reasons why you don't like him accessing adult content (ie, porn). Don't think of what society or your current social beliefs tell you. Think of the real, personal reasons for not liking it. Is it because of your upbringing? ...

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For a new believer to a religion is it ok to live with a different believer in the same house? Interesting question... If, say for example, person A has recently become a christian and they live with person B who has either no religion or a different religion, then I'd say person A's best bet is to lead by example. I think personally that it doesn't matter what a person's belief system is or even if their belief isn't religion based. It's how we...

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Where does the idea for calling a red haired person "Blue" or "Bluey" come from? I thought it was a play on words 'true-blue' or to do with the idea that people with Red hair are easily angered and also easily depressed so that was the reason for the 'blue' - ie feeing blue'. But perhaps I'm wrong... Sorry to anyone out there with red hair.

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What color shoes can u wear with an olive mini-dress? Try matching the dress with a pair of strappy shoes in the same colour - a thrifty hint is that if you buy silk material the same colour as the dress, you can then cut it into strips so you have lengths that fit each strappy part of the shoe and then glue them onto and around the strappy bits of the shoe. Otherwise, go for a pale colour. An alternative is to purchase a wrap or cute little...

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I've got a BIG problem. Any advice? Anything will do. ADVICE PLZ!!! Don't mow the lawn in bare feet and if you ignore that and end up cutting off your feet as a result, don't come running to me... If you want other advice, post an actual question otherwise be prepared to continue suffering negative ratings.

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Is it ludicrous that I have nothing to believe in? Not if you're Emo. That's the spirit of being Emo - that empty nothingness feeling. I think we all go through stages of our lives where we feel like there's nothing sacred or worth believing in. It's the world we live in. We're far more paranoid, mistrusting, jaded, twisted etc. We live in a world where our leading governments are promoting fear as a lifestyle and...

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Have you ever been badly misunderstood and/or mistreated by someone from a different culture than your own, because of the difference in culture? Hmph! The stories I could tell.... I saw an ad in the paper for a job working as a head-waiter. I called up, had the interview by phone due to living over an hour by car from the place the job was at. I got offered the job and was asked to go to the place to get the uniform organised. I got on a bus and on the great-ocean road to Lorne - lots of money and travel-sickness plus migraine...

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Why is it if a man hits a woman he gets a larger punshiment than if a woman hits a guy? I think that it's more to do with the statistical evidence out there (and don't go making me getting it for you - oh, sigh, alright... if you want it, comment and let me know and I'll dredge some up for you) that the majority of abuse is perpetuated by males rather than females and that the increased level of punishment is reflective of this and an attempt to deter male...

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Why does racism have to exist? why can't we all just get along? Perhaps it began with Darwin and his 'survival of the fittest' theory. We outwit, outlast, out-something else (Copyright Survivor 1990-something) by creating insecurity and thus culling our competition. Humans by their very nature are driven to compete, improve etc and when that takes place, alot of the time ruthlesness takes over and humans will under-cut each other in...

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Should places providing accomodation be allowed to discriminate against people belonging to groups that their owners/management don't approve of? (e.g. by stating 'no blacks', 'no homosexuals' or 'only married couples' in their terms of service) No and for the following reasons: They would be breaking government laws. They would be violating human rights laws. They would be breaching the basic human right of everyone to receive accommodation that is adequate. Any business / group or individual that offers accommodation on a for-profit basis that is not established with exceptions to these rules (ie, abused women's shelters...

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Is the society ready to accept the "non-straight" individuals without the deathly repercussions? Are you trying to avoid saying that you think that anyone who is gay is going to go to hell and die (Copyright South Park 1998 or thereabouts)? Because if you are, you'd better prepare to have one hell of an argument on your hands. You really need to edit your question to reflect what you really want it to mean. Do that first, then I'll have a go at my answer.

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How short is too short? i.e. your height causes problems If I was taller, I'd be thinner... sigh.

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What is a good song to dance with at your wedding with your father? What did you choose? I think (this is so embarassing that I can't remember) it was 'Isn't she lovely' by Stevie Wonder... either that or a jazzy song... damn...

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How should I wear my hair on my wedding day? Wear it in a style that suits your personality, your mood, your dress, your wedding theme and also the weather (if you're going to be outdoors and it could be windy be wary of pinned up styles). Also get a friend or two who are good with hair sit with you when your hair is done so they can fix it during the day of the wedding - for photos etc.

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What colour shirt and tie should i wear with dark navy pin stripped suit If you're the groom or in the wedding party, you should co-ordinate your attire with the rest of the wedding party - as an idea, try to wear a colour that the girls will either be wearing or carrying - ie dresses or flowers. My husband wore a black suit and gold tie (I was wearing a gold sari) and his groomsmen wore black suits with pale lime green ties because the bridesmaids were...

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Whats the most moving film you've ever seen? Forrest Gump... gets me everytime - mind you it's not just the plot or acting, it's got some beautiful moving music - and I'm not just talking about the music that plays when Forrest has to start running from the bullies and that montages into his life as a young adult either. The Forrest Gump Suite by Alan Silvestri is a real tear-jerker for me.

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Infinity doesn't exist - agree/disagree? It depends on the individual's concept of infinity and also their application of the concept to situations. For example, at this present time, no human (apart from perhaps Jesus) or animal or plant can live forever. However, time and the universe is at present infinite. Some might say there's no such thing as an original thought except the original thought itself - if...

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Is there anything you seem to find hard to do, that many others find easier? (Mine is blowing up balloons) Keep down solid food - I've had a throat thing for what I think is nearly three years now... sigh.

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What is/ was the stupidest thing you ever heard, said or done? Well... I did have a job interview recently that I completley buggered up... so many stupid things that it's hard to remember... mind you, I did end up getting the job despite the supidity of my answers in the interview so who knows - what we think is stupid others might not feel the same way about.

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Who do you really hate but don't have the courage to pay back on him George Bush - but there's no way I'm incurring homeland security on my ass.

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What is one thing that Britney Spears would never dare to say I cherish my continued dedication to remaining a virgin.

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What song would you NOT want played at your funeral? 'My Heart Will Go On' - SOOOO not a fan of that song and I don't care if I'm dead, I don't want crap songs at my funeral... I'm organising my funeral and creepy as it sounds (there's a good reason for it and no, I'm not dying but my mother is elderly and has dementia so she's not long for this world) I've started putting together music for my...

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What would happen if the grim reaper/death commited suicide? First, awesome question!!! My theory is that being the grim-reaper he'd have to 'reap' himself so it'd be like self-cannibalism. I'm not sure it'd happen - although in some movies, there are multiple reapers and stand-in-reapers etc. Have you ever watched the tv series 'Dead Like Me'? It's hilarious and might provide you with some answers for...

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Can some one provide an australian based website for looking at peoples backgrounds and criminal history? I think the freedom of information and privacy acts prevent that kind of thing. The only way I think I know of is if you get a private investigator - and even still, they're bound to withold certain information - unless they're completely unscrupulous and in which case you need to make sure they don't try and blackmail you for the fact that you've assisted them to break the...

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Why do people leave school as soon as they can? Dont they realise that the last 11(ish) years of their lives have been put to waste? You see it that way because you either have the luxury of knowing what you perceive to be ahead for these people who leave school, or because you think quitting school early is a waste. Not everyone sees it this way. Look at Richard Branson - he's one of the wealthiest men in the world and yet he didn't even finish school. Not all school-leavers are poorly off and formal...

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If you had the opportunity to give advise to the president, what would it be? And why? Quit whilst you're behind.

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What do you think of people who demands a thank you? The ability to say please, thank you etc is desireable in all humans but not all have this ability. But at the same time the ability to do a good deed or nice thing for someone and not expect thanks is also a desireable ability but once again, not something that all people are capable of. In some circumstances demanding politeness is acceptable - it's an embarassing thing for someone...

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What quality should a person possess to be likable? Not necessarily in a romantic kind of way. - Unconditional acceptance of those around despite their undesirable qualities / behaviours / personality traits. - Honesty - Discretion - Not bitching about people behind their backs. - Good sense of humour - Ability to lead and be led in social situations (of course as long as it's not leading or being led into dangerous / illegal / unsafe situations). - Ability to be a good...

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A friend who acts like a whore as my guy friends would call her complains that shes always getting dicked over and hurt. Shes in ROTC and i can handle her easier in class As. How can i talk to her and handle her in her looser form? You call this girl a whore, you refer to her in 'looser form'. YOu're judging her and yet you call her a friend. Sorry but if you're going to be that judgemental about her you don't need to be in her life or her in yours. Just cause your guy friends refer to her as a 'whore' doesn't mean you should and by saying 'as my guy friends would call...

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My boyfriend calls me names like bitch,slut,whore,ugly,fat,skank,smelly,tramp,etc.But he says that he is just joking and he doesnt mean it.Well I dont take it as a joke,and I take very seriously.Do you think that Im overreacting?Would you take it as joke? I don't think you're over-reacting - in fact if anything you need to react more and leave him. You clearly have enough sense of self to know it's unhealthy and abusive and yet you're still referring to him as a present-tense in your life. Make him the past and move on. Would he be laughing if you started calling him names that you knew would offend him? Of course...

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Can someone tell me how to get over a husband who cheat on you then promise never to do it again then he cheat on you again with your so call best friend with a new move and my two years son just have open heart surgery it had just hit home now Dear Psandi, First of all, I'm really sorry for what you've gone through with your husband but also your best-friend and most of all, your son's surgery. It's understandable that it's only now hitting home - surgery is traumatic for all involved - the person having the surgery and their anxious loved ones. That kind of trauma can cause the body to go into shock but...

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I met this wonderful woman three months ago and she just informed me that she is moving back to her birth town to re-connect with family, friends. She wants her new home to have an "open door"- drop in anytime policy. I have a real problem with that. She's laid it on the line for you and let you know the terms of your future relationship with her. It's okay for you to be unhappy with the terms she's presented but is it because of your own preferences or hers? Okay, that probably doesn't make much sense - does her preference to have her family able to see her whenever they like cause you personal distress? Does it...

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I just got out of a 4 year relationship about a month ago and am ready to move on. I met a new guy and I think we have potential to have a lasting relationship. How do I avoid making this a rebound relationship? If you want to avoid the rebound effect, just be friends with him - tell him that you want to take it slow and start out as friends. Having just got out of a long relationship (even if just recently) you are probably fairly clear about what you do and don't want in a relationship - just make sure that if you do get into a romantic relationship with this potential long-term guy, that...

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How long does the average rebound relationship last? A few weeks, months, year? There is no way to tell in specific terms. Also, rebound relationships can turn into the real thing once each party recognises that they actually are happy in what initially might have started out as a casual, convenient thing.

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I have a relationship with a female who is mother for 3 year old child. we love each other as sister and brother. I love, care, for her to my extent. suddenly she has a illegal affair with a guy who is her child hood friend, because of her husband how is Sounds like a messy situation for all involved. If you're not planning to stick with this relationship leave now before your love interest's child becomes too attached and has to go through the pain of losing you from their life. Are you really in a relationship with her or are you a friend who wants to be more? Either way, it sounds like a relationship that isn't...

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My fiance and I have been together for 4 years and we moved to colorado from nashville now are relationship sucks, she sais it is because she hates colorado and we may not last if we dont move what would you do. It depends on the reasons for you moving to colorado. I assume the move was prompted by you more than her? If you think this girl is the love of your life then you need to do what it takes to keep her happy and if it means moving back to Nashville, that's what it takes. The only exception to this is that if you moved to Colorado because you were not able to get work in Nashville. ...

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He wants to fly me to visit him. Should I go? I've only him a couple of times. He came to visit me for a weekend. Well, it's up to you. Just because you're in the early stages of dating, that doesn't mean that it's not serious between you. The fact that he wants you to fly out to see him clearly means he's keen for the relationship to continue. The thing however is that do you want things to keep going and what kind of relationship do you have? Is it purely sexual? If it...

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What would you say if your brother-in-law asked you if you would like one of his meatballs(meaning spaghetti and meatballs) and then you reply that you weren't interested. and then he said that he didn't lick it that much! Is that considered flirting? I'd take it as a joke but also I'd be turning round quick smart and telling him to grow up and act his real age and not his shoe-size and to remember he's your brother in-law for a reason and to be respectful of the marriage that ties you to him. That said, as to whether it was filrting or not, I'd be wanting to know what his exact expression was, what the circumstances...

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My dad remarried 5 yrs ago and even tho I disliked her i dealt with it b/c i love my dad. I dont like her & many times he has chosen her over me! The other day she told me a lie about one of my family members & I went off!! Should i be upset? Ah, blended families and the untold joys that they can bring!!! The thing is that (and yes, I do understand that you most likely ran out of space to elaborate on the lie you were told), without details of the lie you were told by her, it's harder to give accurate advice. I will say this however: It sounds as though you're dealing with your dad's choice to remarry with...

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Has a homosexual ever hit on you? (I'm not against them FYI) I think that bisexual males and females should be included in this category as well... And yes. On friday night just gone - a bunch of us were out celebrating me getting a new job and a friend (and her best friend) nicking off overseas for six months, and one of my friend's friends hit on me big style. I'm open minded and friendly to all (and no, I haven't cheated on my...

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Which streets are in Glasgow Monopoly Whilst I don't know the answer to this question, it didn't seem to make sense to mark this question down so I've marked it back up as a way of sticking out my tongue at the person who decided to mark it down. So ner!!!

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If you look like a grizzly-faced pirate, how would you convince Ms. Universe to go on a date? Hmm, well, Pirates Of The Carribean is really cool at the moment, so I'm not sure you'd need to do much convincing... Just 'arrrr' alot and flash your sword about a bit... oh and some eyeliner doesn't go too far astray either...

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My g/f spends most of her time texting her guy friend and won't let me see her phone. she gets upset and hits me a lot in public, she also has to have everything she wants. i love her, but i feel like i am losing her. what does this mean? It sounds like you're just another accessory in this relationship - like a handbag - convenient but only when needed and otherwise discarded and forgotten. Do you really want a relationship like this? Do you think you deserve a relationship like this? If you and I sat down at a table across from each other and I told you that I was in a relationship like yours is at the moment, what...

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Did you say "I love you" to your significant other today? No but I did send him this picture:

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What would be your first thought upon learning that a 25-year-old female friend of yours was the mother of a healthy, happy 10-year-old child? That she must have encountered alot of resistance to her being a young mum and probably still gets those 'looks' and 'comments' and that I'm certainly not going to be one of them. I did a student placement at a community house that helped out young parents age 16 - 25 with kids 0 - 6 so I came across parents and the attitudes towards them alot: 'another bludger...

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What 1980's song is your fave? Take On Me - Aha Footloose - Kenny Loggins Wake Me Up (Before You GoGo) - Wham! Shena - Journey Don't Forget Me When I'm Gone - not sure who sings it Sorry, am an 80's girl so hard to choose...

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Hi all. I just got out of a very abusive relationship of 5 1/2 years.Physically, mentally,emotionally,I have experienced it all. The thing is-I have left this person numerous times, and keep going back.This time,I cannot go back.I need reinforcement. HELP Firstly, do you need to be having the life choked out of you by this person in order to realise you're in the wrong relationship for you? Or will it take them beating you within an inch of your life? How about them running you over and then pinning your body against a wall with their vehicle? Sorry to be so graphic but you know what, you clearly know that the right thing to do is to...

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Why is it considered racist to be proud of being white but considered ethnic pride to be proud of being any other race? Perhaps because for hundreds of years, caucasians considered themselves to be a superior race and treated other races as being inferior, ignorant and uncivilized. We think our technology is 'all that' etc, but if you've never known anything else, who says you are actually at a disadvantage if you're happy to stay with your lifestyle and not actually encroach on others...

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Why is there always one person who doesn't like me in every group of people? (including Answerbag) You can't please everyone - it's human nature to like some people and not others. We judge people by ourselves (and there's some people who do that without the right - I'll explain that statement one day). You can't get along with all people so you're better off trying to be a genuine person for a few than all things to many. As much as Osama Bin Laden has...

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How do you cope with having to let your best friend go? does the hurt ever go away? (edit: I didn't realise I'd already answered this so please don't think I'm just fishing for more points) Dear Mizunderztood96, I didn't have a choice. My best friend (BF) and I grew up together from high school to getting engaged to our respective husbands to be. Two weeks before my wedding (due to an issue that came up from my engagement party), the friendship...

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What is one big lesson you have learned in life? One I learnt recently and the REALLY REALLY hard way is this: Part One Of My Big Lesson Don't look to your work colleagues to be your friends - be friendly, but don't expect friendships. Part Two Of My Big Lesson Don't 'take one for the team' (ie, take the blame for something you didn't do or fail to point out where the blame really should be instead of...

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Are people asking questions about gays really interested or are they just trying to grab points? Not sure. Are you just trying to grab points by asking about them? lol. Sorry, it's a viscious cycle.

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What do you feel about guys who wear pink? Nothing at all. What do you feel about a guy who wears a black ski-mask and carries a sawn-off shot gun and then points it at someone?

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Is being gay a sin? Depending on where you get your answers from... Given that sins are linked with the Bible, according to the Bible (so I'm told), it is a sin. But then so are lying, cheating, stealing, murder... and yet we don't discriminate against these individuals. I'm personally ashamed of the society in which I live because of its narrowminded attitudes towards being gay. I think...

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At what age should you stop doing the "Easter Bunny thing" by hiding an Easter basket? My kids are 10 & 14 and know it is me but we keep doing it for fun. I still do it with friends of mine - and I'm in my 30's. Who says we have to stop? And I always hide my husband's eggs from him (mostly cause one year he found a stash, thought it was for him and ate some really, really expensive chocolate that was for the family (I had stuff for him stashed away as well but he didn't find that) so I'm just better at hiding it now.

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What is the difference between the Easter Bunny and God? The Easter Bunny is a comercialised concept created by confectionary and greeting card companies - or if not created certainly pounced upon and subverted in order to make $$$'s. The concept of easter-eggs I think comes from greek orthodox traditions - painted eggs. Eggs symbolising the cycle of life - people die, people are born. However I've yet to meet a bunny who was able to...

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Do you do anything in the shower other than shower?(ex:brush teeth etc) Once when I was studying for my final high-school exams I decided to print up a spare copy of my study notes then put them into plastic pockets, sealed them with clear book-covering plastic stuff (the name escapes me) and then taped them to the shower walls. Exam study became so much more relaxing after that - mind you the water bill we paid was through the roof but my parents didn't seem...

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I like to wear my eyeliner fairly dark, but it always smudges and smears. I have used know how many brands...any good brands or suggestions? Waterproof liquid eyeliner. No idea what brand though. I assume there's waterproof liquid eyeliner - if there's waterproof mascara on the market...

