http://www.answerbag.com/profile/285258 New Answerbag answers from katespana Tue, 29 May 2012 09:42:24 -0700 Tue, 29 May 2012 09:42:24 -0700 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/11583421 What help is there for pedophiles? In particular ones that have not crossed over to acting on their abnormal desire? No haters please.<br /><br />Perhaps psychological counselling can help - but it would have to be with a person specially trained in these areas. There has been some success with psychotherapists working with sex offenders in prison. The problem lies in the person's fundamental make-up and is usually a result of childhood... Mon, 12 Dec 2011 09:38:15 -0800 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/11583421 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/11583371 I'm sure God never makes mistakes, but why did he make me then? Nobody likes me, not even my abusive family and I'm very ugly<br /><br />If you're sure that God never makes mistakes then you must also be sure he hasn't made one with you. The mistake is your own - to believe the negative opinions/actions of those closest to you. Try doing some voluntary work, maybe helping those with serious problems and you will soon forget your... Mon, 12 Dec 2011 09:18:29 -0800 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/11583371 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/11577203 I realy wish to torture and kill rapists, pedophiles, and KKKs Nazis ect. is it abnormal???<br /><br />It's not abnormal if you have been the victim of some sort of abuse of power. You are bound to feel helpless and angry, even murderous. But, remember, feeling these things is ok - acting out your feelings would make you as bad as the perpetrators of such violence and prejudice. Look inside... Sat, 10 Dec 2011 15:29:00 -0800 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/11577203 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/9457467 Have you ever been in a crowd of friends/people, been in middle of conversation then said something odd/dumb/embarrassing and then the room went silent?<br /><br />I was speaking on Skype to a friend and her partner came onto the screen wearing just his pants and I said, 'Show us your willie' (!) - don't know why I said it! He went quiet and moved away, she sat looking very unamused. I wish I could un-say it but what can I do now? It just happened! Sat, 31 Jul 2010 14:26:38 -0700 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/9457467 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/9457466 Have you ever been in a crowd of friends/people, been in middle of conversation then said something odd/dumb/embarrassing and then the room went silent?<br /><br />I was speaking on Skype to a friend and her partner came onto the screen wearing just his pants and I said, 'Show us your willie' (!) - don't know why I said it! He went quiet and moved away, she sat looking very unamused. I wish I could un-say it but what can I do now? It just happened! Sat, 31 Jul 2010 14:26:27 -0700 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/9457466 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/9457464 Have you ever been in a crowd of friends/people, been in middle of conversation then said something odd/dumb/embarrassing and then the room went silent?<br /><br />I was speaking on Skype to a friend and her partner came onto the screen wearing just his pants and I said, 'Show us your willie' (!) - don't know why I said it! He went quiet and moved away, she sat looking very unamused. I wish I could un-say it but what can I do now? It just happened! Sat, 31 Jul 2010 14:26:19 -0700 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/9457464 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/9457454 In conversation with someone,have you ever accidentally said something that was embarrassing to you|them?<br /><br />I introduced a guy who was quite famous in the 70's by inserting the title of his hit record between his first and surnames. He gave me a shocked glance and I almost fell through the floor! Ugh! I'm still mortified to think I could do something so crass! Sat, 31 Jul 2010 14:23:13 -0700 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/9457454 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/9441759 What do I do.... Please help!!!!<br /><br />You have lived with hurt and loss of trust for too long. If you feel attracted to this guy it's because it's easier to trust a stranger than your own man! How sad is that? And - there is no love without trust, I guess. Maybe you need to trust someone again - but be sure he's the right one. No... Wed, 28 Jul 2010 15:43:40 -0700 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/9441759 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/9441722 What does vulnerable mean?<br /><br />Ok, it's a while since you asked, but first time I read it. It means what all your answerers said. But it also means that for some reason your defences are less than average. Which means others can/will take advantage of you and be cynical, uncaring, disbelieving... and you will end up feeling...... Wed, 28 Jul 2010 15:33:11 -0700 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/9441722 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/9441702 What does vulnerable mean?<br /><br />Share your answer... Wed, 28 Jul 2010 15:26:54 -0700 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/9441702 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/9099418 What would you say to the parents of the 2-year-old who smokes 40 cigarettes a day?<br /><br />If your child means anything to you then stop this dangerous habit immediately! It will only take a few days to get the nicotine out of his system and he will no longer crave cigarettes. If he cries/has tantrumes then et hiom - he won't die of them but he will probably die of smoking sooner or... Fri, 28 May 2010 09:12:22 -0700 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/9099418 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/8673499 I caught my boyfriend packing viagra in his cosmetic bag for a business trip, is he cheating? He said it was to give to a friend.<br /><br />I wouldn't believe him. If he's cheating and lying be grateful that you found out now rather than later. I'd tell him not to bother unpacking when he returns. Sun, 07 Feb 2010 06:49:35 -0800 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/8673499 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/8673491 Do you forgive your husband & father of 6 for kissing another girl while drunk at a party 3 yrs ago? He just told me 2day. I'm crushed.