http://www.answerbag.com/profile/235672 New Answerbag answers from starrrgazer Tue, 29 May 2012 09:16:59 -0700 Tue, 29 May 2012 09:16:59 -0700 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/8521077 What is normal duration for man to ejaculate, after he enters a women; and what is normal time she wants the penis inside her?<br /><br />http://www.saviodsilva. net/r/ss80. htm Lots of averages here. Sat, 12 Dec 2009 16:18:20 -0800 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/8521077 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/8521029 From a female's perspective is a guy's foot fetish a turn on, turn off or neither?<br /><br />I think it depends on the woman. A true fetish means that he is unable to have an orgasm without that to turn him on. I think I would get tired of the same thing all the time. Sat, 12 Dec 2009 16:00:26 -0800 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/8521029 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/8500407 Lights ON or OFF, Why?<br /><br />Either. When on, it&#039;s cool to see his face and eyes. When off, the other senses take over. Wed, 09 Dec 2009 09:16:03 -0800 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/8500407 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/8499557 I believe that in order to have a solid relationship with your bf/gf you have to have friendship. True or Not?<br /><br />Having been divorced once after 20 years of marriage and a widow once after 9 years of marriage, I agree 100%. If the man is not my best friend or one of my best friends, he&#039;s not the right man for me. Wed, 09 Dec 2009 06:42:54 -0800 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/8499557 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/8489497 Ladies! Has your man ever got mad when another man was talking or looking at you? Has he ever turn it into a big problem?<br /><br />Mine loves it when they do! Mon, 07 Dec 2009 20:49:52 -0800 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/8489497 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/8489486 So; you are TOTALLY in love with your S.O. What would be the ONE THING you would NEVER DO even if they BEGGED you?<br /><br />I would not have a threesome. Mon, 07 Dec 2009 20:48:04 -0800 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/8489486 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/8489482 Most of the products we purchase have "use by" or "sell by" expiration dates. Any of your relationships at or near their expiration dates or are they good forever like honey?<br /><br />Great question! Mine are mostly good forever. I do have one that I&#039;m not sure if it&#039;s reaching the expiration date or not. It&#039;s on the edge. Mon, 07 Dec 2009 20:47:08 -0800 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/8489482 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/8489474 Think of those people who you love to be near. What qualities make them so wonderful to be around?<br /><br />Their sense of humor. They will tell me what they think honestly, but they accept that the choice is mine in the end and trust me to make that choice. They are intelligent. They are accepting. They are kind and thoughtful. Mon, 07 Dec 2009 20:46:06 -0800 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/8489474 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/8489456 When in disagreement, do you rather your s/o shut down and not communicate, or communicate in an angry manner?<br /><br />I am generally hurt, but I do neither of these. I want to communicate in a rational manner. Mon, 07 Dec 2009 20:42:56 -0800 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/8489456 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/8489442 Given the opportunity, do you think most people say things to make others feel good, others feel bad, or say nothing at all?<br /><br />I think you draw to you people who are more like you are... MOST of the time, but not always. Mon, 07 Dec 2009 20:41:13 -0800 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/8489442 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/8489413 Is your current partner Mr/Miss 'Right' or Mr/Miss "You'll Do'?<br /><br />For me, he&#039;s Mr. Right. Whether I&#039;m Ms. Right for him remains to be seen. Mon, 07 Dec 2009 20:37:42 -0800 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/8489413 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/8489398 Do you more often seek out those who like what you like and whom or do you usually seek out those who dislike what or whom you dislike?<br /><br />I don&#039;t seek out anyone in particular. Life brings me to different people. I am drawn to both those who I have similarities with and those who I don&#039;t. I do find it interesting that, most of the time, I&#039;m drawn more to people who are at least ten years older than I am. I only have... Mon, 07 Dec 2009 20:36:34 -0800 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/8489398 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/8487606 Whats the hottest thing you've ever done?<br /><br />Too many to mention Mon, 07 Dec 2009 16:10:08 -0800 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/8487606 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/8487600 Tried Anal sex once with an ex and it really hurt. Want to do it with my fiance but I'm scared because of the pain from last time. Any advice before I have a seat on the meat?<br /><br />Tons of lube Mon, 07 Dec 2009 16:09:23 -0800 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/8487600 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/8487549 First whats the easyest way to make a girl have an orgasom?