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What's the worst thing a person can say to someone who has just lost a loved one? "It was their time" "Everything happens for a reason" "It could have been worse, they could have died in a more horrific way..."

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What is the worst or hardest part about being a parent in your opinion? I'm not a parent so perhaps I shouldn't answer this, but I do work closely with kids of all ages and so I feel like a parent to them when I'm working - so I say this with all respect for parents: The hardest thing about being a parent would be bringing your child up with morals, beliefs etc but still not quite being able to control outside influences having negative impact upon...

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Tell me the best one line to quit a job? *You're just a shit boss (only say this if you really don't need a reference!!!) *I hear voices in my head telling me to kill the boss (only say this if you want to take a holiday in a padded jail cell) *My professional and life interests have changed (this is possibly the nicest one I can think of) *I feel as though I've reached my full potential and need to seek out a...

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How do you end a friendship with someone who mistreats you? You don't actually have to end the relationship - sometimes you can walk away, put some distance between you and then and basically 'lose' their phone number. However if you wish to end the friendship and sever ties completely, pick a fight with them over something. You could also send them an e-mail saying that you've been doing an inventory of your relationships and...

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This guy keeps on calling me fat and ugly but i know i'm not what should i do? Tell him it's sad that he's compensating for his own inadequacies (look down to his groin area when you say this and then sigh) by putting you down. OR You could tell him that fat and ugly can be fixed but the same can't be said for personality. OR You could tell him that it's sweet that he's crushing on you and you're really an open minded person but you draw...

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A friend & her 6 y/o son visited me today. The child created a huge mess in my apartment, broke things, etc. Before they left, I asked my friend to clean up his mess. She was very offended by this. Was I right or wrong to ask? She did nothing to stop him. Did you or she make any attempt to prevent or stop the breakages from occurring? Also, when you visit her, does she have an expectation of you that you clean up after yourself or your child? I personally think you were in the right for asking her to take responsibility for her child. I know people will hate me for saying this but hey, I'm in a foul mood and politeness is going out...

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Would you stay with someone who tells everyone else that you're worthless, but who is nice to your face? First up. I'm not assuming that this is your own situation you're describing. So here goes. There's lots of reasons people stay in a negative relationship. * Fear of being alone * Fear of the unknown * Preference to stay with someone who although treats you badly, at least you know what they're like, good, bad, ugly. * Belief that there is no such thing as a...

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I just found out my boyfriend sells drugs, should i break it off or try to get him to stop? Dear Midnight, The fact that you're questioning things means you are contemplating leaving. Perhaps I'm seeing it as being too black and white here but if he's selling, there's also a chance he's using. If he's doing either or both, he's putting you at risk. Whilst you may feel like you have a relationship that is far away from drugs, the fact is...

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I have been in a relaionship for 6yrs,my b/f was ready to be engaged he bought the ring,then i caught him in a car with another girl kissing her,he said she meant nothing he hardly knew her and he was feeling sad,insecure and rejecte The fact that you stayed with this guy for 6 years, the fact that he bought a ring that I'm sure he knew you'd be happy to receive, and the fact that committment was willingly available from you - all these should be enough reassurance for him that he's loved, wanted, needed and important to at least one other person in this world. If he claims he's feeling insecure and...

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My parents are going through a divorce and I'm being blamed for all of this mess. Is it really my fault? Who do I tell and what do I tell them? I need to ask. Have they come right out and told you that it's your fault or is it anger that you're picking up from that makes you feel like they're blaming you? There's a big difference. Divorces are messy for all involved. People do get hurt. Children (even if at adult age when their parents divorce) become go-betweens for parents who don't know how to...

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What do you do when you give a friend advice and they don't take it? You can't live your friends lives for them. Also you can't always stop them from taking advice that would prevent them from making mistakes. Sometimes your friends need to experience a fall in order to know what not to do next time. Just be there for your friend, support them regardless (unless you know they're going to be committing a serious crime and in which case you may...

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I have a strange habit. I pull my hair out in individual strands my hair has become very thin because of it. I don't know anyone else who has this habit, but I can't stop. I do it without noticing. How can I stop? And has anyone ever heard of this before? First off, you're not the only person to do this. My husband does it but he pulls the hairs on his forearms. For him, it's a control thing. He has obsessive compulsive traits - what started off as just being someone who was particular about their surroundings and began to seek satisfaction via controlling their environment. This then translated into him pulling hair from his...

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Which piece of music just blows your mind? 'Forrest Gump Suite' by Alan Silvestri - just brings up the emotion each time. A soaring, emotive piece that really sums up the film and its protagonists trials and tribulations so well and yet at the same time capturing the calm, placid nature of the protagonist.

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Please share your opinion of "cutters". From what I know of it, Cutting is a form of self harm and a desir to divert away from issues at hand. It is also a sign of an attempt to gain control of a situation or even 'life' itself. I don't like labelling people by their actions - there are 'people who cut' or 'people who choose the option of cutting'. Labelling someone as a 'cutter'...

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Is abortion justifiable when a parent knows they are not ready and can not provide a good life for the child? Ideally, parents should take every possible precaution (even the catholic church has relaxed their stance on the no-contraception rule) until they literally are ready to be parents. I do think that terminating a pregnancy is an option that should be freely available to parents who just aren't ready. Some would say, if you get pregnant that you should just deal with it or that...

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My boyfriend said he is not using cocaine anymore but he's always blowing his nose and sneezing.He has no allergies.He stays out all night sometimes, is always irritable.Do you think he is still doing it? I'll start by saying my drug education isn't the greatest but point out that I have known and worked with some drug addicted clients. That said and hopefully considered, the nose blowing, sneezing, irritability could be signs of his body detoxing, him readjusting to not having the coke in his system and also it could be a sign that he's having difficulty dealing (especially if...

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Could you ever forgive someone who physically abused you? Yes. But not everyone would. I did because I learnt at a really young age that I wasn't going to survive if I didn't learn to let go of things. Also I learnt later in life that if I did't forgive the people who hurt me that I wouldn't ever be able to reclaim power over my own life.

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My ex-bf and I broke up 3yrs ago we barelly keep in touch that time and now I have a BF and I love him so much,I still Love My ex a little bit and now he starting to keep in touch with me again and it happends offen. is it ok to keep in touch with him? It depends on you and the reasons you're keeping in touch with him and also if it's affected how you see your new relationship. Also, does your ex know you're with someone? Have they met? Are you hiding his re-entry to your life (either by not letting your current bf know or lying and telling your bf that the ex is merely an old friend)? Are you lying to your ex and...

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Who handles breakups better? Men or women? Lots of factors can affect the way anyone - male or female deals with a break up. Women may deal better because it's more socially acceptable for them to express their feelings and cry etc. But for males it can be seen as a sign of weakness to be seen expressing themselves. As such women may deal with things more immediately. It's also affected by sense of self - if someone...

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I HAVE BEEN SEEING THIS LADY SINCE OCTOBER OF 2006. I RECENTLY FOUND OUT THAT SHE HAD A WEEKEND FLING WITH A MAN SHE MET ONLINE FROM MICHIGAN IN FEB. SHE TOLD ME THAT THEY JUST GOT TOGETHER AND HAD SEX, IT MEANT NOTHING MORE. WHAT SHOULD I DO? So four months into a seven month relationship she started another relationship online. Plans were made and they met up. Perhaps I'm jaded but it seems like she's trying to play it down. How vested are you in the relationship? Do you think you can trust her not to fool around on you again? Would she be prepare for you to speak to this person and get their side of things and...

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What is more important, to love or to be loved? I think that both are equally important. In order to be capable of love, you need to have experienced love yourself. And this is the reason why alot of individuals have a misguided / inappropriate concept of 'love'. I work in welfare and in particular with young people and one in particular has a skewed perspective of love and that has led him to indulge in inappropriate...

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Do you think cho the Virginia Tech murderer will have a movie soon?And what will the victims families do? I'm sure Michael Myers is gearing up and exercising his thumbs in readiness of scripting the film. And I'm also sure all the screenwriters out there will be putting pen to paper. The question is how the film is made. I doubt the victims' families will have any sort of recourse or method of stopping the film from going ahead. Much as it's a hateful thing, tragedy sells....

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What are some things you shouldn't ask people you just met? When's the baby due? Especially if it's someone who you're not sure is pregnant or simply overweight.

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Please help me. I have a stalker ex who won't leave me be. He has an FRO on me and threatens me with it constantly. He's told me I won't ever get rid of him. I can't live like this anymore. He's sociopathic. I have to make him want to leave me alone. How? The FRO should go both ways - it should have consequences included in it that mean that if he comes near you that he is automatically violating it and can be charged as well. Let the police know that and have witnesses there when it happens. He will get sloppy one of these days and just make sure you keep a diary of all his contact with you - document everything and if able have a hidden...

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My grandpa, was an SS officer(at Wewelsburg).1 night he was offered 'dessert': a carte blanche to unload all 8 rounds of his Luger at a group of Jewish servants.He accepted this 'honour' & shot 5 victims dead. Is everyone capable of these atrocities? I guess the thing to remember is that not everyone who committed these atrocities did so with glee and in the spirit of volunteering. Some did so in order to put food on their tables or to aviod persecution and as a result of peer pressure so as to not be seen sympathising with 'the enemy'. It's an awful thing and whilst some will say that this doesn't make them any...

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How would you rob a bank and get away with it? And without hurting anyone? You could do it slowly - take a pen one day, some deposit and withdrawal slips the next day, then become a little more ambitious and take something from the desk of a loan clerk (steal a keyboard just for the fun of seeing their expresion when they come back (do it when they're out of the room as they so often are when sitting down with clients) and realise something is missing... You...

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If God is everywhere why wasn't he at Virginia tech today? Interesting question. Whilst I'm not a strong subscriber to one religion or another due to preferring to lead a lifestyle that contains spiritualism whilst some around me are devoted to religion but only when it suits them or only in church.... I think that it's high time man claimed responsibility for the atrocities committed against each other. God didn't cause them (and...

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What is your reaction to the statement by the seller of the guns that killed the students at V Tech that all students should be armed? He says it would have prevented the massacre had someone else had a gun. I honestly have to say that I think this man is simply trying to defend his choice to sell a weapon to someone who ultimately used that weapon to cause such devastation. Yes, the constitution does mention the right to bear arms and the right to protect house and home etc, but that's not an excuse for everyone bearing arms. Can you imagine someone whipping out a gun and shooting someone...

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Do you think the footage shown on TV of the V Tech murderer could inspire copycats? Well, there is a chance it could but what I'd like to see is tighter security at communal gathering locations such as schools / colleges etc. I'd also like to see stricter profiling taking place and with better services made available to students and staff in the way of referrals to mental health services and general counselling being made more readily available. That said,...

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What is your favourite hat? I have a favourite beanie - it's pale lime green with a cross pattern running around it but I can't find it at the moment - I'm so annoyed and saddened at the same time. It's my favourite winter head-gear.

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What is the safest illegal drug. I know durgs are bad but what is the best one you can do without hurting yourself? Okay, I'll admit right here and now that my knowledge of drugs isn't so good, and I'm sure you don't want to hear this but there's no such thing as a safe illegal drug - that's why they're illegal. Also drugs in their very nature are addictive so the long term harm that comes from addiction is countless and immeasurable (yes, I know that I've just said...

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Do people think you over do with your pets? (buy them too many toys, etc) I think my parents definitely do - they're looking after my pooch. When my pooch is at my place he sleeps in a cushy kennel but still sleeps outside without complaint, he's got a stack of toys to keep him busy and gets biscuits (dog appropriate) and bones. That's the level of pampering he gets from us. From my parents however, he gets a $3,000 leather couch to lounge on at...

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Do people think you over do with your pets? (buy them too many toys, etc) I think my parents definitely do - they're looking after my pooch. When my pooch is at my place he sleeps in a cushy kennel but still sleeps outside without complaint, he's got a stack of toys to keep him busy and gets biscuits (dog appropriate) and bones. That's the level of pampering he gets from us. From my parents however, he gets a $3,000 leather couch to lounge on at...

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If there was a homeless person asking you for money, would you spare some change or would you care less? I'd stop and ask them what they wanted the money for and then try and buy the item for them if able. I'd also probably take them out for a meal and try to get a sense of their life and what led them to ending up homeless - not necessarily to be able to help them (sometimes there are the rare odd individual who chooses to be homeless as a preferred lifestyle) but just so they can feel...

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Is 'it's what boys do' a legitimate excuse as to why men have affairs? For a start I've not yet heard of that excuse. It sounds like a crock of baloney (whatever a crock of baloney actually is lol). Analyising the excuse, it sounds like an excuse to indulge in irresponsible behaviour without consequences or being made to face up to the devastation such actions cause. If my husband ever used that excuse on me or anyone I knew used that excuse I have...

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What's your favorite movie that you think I've never seen? The Experiment - it's a German film. Really fascinating stuff. Starring the same guy who was the love interest in Run Lola Run (another really great movie).

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When you are new in a relationship, and your partner birthday is soon, shall you buy him presents , or cake will be enough since you are new to each other? It depends on your values - ie if you and he like to make a fuss - or if it's expected. Perhaps take him out to dinner or something. Put it this way, if it was your birthday coming up, what would you expect? You don't want to go too over the top otherwie he could feel smothered but still there should be some kind of happy medium.

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Why do people open the tissue and look at their boogers after they blow their nose? I personally think it's due to our upbringing - our parents most likely did it when they got us to 'blow hard' just to check and see if there's anything there they should be worried about. Also, the colour of boogers tells alot about the health of the individual - green for instance isn't a good colour for boogers. In fact bright green or bright yellow are pretty...

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How can i keep close relationship with my extended family Be there for them, don't judge them, accept them for who they are - faults and everything. Also, spend time with them whether it be in person or via phone / e-mail. Don't crowd them but remember significant events - birthdays etc (diaries are good for this kind of thing). If they have bad events - funerals etc, be there for them too. Also, organise one on one time with your...

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Just a comment - This is the first night I've been on AB and it's been 2 hours. Unreal!!!!!!! I really do enjoy this. Great to have you here. Just make sure you set a clock or at least have one within sight - otherwise you'll end up finding it's been 8 hours and you've got to leave in 10 minutesa to go to work or school - I've done that many a time.

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What is the best gift you ever got from your partner? Bevis and Butthead - the Mike Judge collection. Far and away the best gift he gave me in 10 years. Perfect for me cause it meant he finally remembered what I liked and thought of a gift unusual enough that I completely didn't expect it.

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God has a son called Jesus; so does that mean God would have to have a wife? I think that in modern day terms (with a touch of cynicism thrown in), Jesus was the surrogate child to god - born of Mary and with Joseph included as Mary's husband but without Joseph as the birth father.

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Would it be feasible to live in a totally anarchic society? I think that ego would win out as well as corruption - unfortunately corruption is an inevitable part of life. Also, an anarchist society in the traditional snse would require equality of all and leadership of none other than perhaps a spokesperson - but then that's when trouble begins - the spokesperon is required to represent the entire community. Also, given the fact that everyone is...

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What is the most useless word you know? redundant - in employment terms it brings no comfort, in language terms it's considered an insult to the recipient, and in the world of reality it's just a wanky word to use.

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Do you tend to bring out the child in you? Definitely - being able to get in touch with my inner child is something I'm glad I can still do. I just need to keep my 'mini-me' in check to make sure I don't do anything inappropriate - ie, like flicking boogers at passing cars when I'm feeling like being silly. But I'm a puddle jumper from way back. It's great stress relief and a great reality check...

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My brother died a year and a half ago. His 16th Birthday would be tomorrow. Other than going to the cemetary, what are some good ways to "celebrate" the birthday of a deceased loved one? Do something that you know he would have loved to do. Catch up with his friends - celebrate his 16th even if he's not here to celebrate it. Donate to a charity that he'd have supported and do so in his name. Have a meal that he would've loved to eat. Write him a letter - even if he's not around to read it, it's still a way to feel closer to him. If you fought...

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I am such a pushover when a salesman comes into my home! I feel trapped and find it difficult to say 'No,' especially if they act disappointed (even if I can see they are manipulating me.) Any suggestions for standing firm and not buying their product? Tell them it's time for your daily sacrifice and would they mind holding the goat for you whilst you do the bleeding out. Tell them you're not interested and that if they persist in coming to your door that you'll call the police. Tell them that you owe money to alot of people including the mob (look shady and scared). Tell them your mommy will be home soon and she...

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When was the last time you laughed at something? Probably when I read the following sent to me via e-mail: "Famous - or rather, Infamous quotes" 1) When I die, I want to die like my grandfather--who died peacefully in his sleep. Not screaming like all the passengers in his car." --Author Unknown 2) Advice for the day: If you have a lot of tension and you get a headache, do what it says on the aspirin bottle: "Take...

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How do you look in to some one eyes and tell them how you really feel Take a deep breath, find a quiet moment and tell them how you feel. Don't stage things - then it gets cheesy, predictable and puts pressure on both of you. Expect that they won't necessarily feel the same in return. That horrible moment when you're standing there with them and expecting them to share their feelings with you and that they'll be just as intense / romantic...

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What do you think is the cause of most break-ups between couples? Poor communication, money, trust issues and inappropriate expectations from each other and the relationship - relationships are often sought by those wanting to solve other problems and when it's too late they realise they did the wrong thing. But that's not to say there's a perfect answer or a way to have a perfect relationship.

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My Finace has not want to have sex with me for awhile normal he dose all the time when i asked him about it he said that he was to tired. should i be worried that he is cheating on me. I agree with shady, 'tired' sounds like an excuse. Be upfront with him and let him know how you feel - tell him you're worried he could be seeing someone else- however if yuou ask for honesty be prepared to hear it as well. If you don't want to hear it, don't ask. Good luck.

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My boyfriend becomes buddies with every girl he encounters. He has several girls from his job that call him on his cell phone. Its only females that he makes friends with, never men. How many other female friends is acceptable for your boyfriend? I'm sensing that you're feeling a bit unappreciated and as though you're sharing your relationship with not just him but also his friends. There's a chance that the females that make friends with him are chasing him romantically but the thing you need to remember is that he's dating you. He's with you. Not them. I know that doesn't help make you feel...

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Ok! I need all of you to help me!~~ My cousin is having a baby boy but she and her husband cant agree on any names!....Can you PLEASE post as many boy names as you can think of? Get a baby book or search online - there's some great sites out there that have baby names. Also if they can't agree, tell them to either divide it up - ie one of them picks the first name and the other picks the middle name (or have a hyphenated one) or they can give one their loved ones the job of choosing a name. Just make sure the baby doesn't get a name that's...

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Have you ever called a teacher "mommy"? Yup and as a teacher have been called Mom / Mommy / Mum / Mummy. Freudian slips all round.