<br /><br />Yes, it was only a mad moment, probably fuelled by alcohol and ultimately meaningless. Of course, you're hurt but he's honest with you even tho' it took a long time to admit what he did. Why did he choose to tell you now, I wonder? Is the girl still around, is she a friend? I hope you can put it... Sun, 07 Feb 2010 06:45:54 -0800 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/8673491 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/8673467 Is it possible to be so numb that you cant feel love when ur in it? or do we all have the human ability to find a partner and love them?<br /><br />I think we all have the ability to love and be loved unless we are seriously mentally ill but there weould be other symptoms then. If you feel so numb maybe you've been hurt and are not yet ready for a new relationship? Or, if you're quite young perhaps you still have some emotional maturing to... Sun, 07 Feb 2010 06:38:31 -0800 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/8673467 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/8670771 What is therapeutic alliance?<br /><br />When the empathy and understanding of the therapist joins with the confusion and helplessness of the client in order to move the client forward - as if joined together against a mutual difficulty - then you have the therapeutic alliance. Like, 'I'm on your side!' Its about trust, mutual trust and... Fri, 05 Feb 2010 16:14:36 -0800 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/8670771 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/8670760 Which approach to psychology would be apt to say "the whole is greater than the sum of its parts?"<br /><br />Transpersonal. Fri, 05 Feb 2010 16:11:07 -0800 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/8670760 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/8670750 I'm a mormon, I like swearing, I hate my enemies, I love money, I dont love my neighbours, I'm suicidal. Am I going to hell when I die?<br /><br />Mormonism, like all 'isms', 'ologies' and 'ists' is a man-made concept. Believe if you wish, if it makes you feel better. But surely our Creator will not send us to hell for not doing/believing as others tell us we ought? Talk to God yourself, who needs a middle man? As foe feeling negative... Fri, 05 Feb 2010 16:07:17 -0800 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/8670750 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/8670729 help needed, ASAP. re- sex, teenage, bleeding, first time.<br /><br />If you are inexperienced it is natural to bleed a little the first time you have sex. Hopefully your lover is gentle and patient. If not, be careful as he may not have your needs uppermost. Its vital to be relaxed and trusting when you have sex with someone. Be sure to use protection as sexual... Fri, 05 Feb 2010 15:57:55 -0800 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/8670729 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/8605715 How does one develop the art of reading a story "at various levels" (whatever that means)?<br /><br />If you think of a book such as Lord of the Rings by Tolkein you will see that it may be read by a child in a literal sense, just enjoying the story. But, since adults too, enjoy this book then it is possible to see the story in a more symbolic way. In this way we can learn to look for deeper or... Wed, 13 Jan 2010 07:49:16 -0800 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/8605715 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/8499748 Is it correct to say "as she felt her muscles relax a bit"<br /><br />It&#039;s probably ok in some respect, but it might sound less clumsy if you said, &#039;as she felt her muscles relax a little&#039;... &#039;a bit&#039; sounds more to do with an object, i.e a bit of fluff... Or, I might expect you to say, &#039;as she felt her muscles relax a bit more&#039;,... Wed, 09 Dec 2009 07:18:23 -0800 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/8499748 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/8499720 If you were named after a city, which would it be?<br /><br />Florence as I love the place, but I wouldn&#039;t like it to be shortened to Flo&#039;! (My mother-in-law was called Florence and I loved her too!) Wed, 09 Dec 2009 07:13:44 -0800 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/8499720 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/8333551 What is your interpretation/feelings about what Kate Moss said in a recent interview, "Nothing tastes as good as skinny feels." She's getting blasted for supposedly encouraging eating disorders.<br /><br />I think that she was expressing her own personal preference and that whilst chocolate and all those &#039;forbidden&#039; goodies may taste great, feeling slim/skinny is a better option - for her. Because she&#039;s a public figure who influences many young women then it&#039;s unfortunate as she... Fri, 20 Nov 2009 07:51:34 -0800 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/8333551 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/8333497 I amin the process of filing for divorce and am now 6 months pregnant with my soon to be ex- husband. When the baby is born, I have decided to exclusvely breast feed. Can my husband fight this in court?<br /><br />I shouldn&#039;t think any court would try to prevent a mother from breast-feeding her child. And why would your ex wish to do so? If the baby is his without doubt then he may have a right to access but unless you are an unfit mother then you will have custody and therefore the right to decide... Fri, 20 Nov 2009 07:41:36 -0800 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/8333497 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/8324932 Would someone from the U.K. (I'm from the U.S) kindly explain the definition of a "wanker"? Is it profanity?<br /><br />Whilst wanker literally means masturbator it is a casual insult intended to mean that the person is simply a waste of time, pathetic, ineffectual etc., It&#039;s become so &#039;normal&#039; it&#039;s no longer considered too rude even for kids to say - and unfortunately lots of them do! Thu, 19 Nov 2009 08:42:59 -0800 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/8324932 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/8225986 Lately, when i wake up in the morning i have weird headaches and they last for about an hour after i get up. Can anyone help me get rid of them?.. :)<br /><br />It may be high or low blood pressure causing this. You ought to get that checked out and if it&#039;s ok then perhaps you&#039;re eating something at night that is having an effect on you, cheese, chocolate? Or alcohol? With persisitent headaches it&#039;s always best to get a medical check-up. Sun, 08 Nov 2009 04:29:12 -0800 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/8225986 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/8217811 What is a word for someone Who thinks things through, Somone who doesn't react on actions but a well thought out plan<br /><br />A strategist? A tactician would be one who reacts to things at the time but a more thoughtful type would plan a strategy and try to stick to it. Sat, 07 Nov 2009 08:48:19 -0800 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/8217811 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/8186098 Free will? Yes or No? How does it work?