<br /><br />Pay attention to what&#039;s turning her on. Mon, 07 Dec 2009 16:02:14 -0800 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/8487549 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/8487536 Can kegils help me have an orgasm?<br /><br />It&#039;s not the Kegels that cause the orgasms. They do make the orgasms more pleasurable. Mon, 07 Dec 2009 16:00:35 -0800 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/8487536 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/8487525 To women/girls: Is make up sex the best sex u can ever have? To where both of you are crying while climaxing.<br /><br />Depends on my mood. Mon, 07 Dec 2009 15:59:16 -0800 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/8487525 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/8487513 Is there away you can masturbate to make you feel like your having oral sex<br /><br />I wish I knew. Mon, 07 Dec 2009 15:57:37 -0800 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/8487513 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/8487508 Do any girls masturbate anally and if so with what and how often?<br /><br />Some girls do. The same things that they would use to masturbate vaginally. Mon, 07 Dec 2009 15:57:19 -0800 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/8487508 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/8487500 Do you like to suck your husbands c---k and deep throat him or swallow his cum every day?<br /><br />ummmmm this is pretty personal, too personal Mon, 07 Dec 2009 15:56:36 -0800 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/8487500 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/8487495 Would you have anal sex with your husband at a Drive in or walk in theatre?<br /><br />Yes with my partner Mon, 07 Dec 2009 15:56:05 -0800 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/8487495 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/8487492 Things you shouldnt do while having sex?<br /><br />Anything that your partner says no to. Mon, 07 Dec 2009 15:55:33 -0800 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/8487492 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/8481894 Do you often shower with your partner?<br /><br />Any time I get the chance. Mon, 07 Dec 2009 01:14:59 -0800 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/8481894 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/8480113 Do you overindulge in anything?<br /><br />With one thing in particular, whenever I possibly can. Sun, 06 Dec 2009 19:43:41 -0800 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/8480113 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/8480103 Is there anything that makes your soul sing?<br /><br />Many! My children, my grandchildren, my family of origin, my wonderful friends, great memories, loving and being loved. Sun, 06 Dec 2009 19:41:37 -0800 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/8480103 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/8480085 Who are you OBLIGATED to buy a present for this holiday season? what will it be?<br /><br />My grandchildren. They are each receiving one toy from me. Sun, 06 Dec 2009 19:39:31 -0800 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/8480085 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/8480083 Are you a person who can see all the possibilities or are you the one who says "you'll never do it", "you won't make it", "it'll never happen"?<br /><br />I rarely am the one who is a nay sayer. I love looking at the possibilities. Sun, 06 Dec 2009 19:38:53 -0800 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/8480083 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/8480074 We all "overlook" things from time to time, either on purpose or inadvertently. How often do we "underlook" anything...try to find out what is really going on beneath the surface? Or do we just accept things at face value and move on?<br /><br />I find that I&#039;m too good at underlooking things. I&#039;m always wanting to know the WHYs. Sun, 06 Dec 2009 19:37:59 -0800 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/8480074 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/8480061 The number 1 fear of most Americans is public speaking according to many studies. Does this describe you? Can you get up in front of a crowd?<br /><br />I&#039;m good at it. I get nervous but it&#039;s not my worst fear. Sun, 06 Dec 2009 19:35:57 -0800 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/8480061 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/8480036 Do you consider re-gifting rude?<br /><br />No. It&#039;s important that it not be done simply to get out of buying or making a gift, though. If it is done, it should be because it&#039;s something that you have NEVER used, is still in it&#039;s original packaging, and is a good gift for the receiver. Sun, 06 Dec 2009 19:30:35 -0800 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/8480036 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/8480006 Have you ever felt a Physical Presence in the room with you?<br /><br />Many times Sun, 06 Dec 2009 19:27:07 -0800 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/8480006 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/8479965 What do you do when partner in a relationship is romantic and the other isn't. Where do you compromise?