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What is the most insensitive present you have ever received? A present from my former best friend 'Dick Ring Toss' - it was a penis shaped pole on which rings are tossed (hence the name) - it was the most insulting, childish present I'd ever received. It was a contributing factor in the ending of our friendship. Even as a joke, it's damned tacky and she knew fully well that I didn't want anything like that.

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I also had a dream last night of having a miscarriage,it felt so real ,does someone know what this means? Miscarriages in dreams could be linked to fear of faiulre or fear of not meeting your true potential. I'm not an analyst of dreams but it could be your nerve center. When we're nervous we feel it in our stomachs, when we're upset we subconsciously want to eat or drink - that's related to the stomach. It could be stress of trying to get pregnant or stress of actually being...

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Should there be only one religion in the world? I think that the right to choose how you worship your god or gods is individual and everyone has the right to their belief system provided it doesn't cause the desecration of human life or denial of basic human rights. I also think that religion should not be used as a reason to start wars.

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What sound do you hate the most? (when you hear it it makes you almost die) Nails down a chalkboard, the sound of a child screaming in terror, the sound of an animal yelping in pain, the sound of a body hitting the ground with no life left in it.

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Describe how you would feel if you told your Mother you \ had been molested by a family member before you were 9yrs old and she did nothing about it. I would hope that in this day and age we all know that even if our own family are in denial about what we went through that the law would still investigate it. I would also hope that even if it wasn't something my family wanted to deal with that I could have the strength to make sure someone heard me - even if it was a teacher, a close friend - someone. I'd feel really...

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If you could make your own flavor of ice cream, what would it be? PB&J with chocolate.

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Have been with my gf for 7months now our relationship was good till 4 weeks ago when she checked my mail and ihad an email off this girl i met before her. well whn i met my gf i lied about not meeting any girls so now my gf dont trust me or forgive me. Tricky situation. Whilst it wasn't the best move, it's understandable that when put under pressure you made the stupid decision to lie. We all want those we love to think the best of us. Try telling her why you lied - hopefully you don't tell her you lied because you wanted to see this other girl behind your girlfriend's back. Be honest though. If you kept in contact...

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Do you like dragons?If so,why? From what I know about them, they're incredibly loyal, very protective, loving and fierce when pushed to be. So definitely love dragons.

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What is something you just can't say NO to? Answerbag. Is there a support group for addicts?

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If you found a wedding ring in the street, what would you do? I'd take it to a jeweler to se if there was a way to work out who owned it - I wouldn't sell in incase there were witnesses who saw me pick it up and later helped have me charged with theft. And having been robbed of everything I owned including my jewelry (alot of it given to me by my grandfather who died a year earlier), I couldn't do it to another person knowing what I went...

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How can a person stop thinking about their grandmom that died a week ago? All you can do is give it time. You can try to distract yourself by undertaking other activities but by actually trying to stop the grieving process, you're at risk of going into denial. Death is a hard thing to come to terms with and it's more painful than losing a leg, but it's also something we need to go through. Suppressed feelings tend to come out in ways that can get...

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Are us men expected to tell girls "why" we love them? What should you say if the girl asks & wants specifics? Ladies seriously, what do you wanna hear? How about you treat females with the same respect you afford males. You start your question with 'Men' and then 'Girls'. It's either boys and girls or men and women. If you're not prepared to treat women as your equals you could be in for some rocky relationships. As for your question itself... If you're with someone who'se feeling rather insecure it...

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Does anyone outside of your family have free access to your home, like Kramer on Seinfeld? Friends have my door key - I've lost enough to be scared of geting locked out so I get them to hang onto a key for me. They don't use the key though. I do have one friend however who barges in as she wishes. It's a bit annoying though because it's meant we have to remember to lock the door when we're at home just to keep her out.

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Whats the funniest thing you've seen printed on a shirt? "I am a bomb technician. If you see me running, try to keep up."

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I'm 27 years old, male, and I like to be alone. I make excuses to avoid hanging out with my friends or going to parties. Is this normal? I think it's a personality type than anything else. There are those out there who do prefer their own company and whilst I'm not one of those people, I must say that given the quality of my associations recently I don't blame you and in fact am a little jealous. You have friends - that's a good thing. Just make sure that if you're going to be a solo artist that you...

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Of all of the voices in your head, which is your favorite? The one that tells me I can do anything. Closely followed by the one that effectively convinces me to be reasonable, logical, calm, accepting and intelligent.

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If you had a building named after you, what would be in it? It'd be a real kick to have the Taj Mahal (in india not USA) named after me.

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My brother says that he likes to wear makeup. Isn't this a little abnormal? His choice or preference to wear makeup may be considered exceeding the 'norm' but it's still his choice or preference. I guess it would depend on how his choices affected his ability to lead his chosen lifestyle. I personally always thought it was unfair that females got to wear makeup and cover all manner of bad skin afflictions but the same luxury wasn't available to...

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If you found out that your dad worked in the Mafia, how would you react? I'd be wondering what would happen if they got a bad tax return (dad's an accountant). Also, I'd be asking no questions. The less I knew, the better, I'd imagine.

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How do you find a person in any state that is in ferderal prison? I have a feeling that if you know the full name and surname of the person you're looking for as well as details such as the crime they were convicted of, the court they were tried in (if at all) or the police station, you can track them down that way. Try googling the name and surname first of all and see where that takes you. It really depends on the crime, the location, their age...

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My best friends dad just died and i want to comfort her, what are some ways i can show her im here for her? Let her know that without question that you'll be there for her and if she wants to talk, you're ready. If the funeral hasn't taken place yet, let her know you'll be there with her as a support. When a close friend's grandmother died she wasn't sure she wanted me there but I went anyway and sat up the back and she was really grateful to have me there as support....

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What's one thing you miss about being a teenager? If you are a teenager, what will you miss? I miss not being able to lay around and not worry about getting a job or how I'm going to pay the bills...

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Should Answerbag have user-customizable skins? It's honestly something I've never thought of. I guess it'd be great if it could be customised so that we can go straight to our preferred categories for q&a, or customisable for font and fond size. However if it's merely cosmetic type customisation, I'm not sure I'd use them. But then hey, I originally said I'd never use AB for more than an hour a day...

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Is your career choice the one you had dreamed about as a child? Yup. Whilst I toyed with the idea of law or journalism, and I did indeed end up with a Journalism minor, I'm now working in welfare and qualified in welfare - something I always wanted to do.

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What do you sacrifice on a daily basis? My human rights and three tablespoons of peanut butter... I sacrifice them right into my stomach :D

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Why am I not an expert in anything? Do I just have answering ADD? Find a category which you feel that you know something about or which you feel you could help others benefit rom sharing your opinion / experience on. Then answer as many questions in that category as you can (without simply finding yourself resorting to point grabbing via simply answering questions for the sake of the points). I ended up doing it without realising and have found myself...

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Why is suicide so attractive to those who have considered or attempted it? Threatened suicide is usually a cry for help. It is a way to let those around know that things aren't okay - some use threates to test the waters and see who really cares. Others use threats as a way to alert those around to the fact that they're just not coping. Suicide that is successful is used as a way to end suffering for the person who suicides but also what they perceive...

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Should, a wise man play leap frog with a unicorn? Not if he has only one leg and balance problems.

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HAVE YOU THANKED GOD YET TODAY? What for? And you assume that God even comes into it. Not for me. Also what about those of us who don't have 'God' as part of their religious choices.

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Who wants my dog he is pissing me off? You could try putting an ad in the paper or if worst comes to worst try giving him to an animal shelter for rehabilitation and rehousing. If you can afford it however, try taking him to training or better still (and if you really can afford it), try hiring someone to take him for walks or playdates with other huskies. Huskies are massively energetic and if bored they get really destructive...

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Does a no-pets policy apply to pets that never leave the dwelling? I'd say so and if anything even more so - a pet that remains in its dwelling constantly will also be defacating in its dwelling and animals by nature have a distinct smell (or odour) and therefore when a person with a in-house pet moves out it costs the owner of the property alot in deoderising (in addition to the other expenses incurred when tenants change over). Mind you, that said, I...

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Do you like goats? I do like goats - they're extremely underestimated and often taken for granted. They have amazing fitness, dexterity, determination, focus and a sense of humour. Goats are also extremely environmentally friendly. I saw a goat near my house that was eating grass and then a month later my husband, sister in law and myself saw what I swear was the same goat wandering down the main street...

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Why is a cat's (or dog's) nose cold and wet at times, and warm and dry at other times? It's a sign of hydration and health. If an animal is unhealthy it's nose will be dry. The same goes for the animal if it's dehydrated its nose will be dry. Also, as animals age, their noses can get really dry.

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What should you do if you run over a dog? Note down where you were when you saw it, call information for the nearest animal hospital or vetenarian's office (if it's an area different to where you're from). Take the animal to the vet - do the right thing. Ask the vet to contact the animal's owners. If it was your fault admit it - more than likely there will be others who saw what happened and may be calling the...

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My boxers gums are swollen, BIG and red??? We aopted him that way and the previous owner said that it was a untreatable condition. I think it hurts him to eat sometimes. I cant afford to go to the doctor with him till next month. HELP PLEASE Call your local vet and ask them about the symptoms. You could also try taking him to an animal shelter - they have access to vet's that charge much less than others or even do work for free. Please take him to see someone because otherwise you could end up with a problem that isn't fixable or costs far more than you could afford to pay. You did the right thing in adopting your...

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If guns are outlawed, how will that stop criminals from killing people? A gun is merely metal and other materials. A gun is just an object. It's the people who kill. However, outlawing guns isn't a bad thing. In Australia guns are only legal if posessed by law enforcement officials or those who use them for containment or hunting purposes. http://www.crimelibrary.com/notorious_murders/mass/bryant/index_1.html The above link is to Australia's...

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What's the difference between an art and a craft? I think craft is meant to be fun whereas Art is considered a skillful pursuit... not that craft can't be skillful. If I wanted to be smart I could say that Craft is Art rearranged with two extra letters. But I won't ;)

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What word do you use for underwear? (i.e. panties, 'knickers', jocks, etc) Too many answers to scroll through so sorry if I repeated one already given: "Underdaks" "Nanna-jocks" "Granny Pants" "Budgie-Smugglers" "G-Banger"

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I'm a believer in prayer; However, I know someone who is praying for me about something that I do not want to happen to me; They have good intentions, but should I just leave it alone? Hmm. seems Answerbag is playing up. I was typing and then the answer I typed got wiped. Then again could be that I'm typing pretty fast so hit a key without realising. Anyway, it's a tough question. You have a couple of options: Counter-pray for what it is you really do want. Speak to them and ask them to pray for what it is you really do want. Speak to them and ask them...

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When it is all falling apart in your life, what is the best thing to do? Tomorrow is another day. Don't do anything hasty without first sleeping on it or at least thinking it through over a coffee. Allow yourself a moment or two to wallow. Detox it from your system by going for a run / eating comfort food / crying your eyes out (rent a sad movie or listen to some really sad music if you need help starting) / have a nap even. Do what feels right for you....

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Has it ever crossed your mind that maybe you're mentally insane? Sometimes I fantasise about padded cells, being drugged to the eyeballs and eating playdo... Does that count?

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Oprah : like her or not? Would like her a hell of alot more if she'd deal with her constant need for gratification - I say this because what I've seen of her show consists of her interviewing people and then turning the interview somehow back to her and her experiences and then she spends alot of time interviewing her friends. And when she interviews her friends they don't dare disagree with her -...

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How many trash cans on in your room?............................ How many tissue boxes are in your room?.............................. How many clocks are in you room? The room I'm currently in has one trash can, one recycling box, three tissue boxes (one empty) and eight clocks. It's a lounge/ kitchen/dining and filled with technology that has clocks as well as three clocks - one of which tells weather as well as time one is a digital alarm and the other is a wall clock.

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When you asks somebody a question, do you really want to know the honest, truth? It's like advice. Depending on the kind of people we are, we go to particular people with particular problems. We also only ask particular people particular questions. Unless we're desparate for an opinion and there's only a random stranger present to whom we've said nothing and about whom we've made no assumptions (in terms of which way they'll swing with their...

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Why do people get hungrier whenever the weather is cold? I think it's because their body uses more fuel trying to stay warm so that's why things like chicken soup, carb based stuff like bread, pizza, fries etc, is craved. Also, people tend to feel down when they're cold which is why they crave junk food like potato chips / chocolates and alot of people drink for warmth and to make evenings pass faster. But hey, I'm no...

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Have you sat in a line of side traffic , and had to wait for someone from a main flow to let you in, when they do, do you raise your hand to acknowledge a thank you? Absolutely. I wave, smile, and then when I'm in front of them, I wave yet again. I then make sure I do a favour to someone else and let them infront of me when I can- like paying it forward.

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Will you be my friend? (I'll even give you $5) Is that all a friendship is worth? Mine in particular?? Why you couldn't even buy a nutritious meal with that much less MacDonalds. I'd get more money if I stood on a street corner and stuck my chest forwards.. (not that I've tried it - I'm broke but it's not quite that desparate just yet). I could be your friend for free... then occasionally blackmail you into...

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If your a lawyer and you believe your client is guilty, should you still wholeheartedly defend them? Yes because they too are entitled to due process. If you feel that your belief is based on findable knowledge and therefore you would feel that you are getting dangerously close to perjuring yourself in closing statements, you will need to put some thought into whether you excuse yourself from the case and what you do with the information you have. Either way, whether you believe them or not...

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What is the saddest song you have ever heard? "Together Again" by Janet Jackson. Got to be one of the sweetest and saddest songs. Brings me to tears every time I hear it.

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How do you get a six yr old to stop swearing? 1. By making sure you're not using bad language around them yourself. 2. By asking those around your child to please stop swearing (if that's what is going on). 3. By asking your child where they learnt language like that and if they use that language at school. 4. If the language is being learnt from and or used at school, talk to the teacher - it's likely that you're...

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What was the last show you watched? Sad to admit but it's Touched By An Angel. Foxtel are finally playing the last series.

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I've grown tired of the constant "My boyfriend cheated on me! What am I supposed to do now??" questions. Who here is an actual relationship expert? According to my profile I'm listed as a hidden feelings expert. And I will jump up and answer the 'I cheated' or 'I got cheated on' type questions. They do get kinda repetitive though.

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What do you do if someone cuts their way in front of you if you're in a long line? Do you say something or allow them to proceed? I would and do stand up to them and ask them to go to the back of the line - it's not just me that they've cheated but the others behind me also. If need be, I call out for help from staff around or people in the line. Seldom has it ever gotten to the point where staff have had to intervene thankfully.

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If you could describe your life in ONE sentence...what would that sentence be? "Monkey saw, monkey did, monkey learnt better."

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I accidentally just burnt part of my hair around my face and some bangs with a lighter. Any suggestions on how to get the white burnt pieces out of my hair without cutting it? I'm not a hairdresser but I do suspect that if the dead-ends aren't trimmed off that you're going to be risking split ends later on which could mean having to have far more cut off at a later date. That said, if you want to grow your hair out a little so that the healthy hair is at a good length, just disguise the burnt ends with hair-colour (try the kind people use when they...

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Do you think there's a bias against answers with a link to Wikipedia (even if it's useful info) here in AB? Wikipedia is community based and it really should be accompanied a disclaimer like the one in Answerbag: "Important: Answerbag cannot guarantee the accuracy of answers submitted by members, and we recommend that you use common sense when following any advice found here." I've only come across one individual who questioned me linking into Answerbag. I guess like everything...

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How did you feel the minute you heard that Steve Irwin died? I thought it was bizarre and a joke in the first few seconds but then just a second after I figured that at least he died doing what he loved. What a freaky way to die though. Then a few seconds after that (literally, yes, I think quick and like a bumblebee on acid), I started to wonder how long it would take for his death to become exploited and how long till the jokes started.

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Do people ever have trouble pronouncing your first or last name? This is similar to a question asked recently. That said as I'm too lazy to find and flag, I'll just answer hehe. My married surname is 'Follett' - like the Author Ken Follett. But for some reason people pronounce it as "Fol-lett" "Foll-ett" or "Fill-ay". They think it's french. I'm fairly sure it's not though.

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Would you stand up on a bus to give your seat up for an older person, or a pregnant lady? Yup. I would. And also would for someone with a disability.

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Does anybody in the UK or Australia listen to North American country/western music? Are there even a few such bands roaming around? Is that like Cowboy Troy? Am directionally challenged so unsure if you mean American country music or not (the north part threw me)

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Who would you find harder to work for... Basil Fawlty (Fawlty Towers) or David Brent (The Office) First off. Most awesome question! Second off... That's a tough one. Both are hapless in their own way. Basil is a nazi boss and irritating but then David is spineless and irritating. I'd say Basil because if I had to sink low enough I could resort to seducing David into treating me nicely and David doesn't seem to care too much about what his employees do whereas...

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What is th best pcikup line you've hearD? "Nice outfit, wanna f***?" - complimentary, direct, brief, cheeky enough to posibbly work (providing the recipient of the line is drugged / trashed out of their mind.

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I've had a chronic, non-mucus cough for over a month now. I thought it was smoker's cough so stopped smoking, but the cough is still there. P.S. It's been 4 days since my last cigarette. Like Auntie Em said, your cough will become worse before it's better. Also, four days won't bring immediate results. You need to work on your fitness and lung capacity. Go and see a doctor and get them to help monitor your progress. And congratulations for stopping smoking - it may be an up and down thing - you may go back to smoking but hey, you've taken the first step...

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My mom has threaten to hit me.Is this wrong? What should I do? Back away. Don't antagonise her further because then whilst it is child abuse it's also aggravated assault - not just assault. Aggravated is when one party has, knowingly or otherwise, triggered off the perpetrator and the perpetrator has reacted with assault. Try taking yourself to your room or a safe place - go for a walk even and come back when you think she's calm....

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I met this girl at work. I have been friends with her for about 6 months now. I have been hiding these feeling for her for some time now and its killing me inside She is everything i ever wanted in a girl. We have the most in common, but she calls me her I'm guessing 'friend' is the last word there but one you ran out of space for? It must hurt alot to have her think of you as just a 'friend'. Remember though, some of the best, longest lasting relationships are built on friendship. Friendship can be far more rewarding than romantic relationships as well. Also, when you end up in a romantic relationship...

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FILL IN THE BLANK: The world owes me ______. The world owes me a kick in the pants for not taking ownership of my treatment of it and for not taking the blame for things I did knowingly or otherwise. The world also owes me a kick in the pants for not growing up and admitting my own part in my life.

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What's the most expensive thing you wished you never bought? My car. It's got no central locking or airconditioning. The only good thing about it is that it's cheap on fuel.

