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Is it classed as cheating if your OH is having online sex with other women on adult chat sites. He is also sending them pics of himself and intimate pics. We are due to be married on 4th sept 09 and I am so confused. I wouldn't marry him if I were you, this is an addiction/fetish and it's a big red flag! This won't get better without him seeking professional help and to answer your question, yes he has cheated on u.

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Is my new b cheating on me? he works away and i only see him once a fortnight for a fews hours i saw on his msn he had 265 women listed all with rude usernames and his mobile phone bil was £400 for a month i found his profile on sex sites rude pics I'm in the same situation except we have a child together. From what youve put on here I would say he definately can't be trusted. Porn is one thing but actually interacting in a sexual manner which I'd be pretty sure he is by the sounds of things, is borderline cheating and you'd b selling yourself short to stay with this man. Don't do it! Trust me, get out of the relationship while there are...

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Could I be pregnant? I have lots of symptoms. I've taken 3 tests, 1 was negative, the other 2 were invalid. I haven't missed period. Ok for all you nasty people on here who seem to get off on insulting people. I am simply asking if anyone has had a similar experience so if not please don't answer with your immature comments and insults. Seriously, you are the ones that need to GROW UP!

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Is love a choice or is it by chance? My therapist tells me love is a choice, chemistry and lust can be mistaken for love but once that honeymoon phase wears off you should have a good look at the persons morals and personality and your compatibility and the way they treat you and other people and make a decision on whether you should love this person or not. I on the other hand don't know about this, I'm in a relationship with a...

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What behavior of hers/his tipped you off that you were being manipulated? I think the fact that he threatens to leave, tells me I will die lonely, tells me I need help and yet he won't let me go when I try to leave.

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How do you stop being abusive to your significant other when they try so hard to set you off and you loose all control even tho you know they want you top how do you be the better one and stop the mental and physical abusive relationship? You are an abuser and it's NOT the other person's fault. You have no right to lay a hand on someone you are supposed to Love. I think you both need to seek help and that's not a bad thing. I think it's better if you can try and change on your own. Once violence starts in a relationship, it always rears it's ugly head again. The only way to stop it now is to end the relationship and seek...

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Why is mutual respect such a hard thing to achieve in a relationship? Shouldn't that be a natural basic? Hi thank u so much 4 ur response i really appreciate ur support. I hav an appointment 4 legal advice on thursday. I really need 2 try and stay strong and stay away this time. I just need a good plan of attack in order 2 do it. I wil let u knw how it goes. Thanks again

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i shot my girlfriend when i was on crystal meth, but now i'm clean and really, really sorry. how do i force her to take me back? The fact that you used the word 'force' concerns me. I think she'd be a wise girl to stay as far away from you as possible.

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I've been told by EVERYONE (i.e.- boyfriend, friends, therapist, other doctors) that I think too much. I've been made to feel abnormal about my mental activity. Is this a symptom of a mental disorder or could I just be a high-functioning individual? Try Meditation. If your overthinking is causing problems and negativity then it may be anxiety or depression. I have heard meditation can really help to "Quiet" the mind.

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Is it safe to take Lexapro while being pregnant? I would only take it while pregnant if you really need to, if you are only mildly depressed I would say it would be better to struggle with mood swings for 9+ months to be on the safe side.

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Anyone else here take Lexapro? Is it a MAOI Inhibitor? I have a trial pack but I'm still breastfeeding so I'm tossing up whether to take them or not. Doc says it is fine, but it's a personal choice. Some of the meds still get through the breastmilk in small amounts. How did you go with these drugs? I'd love to hear feedback before I start.

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How is your partner lately in bed? Boring, not focused, no passion. Did you ever think it just might be YOU. Think about it! It comes and it goes and I think it's got to be the same for every relationship.. Sometimes, the passion just isn't there!!

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does any1 suffer depression and take it out on their partner? Shutting them out and treating them badly n always thinkin negatively of them? Yes I am.. The above answer is right. I do suffer jealousy and low self esteem and I can't understand why. Without blowing my own horn I am very attractive and bubbly on the surface. Is it possible to just get low self esteem and jealousy issues from depression? Or do I get depression from having jealousy and low self esteem? We have a 1 year old boy together who we both adore.

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Dating my bf for 3 yrs, drug problem we're trying to fix. Found 3 naked woman pictures on his phone. He has depression, too. What to do? It's a hard one. My boyfriend is a speed user and he gets really weird sexual desires when he's on it and it really hurts me, loves porn, has looked up those sex dating sites etc. Thing is, he is not like that when he is clean. I say break up with him. Only he can help himself and if you have enough self esteem to say to yourself "I wish him well and I hope he gets better but life is short...