<br /><br />That depends entirely upon the two people. There is no one answer to this question. I think that there is usually one partner who is more romantic than the other. It&#039;s equally likely to be a man or a woman. Each couple has to find the balance if they are able to. If not, perhaps it was not... Sun, 06 Dec 2009 19:19:23 -0800 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/8479965 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/8479947 How would you respond if your recent boyfriend/girlfriend told you that they worked part-time, lived in a caravan somewhere quiet and just wanted to spend their lives having fun rather than worrying about conforming to societies ideology?<br /><br />You would have to define &quot;having fun.&quot; As to the rest, I would be good with that as long as there was no stress to have food on the table from day to day. Sun, 06 Dec 2009 19:15:58 -0800 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/8479947 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/8479934 I am extremely lonely in my realtionship. Are you?<br /><br />Yes, it&#039;s long distance. We do talk every night except when one of us is gone and unable to. We watch movies &quot;together&quot; online. We look at websites together. We sometimes watch TV together. We read to one another. We do many things &quot;together.&quot; I&#039;m still lonely and... Sun, 06 Dec 2009 19:14:19 -0800 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/8479934 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/8479597 Will you ever really try your deepest, most well-hidden sexual fantasy?<br /><br />Probably not Sun, 06 Dec 2009 18:44:03 -0800 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/8479597 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/8479565 Do you like to play good or bad?<br /><br />Depends on the day Sun, 06 Dec 2009 18:41:21 -0800 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/8479565 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/8479528 How can i get a guy to cum faster when im going down on him? ^-^<br /><br />That&#039;s never my goal so I have no suggestions. My goal is to pleasure him and myself. Sun, 06 Dec 2009 18:38:35 -0800 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/8479528 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/8479502 Your experiences/thoughts on anal sex?<br /><br />Fantastic Sun, 06 Dec 2009 18:36:41 -0800 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/8479502 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/8479479 When you dream about the perfect bed-mate, who do You 1st think about?<br /><br />My current partner. Best sex of my life. Sun, 06 Dec 2009 18:35:03 -0800 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/8479479 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/8479447 Girls, do you love his tongue?<br /><br />YES Sun, 06 Dec 2009 18:32:45 -0800 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/8479447 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/8479442 If you looked out your window and saw your sexy neighbor getting dressed or having sex, would you watch?<br /><br />Probably Sun, 06 Dec 2009 18:32:21 -0800 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/8479442 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/8478914 Do you prefer to sleep with your partner, or in separate beds? Why?<br /><br />I prefer sleeping with, but that rarely happens due to distance. Sun, 06 Dec 2009 17:33:36 -0800 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/8478914 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/8478908 So God creates hell, then, only saves you from it if you worship him? Isn't that a bit sadistic?<br /><br />That can only be true if you believe in God and hell. I believe in a higher power. I do not believe in any hell except that that is self-imposed in each lifetime. Sun, 06 Dec 2009 17:32:57 -0800 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/8478908 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/8478893 Thank you! Thank you! Thank you! Who would join me in greeting our servicemen who are away from their families these holidays?<br /><br />I thank them all for the service that do for me and mine, as well as our country. I thank our allies as some of them are my family, as well. I thank the families of all those men and women, as well. In particular, I thank my wonderful son who will join our troops in Afghanistan in the first part... Sun, 06 Dec 2009 17:31:31 -0800 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/8478893 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/8478810 What skills do you have due to your job?<br /><br />people skills Sun, 06 Dec 2009 17:22:01 -0800 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/8478810 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/8478791 What are good tips on being "good" on top?<br /><br />There is no right way to answer this. Each person and each couple are different. Sun, 06 Dec 2009 17:20:25 -0800 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/8478791 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/8478784 When will you write your life story?<br /><br />I write my life story as I go along... Sun, 06 Dec 2009 17:19:31 -0800 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/8478784 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/8476854 Why are you in love with the person that you're with?<br /><br />He&#039;s one of my best friends. That always comes first in our relationship. Our intelligence is well matched. We challenge one another to grow as independent people. We are comfortable with one another. We want the same things from our life and lifestyle. We have many similarities, but we also... Sun, 06 Dec 2009 12:56:23 -0800 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/8476854 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/8476796 When is your anniversary?