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Is karma or 'paying it forward' a selfish or altruistic act? Surely the deed is its own reward, and expecting something in return negates the act... or does it? True positive karma is unexpected but true negative karma can be both expected and unexpected and often we can read something as being karma when it was just something that took place anyway. As beings - human or otherwise, we are motivational - we are prompted into doing things in an action reaction type of way. Its how we're raised so in a way it's second nature. The complication...

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How much did your wedding cost? We had 50 guests attend our wedding, it was held at a heritage listed property, we had a celebrant attend, we had finger food, entrees, main, dessert, coffee and cheese as well as softdrinks, alcohol, fresh water and we organised tours for everyone. We organised the tuxes, bought ties for the males in the wedding party, we bought saris for each of the females in the wedding party and had a...

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When my headphones are plugged into my psp, everything works fine. But when i unplug the headphones, the screen says the song keeps going but i cant hear it! HELP ME!!! I'm not too familiar with PSP's but does it need to have some kind of sound output plugged into it in order to hear it? That sounds bizarre and obbvious I know but do you need to have speakers plugged in if not headphones?

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How often do you talk to yourself? I don't talk to myself, I just have lots of friends who live in my head and talk to me...

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If you like mushrooms on your spaghetti, how do you avoid that they have a color and texture nearly identical to sliced earthworms? laughed my ass off when I read this question - its just so innocent and slightly tongue in cheek. I honestly never thought of mushrooms as being like sliced earthworms. Still, that won't stop me eating them

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I cheated on my boyfriend of 1 yr a few days ago.it's killing me.i do not know if i should tell him or not.he once said that we would never break up unless i cheated on him. he also said hed jump off a bridge if i cheated on him. what do i do? If you end things with him make it really clear to him that it's not his fault. Whether you tell him you cheated or not is up to you - if you tell him you cheated he may become more upset than he would otherwise or he may then become really suspicious of future relationships. If your boyfriend reacts by trying to end his life you cannot be held responsible for that. IT's not...

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I always wonder if I'm the last person on Answerbag at this time of night (12am on my side of the world), so I've decided to have a roll call. Who's still on Answerbag right now? 4.19pm here on Wednesday

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Who stole the cookies from the cookie jar? I think OJ did it... if the Jar does not fit you must acquit!

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Myspace sometimes makes young people vulnerable to child pornographers or predators. Yet it now has 65 million members...Thoughts? Both Myspace and Answerbag (not to mention the other contribution based sites out there) can be a hotbed of underhanded activity. We may need to take greater care to look out for each other - particularly the younger members of these places. Perhaps these sites need to have a proof-of age requirement and parental consent with parental access to the content that underage users are viewing or...

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If you could own any company, which would it be? Any of the fast-food giants because I would force them to change their products so that they were healthier and I'd ensure their staff were encouraged to be better educated.

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If you could be something other than human what would you be? I'd be a sloth - they're not commonly hunted for their fur, they look kinda cool like a cross between cute and feral.

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Do any of you have a problem with me not understanding all english? because some people are typing like they are mad at me for putting the wrong word in. I think it's admirable that you're making an effort. Just remember, whilst you might read something and feel offended it might not actually be intended to be offensive. This is a fast site at times and words fly back and forth like crazy so the 'lost in translation' effect can occur.

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What misspelling/mispronunciation of your name bothers you the most? I actually changed my entire name by deed poll because of growing up with it being mispronounced or being teased because of my name and the deliberate mispronunciations I'd have to endure. Oh and I did get married - leading up to the wedding at a family dinner I stood up and thanked my husband for doing my father the ultimate honour and agreeing to take my family surname instead of the...

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Is nevets actually MrMaxwell? Think not. They have two different writing styles and opinions on things... mind you, I've not seen Nevets and MrMaxwell in the same room at the same time...

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What televison commercial makes you jump for the remote to change the channel? Those ones that ask you to text to a certain number in order to get a ring-tone or dating match or some other crap designed to prey on the gullible and ignorant of cost. I specially dislike commercials that require you to text the word 'STOP' to a number in order to stop receiving tunes/ pictures whatever it is that costs anywhere from $2 upwards per item automatically sent to...

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Is there any way to make your handwriting smaller, neater, and more legible? practice: Good, better, best, Never let it rest, Till your good is better, And your better best. - A little poem my Grandfather (an educator) taught me when I was really young and learning to write.

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This guy keeps on calling me fat and ugly but i know i'm not what should i do? Turn to him the next time and say calmly, without shouting and without sarcasm "Okay, if you say so" and walk away. It'll leave him dumfounded and needing to come up with something else to say. Let go of the desire to prove him wrong or punch his head in - reacting in any way other than acceptance / indifference will mean they still have power over you so either don't...

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Is it okay to touch up makeup in public or should I go to the ladies room? I put my makeup on in the car whilst at traffic lights (red, not green lol). That said, if you need to lay out an entire kit, then perhaps you need to start getting ready earlier before you leave the house. Oh, and I think that lipstick and a touch up of powder or blush is okay. But perhaps it is more discrete to go to the ladies room where the light may possibly be more appropriate anyway.

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After your death, an author will write your biography. What will the title be? Late... even to her own funeral

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Are smear campaigns an honorable way to destroy someone's life? No. Smear campaigns by their very nature require underhanded tactics, reputation destroying and being quite loose with interpretations of events, perceptions and deeds. Smear campaigns also have a tendency to get out of control and more than that, often laws are broken and those doing the smearing come quite close to harassment, libel and slander. I don't think that destroying...

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Be creative. If you were homeless and had to stand on a street corner with a cardboard sign, what would you write? This is a duplicate question if memory serves me correctly And no smartass, that's not what I'd put on my sign. http://www.answerbag.com/q_view/93750 I tried to flag it as a duplicate but couldn't match it up to the original which states: "Be creative. If you were homeless and had to stand on a street corner with a cardboard sign, what would you write?" ...

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Do you know of anybody or have you ever used all 1000 characters of the comment box? I have. Exactly all 1000 characters. Check through my profile and comments if you doubt me :)

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What is your least favorite phrase? "I hate (insert nationality / cultural group). They're ALL just so (insert ignorant offensive and incorrect assumption)"

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Who is hotter holly vallance or victoria beckam I've flagged this due to it not being in the right category have recommended it be changed to: Entertainment>>Celebrities

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Would you rather be buried or cremated? Cremated but only once I'm autopsied (just in case my death is shady) and my organs are taken for transplant purposes. Aside from me not liking the idea of being underground with insects etc or having my body available for a necrophile or grave robber / desecrator, I have relatives buried overseas and it's a traumatic event each time we go overseas and go to the gravesites. I...

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Can you describe your father in one word? Sorry - I had to add another one (will explain why) "Anonymous" I have a birth father. I know his name, know what he did for a living when I was born but that's it - he could be alive, dead, living in Australia living somewhere else... I do plan to find him one day.

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Can you describe your father in one word? Adaptive Here's my cheat-sheet: My Dad upon finding out he and my Mum couldn't have kids went straight to adoption as their option. My Dad upon realising his ethics were stronger than his ability to stay in a crappy job left and began his own business. And until 4 years ago when I tried to help my dad accept and come to terms with my mum's Dementia, my Dad was someone who...

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Do fat girls have feelings? The true question is does it hurt to know that the way you're going, before long you won't even be able to get someone to spit on you if you were on fire?

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If you had a million dollars dropped on your doorstep (in cash) what would you do? Not give it back for a start :D Then hmm... I'd put half of it in the bank to earn interest. The other half I'd use to do the following: Pay off my debts Go on a cool holiday Buy a house Get plastic surgery - lipo type reduction stuff Pay my way through Uni to get a counsellor's qualification (I can counsel at the moment but not own my own counselling practice which is...

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What is the worst joke you have ever heard? Why'd the mexican push his wife off the cliff? Tequila

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If you could write a message in the sky, what would it say? "Straighten Up And Fly Right" - title & lyrics to one of my favourite songs.

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Pro's and Con's of performing surgery on oneself? Pro's You know who'se operating on you You save on money No waiting list for hospital No-one to tell you don't qualify for surgery Con's You know who'se operating on you You don't have anyone you can sue if things go wrong - other than yourself... If you stuff up and end up dead you'll end up in the darwin awards

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Can I have a hug? You can but you may not... Sorry - something I remember my grade 3 teacher drilling into us kids. Mind you not that it ever stuck - we still insisted on the 'can I' question. I think we might have even done it as a sticking point - just to irritate her.

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Should I bring this up to my Fiancee before or after the wedding? I was sleeping with my mother in law when my sister in law walked in...Instead of freaking out she asked if we could make it a 3some; now they both are pregnant, will my fiancee be cool? Nothing sadder than a lamer wannabe troll - in fact this idiot makes the trolls look good. Must have tried out for Jerry Springer and missed out on getting a call-back. (Edit: Tickler, I've checked out some of the other questions you've asked and answers you've given and I don't get why on earth you'd ask something as silly as this - it started you off on a bad foot...

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I have the choice of working for 4 hours babysitting and making $40 or volunteering all day which wouldn't make any money but its for my church which has done so much for me. My sister who also needs the money would take the sitting job. What should I do? Perhaps one of you should babysit whilst the other volunteers and then just split the money?

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What would you do if you found out that your husband was taping your phone making you think it was the police and he has no reason to not trust me? It sounds like you may be in a controlling relationship - control is used as a form of abuse. He's been dishonest with you - never a good sign and particularly when it means his dishonesty has reduced your trust in protective services such as the police. It could be done to ensure you don't go to the police if things get worse. He might be trying to play mind games with you and...

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Do you think it's possible for people to truely change? My ex was mentally and emotionally abusive and he wants to get back together someday. I love him, but I absolutely stand firm on saying no way in hell unless he does ALOT of changing. Is it possible? Change is possible. It's how we have evolved as humans and it's the reason for all the technology we now have. You're allowed to still love your ex. Even if he hurt you badly. Love is love - it doesn't discriminate or choose. It is understandable that you may be wavering at this time- hope is something we have as humans. We hope they've changed, we hope they...

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My ex wants to get back together but I just want to be friends. We started out being great friends but now he wont really talk to me at all and is sort of rude sometimes. Its like all or nothing. Why can't he just be friends with me? He's had a taste of champagne and now has to go back to water. Given the choice wouldn't you pursue the champagne? Well to him, you're the champagne and he's being told to have water whislt being in company of champagne. We need to remember that not everyone can move on as easily as we can. Sadly, it's near impossible to go back to being friends unless you...

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What is meant by spiritual intimacy? Laying in bed and yelling out "Oh God!!!"? I know there's a proper answer to this one... I'll get back to it.

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Who is cuter: Johnny Depp, a toddler taking its first step or puppy? Johnny Depp.... holding a puppy and watching a toddler take its first step... Arrrr..

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Why won't my boyfriend, at least propose to me or talk to me about marriage, especially since we've been together for 3 yrs? Am I being decieved or taken advantage of? There's no rule that says you can't ask him first. And yes, I know, all of us want to be proposed to. But hey. I knew my husband was moving in the direction of settling down and with me but he was taking his time so I pinned him down (literally) and proposed to him - or rather demanded he stop wasting time and get on with it... mind you we'd been together six years by that...

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My kitten cries every night between 3AM-5AM. He is not allowed in the bedroom but every night like clock-work he sits out side my bedroom door and cries off and on for periods of time. Does anyone know why? It could be that that's when he wakes up and realises there isn't anyone with him and he realises that the doorway is nearest to where you are. Get a clock and wrap it in blankets and place it in a basket with faux-fur lining it. That way the kitten might think it's another kitten or cat and think he should just be there and hopefully asleep. he may also be hungry so...

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Do you want me give you something to cry for? Yeah... why not... hit me up.

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Will you do anything about your health this year? Definitely! Finally getting a diagnosis for something that's caused me to put on a large amount of weight and once it's fixed I'll be back to eating healthy and with better food in me it means I'll have more good energy and be able to get back out there and start exercising and hopefully running again.

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How do you heal a broken heart? With time, understanding, support, patience and love. Also by remembering that each person's experience and what has led them to having their heart broken is a unique experience and one that each person reacts to differently. However that said, broken hearts should be something most people can understand and have as a shared factor - something in common despite it being unique. ...

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If someone you knew and liked (ie a loved one or friend) did something wrong, would you report them or keep it quiet? Watch this space - I will post my answer in about 20 hours (tomorrow my time :D)

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Do you report animal abuse? No. I observe, i take film or if unable then photos then I report. I also intervene and take animals from their owners if I see them hurting their pets. It sounds quite drastic but an animal can't answer back and I've heard too many people that hurt their pets say that they didn't do it and due to lack of actual evidence they get away with it so that's why I record...

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Anybody know any really scary movies? I'm gonna try to pull a late nighter with my friends and rent some really scary movies :) The Ring (American or Japanese) Saw I, II or III (apparently III was not just scary but also quite gross) You could also try watching Waterworld - it's scary, but not quite in the way you might expect.

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I'm a little behind the times. When exactly did 'metro-sexual' become a commonly used term? A few years ago it started but only became part of common language about two years ago. Now however (supposedly) its being outdated and replaced by the term 'retrosexual' - a guy who doesn't use products on his face and hair and who goes more for comfort than style.

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Is there someone famous that is considered beautiful, that you think is not? Angelina Jolie She got eyes like saucers and lips like a bunched up nappy

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What is the worst advice someone gave you? "It'll only hurt like having an elephant tango on your foot for three days..." I was having my wisdom teeth out and it seems that whenever people hear you're going into surgery they all dredge up their stories of pain, procedures going wrong and monumental medical malpractice.

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Do you personally know anyone that is racist? Sadly yes. My sister in law, my mother in law and my father in law. Quite sad considering that I'm from a different culture. They didn't accept me at all at first but now they consider me as family however I'm still really aware that under the surface the racism is still there -they just hold back on it a little for me. My husband however doesnt' even have a racist...

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I have a kind of friend that thinks that we are best friends, but I'm uncomfortable with it. I've known her 3 years now and I see her every week. How do I end this? She may consider you as her best friend but that doesn't mean you consider her yours. Does that make sense? Clearly she gets alot out of the friendship. Is that such a bad thing? There are no such things as equal relationships. One person will always get more out of it than the other or put more value in it than the other. As long as you are clear in your own mind about the...

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Just recently a very close friend of mine went all crazy on me while he was completely wasted. He said unimaginable things, but I also yelled back defending myself. He ended the friendship. Who's in the wrong? Am I better off? Sorry to be hurtful but he may have wanted to end the friendship all along but only been brave enough when under the influence. Substances can bring the truth out in people because they feel brave enough to say what they really feel. He may have ended up the friendship due to not being brave enough to face you and apologise. Friends do have fallings out. It happens. I guess you...

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How do you cope with having to let your best friend go? does the hurt ever go away? It can hurt badly for years. I've been through it in the worst way. But I can say this - it does get better - even if slowly. Just hang in there and surround yourself by friends who do make you happy and who will stand by you through your grieving. And whatever you do, don't simply rip up all photos or memorabilia because you may someday come through the hurt, forgive the loss of...

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What is the worst thing you can say to a friend. That you don't want anything to do with them anymore. That you're carrying their partner's child. That their wife is carrying your child. That they really should try out for American Idol

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If you don't believe in abortion and your friend asks you for a ride to planned parenthood,what would you do? Considering that we appear to be considering both sides of abortion in discussing this question, it's important to keep in mind that despite our opinions whether we are for or against it's the person who is seeking the abortion who will be ultimately affected. An unplanned pregnancy can be traumatic for the mother but being guilted into having a child that they're not prepared...

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I think one of my friends is abused. I've known her for three years, and the suspicion has grown on me. she recently became suicidal, and although she's seeing a counselor, is getting worse. i don't think that anybody else knows. what should i do? As both a teacher and also a welfare worker, your friend's counsellor should be bound to report what she is being told if she discovers that your friend or anyone known to her is in danger. It's called mandatory reporting. However, if your friend isn't telling her counsellor what's going on, there's nothing the counsellor can do till she sees signs of abuse. ...

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My hub tells me that I shouldnt get mad when he goes out to bars, but he goes out 4-6 nights out of the week until 2-6 in the morning.I'm always at home w/our 21month old child and I'm also pregnant. He's the only one who works.Am I over reacting? Hell no! You're not overreacting. However, rather than get mad, try to stay calm and ask him to think honestly about why it is that he's going out so often and for so long. It's not just that he's going out so often and leaving you alone with your child but that he's most likely spending money when he goes out. I don't care if he works and neither...

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Would you stay with someone who tells everyone else that you're worthless, but who is nice to your face? Perhaps I'm reading more into this than I should but this reminds me of abuse. You don't need to be getting physically or sexually hurt in order to be abused. You ned to remember that you're better than that. They know it too because of the fact that they are nice to you. It sounds like they need to grow up and stop backstabbing you. And you need to realise your true worth...

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Am I insensitive or shallow for wanting to break up a long term relationship because my partner is obese and hasn't made any major weight loss strides in the 3 years since I told her she needed to lose the weight? It depends on your reasons for wanting her to lose weight. Is it because you want to be seen with someone who is more attractive? OR is it because you are concerned about her health. Also, have you taken any steps to help her lose weight other than pointing out what you see as a need for her to lose weight? It's like an addiction or major life change that others see that needs to...

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I have told my girlfriend a lot about my past, but she seems to use it as ammunition against me. Out of no where she would tell me that she hates me because she remembers what I told her that to her its bad or stupid of me to have done so. Whilst it's good to be honest, honesty is someting that can backfire against you. I guess you need to think about whether you really do need to tell her about your past. Would you be putting your relationsip and hers and your safety (mental, emotional, physical and sexual) at risk by not bing honest? And it also depends on how you tell her. You need to be careful of your timing and I...

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Do you think men get the respect they deserve? I think it's harder these days to get respect as a male. Times have changed and it seems that men are ither being too sensitive or not sensitive enough. I certainly don't envy males in this day and age!

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Complete this... i wish i can _______ I wish I can come up with a question that doesn't require blanks to be filled.

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Which type of people are you more prejudiced against, smokers or obese people? Neither. Lots of things can lead a person to taking up smoking or becoming obese - if the obesity is food-caused then both obesity and smoking are addictive and considered disorders which require assistance. I will however say that whilst obesity affects immediate relatives due to the impact that obesity can have on those around, smoking can have untold consequences - particularly if...

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What types of noise pollution do you hate the most? Political party advertising

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If you had to chose a job that makes less money than you are making now, what would it be? working in welfare... no wait... I already do. how sad that I'd be paid more if I was actually ON welfare rather than working in the field OF welfare. Still I don't do this job for the money...

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For fun or if you are serious. If-- you where to start a gang what would be the name of the gang and what purpose would they serve? It'd be a gang like Robin Hood - we'd rob from the politically corrupt and give to the truly needy. As for our clever name? I can't find one...

