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| Display name: | BigDaddyBS |
| Gender: | male |
| Location: | Lebanon IN USA |
| Website: | www.orangefrogproductions.com |
| Date joined: | July 19th, 2007 |
| Last seen: | February 15th, 2012 |
| About me: | To see my recent Activity, scroll all the way to the bottom of the page, and scroll up. For Q&A reference sections, FIND "Relationship Advice and Information", "Disciplining Children", "Other Stuff", "FUN!", "Answerbag Questions & Answers" headings. NOTE: Links below are in "AB Blue" and may be a bit difficult to see. (Sample link) Each clickable link should also have an "(NW)" following them. Clicking the link will keep the opening page in THIS window (meaning your browser BACK button will work). Clicking on the NW will open the link just before it in a New Window (meaning you can close the window and return right where you were in my profile).  About me: To contact me (as a CL or otherwise), send an email to me at ab-AT-orangefrogproductions.com (remove the dashes and change the "AT to "@".) OR, message me. Far as I know, I'm the ONLY BigDaddyBS here. OR you can go to my AB User Guide - Policing the Site (NW), scroll down to the table of CLs, and click the link for the CL you wish to contact.NOTE: Since Answerbag changed December 11, 2009, SOME of my AB answers and advice will not be correct. Because of the ongoing changes, I'm not going to edit/change it until things settle down. If you can't find the answer you want, contact me. ---------- My username came about from playing video games back in the day. My kids had nicknames and I didn't want to use MY name (I was Daddy), and I'm tall (6'-9") and ... let's say "big boned", so I became "BigDaddy". When I got to the internet, I found someone else already used that name, so I added BS (my initials) to it to become BigDaddyBS. NO... The BS does NOT stand for "Bull-Sh*t" (although some may think I'm full of it! ;-) ) I'm into genealogy and local history. (Though with AB, haven't been keeping up with that, very well.) I have two boys, one in Lafayette, and one in Danville, IN, currently with his mother (my ex). (I'm centrally located). I met my current (2nd) wife online - She lived about three hours away. She came and visited a few times, then moved up when I had another operation on my foot. A little over a year later, we got engaged (see "The Bestest Birthday Ever (NW)" for details), and were married Christmas Eve, 2004. She has 3 kids from prior marriage: 2 girls, 1 boy (all over 20), and now, one granddaughter. (I'm a step-granddad.) I have diabetes, and neuropathy in my feet. I've had infections and lost all toes to amputation. I can still walk, but am not supposed to for any length of time to prevent ulcers and infections. I have a wheelchair to get around the living room, kitchen, and deck, and a scooter for getting around elsewhere. Late 2003, I tore my quad tendon from my kneecap. Sugery in Early 2004, Rehab through most of that, and at this point, I can only bend my knee a touch over 90 degrees for a while. I drive a van with hand-controls. We have 4 dogs (3 black lab mixes and 1 rat-terrier/spitz mix) and 1 cats (indoor). Pics are supposed to be here (NW), how they were named here (NW), how well they "listen" to me (NW), and how they act (NW). I like helping people out or making them laugh on AB, and getting responses (comments) that my answers were funny, good or make sense (validation of my ideas, I guess). Here's more about me and my "qualifications" to be an AB answerer (NW). I also research Scams, Shams (infomercials), and Flim-Flams (Rumors, Urban Legends, and Trivia Lists) and post them and my findings on my website (NW). I played guitar and wrote songs for years. Once I had my kids, I couldn't get them to leave my case OR my guitar alone, so I kinda put them away. I still have a 12-string (my favorite) and six-string acoustic, and a Fender Strat I have hardly ever played. (1974 Yamaha FG-160 (6-string acoustic), 1977 Yamaha FG-512 (12-string acoustic), 1994 Fender Stratocaster Squire [Series?] (6-string electric)). I worked with a couple of bands (sound and lights), and with a couple of them, sang harmonies from the boards. One of these days I REALLY have to get my guitar back out. Here's an answer on picking a first guitar, and some of what you will need to learn to play guitar (NW). Answers I've made to questions about music: I want to broaden my musical horizons. Anyone wanna share with me some awesome bands I should get listening to? (NW) (listing just some of my favorite artists). My husband is trying to introduce classic bands and music to me. So far I have liked Steely Dan and Triumph. I did not like Nirvana. Who do you recommend I listen to? http://www.answerbag.com/q_view/1425534 What has happened to black influenced music? Can someone tell me why demeaning women and butchering the English language is so cool? Where did all the B.B. Kings and Nat King Coles go? Am I the only one who misses when music was about musical talent? (NW) More Personal Info I like photography, and think I'm a decent photographer. I take a LOT of digital pictures and save them all - Well, most of them. I've learned to edit them, cropping the shots to what I want, and in some cases, cleaning them up a little. Here's an answer associated with photography: What is the best kind of camera to buy? i have a baby that i take pictures of every day, i go to a lot of different landmarks and take pictures while we are there, i don't want blurry or too much shadow pictures, i want them to look professional? (NW) And here's a couple of poems about love ("The Love Ladder" and "Senses, Feelings, and Thoughts") (NW), another I wrote about "peace and quiet" (NW), a published one about "Puppy Love" (NW), three love songs ("I Love You (and I Want to Tell the World)", "Forever Finally Found Me", and "Here I Go Again") (NW) I wrote, and another, called "You'll Fall in Love Sometime" (NW). Family and Memories The person or persons to whom I am proud to be related is or are _________. What are your reasons? (NW) (my parents) and see also What’s an admirable trait of your father? (NW). What is a family tradition that everyone in your family enjoys? (NW). I remember when ________? (NW) (memories of growing up). Honestly, what do you think of a grown man who cried over the death of his dog? (NW) (I did... Nothing wrong with it.) My symbolic "Rosebud"s (NW) (also, my answer to the 1,000,000th question on AB!) What do I think of Indianapolis and Indiana? (NW) Contact Me If you REALLY want to know more about or contact me, use ab @ orangefrogproductions.com (remove the spaces), and make sure you tell me who you are here on the 'bag. Or you could go to my website's "owner" home page (NW). There's a "Contact Me" link in the sidebar buttons, and at the bottom of EVERY page in the copyright info. Again, make sure you mention who you are and that you're from AB. What do I bring to the table (NW) What is your profession and what academic degrees do you hold? (NW) It's not easy being ...? (NW) (Comments include a discussion about tolerance) Professor Party (Threw my own before I understood the normal congrats levels) http://www.answerbag.com/q_view/602188 Sage Party - http://www.answerbag.com/q_view/642328 