<br /><br />I think that the difference between man and the animals is just this question of free will. We are the only species who can exercise choice in our actions. An animal is purely instinctive, whereas we are both instinctive/intuitive and intellectual/spiritual. We have consciousness and that means... Wed, 04 Nov 2009 10:49:55 -0800 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/8186098 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/8153710 Do you believe that Love is quantitative as well as qualitative? I mean does it run out, or is there enought to go around?<br /><br />Love never ends. Love is pure energy and therefore, so long as we are around to perceive it we will know it. I believe that the more love we give the more we receive but its important to love yourself first, that way you can truly appreciate and love others. Sun, 01 Nov 2009 05:56:05 -0800 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/8153710 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/8153687 What is our purpose in life? Or do we have a purpose at all?<br /><br />If we go by religious instructions such as the Qoran or The Bible then we are indeed instructed to worship God and it follows that if we spent our lives in the constant state of gratitude and humilty this implies, then we would probably indeed feel happier. The Buddha exhorts us to be happy, that... Sun, 01 Nov 2009 05:51:54 -0800 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/8153687 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/8153644 Might the light at the end of the tunnel near death experiencers see be a wormhole to a sub-atomic universe as whatever energy life is descends from the macro back to the micro, back to creation from where it came where physical laws DON'T exist.<br /><br />Of course it&#039;s possible. After all, energy cannot be created or destroyed so where does it go when we die? Our basic &#039;essence&#039; may continue after our physical self has ceased to be, thought is energy and our living thoughts may propel our dying spirit into another level of... Sun, 01 Nov 2009 05:40:49 -0800 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/8153644 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/8153628 Why does the music have to end?<br /><br />The music never ends, it was there before you and will be there afterwards. What we hear now is just the phrase or bar we&#039;re in... Sun, 01 Nov 2009 05:36:35 -0800 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/8153628 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/8153617 What according to you are the 3 basic rules to succeed and be happy in the in the game of life?<br /><br />Love yourself Love others Always be true to yourself Sun, 01 Nov 2009 05:34:23 -0800 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/8153617 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/8153584 The man I am divorcing has been very abusive, 21 years. His parents and family are supportive of him by denying and justifying his despicable behavior. I feel he and his family should be confronted in some fashion. How should they be confronted?<br /><br />I read the other replies and they make a lot of sense. I just want to say that you obviously still feel a huge amount of anger and hurt, that&#039;s natural in the situation. Don&#039;t give him/them any more power over you. Become yourself, you must have compromised yourself a lot over the... Sun, 01 Nov 2009 05:25:42 -0800 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/8153584 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/8116247 Ive been going out with this man that 50 years old and I'm 40. He's has this best friend that he's had sex with in the past and i still feel that he still likes her because he always puts her first before me, even though live with him. Is this cheating?<br /><br />In my experience it&#039;s almost impossible for a man and a woman to be &#039;just friends&#039; as one or the other will be sexually attracted - that&#039;s just my observation, not an absolute rule. So... either she still fancies him and he enjoys the frisson/flattery/ego trip... or he still... Wed, 28 Oct 2009 04:06:23 -0700 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/8116247 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/8116224 Maybe I'm being silly but... My bf (32 y/o) has a large sexual past. He says he loves me more than anybody else before but,can someone with such a "conquer list" REALLY fall in love?<br /><br />Yes, of course. In fact, with experience he&#039;s more likely to recognize the difference between lust and love. Don&#039;t be intimidated by his past, it&#039;s not a threat to you if he&#039;s chosen to be with you and you&#039;re not in competition with anyone else. See his past as just that... Wed, 28 Oct 2009 03:55:57 -0700 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/8116224 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/8116212 What is difference between wisdom and knowledge<br /><br />Knowledge can be gained from external resources. Wisdom must be gained from internal resources and doesn&#039;t necessarily imply knowledge in a worldly or academic sense. Wisdom is also an attribute of grace and therefore even a child can show wisdom beyond its years. Wed, 28 Oct 2009 03:52:08 -0700 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/8116212 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/8116128 I have just been accepted as a COAT, I'm not sure what COAT I want to wear though. Do you have any ideas?<br /><br />Since you are unsure it suggests you have a diversity of interests, so why not become a COAT OF MANY COLOURS? lol x Wed, 28 Oct 2009 03:26:41 -0700 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/8116128 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/8099094 How far in a relationship is it ok to start having sex<br /><br />I think it can depend on the age you are sometimes. If you are young and/or inexperienced you can mistake lust for love and that might blind you to some realities. If you wnat a committed, adult relationship then maybe you should wait until you both feel complete trust in each other and share... Mon, 26 Oct 2009 08:34:07 -0700 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/8099094 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/8070709 How do I get over that my boyfriend notices attractive women, while I choose to personally keep my eyes for him only? I never notice other men, why isn't he the same?