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How could he fool us? We made him a wiz! You might want to provide a few more details. Otherwise your question might risk being flagged as nonsense.

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Do you think that what you have written in the "About Me" section of your profile right now actually describes you well? If not, why did you pick it? Mine needs to be updated. Thanks for the reminder.

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What animal should rule the earth? Sloths - we'd all be sitting around in trees and so lazy that we'd never even bother going to war.

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"Keep your friends close, and your enemies closer" - good or bad advice? Keeping your enemies closer than friends could cause confusion and also cause you to be far more vulnerable for attack.

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A man gave a woman his phone number and she responded that she would not call him. Then two months later he became engaged to another woman. What is going on in his mind? Let's talk this through... So he met Female A and gave her his phone number. He clearly found a need to initiate what he hoped would be ongoing contact. She however didn't recognise or share that need and thus told him she would not utilise his offer of contact details. He then met Female B, things went better with her and they decided to marry. There is a chance he...

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The city of Bangor, Maine passed a law making it illegal to smoke in vehicles in which children are passengers. Necessary or infringement? What is your personal opinion of the law? I think it's a fantastic law. Whilst one would hope that adults might have the sense to not expose children / early adolescents to cigarette smoke due to the well advertised dangers of passive smoking, not all parents would actually follow recommended health guidelines. PErhaps these are parents who need more motivation and if the threat of a fine etc is what it takes, then hey, I say go...

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Do you stand your ground? I try to but it depends on what I'm standing my ground over - sometimes it's helpful to step back and evaluate whether it's worth standing my ground over the issue at hand - it's the old saying 'pick your battles'.

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Nothing attracts a crowd like __________ 1) a car accident 2) good music 3) a bar brawl 4) winning the lottery 5) a fatality

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I was told by another member of my homeowner's association that the rules and regulations were no longer valid, according to his attorney. Is this possible, and what could cause the rules to be no longer binding? It might be possible but without knowing the full details it's hard to offer advice. What I can however do is recommend strongly that you have your own attorney to look over the paperwork that is available. Just make sure that if your attorney doesn't know too much about the area of property law, that they refer you onto an attorney who does so that you can address the issue...

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Why does my cat pee on the towl in front of the litter box but poop in the litter box It might be thinking the towel is like grass. Cats and dogs generally like to cover their feces but not urine. I think that's why it pees on the towel. Try covering the towel with newspaper or better yet, removing the towel altogether and simply putting the box on a sturdy outdoor style door mat.

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Other than your clothes, what things do you have on your body all the time? skin, hair, jewelry, bodily fluids?

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Why is it that humans in Europe and eastern continents evolved quicker mentally than humans in the Americas? For example… while Europeans had guns and steel weapons and armor, there were still "savages" with bows and arrows and granite daggers? Simplistic though my answer may be, was it to do with ages of industrialism?

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Does any country have the "right" or "obligation" to impose its will or values upon another? They don't have the right do do so unless in doing so they are upholding their written laws or constitutions etc. However, that said, it happens all the time. And each country's citizens do it also. We expect foreigners to speak our language, understand our laws and customs and behave like us. In doing so, we also expect them to let their own language and customs go and when they...

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I am a new user of contact lenses, my lense container, the right lense cover is blue and the right is white. One lense is almost clear and one lense is tinted blue. Im worried I have put the lenses back in the wrong place. how can you tell? Hopefully your eyes are different strengths so if you wear them and you have trouble seeing, then just switch them - but make sure you rinse them thoroughly first. Is there a specific reason one lense is clear and the other isn't? Generally opticians don't recommend you get lenses where one is tinted and the other isn't.

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Whats the worst movie you've ever seen? Waterworld...

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WHY I EVERY TIME I TRY TO VIEW MY FRIEND REQUEST ON MYSPACE IT SAY myspace's technical group unexpected error. Myspace is having major issues this month apparently. Just take a note of the error and how often it occurs as well as whether you click on refresh or back et. That kind of stuff can help.

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Does rational thought conflict with altruistic ideals? It can. for example if you're the kind of person who helps everyone, you may not stop to think about how it could drain you on multiple levels. Then when you do realise it can cause internal conflict for you - you want to help but you now realise it's not possible all the time. It then means you have to be more discrete, more discriminating and far more selective - you need...

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Who sings "Shorty Freak A Little Something"? Not the Lil Jon and Eastside Boys version.I think it's the original version. I've searched and searched and can't find that song anywhere. It's a 90's R&B song. Does anyone know who sings that song? LL cool J I think - well least that's what google tells me :D

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Why does Molested_By_Chub_Daddy keep crapping his pants and then leting us know about it? Fecal envy?

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How can I get into high society? I want to be a lord! There may be a chance you can actually purchase a title. it won't necessarily get you far for long though because those who seriously socialise in high circles tend to have their research done for them and would thus discover your 'lordship' title is merely a paid one rather than inherited or royally bestowed.

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How did Darth Vader sleep? Judging by his breathing issues quite possibly with a pillow over his face and more likely to be held down by a sleep-deprived and crazed wife.

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Do you ever have a hard time practicing what you preach? Or do you have any good suggestions on how to follow your own advice more closely? Don't preach what you can't or won't pratice. Better yet, instead of preaching, try listening and letting those you'd usually preach to, come up with solutions that you help them achieve provided they're practical, legal and achievable.

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What would make your life better? Perfect health. And a permanently annual money tree that never ran dry.... And... a perfect life... Ah, I'd settle for a steak... I'd give up Answerbag for a month (eek! say it ain't so) if I could eat and keep down a steak...

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When was the last time you were really disappointed? why? My 30th birthday. It was pretty bad - only three people came and yeah. it was fairly ordinary as birthdays go.

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Do you ever wonder if dentists tell us not to pick our teeth with sharp metal objects just so they won't be run out of a job? I gotta say I laughed my head off when I read this question. Kudos to you for having a great sense of humour. I suspect however it's the same as when doc's say not to clean your ear with anything smaller than an elbow - I had an ENT surgeon sit me down at a young age and teach me how to clean my ears with a cotton bud and even how to get wax out of my ears - we lived in the...

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Today I saw a white swastika with a yellow tassel hanging from the bottom of it decorating someone's rearview mirror. Ironically the driver was a young asian girl. Was this item a sign of Nazi support or does it have a different meaning? It may not have been her car or she may not realise the meaning. It could also be that she was doing it as a way of sticking her tongue out and ridiculing the Nazi movement and thereby lessening the level of trauma associated with it.

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What do you do, even though you know it's bad for you? Drink... eat bad good.... try to eat good food then spend two days gagging...

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Have you ever relized that girls announce when they have to go to the bathroom, and guys think its weird? Yes but that could be due to females being less self-conscious about it or perhaps them knowing it makes guys feel weirded out. lol. That and we multitask better - we can talk, apply lipstick, check our hair, give ourselves pretend boob-lifts and bond just over the experience of a shared toilet visit all whilst (or just after) pee-ing.

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What part of your life makes you feel the most alive? My mind. Knowing I have one that I use each day and knowing I learn something each day also. Learning something new everyday helps me feel like I'm not just living in a cave but striving onward and upward.

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When was the last time you wrote a hand written letter and mailed it with a postage stamp? I hope no-one minds but considering the effort all of you have taken to share your answers and lives even if for a moment, I really wanted to take the time in return and make an individual comment for everyone. Thank you so much Today has been a really big day - I've been dealing with some major health issues and for 2 years have been unable to consume anything other than soup,...

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Would you describe any fellow 'baggers as being arrogant? Hmm. yes... if you want details as to my opinion, check out my profile, scroll through my q&a section and read some of the comments I've made, answers I've given and the comments of others as well as my reactions to those comments. I have one particular person in mind but won't name them.

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Which is more important in your opinion, adherence to dogma or meritorious behaviour? It's early morning for me here in Australia and I need to fetch a dictionary and look up some words... Very intellectual question by the way... I look fwd to working out meanings and getting back to you with an answer that hopefully meets the standard of the question :D After reading time, thinking time and a bit more of each... (reading and thinking :D) I'd say that each...

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Do you apply scientific principles to everyday things? Without realising quite possibly yes. So in a subconscious manner. Which is surprising considering I thought that I was not a logic/ science oriented person but have discovered that I'm considered fairly logical and scientific in my approaches to things and people....

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I started in-home bible study w/ Jehovah's Witness. My husband is afraid this is a cult and I am getting worried when I google their beliefs. Should I continue? It is convienient for them to come to me, I'm not looking to be drawn into any religion. You need to look carefully at the reason you began your bible study and also the reasons for wanting to stop - is it really because of your husband's beliefs and fears or because of what you discovered via google? I'm not promoting or attacking this religion (I don't know enough about it so it would be ignorant to do so without all the info) but I do have my own reservations...

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What kind of things did you get in the mail today or the last time you checked it? Yesterday (which according to GMT is today for America) I got Playboy dog tags that double as a watch. Today hopefully I'll get some Playboy shot-glasses - they're both presents for a friend's daughter (who'se also a friend) who'se celebrating her 21st tonight. Those shot-glasses better arrive I tell you!!! Darned E-bay.

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Being a Black Man, does having a White Woman as a partner adversely affect my job/career? Much as I hate to say it, it depends on the power of those judging you - if at all. It also depends on how you behave. Do you behave as though you're ashamed of your partner? Does she behave that way towards you? You might come across surprise by colleagues and associates upon them discovering you aren't with your 'own' and I don't say this to be racist - I am...

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What do you think would be worse: passing a kidney stone for guys or giving birth? I've heard that both can be pretty bad without pain blockers.

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What should be demanded of anyone running for President of the United States? A promise to be not just a president but a future leader, a peacekeeper and vested in concepts such as social justice, democracy without bias and that they live within their means and not in such a way to cause disadvantage to other citizens.

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What are some things you should never buy new? version 1.0 of anything.

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What is the first thing u think when u see someone u always loved Ah, there's my fascist little man-whore... (referring to my husband)

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How cute is your child? Rate from 1-10. pictures would be cool. Not sure if someone's already said it so sorry if I'm repeating others but I just have to say I would advise against posting pictures of your children here. Considering the fact that we don't know each other or if we're dealing with potential paedophiles etc.. sorry to be such a downer but it's not something I'd recommend anyone to do.

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What is the best way to make a quick $2000? Get a loan from a loan shark with no morals and cash to spare. Just be prepared to kiss your kneecaps goodbye.

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What celebrity did you want to be as a child Candace Cameron or Lori Loughlin

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Should reporters be jailed for refusing to reveal their sources? I think they can be threatened with libel or slander if they cannot prove what they're saying came from a reputable source or something like that? Depends on what it's over. If they're getting info on a murder they can be jailed for interfering in the process of justice or something like that I think.

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Do you think theres more than one person for you? Yep. definitely - sorry was busting to go to the bathroom and wash out some really interesting hair-dye (boring brown but the interesting part was whether the coliour would actually take). Here's what I wanted to say... I think that as far as relationships go, we seek out different people depending on where we are in life, the kind of people we want around us and how much we depend...

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How much skin does a man have to show to be considered "slutty"? hmm it depends on his body type - it could either be slutty or nasty...

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Could you eat a deep fried, sugar coated grasshopper? Yeah. I'd just pretend it was MacDonads... not like that's real food anyway.

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If go outside and scream at the top of my lungs and run in circles and you were my neighbor, what would your reaction be? I might join you or I'd regret passing up the opportunity to buy a tazer...

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If you were a talk-show host, who would you want as your first guest? I'd sell out and get Oprah just to esure ratings. Oh no but wait, most talk show hosts sell out anyway.

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Who's your favorite TV animal? Dino from the Flintstones

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Do you think that a person should ever be asked to give up their religious beliefs (or convert) upon marriage? Is that realistic?, and is that not tantamount to a doomed marriage? Before I got married to my husband, he and I sat down and talked about the big questions in life - religion, children, schooling for our children, pets, lifestyle in general even things like whether we'd have our parents live with us when they couldn't take care of themselves anymore. We always talked about that stuff anyway but we also agreed that if there were differences that...

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Do you find that people are more condescending and sarcastic online, than you believe they ordinarily would be, face to face? If so, why do you think that is? If they are it's due to them using anonymity to bolster their bravado. like people who drink and then tell others what they think. Irish courage I think it is called (no offense to anyone Irish). That false bravery stuff. Also you can say what you want without interruption and once you've said what you have via written word, if it's misinterpreted you can claim it...

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My cell phone battery completely discharges within a day while at home, even if I don't use the phone. I have a full signal and the cell site is about 300 yards away. When I am out of town, the battery lasts about three days on a charge. Why is this so? I think it depends on the kind of cell phone you have, what you have stored on it and if it drains your battery. Also it depends on the age of your phone. Some phone batteries drain out really quickly. Try googling the model of your phone with the phrase 'product review'. That could unlock some clues for you. Oh and as a final point, it could be your battery charger or simply...

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Would you date an obese person? Obesity is caused by many things. Medical conditions that cause a person to put on weight - chemotherapy for one - having seen a friend going through chemo and doubling in size due to the reaction her body had. It can also be a sign of deeper issues - emotional for example. For me, it's based on medical reasons - having a throat disorder that prevents me from being able to kep down...

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How do I find someones address with only having an email address only I would like to be able to do this free of charge Hate to echo the same as 'Someguy', but yeah, this sounds kinda disturbing. Honestly, if you don't have someone's home or work address, then perhaps there's a reason - such as you are simply not meant to have it or they intend to keep it from you. Also, if you don't know them well enough for them to have given you those details you might simply want to wait...

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I get really painful migraine and sinus headaches, what home remedies will alleviate the pain? Lots of water, avoid direct sunlight or flickering light (also try not to focus your eyes on things that require visual concentration such as reading a computer screen) and also deep breathing. Some headaches can be brought on by a lack of oxygen. So some calm deep breaths. Also, try doing something else - diversion can help reduce a headache or even cause it to disappear.

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What is safer.Internet dating or going to the bar? Providing you don't give out your personal idetifying details such as credit card number, home address / phone number etc, online dating can be pretty safe. Try getting to know the person and then suggest a date via webcam - ie, just chatting but with the ability to see each other. Going to a bar can have benefits such as safety in numbers providing you have people around you who...

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Single women - why do you go out to bars and clubs with a bunch of other women? Don't you know that this will intimidate men from approaching you? Is that the idea - you go out with a bunch of girls to prevent men from trying to talk to you? If a guy was too scared to approach me because I was with my friends then that would strike him off my list for a start. Also think of what it's like for females wanting to approach a guy but him being surrounded by his friends. It's no easier for females than males. It's safety in numbers and because not all females go to clubs or bars to meet men. Some go for the music,...

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If you had to choose. Would you freeze to death, or burn to death? Freezing I'd say because cold doesn't hurt. After a while your body shuts down but before that can happen, you would pass out and be unconscious so you wouldn't feel anything.

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How many almonds is too many to consume at a single sitting? Like, right as I am typing this, I'm eating almonds. Well, if you're allergic, then one is too many. If you find your stomach starts cramping up or you begin to get excessively thirsty then perhaps you've had too many. If the almonds come from a pre-packaged wrapper, look at the nutritional information and the reccommended serving size. That could also be a guide.

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What do you consider "nasty"? Brittney Spears?

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Let's play the slogan game. What's the best slogan you can think of for Answerbag? 1) Does this answer make my bag look big? 2) Go on, I dare you 3) For the know it all within you 4) You know you want to 5) You think you're addicted to Answerbag? Try working here! eh... my brain hurts

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If you found a wallet with $50 cash in it, but there was also a card that said "The reward for returning this wallet is twice the amount contained within" what would you do? If I was unscrupulous and could access the cash, I'd take out $5,000 from the bank and put it in the wallet and then photograph it. Then I'd return it after getting the contents witnessed along with taking a certified copy of the card found within the wallet. Then I'd sit and wait for my money to double...

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I have a very important exam in few weeks..What are some ways to motivate myself to study? Think of the doors that passing the exam will open for you. Also think of it as another milestone completed in the list of things you are going to achieve during your education. Plan a party or a treat for yourself for after your exam.

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Do you find it hard to admit that you are wrong? No, I mean yes, no I mean no.... geez, I could do that all day. But seriously... I'm only too happy to admit I'm wrong if it means gettng it right sooner.

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How do you unsolidify honey? boil water, leave the blade of a steel knife in the water for a minute then take it out and dip in the honey. It'll help get out what you want. You could also try this with a spoon. You'd only do that when you don't want to soften up all the honey.

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What's your secret invention you haven't gotten around to building? Hmmm well, I could tell you but then how would I make sure it stays as mine? OKay, here it is. it's a way to make sure that condiments that go into curries (ie, cardamon pods, peppercorns, fennel etc) don't end up being served as part of the final product - ever bit into a cardamon pod? It's bitter and leaves a bad taste.

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Does this make sense: I love you but I hate you more.? Oh absolutely.... I'm thinking you want an example? Okay, so, I love my brother but I hate him more because of how he behaves. I think that in all people there's a mix of love and hate. Complete and utter love without fault is blind or new... or dead... and I'm not going into the necro-aspects of that one.

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Do crazy people know they're crazy? Who called me crazy??? I'm not crazy.... Doesn't everyone have voices in their head and communicate with both God and the Antichrist? But seriously, some may know and others may even enjoy it.

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Have you ever been in handcuffs? What was running through your head? "Think of the money, think of the money" roflmao...

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How do you forgive the unforgiveable? Perhaps by realising that by not forgiving the person/place/thing, that you are acknowledging its existence in your life as a controlling force. It's only when it ceases to matter to you that you can let it go. It's like a relationship that ends. When you no longer care, the person has no more power over you. So if you want to have full control of yourself and your life, by...

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What will you do when the antichrist comes? Obey or rebel? Would calling shotgun be an option??

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People say that join gangs to get "respect" but when I look at gang members I have NO repect for them and think they are scum. Is it me that has the wrong idea of what repect means or is it them? Is it what being in a gang would symbolise (the negative aspects at least)? Or could it be your experiences (direct or otherwise) with gangs. I think that relying on the graces of others for respect is the wrong way to go about things. However, some may not have a true understanding of what respect means. Some believe that they are respected by those who fear them. That's clearly...

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Is it common to find credible ABers to start writing silly or nonsensical questions or answers? I think everyone - even the most sensible, logical and balanced amongst us has the capacity for silly Q&A. There could be a reason for it - wanting to blow off steam, feeling a little frivolous or simply wanting to see how others will react if they do an about face and behave oddly.

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How do stop binge eating? I keep eating way too much. Binge Eating (BE) is part of a disorder and signals emotional and psychological issues that are not being addressed appropriately. However the first question is are you binge eating or simply eating too much and too often? Believe it or not, there actually is a difference. BE is triggered by emotional or psychological disturbances or trauma. So think about the past and times...