Maestro Party - http://www.answerbag.com/q_view/714851 Guru Party - http://www.answerbag.com/q_view/878674 Swami Party - http://www.answerbag.com/q_view/1248370 Genius Party - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/10629664 1-year Anniversary Party - http://www.answerbag.com/q_view/861106 2-year Anniversary Party - http://www.answerbag.com/q_view/1591636 Party for becoming a CL - http://www.answerbag.com/q_view/1689242 Gall Bladder Surgery wishes - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/4534406 There are a couple of people on AB that I have known a VERY long time - WELL before AB. The first is my son, Lazerus1500 (b:1984 - I don't like putting ages, since they change every year! LOL), and The Chief, who I met and worked with back in Lafayette in the early 1980s. Laz has a VERY sarcastic (and usually funny) way of answering questions. He actually has found a way to KEEP from being completely addicted to AB... One of these days, I'm gonna ask him about that! The Chief... Well, he's about as straight-shooting as they come. Retired from the Navy, as a Chief Petty Officer, he always has been opinionated, knowledgeable, pretty objective (like me), and NOT afraid to say what he thinks. He knows or has opinions about a LOT of things, and, if you can intelligently argue your point, he will accept everything you have to say as your opinion, and be happy with that. He's like me in that everyone can have opinions, and we won't try to convert you to ours, just explain our view. If you don't like it, oh, well... That's YOUR opinion. If you do, cool. You will not be DRed because you disagree. You will soon be ignored if you are disrespectful, though. ;-) Here's his profile - http://www.answerbag.com/profile/?id=391040 - Read about him, from him, yourself. Friends Requests If I haven't had any dealings with you, don't ask to be a friend. Know that I will ALWAYS check at least your latest questions and answers, and maybe your ratings, before accepting you as a friend. (I have yet to deny anyone (This has changed, recently. I've denied a few with whom I have had NO other interactions with - one hadn't even asked, answered, or commented on ANYTHING). Please know that a rejection does NOT mean I won't ever be your friend. If you wish to try again, after we've had a few dealings on AB, then go ahead, and I will PROBABLY accept, then., and the only way you will be removed from MY end is if you do it from YOUR end. It's not that I'm trying to build up my friends list... It's more that I "lose" friends with difficulty. Don't get your panties all in a bunch. As you will read in some of my answers and comments below, I can be friends with both sides of an argument. I do NOT always try to reconcile them unless I, personally, see them raging at each other. And PLEASE NOTE: I CANNOT CHANGE ANYONE HERE or on my friends list. If they want to change, they will. ----- Answers I've given to questions more than a few times, or I think are important! My question asking if others know about my profile - http://www.answerbag.com/q_view/761394 Best Sad Songs I Know - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/5592958 i can't submit my question cuz it says there are similar questions, but they're not nearly the same! how do i submit one? - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/3799079 Why can I not locate my own questions to find the answers given - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/3173593 Why do people stare at homosexuals holding hands? Are they sheltered - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/3442824 (See answer and subsequent comments) My Philosophy of Life, explained - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/3292390 (my ex wife HATED it! LOL) When performing on stage, how do you get over nervousness? - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/1435683 ** Relationship Advice and Information Shy Guys - How to tell if they like you - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/8600053 Why do women like the bad boy type? - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/3054859 How is love found? - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/3449408 and http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/3473961 Why does love always come at the wrong times? and why when it does come, we are never ready for it? and when we are ready, why do we always mess it up? - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/3369848 This man is attracted to me but I keep thinking that something must be wrong with him if he's into me. I feel he could like any girl, why me? can't get past my physical inperfections.when he look at me I look down b/c I dont want him to notice my flaws - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/3582235 Im a 15 year old guy im ugly and have no freinds i cant talk to many people about it i want to know if anyone can help me? i feel like killing myself i just sit indoors all day wishing i was someone else!!!!! - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/7500168 Ages for Relationships - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/3359767 I'm 15 and like a girl and she likes me. Am I too young to start a relationship - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/3464378 [T]heres a 19yr. old guy that im talking 2 and he hasent had any type of sex for like 2yrs. Im a 17yr. old virgin and he told me that im the one he wants to do it with. Should i go for it or step away or what should i do??? i need advice. :) - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/5405136 I'm 13 and never had a boyfriend. Am I normal? - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/2219881 I am 14 and have never had a girlfriend in my life. Is this okay? [Am I totally lame?] - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/2449484 Am 15 years old and I haven't met the love of my life or some one i really like, is that normal? - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/2672693 I'm 16 and never had a boyfriend. What's wrong with me? - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/3086324 I'm 18 and never had a boyfriend. What do college boys think of 18yo virgins? - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/3121347 [18yo female] I've never been on a date, and i get the general feeling that the kind of guys i like, just aren't into me. what can i do? I'm tanned,tall & fit. i wear glasses, enjoy sports and know allot about current issues & politics... and i don't know what to do[?] - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/3324901 I am 20 and I have never had a boyfriend. Sometimes I feel so embarrassed not to have had one yet. Is this normal today? I guess I might be somewhat picky, idk. When people talk about bfs/first kisses, I feel like such a loser. - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/2454460 I'm 22, never had a girlfriend before and i hate it sooo much! i try and always dress well and be confident (althought i am a little shy sometimes) and they still dont notice me! feels like its never gonna happen to me!:-( can any1 help me or give advice? - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/2965312 I am 22 yr old guy,ive never had a girlfriend or sexual experience.My problem is im scared to ask girls out cause i dont think im interesting enough.i have no friends anymore and ive got every insecurity a guy could have.what can i do?am i a freak? - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/3794048 Would a guy be turned off a 25 yr old woman who is still a virgin (just because she never met mr right!)