<br /><br />There&#039;s nothing to &#039;get over&#039; really. Men are visually stimulated initially, whereas women seek different qualities in a potential mate/father for their kids etc., By looking at other women he isn&#039;t putting you down, just following natural instincts, doesn&#039;t even mean he... Fri, 23 Oct 2009 04:37:57 -0700 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/8070709 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/8070683 Im thinking of putting glass/sharp nails on my grass verge outside my house,as my neighbours keep driving along the pavement/ive got young children/what if some child gets cut,though?and is it legal,ive told my neighbours,abt this they do it more?<br /><br />It might be better - and less dangerous/confrontational to make a formal complaint to your local council offices (town hall?). They may decide to take action, especially if you can any other concerned parties to join you in your complaint. It&#039;s best not to antagonize your neighbours since... Fri, 23 Oct 2009 04:33:13 -0700 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/8070683 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/8042208 What would you do if your girl freind broke up with you would you stay freinds or forget about her.<br /><br />Unless you share serious mutual interests that can help sustain a friendship then why bother? You need real friends, those you can trust. Since she cheated on you how can you trust her? If you feel you want to be near her that&#039;s because you haven&#039;t really got over her yet. Maybe stay... Tue, 20 Oct 2009 03:15:31 -0700 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/8042208 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/7687535 If your boyfriend can't say if he wants to stay together or break up how long should you wait to let him make up his mind?<br /><br />Depends how long you&#039;ve been together, how old you both are, whether there is anything of real value in this relationship and how long he&#039;s already been shilly-shallying. Give yourself a deadline if you want to give him time, say a week, a month, maybe? - but don&#039;t tell him what it... Wed, 09 Sep 2009 11:14:57 -0700 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/7687535 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/7668926 OK guys how do you want to be turned down? I'm sick of guys getting all pissy when I don't want to give them my number.<br /><br />Why not be nice when you turn them down, after all they are paying you a compliment. You could try saying that you&#039;d prefer to have their number and you&#039;ll maybe give them a call. That way, you&#039;ll be in charge and they won&#039;t feel rejected. Mon, 07 Sep 2009 12:40:01 -0700 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/7668926 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/7648915 I asked a young appearence old lady how old she was but she blew her top after hearing that very innocent question. Now that should ı change the words place and ask her my age?<br /><br />A lot of ladies &#039;of a certain age&#039; don&#039;t like to be asked how old they really are. It would be better if you privately acknowledged that she was probably older than she looked, but don&#039;t verbalize this. And, if you wanted to be really nice, pay her compliments such as,... Sat, 05 Sep 2009 01:42:31 -0700 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/7648915 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/7644113 Have you ever watched a guy singing a song and thought ... ♥Wow, i would really love to go to bed with that guy♥?<br /><br />Yes! I actually felt in love with this guy, his voice was so wonderful and he sang so meaningfully and seemed to look straight at me and only me. But it wasn&#039;t meant to be, even tho&#039; we got to be friendly it never came to much and he got himself a new girlfreind when his old... Fri, 04 Sep 2009 13:28:58 -0700 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/7644113 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/7644021 My best friend and I confessed we had feelings for each other after we broke up with our s/o's.His ex would ask me if I was dating him,etc. We've been having a "fling" for a month, then this morning said he can't talk to me anymore. Can we be friends?<br /><br />You were both feeling vulnerable and crossed the boundaries you&#039;d previously kept to. His ex might have picked up on the feelings you two had for each other, that sexual attraction thing and this could have made him feel a bit uncomfortable with you? It sounds as if he&#039;d prefer to keep... Fri, 04 Sep 2009 13:13:28 -0700 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/7644021 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/7631911 How can you tell if your breath smells would guys stop acually talking to someone cause of that what could you do to fix that problem<br /><br />Lick your hand and smell it, if it smells your breath is bad. Some people will be put off by bad breath. If you think it is bad get a dental check-up and always floss as well as brush your teeth. It might be a sinus problem, so get your doctor&#039;s advice if you think you still have a problem... Thu, 03 Sep 2009 03:19:10 -0700 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/7631911 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/7631896 I think my wife is messing around there was 9 deleted text messages from her phone. is there a way to get her texts sent to my phone when she sends them out or when they come in. or is there something i can hook up to her phone so i will know whats going.<br /><br />You need to clear the air as suspicion is corrosive and the energy between you won&#039;t flow properly as long as you&#039;re thinking like this. She might be cheating, I&#039;ve seen this sort of thing before and it ended in divorce. But if she is, then you will soon find out anyway. If not,... Thu, 03 Sep 2009 03:14:31 -0700 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/7631896 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/7584362 I english student and I woud like to know when I have to use the word FINISH and when I have to use END UP<br /><br />Hi, first of all, &#039;I AM an English student&#039; is correct. Like, I am a woman. Or, I am hungry. So, you use the word &#039;finish&#039; whenever you wish to say that you have come to the end of something. I recently FINISHed eating my dinner, then I tried to FINISH what I was working on... Fri, 28 Aug 2009 17:14:15 -0700 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/7584362 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/7574270 Does anyone know the symbolism behind wasps all over your house?