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What is the most random food you can think of at the moment? Peanut Butter...

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Is it ok to spank a child for hitting someone? Responding to violence with violence isn't the answer. Even if it's not hard, it's still violence. Lead by example, sit the child down and talk to them about what happened and try to emphasise the importance of not solving problems with violence. Also think about whether violence is a solution you use with your child - are they simply learning and acting by your example? If...

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What piece of advice would you give someone that just had their first baby? Don't be afraid to ask for help. Seek out support from those you trust. It doesn't make you a bad person or parent if you need help but it does make you honest, responsible, mature and is a sign that you have your child's best interests at heart. Remember that having a baby changes everything including your relationship and being a parent is not just stressful for the mother...

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What is your least favorite emotion and why? Jealousy. It's the cause of alot of problems between humans and animals alike.

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Have you ever pondered why 'smurfette' was the only female smurf? What was your conclusion? Here's what wikipedia thinks: "Smurfette was the only female smurf until the creation of Sassette. She has more delicate features than the other smurfs, with long blonde wavy hair, longer eyelashes, and wears a white dress and white high heels. She is the love interest of almost every smurf (eventually even Papa Smurf!). She first appeared in a story La Schtroumpfette, published...

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Is Easter Island where the Easter Bunny lives underground? If so, does that mean that Father Christmas doesn't live at the North Pole but on Christmas Island (or does he simply hold Christmas Island for the off-season?

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Is my cat to young to have babys? shes 10 mounthes old and is in her First heat i don't wether to keep my male away or let them play. I need this as soon as possible! My best advice would be to call your local vet. I know that it's probably not what you want to hear - sorry about that. Good luck.

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SHould I change my childs doctor its the only one she's ever had but she was deathly sick and for about three weeks the doctor said it would pass. then i got a second opinion and she has stage three lead poision... what should i do No matter how old your child is, there's nothing wrong with changing doctors. Particularly if the doctor has misdiagnosed your child. Yes, people do make mistakes, doctors included, however when that mistake causes your child's health to be at risk, you need to consider your child's needs - to have a doctor who will take your concerns seriously and treat your child. However...

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Would you consider a 'Mix Tape' a work of art? Absolutely. Whilst the songs being used aren't by the person putting them together (unless they are a singer/songwriter ;) ), it's the meaning behind the art that makes it art itself. Not sure that made sense... Art is a form of expression. So if a mix tape is used to express meaning or feeling, it's art.

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Be creative. If you were homeless and had to stand on a street corner with a cardboard sign, what would you write? 1) "How's My Sign" 2) "For $5 will bear responsibility for all that is wrong with the world." 3) "I was Oprah's couch in a former life. Please take pity"

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Does anyone have anything to say to my dog? He turned 5 today! (btw- he's in the pic;)>>>> Happy birthday to your pooch, Hope you gave him a big smooch, May he dig holes and chase balls, May he sniff out all the food that falls, May he enjoy all his tummy rubs and pats, May he chase all the local cats, May he eat grass and torture snails, May he bliss out sniffing under tails, I hope your puppy has great fun today, For today is his birthday!

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A teacher once told me a true reader never reads without a pencil. Do you agree with this statement. Do you read with a pencil/pen? Did your teacher refer to the habit some have of following the words with a finger or pencil/pen? Or was she perhaps referring to the fact that the words we read should cause us to think, contemplate, question and that in the style of a student we should be prepared to note down our thoughts, wuetions, interpretations etc and hence never be without a pencil? I am a voracious reader,...

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Mankind has a tendancy to disagree with anything that contradicts what they WANT, even if its truly WRONG, does mankind need some kind of guidance? or should mankind be left to do anything and everything they want, allowing total moral freedom regardless? I think that this is the nature of mankind - human kind even. If one is left without rules, regulations and restrictions then chaos will ensue eventually - see Lord of The Rings (fictional though it may be). Humans are ultimately selfish. And speaking of selfish, I have to go and pretend that my husband is the earth and everything (me included) revolves around him.... I shall write more...

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How do you discipline children? I want to make it clear that I don't have kids. However from the perspective of a teacher and welfare worker combined, I will say that discipline can be both harmful and helpful. Spanking is a big no-no because despite the old claims of 'safe areas of the body' for spanking and spanking with an object rather than the hand don't guarantee lack of abuse for both the...

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Is there something noone knows about you? Well, now that would be telling wouldn't it?

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What lyrics from what song describe you best? A couple of songs: The one that comes to mind is "One Angry Dwarf (and 200 Solemn Faces)" by Ben Folds Five "September '75 I was 47 inches high Mom said someday I would have A bad ass mother G.I. Joe for your little minds to blow I still got beat up after class Now I'm big and important one angry dwarf and 200 solemn faces are you If you want to see me ...

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Would you consider yourself an extrovert or an introvert? A bit of both. Extrovert with those I know and in informal situations. Introvert with those I don't think will appreciate my true character and when at work.

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Are there any businesses that you refuse to do business with? Why? I try to avoid the big chain style fuel stores - Shell, Mobil etc. I am aware that some of them are owned by individuals but still, on principle. Also, I don't buy Nike .... However on the other side of that question I do buy banannas despite the high prices - I think it's the least I can do to support farmers affected by drought.

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Would you ever join the military? I would. I've got a welfare background and think that not enough emotional support is offered to armed services. Plus armed services get great health benefits (and rightly so!) I want to be clear though. Just becaus I'd join the military doesn't mean I stand by the reasons for going to war etc.

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Do you believe in hate at first sight? It's like judging a book by it's cover - that instinctive first sight judgement.

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I'm bored of being called Alex or by my surname. I'm going to a new school this autumn, what's a good nickname I can use for Alexandra? Lexie, Xandra (as in Xander) Alie Otherwise if you have a middle name you prefer, use that. Also, depending on your surname, shorten your name to be your initials - ie, Alexandra James becomes AJ.

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What is the song "Southern Cross" by Crosby, Stills and Nash about? This site has interpretations of the song plus lyrics: http://www.songmeanings.net/lyric.php?lid=3458764513820544944

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Are you married? Happily, or not? Yup - most days it's happily... it's not a perfect marriage but hey, I don't know anyone who says they do - or if they do they're on a superficial level.

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Just an announcement: I got my acceptance letter into the nursing program today..YAY!!! Well done!!!!

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Is there a way to copy a DVD onto VHS? There is. IF you have a dvd and a vcr hooked up to a tv, you can put a dvd into the player, press play and hit record on the vcr (having a blank tape in the vcr of course). The VCR should record what's being played. At least there's a way I know we do it at our house.

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What color shoes go best with an beatiful and intricate turquoise dress - something that won't detract from the dress? strappy, skin coloured.

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I read that it was okay to start a pill pack on the first day of your period. I thought I was starting my period on a particular day, so I started the pack, but 5 days later my period hasn't started. Is this because I started the pack too early? Something I've been told (but don't take it as gospel absolute accurate truth) is that it's better to start a pack on the actual first day of bleeding rather than going by what the cycle would be up to - the reason for that is if you're not good at calculating your cycle's progress, then you know for sure you're menstruating. If you're still worried, talk...

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I failing math, very badly. I pay attention in class and study for every math test. but i am still failing, what are some ways i can bring up my mark? I'd say it's the way that Math is being taught to you that's leading you to be unsuccesful. Try getting a tutor and perhaps even try talking to your parents and asking them to come with you to speak to your class teacher as there's a chance your teacher isn't taking into consideration the different ways in which students learn. Not all of us respond to teachers...

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In my ongoing attempts to chose to be gay, I spent the entire weekend around my lesbian friend. I kept trying to breathe the same air, or otherwise catch the "gay vibes". Nothing happened, and I'm still not attracted to women. What am I doing wrong? I've got it!!! Here's what you could do.... Go and buy a motorbike, get a crew cut, get some tattoos, invest in some leather jeans and some chains to hang off your jeans.... Maybe you're not listening to the right music? Perhaps some Kylie Minogie or Melissa Etheridge? (I can see my answer here getting flagged as offensive... ) But seriously, it'll happen...

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In my ongoing attempts to chose to be gay, I spent the entire weekend around my lesbian friend. I kept trying to breathe the same air, or otherwise catch the "gay vibes". Nothing happened, and I'm still not attracted to women. What am I doing wrong? maybe you're just not attracted to your gay friends? Try heading out to a gay / lesbian club and see what vibes you pick up on. It could be that you're not gay but bi? Or bi-curious? Good luck with your quest.

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I'm a larger woman (5'8", 165 lbs, size 18). What kind of jeans would be most flattering on me? Flat fronted bootcut definitely. Don't wear jeans with pleats - that only raws the eye to your larger areas. Button up rather than zip can help too. Also go for darker colours - not black, but dark blue - distressed type jeans are good as are ones that are more than one colour - just be careful not to find yourself in stripes.

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Is it true that the Answerbag moderators will now reject any question that contains a reminder to rate the question up? How do you feel about this? If your question is worthy of rating up it will be rated. However it would be far better to remind those answering to take a moment to rate your question but not to remind them to rate up. Rating up is asking people to simply say you asked a good question. I think AB are doing the right thing and about time they did.

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Today is my birthday. who has a birthday feb 13th? and did you get anything special? happy birthday - cool question but wrong category

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What Affects the baby by "in-breeding" and is it legal? 'In-breeding' as it's rather crassly referred to and commonly known is what occurs when a familial incestuous relationship (ie, between parent and child, siblings and immediate first cousins etc) becomes sexual, one party falls pregnant and a child is born. The problem with familial incest is that when children result from such a relationsip is that genetic problems can arise....

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When was the last time you had vegemite on toast? I'm dealing with a problem with my throat (can't keep anything but soup,crackers and potato chips down. But discovered I can go back to the joys of things like Vegemite but on crackers. It actually helps.

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How does a naturally impatient person become patient? Impatience, which can be a learnt or developed trait to the point where it is second nature, instinctive and therefore 'natural', can be unlearnt but only with alot of practice. They will benefit by the realisation that not everyone is like them. Not everyone comes to logical conclusions as quickly. They also need to remember that whilst they find slowness an irritating quality,...

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Which would be worse, if your child came up to you and said he/she joined the military or said that he/she was gay? I'd be happy if my child finally realised that they were gay (or straight) and were comfortable and secure enough in themselves and in their relationship with me that they could be honet about it. I would however be upset if my child told me they'd joined the military. Who wouldn't be? There's nothing wrong with having pride in your country and pride in your child for...

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Someone is walking their dog. They stop, the dog defecates and they move on without picking it up; do you intervene? It depends on where they are and what their ability and capacity level was. It also depends on whether they're encouraging their dog to defacate out of spite for the person who'se property the dog defacates on. If the dog is defacating in a park area, if it's a place humans won't be walking then it's not a problem for me personally. But I'd be looking into...

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What was the first song you ever listened to? Some crap by Pasty Biscoe...

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What is the largest age difference YOU would personally have between you and someone you dated seriously or were contemplating marrying? Are you male or female, and who is older, or does it matter? The law is certainly a best practice guide but here are a few others: *If you had a child with them this year, are they young enough to share your child's toys? *If they weren't yet born before you reached high school, then perhaps they're too young. *If they have no idea of the music you listened to as a child, then they may be too young. *If you are out and about...

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Girlfriend hung out with ex. Lied about it. I find out about it. She's always been shady about him. Reply with suggestions so I have more space as well lol. I'd be questioning her reasons for lying. Is she lying to cover up something that happened? Is she lying to cover for his feelings for her. People hang out with their ex's for different reasons. To feel wanted to know they're with someone who once had feelings for them (sometimes that spark never quite goes away) - to feel better about things when they're feeling...

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What are some good comebacks for people who ask "why are you so quiet?" "Oh, so this is one of those interactive conversations? Sorry, I didn't realise the rules had changed and I was meant to contribute." "I could ask you the same.... oh hang on... no I couldn't..."

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Can you fix/resolve a social problem by addressing the symptoms, or do you have to get to the root cause? Both. You take immediate measures to address the symptoms and put strategies in place to prevent it from occurring again or ar least to cope better the next time it occurs. You also examine the root cause of the problem and match that with re-education about the problem in the first place. For example, bullying in schools was a massive social issue and it was addressed directly,...

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I was Heavily drunk and some woman started kissing me before i relised what i was doing it was too late. I told my G/F the next day, she dumped me after 2 yrs just for 1 kiss. Ive never lied to her and im kinda angry cos i always told the truth ideas? Has your GF had trust issues in the past - either directly with being cheated on or in her family, ie, with a parent who cheated on the other? It's not the kiss itself but what the kiss symbolises to her. Alot of people believe that when we're substance affected (ie, drunk or high) that our true behaviour, thoughts, feelings etc come out as the substance acts as an...

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Are you adopted? what is it like? Our answers really depend on your reason for asking - can you give us more info as to why you want to know? Are you looking to be adopted? Are you looking to adopt a child? Are you thinking of giving up a child for adoption? In yahoo chat, there is an Adoption chat room. Check it out, you might find some answers that help. Okay, so having received your comment that you were...

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I'm in love with my best friend, but he has a girlfriend. I still think he likes me too. Should I break up their relationship or keep hiding my feelings? Could it be that at the moment you're single and your best friend is looking particularly attractive? Were you in love with him before he got a girlfriend? If not, it could be that you're suddenly realising that another female is treading on your turf and you're starting to wonder what it is about this best friend of yours that makes him worth being a boyfriend... ...

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I like this guyand he likes me but i dated his best friend what should i do Don't go there. Seriously, just don't. It's not a reputation you want to get. Remember Yoko Ono? She didn't date anyone else in the Beatles, just John Lennon but she was blamed for everything that went wrong. And whilst it might feel like it now, this guy is not the last guy in the world. Look elsewhere. You'll be glad you did.

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What is a RSVP? It's a french term: "répondez, s'il vous plaît," which means "please reply."

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What is your wifes or husbands most annoying or weird habit? He chews off the hair on his wrists. He tries to get them even and chewed them for years leaving patches that are really noticeable. I got him to shave his arms and for a couple of months it worked but now he's back to chewing. I feel bad for him though - it's a bad habit and he tries hard not to do it but he doesn't succeed.

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What reasons have you given me to care? None. We can give you all the reasons in the world to care and perhaps for a while you actually will. However, eventually you need to find your own motivation to care and one that isn't external to you.

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Why answer Q's with nonsense? Like a question about if you were married and _________..., and answering "I would never get married" Then don't answer the question, right? Perhaps a sad attempt to be funny? Liking the idea of putting down a genuie question via an unintelligent answer? The troll factor also comes to mind.

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How can I tell a girl that I want to marry her for financial reasons and not for love because love isn't real, and I don't want to lie? We do enjoy each other's company, and would prosper financially if we were partners. Perhaps tell her you should be business partners? Or if you want marriage, have a pre-nup that reflects your financial beliefs etc. I guess it's not that unusual yo want to marry someone for financial reasons - there I said it! Whilst love, lust etc will help sustain the marriage, it's not that weird a concept to marry for a reason aside from love or lust. However, when you...

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How do you deal with your moms views and opinion on certian things, that you disagree with and it really bothers you? Depends on what your views are. If for example you disagree with how you should be raised, you might be out of luck (unless her views are against current child-raising recommended legal standards etc). You might need to offer a compromise of 'we'll agree to disagree'. Sorry would write more but need to answer the phone... okay. back now. It also depends on your age...

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Why was I in a penalty box? what does that mean? how did I get in there? sounds like a sporting metaphor to me. I didn't know Answerbag had a penalty box.. Note to self: be careful in future...

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What do you tell yourself when at work, you get passed over by someone least deserving? If I spend all my time focussing on the successes of others AND if I choose to interpret those successes for them as automatic failures for me, then I'm over internalising and making it all about me. Is this what you're doing?? You can't make it about you, you can't keep taking it personally because that's when you lose focus on what YOU are meant to be doing...

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We moved house 4 weeks ago. My 2 cats, Pompom and Sylvester had play time in the garden for 1 1/2 weeks. On Monday Pompom was attacked by 2 dogs next door as she entered their yard. On Thursday she passed away. I'm so sad and angry. It wasn't an accident! Whilst I do feel for the loss you're dealing with, there is very little you can do in terms of compensation by your neighbours. Due to your cat entering their property, your neighbours aren't liable for what their dogs do. I know this might not be what you want to hear but your neighbours may be feeling traumatised also by what happened - unles they just don't care and are...

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What would you want your Fortune Cookie to say? The job is yours!

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..do you think its possible, to really fall in love with someone you meet online? Not only is it possible but it can and does happen - I met a guy, we became best friends, became more than best friends and after seven years of dating in person we got married - fast forward, in November 06 we celebrated 10 years together and this January 31st we celebratd our 3 year wedding anniversary. So it is possible.

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I am newly pregnant and I had to get rid of my cats due to the stress they were causing me. How do I cope with the guilt? Hopefully the cats went to a good home. However, you're entitled to put yourself and your pregnancy first. I'm an animal lover - absolutely but as my husband and I begin heading towards the stage in our relationship where having children is a distinct possibility, I wouldn't hesitate to find a new home for my pets if I was pregnant and the pets were causing me stress. You...

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You want to tell somone you love them, and have attempted many times, but got nervous and backed down.. You think your ready to finally tell this person, and you dont know how. Any Ideas? You could practice saying the words (don't do it in front of a mirror though - that'll make you more nervous and then you'll be freaking about how your face will look (expression wise) )out loud. You could also try putting it in writing - perhaps even write it to them - that'd be something they'll cherish. Don't try to stage the scene - don't worry...

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What do you do when it all gets to be too much? Freak out, run around, hop up and down like a bunny on fire.... run in circles then eventually calm down, freak out just a little more and then calm down a second time. Then I look at what it is that's getting on top of me and provided it's not my husband with a leery glazed look in his eyes, I tackle it head on and get past it...

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Does anyone still eat spam? I think my husband does when he thinks I'm not looking. :)

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When a teacher lectures a class, are you the one he/she stares at or does he/she stare at everyone? (My teachers always look at me, they take glances at everyone else but they always stare at me 90% of the time when they're talking) If you're the kind of person who contributes alot to the class they may be considering you as a teaching aid - I know that sounds odd, but it just means they are aware that you will help make classes less boring and you'll give them a break due to helping out. If you're the kind of person who uses every opportunity to turn the topic to yourself (which I don't think is...

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What would you do for a million dollars? Anything cept cut off both legs or both arms.

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Knowing the minimum age on AB is 13, do you cringe at some of the questions that pop up? I think what makes me cringes the most is that some of the most ignorant, embarassing questions aren't asked by under-agers but by adults.

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Why don't American kids take education seriously? (like they do in Asia) That's a huge generalisation you've made. And yes, I did downgrade you for asking the q.