? or would the lack of experience be a turn off? - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/4188297 I want a girlfriend, but girls don't like me, and some think I'm gay. What should I do? Some of my friends that are girls say the right girl will come along because I'm a great guy, but I think they're probably just saying that because we're friends. - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/2649046 Why does falling in love hurt so much? - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/6453148 Little White Lies in relationships - When they're ok - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/2512839 Getting over rejection - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/3455553 Are women who continually date men who are abusive, or put up with abuse, or make excuses for the guy, naive? Can they really not see the signs or just don't know what to do? Or do they think it's "love"? - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/3047295 Signs of abuse, even early on - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/2872392 and http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/3766947 (controllers) Signs of abuse, and what to do - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/3384385 Would you stay with a guy that dont treat you right just becouse you love him? - (Mostly assuming abuse:) http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/5438372 If the relationship has progressed to meeting/living together: Abusive Relationships - Recognizing you're in one and what to do - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/2748410 (Even though the question was flagged as nonsense because it was not really a question, my answer stands.) Just to make you think about abuse: A poem © 1992 by Paulette Kelly I Got Flowers Today I got flowers today. It wasn’t my birthday or any special day. We had our first argument last night, and he said a lot of cruel things that really hurt me. I know he is sorry and didn’t mean the things he said because he sent me flowers today. I got flowers today. It wasn’t our anniversary or any other special day. Last night, he threw me into a wall and started to choke me. It seemed like a nightmare. I couldn’t believe it was real. I know he must be sorry because he sent me flowers today. I got flowers today, and it wasn’t Mother’s Day or any other special day. Last night, he beat me up again. If I leave him, what will I do? How will I take care of my kids? What about money? I’m afraid of him and scared to leave. But I know he must be sorry because he sent me flowers today. I got flowers today. Today was a very special day. It was the day of my funeral. Last night, he finally killed me. If only I had gathered enough courage and strength to leave him, I would not have gotten flowers today. ** How do you explain death to a toddler? - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/4076485 Dating age ranges (my view) - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/3359767 Friendship - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/2526308 REAL Friends - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/2526308 How does a disabled person make a friend? - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/3619150 I was going out with my bf for 2 years and he broke up with me because he wasn't in love anymore. we had the same group of friends before we started goin out and still do. we have to see eachother all the time but its just so upsetting. can we b friends? - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/4278773 Despite being and knowin im a nice guy etc i have this really pessamistic feeling i will never find someone i love of who loves me in the way of a gf again (fill me with confidence please ) - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/7562969 Never been on a date. The guys I'm interested in are just not into me. What can I do? - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/3324901 Guy wants to date a girl, but doesn't have money. Should he keep her as a friend, or stay away from her? - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/2649009 Girl, 14, and BF wants to have sex - The Chief's answer - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/3700342 Why do teens have kids? - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/3383555 Young and in love. Should we get engaged? - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/2863994 HOW to break up (with children - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/2772332 WHY did I cheat? - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/3119941 What is cheating (online) - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/3105782 Do you believe that there are 1 or 2 married men out there who have been completely faithful to their wife, or do you beleive that all men cheat? (includes my definition of what is NOT cheating) - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/5131078 Forgiving cheaters - Here's my answer to someone asking about forgiving a cheater - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/2691789 and http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/2676754 (Yes... You can, if you want to, but there are things you BOTH must do... If you CAN'T, see http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/2704787 ) Should I stay or should I go? Married 22 yrs., 6 mo. ago discovered husband had affair/s for last 6 yrs., unprotected. Says he loves me, wants to keep marriage & family. Last 6 mo. he's been doing all the "right" things. Six years is a longggg time! - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/2676754 When do you know it's over? When is it time to leave? - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/3315680 Reasons for Divorce - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/2830509 I hate my ex for leaving me for another. Does he still love our kids? - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/3462884 Okay me and my ex girlfriend been dating for a year and a half now she txt me sayin i still care and stuff why wont you talk to me.she has a guy already and she is talkin to me.Wants to hang but says she dont love me.Do yal really think she wants me back? - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/4634382 Getting Over a Break Up - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/2759724 (short form) and http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/2762628 (long form - worth it, I think) Summary of long one: http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/6518098 Help, my wife is leaving me, we have 3 year old son, it just came out of the blue i had no idea i am devastated, unable to eat, sleep, work i am a mess, i am 39 years old and cant see any future now, i had so much to look forward to now i have nothing.... - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/7420940 My ex-boyfriend