<br /><br />Something is &#039;stinging&#039; you. Are you deeply in debt to someone charging extorniate rates? Do you feel aggravated and hurt by small but frequent &#039;barbed&#039; comments? I believe in this kind of manifestation of our thoughts. Look at what&#039;s happening in your life, look at your... Thu, 27 Aug 2009 16:56:21 -0700 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/7574270 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/7574155 How do you think face to face communication differs from communication using computers?<br /><br />What we say and what we feel are often two different things. If I listen to your voice I might detect some underlying emotion - or not. If I read your words I may imbue them with a meaning that doesn&#039;t exist. But if I look at you, into your eyes, see your gestures and hear you - in person,... Thu, 27 Aug 2009 16:39:15 -0700 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/7574155 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/7574104 Can you give the first name of the last person who hurt you?<br /><br />Angeli Thu, 27 Aug 2009 16:31:51 -0700 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/7574104 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/7541953 Can my husband of 23 years really forgive my cheating. He has not sorted his ED for 1.5 years.I wanted sex.I broke it off but my husband found out 7 weeks later.<br /><br />ED? Not sure what that is. But, if you mean you never had sex for 1.5 years then that&#039;s hard for you. Your husband may forgive you if he accepts he has some responsibility for the physical distance between you. You need to sit down and talk without blaming each other, maybe this would be... Mon, 24 Aug 2009 11:46:10 -0700 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/7541953 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/7505508 Sooo, my question was rejected and flagged as "nonsense"! Just because some ignorant person didn't know it was a quote made my Malcolm X....what should I do?<br /><br />RE-phrase your question making it obvious that what you are saying is actually a quotation and who it&#039;s by. That way you may get some sensible answers - what was your question by the way? Thu, 20 Aug 2009 11:06:25 -0700 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/7505508 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/7394018 How did Lucius Quintus Cincinnatus Lamar show courage?<br /><br />He was a champion of the Civil War, an American politician and jurist. Sun, 09 Aug 2009 13:50:51 -0700 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/7394018 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/7327372 Friend said was raped at 13, it's such an awful thing you believe the person telling you, of course! But she's tells so many people, different stories about who did it+how, I'm in doubt it happened. I don't know what to think of her anymore.What to do?<br /><br />There&#039;s something wrong somewhere if she needs to make such a story up. Maybe its true, maybe it isn&#039;t. But she needs some sort of help other than just friends. Suggest she visits a rape crisis centre and tell her that you just don&#039;t have the right experience to be able to help her... Mon, 03 Aug 2009 09:46:47 -0700 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/7327372 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/7326074 Some of you seem to be here for hours every day year in year out. Are you happy about that or do you feel kinda nerdy?<br /><br />I used to spend too much time here with my &#039;cyber-mates&#039; and did feel, yeah, kinda nerdy. A bit sad and wished I&#039;d got a &#039;proper&#039; ife with &#039;proper&#039; mates. But it helped enormously when I most needed it and eventually my life changed for the better again and now... Mon, 03 Aug 2009 07:32:17 -0700 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/7326074 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/7306226 How do you invite people to a dinner celebration where they will have to cover the price of their own meal?<br /><br />If its at a restaurant then you could indicate the price range of the menu and say that you will be providing everyone with a welcome drink and maybe another one later for a toast. Most people are aware that it would be too expensive for you to pay for everyone&#039;s meal. If it&#039;s at home... Sat, 01 Aug 2009 05:37:16 -0700 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/7306226 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/7306222 Is wishing you could disappear sometimes normal? Like fade into the background and not have to deal with things?<br /><br />Sometimes is ok. But if you begin to feel like this a lot maybe you need to talk to someone, a counsellor perhaps who can help you. Sounds as if your confidence is a bit low at the minute, maybe you need to build your self-esteem. Remind yourself of all the things you&#039;ve already dealt with,... Sat, 01 Aug 2009 05:31:53 -0700 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/7306222 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/7306201 If you have a boyfriend and are reasonably happy about it but you like someone else is it better to stay in the relationship and avoid hurting yourself and your boyfriend or take a risk and break up?<br /><br />&#039;Reasonably happy&#039; - hmm.... what does that mean? That on a rational level all&#039;s well but on an emotional level something&#039;s lacking? Ask yourself what is lacking? If it&#039;s just excitement, or the risk then think again. If it&#039;s that the other guy is more compatible,... Sat, 01 Aug 2009 05:20:35 -0700 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/7306201 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/7297912 I cant tell if i like this girl, i know i do but its on and off... and im confused if i like her or whats going on...<br /><br />Sounds as if you&#039;re experiencing a conflict between your emotions and your rational side. Your feelings are telling you that you like her a lot but your brain is arguing against this for some reason. IS there a reason, not to trust her for example? Or, maybe you&#039;ve been hurt before and... Fri, 31 Jul 2009 10:18:42 -0700 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/7297912 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/7297867 Is illusion the first of all pleasures?<br /><br />Illusion is all we know since the nature of reality eludes us all. We imagine we have pain, we imagine we have pleasure, we believe in the illusion that we exist so whether illusion is the first or one of many equal pleasures why worry if we&#039;re happy? Fri, 31 Jul 2009 10:13:12 -0700 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/7297867 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/6865888 Do you have any good poetic phrases? I would love to hear them.