<br /><br />Which one? Oct. 9 was the date I married my late husband. March 22 was the date he and I met. May 31st is the anniversary of the day I met the man I&#039;m with now. Oh, and May 3 was the anniversary of my wedding to my ex. July 28th is the anniversary date of my divorce from him. Sun, 06 Dec 2009 12:48:47 -0800 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/8476796 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/8476753 Why are YOU not with your significant other right now, and how do you feel about it?<br /><br />This is not a simple question for me. I have two men in my heart right now, my late husband and the man I&#039;m in a relationship with. With my late husband, the reason we aren&#039;t together is obvious. It&#039;s sad, but I&#039;m reconciled to it. With the current man, we live long distance... Sun, 06 Dec 2009 12:44:16 -0800 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/8476753 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/8476712 Do you like kissing?<br /><br />With the right person, OH YES! Sun, 06 Dec 2009 12:40:15 -0800 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/8476712 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/8476698 Have you ever regreted not sayingi love you to someone?<br /><br />Yes! I regret not telling my late husband that on the day he died. We didn&#039;t have the chance to say goodbye because it was so sudden. I never want to have that regret again. Perhaps I&#039;ve moved more to the other extreme of making sure I say it &quot;too often,&quot; in some people&#039;s... Sun, 06 Dec 2009 12:38:42 -0800 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/8476698 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/8476682 Do you believe in happy ending?<br /><br />Having lost my husband a year ago, I would say that there ARE happy endings. He had a wonderful life. He did all the things he wanted to do with his life. He spent 54 years being a bachelor, following his dreams, having a life in which he learned a lot and became ready for the last ten years of... Sun, 06 Dec 2009 12:36:20 -0800 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/8476682 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/8476592 Most teenagers who get married thinks so. Can you live on love alone?<br /><br />No, but you don&#039;t need a lot to live on along with love. However, there can be reasons other than financial that a relationship doesn&#039;t work. It may be the wrong time in one or both of their lives for many reasons. One may need to finish something else prior to moving forward in that... Sun, 06 Dec 2009 12:26:40 -0800 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/8476592 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/8462676 What reason did you last turn down sex for?<br /><br />I can&#039;t remember when that was Fri, 04 Dec 2009 20:56:29 -0800 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/8462676 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/8462667 Is there something/one you would love to get closer to you?<br /><br />yes, definitely Fri, 04 Dec 2009 20:55:07 -0800 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/8462667 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/8444361 Will you be staying home on Christmas day, or traveling to some ones place for festivities?<br /><br />I&#039;ll be home alone. I won&#039;t be able to be with any of my five children, ten grandchildren, my mother or nine siblings. Wed, 02 Dec 2009 22:03:15 -0800 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/8444361 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/8444345 What two items would you like Santa to bring you this year? ( remember they have to fit in the Santa sock)<br /><br />There is a Garnet necklace with a butterfly on it that I&#039;d love to have. I&#039;d also like a ring or maybe cash. Wed, 02 Dec 2009 22:01:36 -0800 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/8444345 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/8443934 Are we here to take or give?<br /><br />It&#039;s important to know how to do both graciously. I don&#039;t know that either of those are the reason we are here, though. Wed, 02 Dec 2009 21:02:44 -0800 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/8443934 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/8443922 When you really miss someone from your past that died, what eases the pain?<br /><br />My husband died one year ago. I talk to him. If I need to, I&#039;ll look at his picture to talk to him. I can talk to him out loud or I have the conversation in my mind. I know what he would have said to me when I say things this way. Sometimes, I cry to release the emotions. Sometimes,... Wed, 02 Dec 2009 20:59:52 -0800 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/8443922 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/8438719 I am dating someone long distance, and she is awesome don't get me wrong...but she is kind of a... nympho... should i be worried about her cheating?<br /><br />I have Bipolar Disorder and go through periods of hypersexuality. I managed seven years of long distance with my late husband without cheating. I&#039;ve managed six months with my current long distance relationship without cheating. If you can&#039;t trust her yet, you have a long way to go or... Wed, 02 Dec 2009 10:08:49 -0800 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/8438719 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/8438684 How long did your long distance relationship last? Or, how long has it been lasting?