cheated on me and broke my heart...I am still "close friends" with him...it seems that he is still with the other woman but will not admit it to me...I am so hurt and confused about him--but we are supposedly only friends--what should I do[?] - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/6448990 If you were cheated on and have decided to try and work it out but you still dont trust your partner. Is it okay to check their email if you know their username and password? if you find a message, is it okay to confront? - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/4547811 (It ended, but there are some good insights in the comments.) Child of Divorce - Parents getting or newly divorced? Here are my thoughts: http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/2730366 Does Looking = Cheating? Husband looking at internet porn. - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/2758731 (comments include info about core beliefs, and why many people answer questions with questions) Ok here goes my husband is faithful he is home every night but there is one thing that urks me and that is he will look at other women online or if we are driving somewhere and see's a women with a nice body he will look. To me i feel direspected. - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/6715581 My boyfriend and I have been together for 10 months now. When we are out in public together he is constantly looking at other women right in front of me. Why do you think he is doing this? We talk all the time about our future together - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/2454168 -- My guy is LOOKING at other girls when we're out and on the internet. Is this cheating? Is this disrespectful? Should I still trust him? - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/6737165 Can LD (long distance) relationships work? - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/3492788 Being Cyberstalked? - If the relationship is still online, there are cyber-stalking laws - See http://www.haltabuse.org/resources/laws/index.shtml , find your state, and see what they are. Here's another link http://www.ncvc.org/ncvc/main.aspx?dbName=DocumentViewer&DocumentID=32458#4 from National Center for Victims of Crime (link is to info on cyberstalking). Why do some people use the Internet to bash people of other races, cultures, religions, as well as those less fortunate, like those who are poor or have challenges? Too scared to say it to someone's face? [cyber-stalkers and cyber-bullies] - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/7927456 I want her/him back - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/2764685 (Even if your situation is different, much, if not all, of the advice is good.) (S)He's moving too fast! Why? - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/2649852 Going to be a Single Mother - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/3013091 Why do people suicide? - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/3463958 Why not suicide? - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/2799153 Confused, stressed, and anxious to the point of CONTEMPLATING suicide - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/2772178 Why are some people judgemental and self righteous about commiting suicide? Its my life i can terminate it when i want; what right do people have to judge me or suicides for this? - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/7660579 Shaking, whole body's trembling - the girl he love dumpedd him and he just wants to die - Why NOT? http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/3385668 I would like to know of an accessible substance that I could ingest to painlessly bring about death in a short amount of time? - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/4201122 (modifies prior answer) No way out i dont expect for u to understand 3 kids no support from no one and will be homeless. who really cares to put me back on track and save lives? - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/3797171 Sometimes i get upset w myself n my life and i feel like if i werent here the people in my life would be better off w/o me and sometimes i feel like hurting myself or even killing myself what should i do i dont want to feel like this anymore? - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/5008576 I am so tired. i dont want to do this any more i just want to end it all.i want this all just to go away i jsut want to go to sleep and nevery wake up - http://www.answerbag.com/q_view/1089638 (Great answer - Not mine) I have a lot of issues and horrible grief with my husband's suicide, which happened last year. I was with him a long time and I don't think I want to go on with my life because at my age (57) its too late to start over. - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/7566643 Can long-distance relationships work? - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/3492788 ** Disciplining children - What I believe When you were a kid (living at home) did you get spanked or otherwise physically "punished" (including beaten) when your parents thought you did wrong? Do you think those spankings/beatings/punishments really made you a better adult? - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/2189823 Why has hitting your child to discipline them become so taboo? Maybe our country might have turned out better if people still practiced this? - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/2264082 (when spanking becomes "hitting" or "abuse") Should smacking of kids by parents be banned? - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/2349863 When our 2 1/2 year old throws a fit, my husband think there is something mentally wrong with him. You can't even try to reason with him(our son), he just sceams louder, should I be worried? I think it's just a normal toddler thing. - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/2467721 (parents must set limits and agree on punishments) Do you think parents should be allowed to hit their kids when they are misbehaving, not beat them, just a spanking? - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/3574056 (Yes - within bounds plus description) Is ok to abuse a kid for some thing he did wrong - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/3013852 (difference between punishment and abuse) Do you think wipping your kid with a belt is a good way to teach disclpine? - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/3118164 My husband thinks if a kid isn't beaten (or spanked as you child abusers in denial refer to it), they get away with everything they do. I know that's bull. Does anyone else agree or am I off in left field? - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/3555762 (includes the type of "spanking" I believe in) Do you agree with the act of parents spanking their children? If so, do you think there should be a cut off age as to when the spanking should stop? - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/2283430 When does spanking cease being discipline and become abusive? - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/3631990 My neighbor beat his son with a curtain rod for spilling milk on the floor, even though the poor kid apologized to him