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I popped in this porno at the house and it was a video of my parents. but the weird thing is i liked it. and now i wanna have sex with my dad. what ever shall i do about this? That is really not good, I suggest you speak to a councillor about this.

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I am 8 weeks pregnant and my boyfriend has a slight cocaine problem. He does it maybe 3-4 times a week but usually in small amounts. He told me once im 12 wks and its for sure he will smarten up..what should i do? The win - win situation is to leave. I know that probably doesn't sound like winning to you. But trust me, if you leave he will either realise what he is going to lose and take serious steps to get better (not just talking about it, actually taking action to seek help) or he won't and if he doesn't you are better off without him anyway. I have been through this with my partner and trust me,...

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My boyfriend cheated. He is really sorry and asking to work things out. This is the first time that he did this. Should I stay and give him a chance or should I just break up with him? No no no!! Kick him the the kerb.. I forgave my partner for having an affair with his ex and we have been together 4 years and have a 9month old baby and I still don't trust him, not sure if I ever will!! In hindsight I should have left the relationship and cut all contact and not look back. Please have enough love and respect for yourself to know that you deserve better.

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Should i break up with a guy who cant respect my not wanting him to go to strip clubs or am i being too conservative of not wanting him to go on certain occasions? Everybody has their boundaries in relationships and if this is yours he shouldn't cross it. In saying that, sometimes it's unavoidable for close friends bucks nights. It would be hard to forbid him of that if it was a close friend.

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I'm engaged and love my fiance, but I started casually e-mailing a man, then we decided to meet and I'm very attracted to him. We kissed and things are getting more intense, but I feel horrible. What should I do? You need to end at least one relationship RIGHT NOW before you do something you will regret.

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Is it wrong for my s/o to take money from me then not give it back because of his drug addiciton? He says that as his woman, I should "understand" and keep giving him money. That is SO WRONG.. DO NOT give him any more money. You are only making his addiction worse by enabling him to do this. I suggest you call the national drug councilling line.

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BF broke up with me i stopped calling him and he now calls me all the time for stupid things. He mentioned it sucked being without me and he thinks about me all day but doesnt mention wanting to get back together what is going on??i act like i dont care Sounds to me like he just wants to keep you there waiting and doesn't want you to move on but still wants to do whatever he likes which is not fair on you. You should break contact with him as hard as it may be so that you can move on.

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Is asking my boyfriend his email password invading his privacy? Definately, trust is very important in a relationship. Unless there is a legitimate reason for you wanting to check his emails and you need confirmation otherwise this is a huge invasion of privacy.

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Why do guys ask for a "break" if they still love you? If he cried when he said the words? I am on the other side of this situation where I am asking for the break. I can tell you that I still deeply love and care about my boyfriend. In our instance I want to be certain that this is what I want for the rest of our lives. There has been a lot of past hurts and I need time to be on my own without his influence and know what I truly want. I can tell you that if he wants a break...

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Everyone tells me how beautiful i am and all the guys hit on me. Yet, i dont have a boyfriend and noone asked me to homecoming. what is wrong with me? You are probably intimidating to most boys. Try and be more approachable and friendly and down to earth and just be yourself. Also don't go looking for love or need it desperately, this turns people off. Just be happy within yourself and enjoy life as a single person and love will find you when the time is right.

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My boyfriend broke up with me last week, im about to have his baby in about a month & we still live together. It hurts me to say this but I dont think i want this baby anymore, maybe its just because it all just happend but idk should i give this baby up? Don't forget you tend to be very hormonal when you are pregnant. I am kind of in the same position. I'm still with my partner, but had enough of him taking me for granted and making the same mistakes all the time. I know in my case the baby will have lots of love from myself and my family whether I'm with or without my partner. Perhaps you should talk to a proffessional for...

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Please tell me the top 3 things i need to do to learn to trust the lying cheating bastard so that we can move on. he wants me to never bring it up again. to me that lets him get away with it. Hi there, My partner cheated on me with his ex at the beginning of the relationship, well, it was actually more of an affair and was ongoing for a while. I didn't leave and am now pregnant with his child and while I honestly beleive he wouldn't do it again, I still find it very hard to trust him and I'm not over what happened, don't know if I ever will be. My advice would...

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Is there a way to get rid of pimples over night? You could try putting toothpaste on the pimple, it tends to dry them out for me.

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MY husband has a drug problem & accepted $20,000 in preapproved credit accounts in the past 4 months. He cannot pay them -can he goto jail? Is this considered fraud? His credit score is already ruined as he has made minimal (if any) payments. How do you cope with this? My boyfriend has a drug problem and I find it extremely stressful and hard to trust him. Have you ever tried to get him to quit? What drug are we talking here, if you don't mind me asking??