<br /><br />Here goes, hope you enjoy it:) My Mother&rsquo;s Voice I searched for my mother&rsquo;s voice In the soft winds that chased butterflies In the tangled riverbed I listened for her in the soft keening Of the full moon that hung her pregnant form Low in the dark heavens I tried to hear... Sat, 20 Jun 2009 06:51:57 -0700 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/6865888 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/6571158 Can someone right me an informing interesting poem about teen pregnancy, just about 25 lines or so? I want to understand it better, and I think this is a good way to.<br /><br />She&#039;s getting fatter. lazy git! She&#039;s moody and greedy too There&#039;s not a thing that I can say To make her go to school She&#039;s cries and spends her time in bed Talking on the phone When I ask her come on down She&#039;d rather be alone She doesn&#039;t smile She... Fri, 22 May 2009 09:21:45 -0700 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/6571158 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/6571093 What is catharsis?<br /><br />I&#039;m not sure why you ask this in the poetry section? It&#039;s a psychotherapeutic reaction during the sessions by a client who is revisiting a traumatic event with the help of the therapist. It is a moment of release that helps someone to move forward and leave the repressed pain behind.... Fri, 22 May 2009 09:12:28 -0700 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/6571093 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/6571049 Who wrote "Ode to Joy"?<br /><br />Beethoven wrote the symphony. Fri, 22 May 2009 09:06:11 -0700 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/6571049 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/6571029 Do you have any good poetic phrases? I would love to hear them.<br /><br />Needles of grief will force threads of gold through my soul. Fri, 22 May 2009 09:03:59 -0700 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/6571029 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/6571009 What is your favorite poem or quote by Rumi, the Sufi mystic?<br /><br />&#039;Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.&#039; What more can we say? Fri, 22 May 2009 09:01:08 -0700 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/6571009 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/6570968 Is poetry the purest form of language (when it is good)?<br /><br />I think so. Poetry is the distillation of experience, feeling and thought and it is the next highest form of communication to music in my opinion. If the poet can recreate in the mind of the reader/listener the original experience s/he felt then that is poetry and that is the art of poetry. Of... Fri, 22 May 2009 08:56:55 -0700 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/6570968 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/6570893 How do you get over someone you love who wants nothing to do with you?<br /><br />Give him the space to miss you. If he likes you he&#039;ll come looking for you. You need to develop your own interests, be with your friends and try to take an interest in something new. One day you&#039;ll realize it doesn&#039;t hurt anymore, but you cna&#039;t rush this. Take it easy, someone... Fri, 22 May 2009 08:48:26 -0700 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/6570893 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/6531208 What is your definition of a "crush"?<br /><br />A crush is something that usually happens to very young people who are testing their emotions, they may even have a &#039;crush&#039; on someone of the same sex, a teacher or another with some special perceived qualities. It&#039;s not actually a sexual thing. In older people it can be a case of... Mon, 18 May 2009 11:58:09 -0700 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/6531208 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/6438157 What do you say to Children when they ask "Where do babies come from"<br /><br />Just say, From mummies tummies&#039;. In my experience they only tend to ask one question at a time. It will take a little time before they begin to wonder how the babies got in there, then you just answer the next stage simply too, &#039;The daddy puts them there&#039; and so on... Why lie? If... Fri, 08 May 2009 08:31:48 -0700 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/6438157 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/6370014 My girlfriend has slept around quite a bit and has done the one night stand thing. I don't know if I can trust her now because I know this is what she used to be like. I am a good looking guy and could've done it, but i've always felt awkward. Views?<br /><br />She&#039;s less inhibited than you and this doesn&#039;t mean she will be unfaithful, just that she was happy to experiment/have fun without strings. Now she&#039;s in a special relationship she will probably be faithful to you if you show her trust and love. There&#039;s a huge difference... Fri, 01 May 2009 05:03:38 -0700 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/6370014 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/6369977 When someone you love and have been with for a long time meets someone else and leaves you, is there even a small chance they could still have feelings for you or does their love completely die?? : (<br /><br />True love never dies. He may have fallen in love with someone else but if he truly loved you then those feelings will remain even if he tries to repress them. The point is that your relationship wasn&#039;t strong enough to keep you together. He may feel nostaligia/regret now but he&#039;s still... Fri, 01 May 2009 04:56:08 -0700 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/6369977 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/6369932 My boyfriend of nearly two years (agreed non-exclusive, ie we can date other people) has moved in with another girl. He says it is just convenient for a place to live. However, she doesn't know about me and ismaking it difficult to see him! What to do?<br /><br />It sounds as if he agred this with you - but agreed something else with her! I think you ought to end this relationship since he&#039;s not being entirely honest with either of you. If you&#039;ve been together for two years and he&#039;s still not committed to you then I guess that&#039;s... Fri, 01 May 2009 04:47:04 -0700 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/6369932 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/6369912 Do you know the names of the planes/fighters that can stand still in the air, like hoover above the ground, do you have any idea how much does its engine cost?