immediately and agreed to clean the mess. Was it right of my neighbor to do that? - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/2304630 (No... THAT'S abuse, not spanking) My mom hit me because I didn't pick up my room. I would call child help line, but this only happens every couple of months. And she was hit when she was a child. The only thing is I am 17 and afraid that she will never forgive me if I call child help line - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/2725725 (Clean your damn room!) If you (a male) were a guardian and had to spank a 5-year-old for some reason, what if he then said, "Males should only spank females when they're making love! You're being homosexual right now!" Then what would you say and/or do? - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/3152563 I am a single mom and have 3 kids. Tyson is 6, halie is 5 and trinity is 2. I spank tyson and halie, and when trinity is older I will spank her too. It usually works. Do you think it's okay to spank? - http://www.answerbag.com/q_view/1567196 ** Other Stuff EXCELLENT answer about teen pregnancy - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/3498666 14yo pregnant teen, and proud of it - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/5009423 (This is also a big example of the need to provide as much information as you can if you wish to have correct and valid answers - See ALL of the answers here. See also all her prior questions, "IM 14 AND PREGNANT MY BOYFRIEND IS 17 AND WILL BE 18 NEXT YEAR COULD HE GET IN TROUBLE? ANY ADVICE?" (at http://www.answerbag.com/q_view/1169793) and "IF MY MOM REFUSES TO SUPPORT ME FINANCIALLY BECAUSE I REFUSE TO ABORT MY CHILD WHAT WILL HAPPEN?" - http://www.answerbag.com/q_view/1169803 When someone calls me a ditz, or makes blonde jokes, or is condescending, how do I laugh it off and regain composure? I'm sensitive about my intelligence. - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/4125852 Accidently left my myspace open mom saw it and read most of it Shes tryin 2 push me 2 c a psy im ashamed that she saw it I wonder what she thought about it She hasnt said much the link http://www.myspace.com/unbeautifuldisgrace wat would u think if this was ur kid (Anorexic/Bulimic) - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/2419732 Dealing with Cyber-Bullies - Both here at AB and elsewhere - http://www.answerbag.com/q_view/705343 How do I stop all contact with another member I find to be toxic to me? - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/4137407 How to stop feeling sad - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/3596680 My thoughts on "best time for 'THE talk'" - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/2213601 Too many kids spoiled today. I saw a seven-year-old with a cell-phone. So when should kids get a phone or computer? - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/3637243 My thoughts on underage drinking - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/2519769 What are "flame wars" on the internet - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/2926544 (Very thoughtful answer) Cops - (MY take) Law Enforcement - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/2279450 Why are cops on AB criticized and DRed? - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/2212210 Is it dangerous to be a cop? - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/2525377 Not all cops are alike (not all are bad) - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/2794631 Why do people love firefighters but hate cops? - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/3295987 (with tribute videos) What are the POLICE good for? whats so great about there job? - http://www.answerbag.com/q_view/1627479 Why are cops going for the drunk drivers and people who dont put a belt on what about the bad people that are still out there? (The Chief's take - Covers most all of it!) - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/7593980 NASCAR/Racing in general ... A waste of gas? - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/3011893 (My answer covers drivers' intelligence and athleticism.) What do many ABers look like in real life? (Many pix) - http://www.answerbag.com/q_view/72716 "Life stores" of many ABers - http://www.answerbag.com/q_view/89559 Want to find out what people on here think about you [or others]? - http://www.answerbag.com/q_view/955512 Have you ever visited the map of Answerbag members? Would you like to add your name to the map? It would be fun to see the scope of this online community. See link... - http://www.answerbag.com/q_view/1107546 (Map itself located at http://www.frappr.com/answerbag ) Where is Answerbag located? - http://www.answerbag.com/q_view/103983 Do you ever wonder what the Answerbag Headquarters looks like? How can we see it? - http://www.answerbag.com/q_view/997925 Can students get homework answers on AB? - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/2877700 Do you think questions asking AB to answer homework questions should be flagged? - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/7516832 What type of "Higher Education" is best? - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/3236574 Explain why going further into debt to go to college is worth it - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/3236472 Why doesn't AB have a chat function? - They tried - See http://www.answerbag.com/q_view/116741 using http://gabbly.com/answerbag.com My Avatar - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/2412461 What HTML tags (list please) and coding advice can you offer for AB newcomers and oldtimers alike to gussy their profiles (I am gathering a database and know that coding options are limited )? - (Arisztid's answer) http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/5519022 , (My answer, some info & the link included in Arisztid's answer) http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/5542484 Good list of Chat Abbreviations (many times used on AB - http://mistupid.com/internet/chattalk.htm and http://www.uscash.net/tips/chat.html . Here are some, many not so familiar - http://en.wiktionary.org/wiki/Appendix:Internet_slang Some of the common acronyms used on AB - http://www.answerbag.com/q_view/142056 HUGE list of Emoticons or "Smileys" - http://www.netlingo.com/smiley.cfm and http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_common_emoticons List of ALT Codes - http://www.tedmontgomery.com/tutorial/ALTchrc.html List of Special HTML Characters - I am unsure if all of these work, but I know quote, ampersand, non-breaking space do... See http://www.tedmontgomery.com/tutorial/HTMLchrc.html AB Glossary question and answers - http://www.answerbag.com/q_view/338803 Are there a lot of old ABers - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/2691840 I write alot of poetry and want to maybe sometime publish a book of some sort, or maybe sell my poetry to singers for their music. Im very young, and i just want to make something of my poetry. Where is there a place where and how i can do this? - (Good answer) - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/5131951 What are some answers you've used more than once? - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/3180472 (NOTE: I point them HERE, to my profile! LOL) ***** FUN! Fun questions and threads (Be sure to expand all comment threads. There's a LOTTA stuff there! Should AB change their name to Atheists Bag, since there are an overwhelming amount of Atheists on this site? - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/5140348 A GREAT (funny) Answer and thread (and links) - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/2242470 (Also contains some info on some AB-Ninjas!) The Infamous "Redneck" Comment Thread - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/1943952 Funniest story I've ever read - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/2516251 Puns - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/3368300 Insults with Style - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/4453572 The AB Strip Club - http://www.answerbag.com/q_view/741119 AB Soap Opera "Bags of Our Lives" (01/2008) - http://www.answerbag.com/q_view/567105 Horror Movie Weapon of Choice - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/2983588 The AB Slasher Movie - http://www.answerbag.com/q_view/711419 Short continuation in comment thread - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/2752275 Slasher Method of Death - http://www.answerbag.com/q_view/713810 Slasher Movie Soundtracks - http://www.answerbag.com/q_view/716414 Slasher weapon of choice - http://www.answerbag.com/q_view/749751 Slasher Movie Title - http://www.answerbag.com/q_view/749883 BAD Slasher/Horror Movie Title - http://www.answerbag.com/q_view/749874 (New movie info in some threads) The Hazing (Another AB Horror Flick - http://www.answerbag.com/q_view/750559 ANOTHER Horror Movie - Famous person (alive or dead) - Make up a cheesy horror movie based on their real-life story or exploits - http://www.answerbag.com/q_view/856187 The AB Drive-In Theater - Grand Opening (Saturday Scream) - Vampire Theme - http://www.answerbag.com/q_view/803613 AB's latest slasher flick: Death Night: The Zombies return (10/2008) - http://www.answerbag.com/q_view/1015804 BAM's AB Calendar - w/pictures of many regular members at that time (Feb 9, 2007) - http://www.answerbag.com/q_view/135732 Latest All Nude AB Calendar - http://www.answerbag.com/q_view/712735 Prior All Nude AB Calendars - http://www.answerbag.com/q_view/717829 , http://www.answerbag.com/q_view/510458 (men), (AB Men Calendar) http://www.answerbag.com/q_view/399222 , (even earlier - some pics) http://www.answerbag.com/q_view/134932 Testing - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/2252438 ;-) I keep skipping periods in my run-on sentences, am I pregnant? - (My answer) http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/4010213 What is a Pun? - Examples: http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/3368300 For those of you that have had cybersex with a stranger online, I have a surprise for you. Here is who you've been "chatting" with. Surprised? - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/7988253 (Strange people pix) Want to play a game? You ... and (for most) see who can answer fastest (and/or give an answer with your own) ... say the line of a movie ... - http://www.answerbag.com/q_view/791512 ... guess the movie from a single frame ... - http://www.answerbag.com/q_view/685475 ... say the line from a cartoon ... - http://www.answerbag.com/q_view/799213 ... say a quote from a TV show ... - http://www.answerbag.com/q_view/804878 ... say a line from a TV Theme song ... - http://www.answerbag.com/q_view/817032 ... say a line from a song ... - http://www.answerbag.com/q_view/804103 ... put down some song lyrics, and I'll try to guess it ... - http://www.answerbag.com/q_view/677094 Create a funny subtitle/tag line for a Horror Movie - http://www.answerbag.com/q_view/813767 AB Deli - http://www.answerbag.com/q_view/907382 AB's first Luau - http://www.answerbag.com/q_view/906981 AB Pizza Palace - http://www.answerbag.com/q_view/907215 AB Pizza Palace Hiring - http://www.answerbag.com/q_view/907382 AB Video Answers for a contest that was run in 2006. Posted in the blog August 4, 2006 - http://www.answerbag.com/blog/comments/102 If Answerbag was a planet, what would it be like? What would the atmosphere be, the countries, and the leaders of those countries? Would there be animals? - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/4057668 Does AB have cliques? Are you part of one? Am I? - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/1793980 Will you tell me a story? If you say you will, please tell me one. If you say no, you're a meany face and I won't love you anymore. - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/2319734 Have you ever wondered if God is telling you to stay home and not go to work? Or could it be the angels or your dead Aunt Millie playing with you? (See my answer for reasons.) - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/2700004  Kingdom of KevoniaThe Kingdom of Kevonia - http://www.answerbag.com/q_view/774763Map of Kevonia - http://www.answerbag.com/q_view/775089 (Click image thumbnail for larger pic). NOTE: I am the 9th Knight of Kevonia, lawfully dubbed Sir Big Daddy. My estate is in the east-northeast, with a large lake to the southeast and the sea to the right, down a sheer cliff. A grotto, beneath my estate and castle houses a large part of Kevonia's navy. Keithold's Micronation - http://www.answerbag.com/q_view/782525 . NOTE: I am also a King (AKA Big Daddy) of Dadania - I believe the 6th King - in the micronation created by Keithold. ***** Answerbag Questions & Answers Explanations (theories) for the glitches in Spring, 2009 - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/6395962 , http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/6349283 As a newbie (and for others who have recently joined) what can we expect from Answerbag. You know, the good and the bad? Help me to get familiar with it. - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/7114192 How do you use this answerbag site? - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/6051152 , and from Jodie and others: http://www.answerbag.com/q_view/305855 Where can I find how to use AB? - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/8200669 History of Answerbag by Jodie44 Part One - AB History and The Ratings War: http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/249540 Part Two - More AB History (VERY well written): http://www.answerbag.com/q_view/41395 Could you describe an ABer with whom you feel a special affinity?,without names it is not a popularity contest. - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/3985636 Things I've Seen on AB Recently (06/2008) - http://www.answerbag.com/q_view/777874 AB "Manual" - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/1919455 What to do if I can't get confirmed (email) - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/3395136 How to behave on an internet forum (and/or AB, as the case may be) - http://www.videojug.com/film/how-to-behave-on-an-internet-forum and DON'T be and idiot like Brandon at http://www.theonion.com/content/news/local_idiot_to_post_comment_on ;-) Protecting children on AB (REMEMBER, TOU states you MUST be 14 to use this site!) - Includes what to do if you suspect someone's a pedophile pumping a