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I got dumped a couple of months ago because I lost my sixpack so I wasn't hot anymore. Now that I have it back, she wants me back. Should I give her another chance? Hell no! Find someone who loves you for you, not for your six pack, that is just ridiculous!!

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How do I exercise during pregnancy? Yoga, swimming, water aerobics, walking are all relatively safe exercises to do while you are pregnant.

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How can I lose the weight gained during pregnancy? I recommend opti fast (shakes) for fast, permanent weight loss. It really worked for me + be as active as you can.

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"why cant i get, just one kiss (repeat)" who sang this, and what is the songs title? Violent Femmes, can't remember the song title.

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How do you control your emotions? I have been seeing a therapist for this exact reason. He suggested that there is a process of what happens and there is a situation that arises and you miss the process of thought and go straight to the emotion causing you to react irrationally and make assumptions. We need to try and take a deep breathe (or 2) and put thought into it before we let our emotions take over. It's your...

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I need help for depression? Any suggestions? I suffer depression myself and I've found it to be a long process, although you want to get better overnight, unfortunately it doesn't happen that way (without the help of pills which are only a bandaid and it doesn't get better overnight anyway). I have been from therapist to therapist and I've finally found one that really talks to me in my language, finding one you can...

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My weight won't drop anymore! I just had a baby in March and I'm trying to get down to 140 and i'm stuck at 147, what should i do? I only gained 17 pounds my whole pregnancy but want to have another one soon....help! I recommend opti-fast, it's meal replacements that are fully nutritionally balanced and they won't break the budget. You can buy them from any good chemist. You replace 2 meals per day, make sure you drink 8 litres of water and You will lose weight. I found it harder to replace 2 meals on the weekends so I only replaced one meal and still lost weight. Take the dog for brisk walk...

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My ex-husband spent years in prison for sexually abusing my children. I know it's beneficial for me to forgive him, but how do I go about doing this? Everytime I think of him I want him to suffer as they did. If I was in that situation I don't beleive I would be able to forgive him. You should try talking to a proffesional about the best way for you to deal with this and who cares about how he is dealing with it! He knows it was wrong and yet he still did it with no regard for how it might affect the children. He deserves to die a lonely old man.

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What is your opinion on antidepressants, do they help people or are the over prescribed? I think they help to take the edge off your depression while you can work on getting better with councilling, reading books and improving your lifestyle etc. I dont think they will make you better on their own they are only a bandaid. Alcohol is a killer for me, if I drink I go way back down. It is a depressent so avoid it.

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If someone had cheated on you, would you get rid of them right away no questions asked? Yes, definately. I stayed with my ex for far too long, everyone is different but it will never be the same and you will have a hard time trusting him and in my experience you can become someone you don't like being as you will feel insecure. Move on and find someone that deserves you.

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Please tell me the top 3 things i need to do to learn to trust the lying cheating bastard so that we can move on. he wants me to never bring it up again. to me that lets him get away with it. I just have to say I can relate, I'm in exactly the same situation and I think you need to talk about it to understand why it was done and get over it. My boyfriend is the same, don't want to talk about it. That only leaves me without a clue why he would do it and making it impossible for me to forgive and forget. I have suggested councilling and he doesn't want to. I think...

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The ex i keep going on about called today after all he has done and said sorry.. How do i react he lied cheated hit me I am in the same boat as you I guess, I have put up with a hell of a lot from my boyfriend and he claims it's not him it's the drugs. There is no excuse for behaving in this fashion. Forgive him for your own sake not his, and move on and find someone better. It's not hard to find someone better than that, he's right down the bottom end and you deserve no less than someone...

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How does a guy choose between two different girls? One he's been with for 2 years but cheated on him and the other girl adores him but he doesn't know if he can trust again...? If you can be strong enough to leave someone who has cheated, then I say do it. You will have a hard time trusting this person again, but remember not everyone is the same and you shouldn't punish new girlfriend for something your ex girlfriend did. Everyone deserves the benefit of the doubt until proven guilty.

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What can a person do after leaving an unhealthy relationship to move forward and become healthier? Still love the person, but they moved on and won't speak to me. lasts words were on bad terms but I had to breakup for person health reaso My advice would be to spend time and money on making yourself feel better and more attractive i.e. Buying new clothes, treating yourself to a facial etc. My other advice would be exercise and yoga. I used to be quite depressed and I have found yoga to be very helpful in calming the mind. Also try self help books, you don't need to spend money, your local library would have a ton of...