<br /><br />With my late husband, over seven years during which time we married. With the man I&#039;m currently dating, six months. Wed, 02 Dec 2009 10:05:19 -0800 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/8438684 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/8438598 Is it a problem if your horny constantly?<br /><br />If you have a mental conditions that includes hypersexuality, yes, it is a problem, a serious one not to be taken lightly or laughed at. Wed, 02 Dec 2009 09:54:43 -0800 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/8438598 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/8438576 Do you try to see a situation from another person's view when you have a quarrel or argument?<br /><br />Yes, but for me that often means asking a lot of questions to really see what their view is. All too often I think I know what their view is, but I&#039;m very wrong in my assumptions. Wed, 02 Dec 2009 09:52:38 -0800 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/8438576 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/8438558 What does being in a committed relationship mean to you?<br /><br />There is a friendship at the base of that relationship that is always going to be there. In addition to the friendship is the romantic level of the relationship. The romantic level includes trust, kindness, thoughtfulness, and a desire to remain faithful to that person. For me, that does not... Wed, 02 Dec 2009 09:51:15 -0800 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/8438558 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/8438496 Would you be involved with a person who say's they will never be married again?<br /><br />There are many reasons for a person to say this. For me, it is financial. Crass, maybe, but realistic. If I were to marry, I would lose what little income I have plus health care. I&#039;m a widow and have serious health problems. I was already the widow who was left destitute. I will NEVER place... Wed, 02 Dec 2009 09:44:31 -0800 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/8438496 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/8438437 Why would a man try to hurt the feelings of a lady friend that has feelings for him?<br /><br />He may not realize that he is. It may be the environment he grew up in. Either way, I think this is a red flag for someone who could become emotionally/psychologically abusive. Wed, 02 Dec 2009 09:39:03 -0800 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/8438437 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/8438408 What do you do when you miss your significant other so much that you start to feel sad?<br /><br />Remember what it was like being with him, both the good and the bad. Remember why it was that I fell in love with him in the first place. Let myself have permission to cry for fifteen minutes with a timer if I need to. Talk to his picture if I need to. I had to learn to do this a year ago when... Wed, 02 Dec 2009 09:35:49 -0800 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/8438408 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/8438362 Why does my live in boyfreind not give me the same attention as when we first met?<br /><br />People naturally go through different phases in a relationship. When you&#039;re dating, you always put your best foot forward. If you don&#039;t date for a long period of time prior to moving in together, you really don&#039;t have the opportunity to see what their flaws are then. If you move in... Wed, 02 Dec 2009 09:31:02 -0800 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/8438362 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/8438309 How many times have you had sex with no emotional attachment?<br /><br />Never Wed, 02 Dec 2009 09:23:08 -0800 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/8438309 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/8438304 What qualities are needed to sustain a long loving relationship?<br /><br />Friendship, first and foremost. Kindness, thoughtfulness, honesty, and the ability to compromise Wed, 02 Dec 2009 09:22:41 -0800 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/8438304 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/8438282 What left the biggest impression on you?<br /><br />The death of my husband a year ago and the events of the past year, seeing the good in so many people since his death Wed, 02 Dec 2009 09:19:21 -0800 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/8438282 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/8438274 What does this mean to you? There are none so blind as those who will not see.<br /><br />It means that the person who is young and immature or anyone who is too stubborn to change will never see the good things that there are to see in this world. Wed, 02 Dec 2009 09:17:38 -0800 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/8438274 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/8438176 What are the hazards associated with wearing high heeled shoes?<br /><br />Back problems. On the other hand, wearing high heeled shoes can help you as far as your Kegel muscle. Wed, 02 Dec 2009 09:04:02 -0800 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/8438176 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/8438141 What is the number one thing to look for in a partner?