child for info - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/3572337 Newbies/Noobies: NOTE: When AB runs slow, don't hit the SUBMIT button on a new question or answer more than once. It will submit the question more than once, and duplicate questions is an AB no-no. ;-) ALSO, If you include a link in your answer, and include the http:// , make sure there's no punctuation immediately before or after the link (ie: "(http://www.example.com.)", especially afterward. When AB makes it an actual link, it will "suck in" the punctuation marks. Make sure your link is surrounded by spaces. And don't just put something like "example.com". Make it a link. Why do some of the more "superior" ABer's ask question after question after unintelligent question to get as many answers as possible to earn points, but they hardly ever give points for the answers they recieve? - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/7639005 Would anyone like to share any advice for those ABer's who love posting the same question 10 different times within the same five minutes? - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/4004232 Asked ? on google & led me here. started asking ?s & answering some 2. don't get this whole ab business..i feel like this is somewhat of a social networking site? thought it was just about Q&A but ppl seem to be really attatched to this thing! why is that[?] - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/3846401 More about AB in the comment thread of this answer - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/7853146 Tips for AB Etiquette - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/2397758 (MY answer may include many of the following) . http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/3648659 . http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/2383192 . http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/2298271 , and http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/2453557 The AB 10 Commandments - http://www.answerbag.com/q_view/173281 (read more than one... They're GOOD). "Sins" on AB - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/2227769 What do you think constitutes swearing on AB? Does anyone know where staff draw the line? What about "damn" or "hell"? Are these considered swearing? - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/6151499 Take "The AB Oath" - http://www.answerbag.com/q_view/416416 Why do so many people care that I actually comment to every single answer to my question? Don’t you think that will take too much time out of my day? - http://www.answerbag.com/q_view/1375635 Top 5 DON'Ts of AB - http://www.answerbag.com/q_view/647547 NOTE: You should not congratulate yourself. That's what your AB Friends are here for. Also, it's not really normal to congratulate people until they reach Sage (Level 50). Could you get in trouble for something you write on AB? like legal trouble more specifically - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/6034913 How NOT to ask a question (note the disagreements in the comment threads of a couple of answers) - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/2615601 - AND how to point out (as gently as possible) the questioner's errors and explain things (see comment thread - I KNOW this was flagged as nonesense, but it DID make sense and stopped some bad feelings between some actually really nice ABers) - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/2616062 Here's another: This is a question that I write for you to write 4 others to answer in comments... Do you like ____________? - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/6450792 Why do I see more negative answers to questions asking for positive advise on personal problems of late? Are the attitudes of Answerbaggers changing towards the negative - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/4420627 Isn't it interesting that with all the people that have ever been on AB, and for how long they've been on here, and all the new people we get that there are still original questions that havn't been aswed ? Weird o_0 [OR] Will Answerbag EVER run out of questions? - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/3813052 Do you find it Amazing that there are any Q's left to ask at this point on AB? - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/4165546 General Rules of Netiquette - (LOTS of Netiquette links) http://itwebmaster.iit.edu/resources/netiquette.html Here's MY take on Email Forwarding Etiquette: http://www.orangefrogproductions.com/ofp2m_faq_email.shtml , and what I consider as Email Spam http://www.orangefrogproductions.com/ofp2s_spam_home.shtml . How to become accepted - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/2452182 How come on AB it seems like everyone knows everyone except me... I have been on for a few months...? (Should be WEEKS... 1 month, actually) - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/3646628 Why can't I speak my mind? - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/3288029 (You can, within reason and the rules) Judging others and making friends - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/3147280 AB Friends - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/2495714 Why do people on Answerbag ask to be your friend if A) they dont know you? B) They dont want to keep in touch? Do people just collect friends for no reason? - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/7442249 Requesting and Accepting Friends on AB - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/2759904 What do you think of AB users who refuse to accept friend requests? - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/6754945 What do Friends do on AB? - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/7790013 Do you know what your membership account number is? Do you know where to find it? - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/4126728 Do people have the right on AB to ask you to stay away from them? - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/3388041 (Great answer) and http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/3386803 (My view). Here's the link to see ALL the answers - http://www.answerbag.com/q_view/835127 How to write a good question, written by AB-Joel - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/1134 (from http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/3368321 ) Asking good questions for newbies - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/2469384 and http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/2352145 What a good question should have to attract the answerer? - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/6698508 Why are the most popular questions always GOOD questions - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/1576003 AB has no educational value - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/2404082 Question Limits - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/2445950 and http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/7156094 Question Elaboration/Extension - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/2498077 (New - Since addition of Referring to URL) - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/4152206 Is it ok to answer your own