<br /><br />They&#039;re called &#039;jump-jets&#039; but no idea how much the engines cost. Millions probably? Fri, 01 May 2009 04:40:14 -0700 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/6369912 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/6369696 What was the Tower of London used for?<br /><br />It was used for keeping political prisoners in during earlier times, and they were often tortured most barbarically. It is possible to see the dungeons and the implements of torture if you visit. Several royals were kept there in bygone centuries before their execution. Fri, 01 May 2009 03:45:20 -0700 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/6369696 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/6369671 What is something you can tell me about the United Kingdom?<br /><br />It&#039;s a great place with a wonderful and colourful history of monarchy. It has been great in terms of pioneering, sea-faring and military skills in war - not that I approve of the latter, but it has sometimes been necessary. It&#039;s an island divided into four countries, England, Northern... Fri, 01 May 2009 03:39:51 -0700 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/6369671 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/6369637 What is something you can tell me about the United Kingdom?<br /><br />It&#039;s an island divided into four separate countries, England, Northern Ireland, Scotland and Wales. It has an impressive history of monarchy and it&#039;s government is democratic and hierarchical with the Queen having a position of impartiality in political issues. She is the Head of the... Fri, 01 May 2009 03:32:15 -0700 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/6369637 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/6301908 What do you suppose caused early man to leap from living instinctually to acquiring some conscious processes?<br /><br />Hi Parsec! Long time no talk. I wonder if our ancestors came from outer space and fertilized the females of Earth in order to ensure the survival of their (superior) species. It may even have been experimental? There is, I think, a &#039;missing link&#039; in our knowledge of the evolution of... Fri, 24 Apr 2009 13:28:19 -0700 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/6301908 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/6243867 Is hate mail illegal, given that there is no threats or perceived danger? Just a simple inflammatory "I hate you" and maybe "go to hell" coupled by a few f-words here and there. Will I be arrested if I send such a letter to a business or the government?<br /><br />You sound very angry and you must have good reasons but when you resort to basic expressions you lose your power. Why not write a good letter explaining what has happened and how it has made you feel and find the name of a particular person who can take accountability? That way you&#039;re more... Sun, 19 Apr 2009 04:37:12 -0700 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/6243867 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/6073516 I recently made a decision to go to a gym because I constantly stay home all day every day and my boyfriend told me he is "afraid of my freedom". I got upset and he said he doesn't understand why it made me mad. Am I exaggerating?<br /><br />It should make you very mad indeed. He is showing insecurity and trying to make himself feel stronger by controlling you. He needs to be looking at himself and maybe even getting some therapy for his problems. THEY WILL NOT GO AWAY. They will get worse unless he deals with them. Relationships can... Thu, 02 Apr 2009 07:55:19 -0700 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/6073516 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/6014355 Why is AB so slow? The other websites i go to is fast,but not AB.Is there something wrong with AB?<br /><br />Maybe they&#039;re trying to &#039;weed&#039; people out? (Ha-ha!) I&#039;ve noticed this too and it really irritates me, I thought it was my pc at first. It spoils the interaction tho&#039; as it takes so long to get anywhere now. Come on you AB guys - get it sorted! Wed, 25 Mar 2009 16:09:53 -0700 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/6014355 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/6014339 Do you wear perfume? if so, what kind and why do you like it?<br /><br />I love Paloma Picasso! My favourite of all time. But I also like Shalimar (old-fashioned but eternally sexy!), and Chanel No. 5 - aahhh... Marilyn&#039;s fave. What do you like? Wed, 25 Mar 2009 16:04:37 -0700 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/6014339 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/6014307 She says shes interested in me but she wants to take things slowly. We've been seeing e.o for over a week now. I was drunk at a party n told her I liked her. She likes being with me but told me she just got out of a relationship a few months ago. HELP?<br /><br />You&#039;re not really over the upset caused by your previous relationship. This girl likes you but she wasn&#039;t the one who was drunk nor was she the one who recently got out of another relationship. So? So, she&#039;s not feeling as desperate, or insecure, or needy as you. Just relax,... Wed, 25 Mar 2009 15:22:25 -0700 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/6014307 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/5944412 What is the signs of Emotional Abuse?<br /><br />Thanks for asking this. Reading the answers made me realize how abused I have allowed myself to become. It takes two, I see that now. One to abuser and one to let themselves be abused. I hope to find the courage to release myself from this misery. Mon, 16 Mar 2009 16:40:40 -0700 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/5944412 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/5944320 Recently broke up with a guy, who was commanding in bedroom, when I did not comply, he would ask what my problem was. He was nice in other ways sending flowers to me for no reason, never hit me, he scared me, what kind of personality do u think he had?<br /><br />Sounds as if he was just insecure and immature. He feared rejection and thought your lack of interest in sex meant there was something wrong with him personally. Also, he felt &#039;horny&#039; and couldn&#039;t imagine why someone else didn&#039;t, so he was self-centred, selfish, as I said... Mon, 16 Mar 2009 16:29:41 -0700 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/5944320 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/5944180 If you were a diamond, what coulor would you be and what grade?