<br /><br />deleted Wed, 02 Dec 2009 09:00:15 -0800 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/8438141 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/8438137 What is the number one thing to look for in a partner?<br /><br />Someone who is your friend first and foremost. I would not be involved with anyone now who was not a friend who would remain my friend even if we broke up. Wed, 02 Dec 2009 08:59:57 -0800 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/8438137 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/5588363 As an ER nurse, I see many, many deaths. It is hard sometimes to know what to say. How do you console someone after a family member, or friend has died?<br /><br />When my husband died this last Nov. in the ER, it was terrifying since it was sudden and unexpected. The doctor didn&#039;t even know what had happened. When the doctor was working on him, the nurses started going by me just touching my arm. There was only one who gave me a pitying look. Do not... Sun, 15 Feb 2009 13:38:56 -0800 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/5588363 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/5588337 If you had to take your kid off of a respirator and they were to die. How would you deal with it? Please answer seriously. Also: What could we do to help? Besides getting a card and having everyone sign it.<br /><br />Be there to listen months and months down the road. It will take them a long, long time to heal, probably years. Sun, 15 Feb 2009 13:33:16 -0800 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/5588337 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/5588323 For those of you who have lost a loved one: How long did it take you to realize that they are gone forever and they will never be back?<br /><br />It has depended on the person I lost. With my daughter 20 years ago, it took me about a year or so. With my maternal grandmother, who was a mother to me, it took me about six months. With my father, it was a few weeks. With my paternal grandmother, I&#039;m not sure I&#039;m there yet. She died... Sun, 15 Feb 2009 13:31:20 -0800 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/5588323 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/5588306 A close friend of the family recently died and I offered to help wrap up all of her affairs I did not relize there was so much to it. where do I start? Do you know of any resources for help in how to do this?<br /><br />It depends on where you live. Try a web search for your state. Is there a will? If not, you are looking at a whole lot of trouble. If the estate is considerable, an attorney needs to take care of this. If there is not a will, an attorney may need to be hired. If taxes need to be filed, an... Sun, 15 Feb 2009 13:29:03 -0800 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/5588306 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/5588289 I have my cousin's funeral to go to he was 25 really hip, modern, funky kinda guy who really love life and to party...what should i wear is it wrong not to wear black<br /><br />Wear a neutral medium to dark color unless you have been informed that it is otherwise by the family. Remember that the funeral is for the family, not your cousin. In honouring them, you honour him, too. There&#039;s nothing wrong with adding a splash of color as long as it&#039;s not to flashy. Sun, 15 Feb 2009 13:26:46 -0800 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/5588289 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/5588262 If a person was buried (supposed to have been anyway) in a vault, how could odors of decomp be coming from the grave? I notified the caretaker and the funeral home. Is there someone else who should be made aware? This has been really bothering me.<br /><br />The county health department would be a good call to make. Sun, 15 Feb 2009 13:22:50 -0800 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/5588262 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/5588256 Sometimes, I will stop and walk around a cemetery. If you visit a cemetery, what is your reason behind it?<br /><br />Family history, general history, interest in what was written, supposition about what that person was like based on all of this. Sun, 15 Feb 2009 13:22:15 -0800 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/5588256 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/5588185 If you were to die in your sleep tonight,would you have made a difference?<br /><br />Yes Sun, 15 Feb 2009 13:14:30 -0800 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/5588185 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/5588161 What would you like to say on your deathbed? Would you have any regrets, if so what?<br /><br />I would like to tell all of my loved ones that I love them and some special memory I&#039;ve always kept of them. I would also ask forgiveness for any wrongs I ever did them. I would ask that for them since forgiveness is something that is for ourselves, to heal and move forward. Regrets, that... Sun, 15 Feb 2009 13:11:47 -0800 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/5588161 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/5588144 Do you ever dream about people in your life that have passed? Are you sad or happy when you wake up?