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Does someone actually die in the current Australian season of The Biggest Loser? They made it look that way in the advertisments. The mystery is finally revealed... and you are quite right munchkin_kids, it was to hide their identity.

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What is the best therapy for overcoming depression? I hope I'm not speaking out of turn but I did discuss this with a close friend who has ongoing depression. Here's what she had to offer: "Firstly using the term 'overcoming' is inappropriate. For those of us with depression it makes depression seem like a disease. None of us want to have depression but we do. However, we do cope with depression. Depression can...

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HAVE ANY COCA COLA BOTTLES OR 12 PACKS AROUND?' if you do then can i get the codes off the caps and 12 pack cardboard please? Try advertising on E-bay or one of the online chat sites. Answerbag is no place for this.

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I FOUND A BLUE OBLONG PILL WITH 347 ON ONE SIDE, WHAT IS IT? Is it one of those matrix type pills? But seriously, here's what it could be: Tylenol PM 347 is Acetaminophen Pm, Extra Strength, a blue tablet made by Granutec. According to: http://www.pharmer.org/node/1422 If still in doubt, go to your pharmacist / chemist and ask them what it is.

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If you were a lost cell phone where would you be? that's got to be the absolutely cutest question I've ever read. I take it that you've lost your phone? Where did you have it last? Ie, at hom, in the car, at a friend's house. Can you call it and see if you can hear it? Do you have tracking on it? IF so you might be able to get your cell company to ring it and locate its whereabouts for you (or is that...

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If cigarettes are killing thousands of people, why are they still making them? Just because something's been deemed bad for people, that doesn't stop it from being produced - particularly if it helps keep the economy running.

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Is there anything wrong with me if i dont want to go outside for anything cause of the cold? nah, there's nothing wrong with you for not wanting to be indoors when it's cold outside. I'm the same.

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What is communism? http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Communism Check out this site. It's one I used to write an essay for Sociology.

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Are there any home treatments for acid reflux? I drink full cream milk. That seems to work and help settle it down. Also avoiding high-level acidic foods can help.

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What can you do if you have missed your calling? I don't think it's too late to make an effort to achieve the things you want to. At my graduation from my teaching degree we had a 78 year old who had just completed their masters. That's pretty phenomenal.

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Is it a good idea to offer your children monetary incentives for getting A's in school? Taking off my welfare hat and putting on my teaching one for a moment, I'd say it's not a good idea. Your child will face challenges and requirements throughout their life and if they continue to complete them and then expect monetary gain as reward they could be in for a struggle. Offer your child rewarding things like activities or perhaps have movie nights where they choose...

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What do you say when you answer the phone? If it's a call to the home phone I simply pick up and say hello. If it's a call to my mobile, because my mobile is a work number then if it's a number I don't know I say "Hello, (my name) speaking,..." - the reason is that my work have unlisted numbers due to the protective requirements we're under - we have kids who are on protective orders from court and...

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If you wanted to visualise 126lbs what would it look like? the quirkier the better! (my weight loss group lost this much last week and I want to put it into perspective for them) Will the cowards who felt it appropriate to downgrade my reply stand up and admit who the hell they are and why they downgraded me??? Why the hell don't you admit it when you downgrade. That's really pathetic. Rather than just leaving my reply as a 0 rated reply you have to have a further dig by downgrading me.

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I am 24 and just starting school to be a laywer, i am starting from the begining and am a little scared that this is a far fetched dream...Is it worth it to still try even though i'll be 30 before any real results? Stop looking at the forest and focus on the trees. Ie, Break it up a little - ie, rather than looking at the course as a whole, think of it in terms of each assignment helps finish each class off which means each subject is passed and once all subjects are passed you have a degree. I'm 30 and whilst I was fortunate enough to be working in the field I want to be in, I only recently...

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How was your day? Stressful. Am meant to be writing an assignment BUT I keep being unable to concentrate and keep coming back to AB and mucking around. It's pretty awful too caust it's the last ever assignment I need to write after which I can put the books away forever (or till I start another course). It's only 1.02pm here but still, I had hoped to get my assignment finished by 1pm. grr. ...

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If you could have superpowers, what kind of powers would you chose? yummy question by the way! hmm. okay. well.... The ability to read minds? No wait... the ability to be fantastic at everything I try... Is that too general? lol. My brain hurts now.

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What is the best website for entertainment? I'm finding this site pretty entertaining...

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If you are wearing a watch what brand is it? Guess (and no, not being a smartass either, it really is branded as 'Guess')

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Why is it OK to overthrough Saddam (dosile for the past 15 years) but no one cares about 100,000's genocide happening NOW in Sudan? Because by overthtowing Saddam, the western world was able to access much needed / desired resources. The Sudan unfortunately doesn't have resources to offer or ones that are much needed. It's an appalling thing that we only help others when we get something out of it. But it's also understandable (I'm not condoning it by the way) that we'd only take a risk if it...

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Are you often distracted?for ex. you might be wanting to ask a question that you need the answer to badly and then POOF! you get distracted and foget what it was. Um yeah. Like for instance - I'm trying to write the final essay for my course and I keep allowing myself to be distracted by things. It's driving me nuts because not only do I have this last essay to do, I've also promised a friend that I'll help her with her essay for an assignment. It's just making me insane.

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I find it very wrong for people to say "this is America, you have to speak english", how do you feel about this and do you agree? Whilst I'm not living in America, I do think that if you move to a country you should expect to learn the language of that country - no matter what age you are. Of course it will be difficult but there are language classes that are inexpensive and even free in some cases that children and adults can go to. The laws of the land are written in the dominant language of the country and...

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What methods have helped you in the past make up with a really nice good friend? Sometimes giving it time can help. If you find they won't listen, try writing to them and explaining your feelings. LEt them kow you value the friendship and them as a person and don't want to lose them from your life over whatever it was that caused the falling out in the first place. Offer a compromise - perhaps an agreement to disagree over the issue (if it was over a...

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If you wanted to visualise 126lbs what would it look like? the quirkier the better! (my weight loss group lost this much last week and I want to put it into perspective for them) You could say they lost an entire featherweight boxer, or between two and three entire catwalk models. You could also say they lost two adult size labrador dogs...

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Ok, well my boy friend moved to BC last week and i live in NB so the only thing i can get him for valentine's day is soming i can email. ideas? Perhaps get him a voucher for a store - I'm sure you can get them online. Or simply write him a letter telling him all the things you love about him - or reminisce in the e-mail about how you got together. Or if you want to get cute, e-mail him a voucher for unlimited kisses when you see him next.

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My husband is physically and emotionally abusive to me. We have kids and they do not want me to leave him. He does the abuse in front of them sometimes. Is leaving him wrong or right. Iwant what is best for my children but i do not like the abuse. This is what I wrote to someone who asked a similar question to you: Okay, normally the welfare worker in me would kick in and I'd be all neutral. However over this, I struggle. I'm not judging you. It's hard to leave an abusive relationship - sometimes you'll leave then come back because they swear they'll change, they say they can't survive without you, they...

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Do parents own their children? Are children property to be owned? In Australia, children became property of the government in an effort to make it easier for the government to place children under custody orders and dictate their living conditions. I can find the history of it for you if you like - just let me know and I'll track it down - it's in one of my texts or essays somewhere.

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What is in the best interest of my children if im married to and abusive husband. Okay, normally the welfare worker in me would kick in and I'd be all neutral. However over this, I struggle. I'm not judging you. It's hard to leave an abusive relationship - sometimes you'll leave then come back because they swear they'll change, they say they can't survive without you, they woo you and romance you back, they change jobs and say it's...

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Does anyone here have any coke bottles around or 12 pack cardboard from the coke cans!! please if you do then please can i have them codes off the caps and 12 pack cardboard flaps please? please try to send them to me babyphatgirl903@optonline.net This kind of thing is not what AnswerBag is here for. As well, you may want to consider that you may be asked to produce the actual bottle caps and cardboard flaps if you win.

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What are some ways to become more energized besides working out? are there any herbs or anything i can take? anything i can do? i cant function without at least 13hrs of sleep. i cant seem to eat either except a meal a day. ive also been vomiting off & on I'd recommend you see a doctor - you might have glandular fever, chronic fatigue syndrome or you could be pregnant. Sorry to scare you and take my offered possible medical conditions / states as being mere possibility only and not qualified medical advice. Also, there is such a thing as too much exercise - working out too much can cause you to become physically drained and...

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Why would you ban me, the antigonerising impression? Instead of heading for the trolls? IF you need to ask then we're not telling you.

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Who is Camp David named after? I cheated and googled this one. It's an interesting one though. The main answer is in the first quotation marked paragraph - just below. "Originally called Shangri-La, the retreat nestled in the Catoctin Mountains of Maryland was rechristened Camp David in 1953 by Dwight Eisenhower in honor of his grandson." "The "submarginal" land was purchased by the U.S....

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Why would you take time and thought to answer a question without rating it? Just wondering. Some people believe that ratings are a popularity contest - they refuse to buy into them and therefore choose to not rate questions or answers. Others perhaps don't have the time - I know, it sounds ridiculous right? They take the time to write an answer but not to rate the original question - go figure. I guess there would also be those who feel that as they've provided an...

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I want to ask my girlfriend to marry me but was wondering if I should consult her parents first and ask for their blessing/permission? Do people still do this? If I should, what should I say? Thanks for your help! I think that asking your future father in law is a way of including him in your life just that little bit more. My parents weren't happy with me marrying the man I did, but that said, they had their reasons. That didn't stop them however from supporting my wedding and they have warmed considerably to my husband since. Well, as to what you should say, it depends on the...

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Does Microsoft Vista have any serious problems? Hmm... I'm not a techie - my husband is however and he says that its major problem is that it's been nicknamed 'Microsoft Fister'... you do the math on how that's interpreted...

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Girls.. is there such thing as too much make up? Absolutely YES!!! I mean when is someone going to tell those frilly necked clowns at the circus that they need to go for a more natural look???

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If an airplane crashed right smack on the border of Canada and the United States than in which country would you bury the survivors? Geez, you had me going for a second. THat said, who would be required to bury the deceased??? Canada or the USA?

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What is the most dangerous sport to watch? I would have thought things like snooker - an errant 8 ball could really cause skull damage if weilded inappropriately or incorrectly...

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I go to the gym every second day, and recently there has been a girl there giving me a hard time. She calls me chubbs, just because I am not anorexic like her. I have lost weight and Im healthy so why does she pick on me? My instinct tells me that if it were me, I'd wait till she got out in the car park and kick her ass! However, that said, I'd also stop and think about why Miss Twig is giving you a hard time. Perhaps she feels threatened? Weight is something that can (with effort) be controlled (obsessively as is the case with some), but looks aren't so easy. Sounds like she's ugly -...

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What would you consider to be the worse profession in the world, and why? Wow! As usual some fantastic answers guys! Thanks so much.

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Whats a quick, cheap, and creative meal to make? Not like Hamburger helper or Ramen noodles, Have fun with it You'll need the following: Chicken nuggets (like the ones they have at MacDonalds - if truly lazy, go drive through and bring some home!) Pasta (whatever kind you like - if spaghetti, be prepared to break it in half) Can diced & peeled roma tomatows (or equivalent) 1 small red and 1 small red capsicum 1 tablespoon of chicken stock powder teaspoon of sugar teaspoon of chilli...

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Have you ever saved someone's life or vice versa? Have talked a number of people out of choosing death as an option for them... but that goes with the territory when you work in welfare.

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Who originally donated the library to Oxford University in England? The Boldeian library at Oxford University is, as stated by the above answerbaggers named after Sir Thomas Bodley. However, that may not mean that Sir Bodley was the original donator of the library. "Surely not?" ask the horrified intellectuals amongst us? Well, dear sirs and madams, read on... Here's something that could be useful: "The Bodleian Library takes its...

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Please make a ONE word statement about love. "Love is____? misleading

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If I browse AB for half an hour, I've 20 open windows in my browser. Can something be done about the window-popping? (20 open tabs isn't an alternative) You could also try opening a new browser window (that way you can have up to five open in each browser window). Either that or start closing down some of the tabs that open.

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I left a company (misrepresention, non-professional, & incompetent in terms of industry standard). I have an imp interview & wht is the best way to say why I left them without being negative about them? I do not want to eloborate much & want to be +ve. You could say that you felt you weren't being challenged enough or that you'd achieved your full capacity there and wanted to branch out and improve your professional practice. There may be a chance that they'll contact the company you left for a reference anyway so try to suss out what you can about their opinion of you and go from there. Don't however backstab your...

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Can narcissism of one partner be abusive? If the narcisissm of the partner is to such a degree that the person is feeling left out and therefore neglected. Then certainly. Narcissism can also be equally (if not more) harmful if suffered by a parent with a child they are neglecting to care for adequately. The follling website is great it's got a good rundown of NPD, its symptoms, its forms and how it works etc:...

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What was your darkest, most soul destroying moment - what was happening, how did you react, was it a moment you entered into willingly and would you do anything different leading up to, during or after if it happened again? And I will post mine - I promise.

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Do you wish you were dead or alive? Depends on what day it is and what's going on for me on that day. I've had moments where I wished I wasn't alive but then I began my life with a birth mother who didn't want to be a parent, tried to organise for me to be taken by her many brothers and sisters (all of whom refused) and when I was 12 days old attempted to end my life in a brutal way - I still have scars that...

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Can you describe in one word how the person/s you love most makes you feel? challenged

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What do women think of men wearing pantyhose? i am a guy that loves the way they feel and am wondering women think about a man wearing them. The big question isn't what we think - it's what you think and if you have a partner, what your partner thinks. I guess that some men wear makeup to hide bad skin - fair enough too - if we women have the luxury of being able to improve our appearance with makeup, why not men, right? Also, some women wear pantyhose to make themselves look better - they suck in tummy flab, they...

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Who is the biggest Troll? Well... if you answer your own question it could mean it's you.

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How do you inform someone they are being annoying? You can tell them outright and walk away (or run if they don't take criticism well and tend to get violent at the first sign of it). You can tell them and explain to them what exactly it is that annoys you about their behaviour (or whatever it is they do/ say etc). You can be annoying right back just to set an example and hope they get the hint. You can try to start a conversation where...

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Who is annoyed with bigfatfriggenfarmer? Fantastic Q. Also, how do we get bigfatfigginfarmer and their actual human user ISP thing banned from AB??

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Forgive my ignorance. Can anyone tell me what the points are for? The points are also a motivation for people - it keeps them 'playing'. The more points you have, the higher you move up the list of levels. The points are also a bit of a hierarchy but it's not always positive. Some users, bigfatfigginfarmer for example, are abusing the system, answering all questions with idiotic answers and have moved up the ranks quickly which is...

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It seem like all my friend have a boyfriend or a lover I have no idea what to do. I'm a teen and the day of valentine i have school, my parent are going to be watching a movie together. I have no idea what im going to do any good idea? I know it 'seems like' all your friends have someone but do they ALL? I'm sure there's some single friends out there who would love to hang out, see a movie and basically thumb their noses at romance (even if pretending)? E-mail / text your friends and see what they're doing. Orgainse a singles party - go for pizza and see a non-romantic movie or something. Make...

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I like this guy named Igor and I think he likes me..but im not sure and im not the best "being-able-to-tell-if-a-guy-likes-you-girl" so yah I need help i think he flirts with me but i cant really tell so how do I know? If he wants to be around you, if he asks you about yourself or if he behaves differently around you than when you're with him and his friends. They're signs. But relax, take it slow and let it happen naturally. Get to know him better and you'll work out what's what.

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Do you hate anyone? If yes who? Why? There are two kinds of people I actually do HATE: 1) People who misinterpret belief systems such as religion for their own gain or mischief. 2) People who take advantage of, exploit or hurt humans / animals. It's cruel, its cowardly and it's the ultimate sign of weakness in another by picking on someone or something that can't defend itself.

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How do I make people realize I'm in pain and need to be handle with the utmost of sensitivity? Ah... one of the big questions in life. Well, here's the thing. You can only own your own actions, thoughts, speech. Whilst you do have basic rights as a human being such as the right to respect, equality of opportunity and to have your living needs (food, shelter, health care) met, that's about it. You can try explaining to people how you feel but remember, how others...

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How do I convince my parents to let me go to Rockstar: Taste of Chaos concert? Perhaps by arranging to have an adult accompany you and friends as a chaperone? Also, by your behaviour. It depends on your behaviour till now and also if you're a bit of a wild child who goes against what they tell you. It's also up to their preferences for you - ie if they're religious and the concert is for a non-religious band, you could be struggling to get permission....

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How do you prepare two year olds for the dentist? My two 2 year olds have been turned away from the dentist 3 times because they were crying and screaming and scared. What can I do? They have to go to the dentist sometime. Whilst I'm not a parent, I've taken kids I work with to the dentist. I'm sorry but, I think it's up to the dentist and staff at the dentist's office to make your child feel okay when they're in there. One thing you might do is teach them about the dentist - there are lots of kids books out there - the dentist should be able to recommend some. Also, plan a...

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What's the first thing that comes to mind when you see my avatar? It looks like a bananna but also a constellation of stars. The black c both inside and surrounding the bananna could symbolise the negativity of society or the rotten core of it all. It could also be symbolic of finding meaning where there might not be any. The yellow could be the bright moments in the world or simply flecks of colour reflected. It could also be that the good stuff is...

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An officer who was defending himself against an illegal alien who was trying to run him down in a vehicle recently now faces 10 years in prison. How do you feel about this? Sorry if this makes me the most disliked person in the Answerbag community but here's my answer: First off, let's remove the status of these two people. One person defended themselves against another who was allegedly attempting to run over them in a vehicle. It would depend on what was going on at the time -ie, what actually took place. Also, it would depend on what...

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When you are wrong, do you admit it right away or defend yourself? That's a curly one. It depends on what I'm wrong about and if I really am wrong - I've had a few friendships end due to me standing my ground over an issue and one of those was the relationship I had with my best friend of 13 years. Would I still stand my ground now? Yeah sure, but perhaps in a more subtle manner - or at least I'd have weighed up whether in the long run...

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My grandma died few years back, and we had made many plans of stuff we'd do together. What is the right thing to do about all the dreams we should have done together? Whilst I don't know your grandma, I'd say (cheesy as it sounds) she'd want you to go and fulfil those dream - provided they're still yours as well. Take a loved one - perhaps even a parent. It can be a fair bonding experience and you get to feel like you've got your grandma back with you just by taking a path you and she would have walked together.

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Cats or dogs? I read a saying once that goes as follows: Dog's have masters, Cats have staff

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I have an old bottle in my bathroom. small orange pills with "50" on one side, nothing on the other. coated. what are they? Not sure but you would find out for sure if you take it to a drug store (in Australia we call them either Pharmacists or Chemists). They'll tell you what they are, what they're used for and if you should still keep them - plus if they say don't keep them, they can discard of them safely for you.