<br /><br />Blue for sure, because I like that colour better than simply the no-colour totally reflective &#039;ordinary&#039; diamond - not because it&#039;s more rare or expensive, tho&#039; I know it is. Grade? Up to the viewer to decide that one. Mon, 16 Mar 2009 16:17:20 -0700 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/5944180 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/5943923 Is it better to know your faults and accept them (but not really try to fix them) or deny them?<br /><br />If we can accept ourselves - with all our flaws, then we can accept each other. Who is perfect? And who is making the blueprint for perfection? Faults? By whose standards? I know my faults but those same qualities/non-qualities endear me to some, repel others... what am I supposed to do? Be... Mon, 16 Mar 2009 15:53:17 -0700 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/5943923 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/5941090 Why do people choose to hang themselves above other means of suicide? It sounds like a horrible way to go....<br /><br />Perhaps they are in effect &#039;executing&#039; themselves since hanging is historically, a common form of capital punishment and part of a sort of &#039;cultural psyche&#039;? Maybe it depends on the mind-set of the victim, whether they feel persecuted by life or whether they feel a need to... Mon, 16 Mar 2009 11:24:11 -0700 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/5941090 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/5941041 Is it wrong to not try to talk someone out of committing suicide? After all, it is their life.<br /><br />Yes, it is their life but they are probably not fully in control of it if they feel suicidal. Suicide is often attempted when the balance of the mind is disturbed. If the suicidal person is restored to normalitythey are often grateful that they didn&#039;t succeed in their self-harming actions.... Mon, 16 Mar 2009 11:16:53 -0700 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/5941041 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/5940915 How do you age? Are you becoming more tolerant, more accepting, more indifferent; more mellow, ect. Pick any adjective - how do you see yourself?<br /><br />I&#039;d like to say I&#039;m becoming wiser, calmer, more happy and accepting of myself and others and in a way all that&#039;s true. But, also in a very real way I find myself becoming more disillusioned and irritable, even judgmental (!) I scare myself scometimes and have to work on staying... Mon, 16 Mar 2009 11:02:34 -0700 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/5940915 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/5940713 Do you think some women try to hard?<br /><br />Yes and it might be because some men don&#039;t try hard enough. Mon, 16 Mar 2009 10:44:33 -0700 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/5940713 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/5940628 What effect might the success of the women's movement have on the men? Why is a nonsexist way of life so difficult for some men and women to accept?<br /><br />Men can feel displaced and unsure of their role when changes in expectations/norms occur - such as the women&#039;s movement. They can feel threatened and &#039;redundant&#039; if the values they grew up with are no longer seen as valuable/admirable etc., Men of a certain generation may find it... Mon, 16 Mar 2009 10:36:10 -0700 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/5940628 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/5940531 Is there a British version of Answerbag?<br /><br />Did you mean to ask if there&#039;s a similar sort of question/answer site that originated in the UK? I&#039;m not sure if there is but I find this one great fun and also very supportive when one is in need. Mon, 16 Mar 2009 10:25:05 -0700 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/5940531 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/5939167 Have you had a friend or family member be disruptive at a restaurant; did you apologize their actions to the server?<br /><br />Yes, my youngest son&#039;s wife behaved very badly once in a restaurant - it was very embarrassing as she was swearing and shouting and attracting attention. We were all shocked and upset. They left in a hurry and we apologized quietly to the head waiter who was the soul of discretion and very... Mon, 16 Mar 2009 07:46:53 -0700 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/5939167 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/5939094 Do you think it is possible to be in love with your best friend and get over it while still being friends? (by the way he knows im into him)<br /><br />It&#039;s very difficult because your heart is occupied right now and you&#039;re not giving yourself time to get over him and fall for someone else. Perhaps you should end the relationship for a while, say six months to a year - tough, I know! After that you might feel differently - so might he.... Mon, 16 Mar 2009 07:39:13 -0700 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/5939094 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/5939059 Which country or place would you NEVER ever travel to, no matter what? Why?<br /><br />I don&#039;t want to go to Somalia (Africa) as I feel the atrocities committed there are too gross and the country is too chaotic for me. I also woudn&#039;t go to a country such as Iraq or Iran or anywhere where women are treated as mere chattels. Mon, 16 Mar 2009 07:34:38 -0700 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/5939059 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/5930123 If your with someone and your ex wants to have three some with you wat does that mean?<br /><br />He/she wants to muscle in on your current cosy twosome and show you what he/she thinks is missing from your life! This would just be stretching your present relationship a bit far, maybe to breaking point? Does your ex want to get close because of love or just their ego trip, or control thing? Be... Sun, 15 Mar 2009 12:56:27 -0700 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/5930123 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/5916561 Is it sad 4 me 2 say that i dont want 2 fall in love again?Just in my experience ur stuffed either way,either they leave you or they die on you.I just dont see why it's worth going through all that pain when they prob didn't care as much as you did anyway<br /><br />You&#039;ve obviously suffered a deep loss and this has left you feeling bereaved and abandoned, also possibly lowered your self-esteem. Maybe you could get some bereavement counselling? If not, then try to realize that all things in life are transient and we can choose what to take away with us... Sat, 14 Mar 2009 08:48:18 -0700 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/5916561