<br /><br />Yes, I often dream of those in my life who have died, especially my husband. Yes, I am happy and sad. With my husband, I dream of him being alive, of our kidding around, making jokes, holding hands, hugging, kissing, talking, sharing. When I wake up, I have a deep sadness that he is gone.... Sun, 15 Feb 2009 13:09:17 -0800 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/5588144 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/5588122 If you know your time is nearing an end, would you prefer to die at home or in a hospital?<br /><br />Home, definitely. It&#039;s where I&#039;d be comfortable and could have my loved ones there as they and I choose. Sun, 15 Feb 2009 13:06:57 -0800 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/5588122 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/5587861 How old were you when you attended your first wake and/or funeral? Who was it for? At what age do you think is 'appropriate' to attend one (ie: kids ages)?<br /><br />I was in my 30s before I attended a funeral for a friend who had died of cancer. I often think about how much I wanted to attend my great-grandfather&#039;s funeral when I was quite young, about 3 or 4 years old. Instead, it was all very hush- hush and hidden from me and my sisters. That made... Sun, 15 Feb 2009 12:36:11 -0800 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/5587861 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/5458132 What comes to your mind when i say "Underworld"?<br /><br />unreal Tue, 03 Feb 2009 22:35:24 -0800 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/5458132 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/5458131 Have you ever been in the presence of someone dying?<br /><br />My husband Tue, 03 Feb 2009 22:35:09 -0800 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/5458131 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/5458130 How is the best way to help a family out who just lost their father unexpectedly who was only in his 40's. his youngest child was 11 and his eldest was my age, 20 it is hard to be around them when they cry but i want to be strong for them Any suggestions?<br /><br />It&#039;s okay for you to cry with them. It is difficult when there are deaths, much less more than one. Within seven months, I lost my father, my grandmother, my aunt and my husband. It&#039;s important to be encouraged to cry, to feel what you feel, to do what you need to do in your grief. Each... Tue, 03 Feb 2009 22:34:58 -0800 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/5458130 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/5458083 Would you rather have your daughter marry someone rich but stingy or poor but generous?<br /><br />Whatever she chose I would support her. Tue, 03 Feb 2009 22:27:44 -0800 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/5458083 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/5458082 At your wedding, did any of your bridesmaids show up late and you had to move without them?<br /><br />No, but I was late. They waited on me instead of moving without me. Tue, 03 Feb 2009 22:27:13 -0800 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/5458082 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/5458079 Do married men who cheat expect their girlfriends to respect their wives?<br /><br />It depends on the man and the reason they are cheating. Tue, 03 Feb 2009 22:26:54 -0800 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/5458079 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/5458075 Could I be addicted to masturbation?<br /><br />Yes, you can Tue, 03 Feb 2009 22:26:33 -0800 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/5458075 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/5458066 Do you know anyone whose been married and divorced more than four times?<br /><br />My mom is on marriage number 5. My dad was married 4 times and divorced when he died. Tue, 03 Feb 2009 22:25:34 -0800 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/5458066 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/5458061 After so many years of courtship, the love of your life proposes to you, and this is something you've been waiting for but months before the proposal he started having problems getting it up and you know about this little secret, Will you still say yes?<br /><br />Yes, an erection is desirable but not 100% necessary for sexual satisfaction. Also, there are meds. My problem would be if he had not and would not see his doc about this. I would want to know that he was healthy more than anything else. Tue, 03 Feb 2009 22:24:59 -0800 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/5458061 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/5458043 Would you agree to be in a committed relationship with someone, if the possibility of marriage was not an option? (they just didn't want to get married... ever)<br /><br />I would be the one insisting on it! Tue, 03 Feb 2009 22:23:06 -0800 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/5458043 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/5458036 What did you do with the top of your wedding cake after the 1st year? Did you throw it away, eat it,?<br /><br />Unless you have access to have it flash frozen, you probable wouldn&#039;t want to eat it after one year. We put ours in the freezer for our one month anniversary to avoid this. Tue, 03 Feb 2009 22:22:16 -0800 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/5458036 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/5458027 If you wanted a beach wedding, are Longer traditional dresses still suitable?<br /><br />You probably won&#039;t want a train, but you can wear whatever you like! Tue, 03 Feb 2009 22:21:09 -0800 http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/5458027