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Complete the sentence. I live in ________ a world where sometimes I'm the villager out looking with a torch but then other times, I'm the idiot (most likely having presented with an all access pass to the fountain of knowledge but turning it down and going in search of a coke machine).

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Where are you in the world? and What time is it on your side? Victoria, Australia (Barwon Region to be more specific) and it's 11.19am on Sunday, 4th February 2007

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How do you clean the windows in your mind? Refocus your thoughts on something else - it's like when you've been trying to remember something or write something down (as is my dilemma at the moment - writing the very last essay for my course, sigh, but less about me and back to you...). You try so hard that your brain starts to metaphorically short out and things stop making sense and you start losing your train of throught...

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Who do you think is the wisest Answerbagger? Glenn Blaylock (if I've spelt it right)and Stableboy These two give fantastic answers and don't waste time criticising the answers of others in a petty, spiteful manner. They also are wise enough to admit their own ignorance over certain things - that is certainly one of the highest signs of wisdom I know of!

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Why do people give bad ratings but leave no comments? Fear of retaliation?

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I loved the show "Ghost Whisperer" is it true there are no more to be made and do you think there should be, or do you think it was a second rate "Medium?" Seriously? They're canning Ghost Whisperer??? Wow. First they can the OC and now this show... When it first started I thought it was a rip off of medium and also I hated the outfits that Jennifer Love Hewitt wore but slowly the show won me over. It certainly isn't my favourite show (I must admit I still like Medium more) but hey, it is still one of the better ones.

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How would you react/feel if your credit card was maxed out? Well.. considering my credit card has been maxed out a number of times and is heading that way again, the biggest feeling (or thought in my case) is, "hope I can pay it off..." alternating with "I really should just get rid of this card" followed by "But I need it, it's useful for emergencies" (it's recently been maxed out by emergencies.

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Has anyone ever received a negative rating from someone actually willing to leave a comment, who had the guts? (the second part is optional) I had someone do it to me and then leave the pissy-est comment (scuse language)that really was just petty. They basically down-graded me because they thought I wasn't right and they were. That kind of thing is just unproductive and crappy plus it's really not in the spirit of the answerbag community.

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Whats the worse excuse youv heard for taking a day off work? "I think my wife's cheating on me so I need to hide at home to try and catch her..." (an excuse I heard a teaching colleague give before hanging up)

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What is the best way to stop child/animal porn? Remove its desireability by re-education and I know this will earn me disfavour amongst my peers (well some anyway) but also by looking more closely at our political and legal system. Singapore, for example has the strictest restrictions on that kind of thing - the government and law work in partnership to ensure that it's mandated tightly and corruption (whilst still in existence...

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What is one thing that's vital to your happiness? The people in my life and around me - I don't work well in isolation but also I don't deal well with people around me being upset.

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How can I make myself feel better when it seems my meds aren't working and everything seems to crash around me? I haven't read the other answers so I do apoligise if I've doubled up on what someone's already said. It sounds like your meds need to be reviewed - I'm sure the doc would've explained to you that you will have up and down days depending on what cycle you're in on your meds. It also depends on your hormonal levels and where you're at in our period cycle. ...

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I just saw on the news someone had a breakfast sandwich from McDonalds and there was a razor blade in it. What is something you have found in your food? I went to Mickey D's once and was absolutely shocked by what I found in one of the burgers.... Actual, REAL meat!!!!! I tell you, I nearly died from the shock... Usually I go and struggle between eating the actual burger or the packaging (seeing as the packaging has better nutritional value).

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I'm 16 and have had done it with 11 people. is that wrong? Let me explain to those people out there why I wrote what I did (and not so that I can get a better rating for my answer). Whilst I'd love to jump in and give this teen a written shake up and warn her about the dangers of what she is doing, I didn't deliberately. It sounds screwed up but the reality is that kids reach puberty (or at least start the process) younger and...

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What color is your dog? Normally, a camel colour but if he's ended up creek-diving (don't ask), he's brown... see photos below...

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What color of shoes should my bridesmaids wear with a pale green tea-length dress? Perhaps they need to wear shoes that match another item they will wear - jewellry, hair jewells / flowers. Otherwise go with the neutral colours or even have them matching your shoe colour just to keep consistency.

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Do you watch less television than you did ten years ago? If anything, I watch far more tv than I used to. Which is a concern for me - I worry life is passing me by whilst I sit and watch tv.

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What do u do when someone u love r n over their head with some bad things, & could possibly result n prison for the rest of their life or dead. & they are bringing family down too? & they have a disability & dont comprehend what they are doing is wrong? Wow, sounds like a tough situation for you. Well, you've said at the start' someone u love'. That's a start. It depends on your moral standing - ie, would you encourage them to seek help or turn themselves in or would you help them hide. By helping them hide (if that's the option you think of choosing), you need to think about whether you're helping them in...

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Do you think dreams can show you the future? Dream can be representative of the subconscious. Some people (not many from my knowledge) have dreamless sleep (which in itself has meaning but I'll go into that another day). For those who dream however, dreams represent the concerns, fears, hopes, desires and general anxieties that we have in our everyday lives. Dreams (according to some) can show the future - in a predictive...

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Ladies....men will not ask a female out or talk to them because they are intimidated by their looks, why? Perhaps they think that a woman that good looking must either be taken or gay?

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Why does Answerbag attract so many random people? Because the anonymity of the internet and AB allows individuals to feel as though they are an authority on the question areas they choose to answer - well, those who answer seriously that is. The anonymity also allows for the silly answers, the offensive comments and well, some interesting human interaction.

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Women: How many of you started planning your wedding as a child? Did you ever have the wedding you dreamed of? I didn't start planning my wedding as a child - I was a fair tomboy and fought hard against dresses. I think that as I look back, I find more and more things I loved about my wedding - the music, the ceremony, the venue. I'd like to have had more money and I'd love to have had a dress to change into between the wedding and photos and also between the photos and the...

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What is your biggest WHAT IF....? Meaning what if i would've done this or that? What if I was born with the most perfect life....? Perhaps that's a little too ambitious?

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What wouldn't you wish to your worst enemy? Death to them or anyone else they knew. There's no satisfaction in having an enemy that's dead - unless you'd consider that the ultimate victory - outliving them, that is.

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Does your cat play fetch?. My inlaw's have a kitten that fetches - it just doesn't return the item it's chased down and pounced on.

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What's going through your dog's mind when he looks at you? Why do you bother with those ridiculous pieces of material? Let it fly free honey, that's what I do... (alternately) Feed me (alternately) Pat me, rub my tummy, scratch my ears (alternately) Seriously, what is it with the material? (alternately) Why do you have to shut the bathroom door? What's wrong with peeing on a plant outside? You should try lifting...

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What song gets you PUMPED? Eye of the Tiger (something about it plus the accompanying and much copied and satirised imagery of Rocky Balboa pounding the steps) Mostly songs with high energy, pounding addictive beats and ones that aren't simply 'doof-doof' techno but more masterful with backing tunes and great lyrics.

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What will be the title of your next book if you write one about your life on Answerbag? The helpful, unhelpful, the answered and the questioned Or is that too literal?

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If you could have a sit down, face-to-face conversation with an AB-er, who would you choose? brisde is who because it appears that whilst Brisde is prepared to give my answer a low rating and then add insult by questioning what I do for a living, Brisde themselves make a huge judgement call of the person who asked the question. Any queries with this one? E-mail me via answerbag if possible to do so or simply check out my profile and the questions I've answered - it's...

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If you named your child after an onomatopoeia, which one would it be? Wow. what an interesting question... had to think for a moment what an onomatopoeia was... That done.... I think the Flintstoneswere right when they named their little girl 'Bam Bam'. And kudos to the person who put 'Bam' as their answer! It's a good one.

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What do you look like? So it's not my best angle but hey, what's a girl to do when she's having a bad ear day?

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I'm 16 and have had done it with 11 people. is that wrong? It honestly depends on the reasons why you chose to start having sex at the age you first started and also the reasons for having been with 11 people. It also depends on the kinds of people you've been with and what is going on for you at the time - before having sex, during (as in what's going on in your mind whilst you have sex) and after (does having sex help you find answers...

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Your home alone, you have to go to the bathroom, someones knocking at the door, your phone is ringing, what do you do first? Go to the door, check to see who it is (take the phone with you). If it's someone you do know, tell them to come in, pass them the phone and ask them to answer it for you whilst you dash off to the bathroom. IF it's someone you don't know, take the phone with you, answer it, tell them to wait and incase it's a psycho waiting at the door and who is now working out ways to...

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What are some valid arguements for and against the death penalty, logically speaking? Whilst the death penalty is indeed 'absolute' justice as Bryce Moody so eloquently put it, 'absolute justice' has its drawbacks. 1) Death cannot be reversed - apologising to the family of someone who has lost a loved one due to a mistake doesn't help bring them back. 2)For those who committed crimes, Death can be seen as an easy way out - who would want to live the...

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Is anyone else sick of the religious questions? I am. By asking the question you did, does that mean you just asked a religious question yourself?

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How do I stop my daughter from getting married until she finishes college? by not threatening to cut her off - Tell her you'd prefer her to wait and that you're not stopping her or planning to stop her but that you'd like to help her plan the wedding and perhaps offer to throw her a glamorous engagement party. Also, share with her the reasons why you don't want her to get married - but first, get some counselling or talk to a friend who can force you to look inwards...

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Why do females have a longer life expectancy than males no matter what country they are from? Cause we're just better at hiding the bodies and covering up the smells :)

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Why do men like high heels on women? Because it makes their legs look good - either that or it means that it's harder for women to get away when they're literally chained to the kitchen and have to ruin a good pair of heels and stockings just to get out of the chains... (Apologies to those who will be offended)

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How many Americans are in debt, and how much do they owe? Are you looking for the answer in order to justify a credit card bill to someone who will disapprove? (I am - let me know what the result is and if it helps yuor case lol)

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Is it possible for an emotionally abusive person to change? It depends on the circumstances - in my field of welfare as a student of it and worker within the field, I know some who would say they change when declared dead (but even then there's long-lasting effects). The thing is that if the individual is forced to change - either legally or due to being made to realise what they are doing, then they can change but how long it lasts for can be...

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Do dogs talk between themselves in a different language in different countries? Good question! Where's Dr Doolittle when you need him?

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During a military funeral, who is the flag handed to if the spouse of the deceased is not living? Also, if there is no next-of kin or relative available, an individual can step up and ask to be the one whom the flag is handed to. If this isn't able to occur, the military themselves will have friends of the individual (hopefully) who can step up for the flag and worst-case scenario, a representative of the service division steps in and takes the flag.

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Need a witness present testimony for either prosecution or witness if he or she does not want to? Your court should offer a form of witness protection whereby they can testify infront of only the judge and lawyers or via video-link-up with their identity protected from general public and person they testify against but known to the judge and lawyers (but not the defendant). Also, statutory declared witness statements in writing can be used as testimony.

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How do you tell a date she has bad breath before making love? Try reverse psychology - kiss her, ask her if your breath smells and take out some mints and pop a couple of mints whilst waiting for her answer. Also, you could make sure you even the playing field and have garlic in your dinner - ie a garlic and cheese pizza to start and then later - cause of the garlic smell, you can have a mint and then offer her one as well - she'll probably take it -...

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Can I return a new car if I don't want the car? In Australia most things like New Cars do have a 'cooling off' period whereby you can return the item. With cars however I'm unsure - I can look it up in my law handbook (wherever it's gotten to) and let you know - and no, I'm not a lawyer - I'm studying welfare and have to know something about the law - we get clients who get in trouble for buying stuff not not reading or understanding the...

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Where does the phrase "to ponder one's navel" come from? Navel Gazing isn't just a marine metaphor. It's also because in the OLDEN Days (Post Prehistoric Roaming Poodle but Pre Internet and Television and other fun stuff :) ), if you were shy or didn't know the answer to something or simply were reserved / ladylike (as some might say), you'd look down. Then the Prehistoric Neanderthal Male discovered his belly-button fluff and that's the reason...

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Why do people feed, water, and offer cigarettes to statues of Buddha? So Buddha's not allowed to have an occasional vice? Seriously, good question! I'm going to bookmark this one and wait for the answer (hopefully it arrives) - I'll also ask relatives who should know.. (I should know considering I'm buddhism-friendly

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If I get up early without waking naturally, I feel nauseous for a few hours. What would cause this? Depends on what you did the night before and how late... You might have been drinking.. If you're female, you may be pregnant (sorry to bring this option up).. Or overall, your body might mean you're just not a morning person!

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Is there a good way of killing a tree (in this case a holly bush) without chopping it down? I think that there are two ways but neither is exactly euthanasia friendly - 1. Poison it 2. Ring It With answer 2., I don't mean ring as in phone but there's a technique where you can cut partly into the rings (as stated above) or if I remember right from high-school, you can 'strangle' it by putting a metal ring around the tree. You might be able to google 'Tree Ringing'. ...

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what's the number 1 way to make yourself faint without a friend's help? Find your biggest fear, have some random negative, terrifying looking stranger tell you you're perfectly right to have the fear and then FACE IT!! For example, your fears might be: Fear of your CD player getting permanently stuck on Track repeat whilst listening to 'I Will Always Love You' by Whitney Houston (from the Bodygard Soundtrack). Fear of Celine Dion music Fear of the...

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What celebrity's favorite food is fried peanut butter, banana, and mayonnaise sandwiches? Agreed! Elvis of course..

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Do middle school teachers have different training or experience than elementary or high school teachers? Here's the Victoria, Australia perspective on this question: Because we generally don't separate middle and high school and refer to them collectively as being high school (from year 7 - 12), we only have Primary School (which would be referred to as elementary shcool) and High School. So given that definition, here's the answer that we'd give from Victoria, Australia: ...

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Has any student gone directly from middle school to college? Doogie Howser MD anyone?

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If I can't hear what you're saying, then have you really said anything, since I wasn't able to hear what you were saying? It all depends on your perception of reality and whether your philosophical system of belief lies with concepts such as fatalism or reality. For example, if a man is in the woods and there is no woman around to correct him does that mean his words are wrong? This is a variation on the whole tree falling theory. ie - 'If a tree falls in the woods and there is no-one around to hear...

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When was the koala bear discovered? The Koala - Bear or not is loved but just make sure you don't get between a testy koala and it's object of desire - food, a good branch to snooze on, it's children.... That's when they go from cute cuddly (and by the way don't go cuddling the Koalas, they get fiesty and those little critters have claws like Freddy Krueger) to Hannibal Bear.. Flava Beans anyone?

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If someone is about to kill me but grants me a last request, what are some things I could ask for that would result in my escaping the situation? You could fake them out by saying something like, "Oh, thank God! Finally my prayers have come true, I'm dying of (insert horrible life-shortening terminal disease) and I want to end it all but no-one would help me till you came along!!" Similarly to the answers brilliantly submitted by other answerbag-contributors, this would create conflict and guilt and thus assuming the...

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What are the small clear things in tapioca pudding? I thought perhaps it was a thing called sago... As to what sago is?? I'm not sure how to explain it.. it's similar to pudding type stuff I think.

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My girlfriend is very sweet girl and I love her, but she is not funny or social at all, and I'm completely the opposite, and sometimes I am embarrassed by this. Will this be a problem in our relationship? If it doesn't work out and you end up single and on the prowl, let me know, I'll hook you up with a cute girl-clown next time they come to town.. Ah, good times.. Clowns - they're funny, social and some can make great baloon animals and not to mention how entertaining those little cars some drive round happen to be! Mind you, they're also slightly unnerving and...

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Why is it so difficult for people to be candid with a significant other? Political correctness has alot to answer for...

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How do I make the dogs go potty in a different part of my yard? Isn't the answer obvious?? It's easy. Get a needy breed of dog or trading in yours for a needier model! Most small dog breeds will fit into this category (Maltese etc), and making sure that said needy dog can see your point of entry and exit into the house and thus being needy, said dog will nervously / excitedly / needily (even) wait at afore mentioned entry / exit view-point...

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Can you drink too much diet soda? With the FDA making a song and dance about the perils of diet-soda, would that be similar to how we were told years ago not to be silly and that surely, if cigarette smoking was bad for us that surely the Government or relevant authorities would have alerted Batman on the Red Phone and then begun screaming 'Danger Will Robinson!' through their emergency loudhailers? It's like...

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I'm considering getting a Siberian Husky puppy soon, but I heard they eat house cats (I have 2). Is that true? Just be careful not to encourage the Siber to rough-play with you - this is how they can end up tearing cats apart - sorry if that sounds awful but my brother had 2 and had to have one put down because of what it did to a neighbours cat - we have a maltese - little ball of fur that loves to play and never runs out of energy and we stopped letting it play with my brother's siber after the...

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Did wild poodles ever roam the earth? Sorry if this offends anyone who is a fan of poodles - I met a lovely sweet tempered one once but then it turned out to be a german-shepherd with a curly fur problem... Now as far as Im concerned I think this could be a possibility - aren't poodles just higher evolved cats?? Some I've known are more uppity than their owners - one owner of one such animal is terrified of its poodle...

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My 10 week old male puppy pooped on the placemat where his food is. What made him do this and how do I change it? Your puppy may have been removed from its litter and mother before it was ready and thus has not learnt about the differences between bathroom and eating areas. Another possibility is that he may have problems with his sense of smell - if he can't smell his faeces, he won't notice it. One way to teach him about defacating in his food areas is to have him outdoors (or in a...

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After my dog has done his business outside, he scratches his feet across the floor in the house and flicks mud and grass everywhere. Why does he do this? I always thought they scratch furiously and 'kick back' their hind legs as a covering motion. I guess this is your pup's way of 'flushing' his business. One possibility is that perhaps your pup is a deep thinker and was preoccupied and forgot to scratch and kick until he got inside.

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Is it true that if you try to pay off a debt using all pennies and they refuse it then legally your debt is paid because pennies are legal tender? I'm not sure about this question as I'm from Australia and we don't have pennies out here, but there is a myth that exists out where we live that if you have a fine owing to the local council / government - ie, a fine incurred from a traffic offense or say a parking ticket, one way to have it legally considered paid but not actually lose any money is to do the following: Write...

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If an attacker sneaks up behind you while you're sitting at a breakfast table eating cereal and pushes your head into the bowl in an effort to drown you, what are some good moves to escape that situation? Perhaps you can play dead - you know, like people are meant to if there's a riled up bear nearby. If there was a riled up bear growling cause someone ate his porrige (served usually in a bowl), and you happened to be the one eating it - a-la Goldilocks, and you got sprung by said riled up bear, you could pretend to play dead.. I'm sure after having done a face-plant in the...