question or is it just supposed to be for the people who are suppose to answer? - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/4113932 I'm getting a bit of flak for a question, how can I edit it? - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/4184711 Choosing a Category for the question - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/622696 (see Rich's notes below about Outside the Bag subcategories) and also see http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/4137341 Is it possible to have a category removed? (includes why abhorrent categories may exist) - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/7347086 How do I know if I should flag a question as "conversational" or "educational"?" - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/1140063 Asking and Answering - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/2449041 Is it ok to answer your own question or is it just supposed to be for the people who are suppose to answer? - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/4113932 Do you answer your own questions after posting them? (Expanding on questions) - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/3337993 Taking Jokes - http://www.answerbag.com/q_view/639673 I came here to help people with their personal issues. How did this place become a sounding board for malcontents and people with agendas? Why did the people that own this site allow it? (Why AB may allow some discriminatory and "nasty" questions and answers to stand) - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/7542540 How to report (or "rat out") questions, answers, comments, and users - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/3926503 How do you use the Watchlist page? - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/6864187 ** Points Positive Rating Limits - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/1178329 Negative Rating Limits - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/3158480 (In both cases, see comment thread - they performed an experiment - limits are on a per user per week on a rolling basis ) What do the numbers in the My Points box mean (Subs, Pts, +% for Questions, Answers, Comments, Moderation, and +Ratings Given - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/4551000 How do you get points? - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/2206358 and http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/2927614 What do points get me? - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/2759816 What are points for? - http://www.answerbag.com/q_view/86909 Lets just say you give an answerer some points. Then you level up a few levels and go back and give them more points max than you had before. For example first you give them +5 then +6 later, will it come up as separate rates or just add an +1? - (How re-rating someone works) http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/6086336 Consider : For 105 informative, carefully considered, intelligent answers, I earned 7 points. For 23 stupid, sarcastic, or pointless answers, I earned 167 points. My question, AB, is this WHY BOTHER? WHAT IS THE POINT? - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/4075863 Downrating (DRing) - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/2399843 Point of Negative Ratings (DRs) - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/2650836 and http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/3075372 Negative Ratings/Downrates Painful? - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/2373990 Negative Ratings/Downrates w/no Comments - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/2469760 Did you know that when you Downrate a good Question and Answer for No reason [that] the Staff knows --? - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/823961 WHY people downrate good answers - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/3208103 Are Newbies trolled and info on rating - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/3446594 Downrating should be based on serious infractions, instead of someone that just thinks your answer isn't what they agree on, am I right here? - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/3642917 Does anything happen to my reputation if I take away a point from someone? - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/3465710 How to DR without bad feelings or actually DRing - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/3488784 What penalties does AB have for users who band together to downrate a targeted victim just to get a sitebot to throw him/her into the penalty box? - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/3573210 (BTW: There IS no "sitebot" for the PB, and you won't get tossed there for being massively DRed.) Just how upset should a person get when points are deducted by someone that won't say why and don't seem to understand that points do not mean a thing? - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/8028635 ** Trolls: Who and what are these TROLLS on Answerbag? What exactly can they do? Can they do anything to hurt or harm people? - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/3639233 I've noticed a new type of troll here on AB (or maybe they're just more noticeable right now). They like to flag peoples' questions and they tattle on people all the time. Do you think they should have the right to ruin AB for others with this behavior? - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/7529857 Do you avoid answering questions asked by known trolls? - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/3050772 (includes what I think trolls and stalkers on AB are) Dealing with Trolls - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/2841839 What happens after you report a troll? - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/2955892 When you are trolled do you fight back, ask your friends to help, go to a community leader or leave ab ? - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/8143174 COAT - Cooperative Of Anti Trolls - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/5185576 I want to make a troll pie, does anyone have the recipe? - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/6209574 What is the most effective way to get rid of a clone (someone who is mimicking a real AB member's name and/or picture) or an out and out troll? - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/2128451 (Arisztid's treatise and instructions on this matter. Very long, but informative answer.) NOTE: Trolls CANNOT be defined because of their + ratings given -I saw an ABer with 0% who was still quite active. They were not a troll. They had simply never given any pluses or minuses. Think about it... As long as SOME users have been here, if they do not use the point system at all, they'd be at 0%... If they rate a few up and a few down, with the majority as uprates, that could account for the a "+ratings given" of 50% or so, but 5-8 or so DRs do NOT make them a troll. It's the ones we KNOW are rating - which is actually impossible to do. I thought the same thing with a user whose rating was around 70%... I'm rethinking. If they don't rate everything, then how could you TELL they are trolls? - I think we have to change the definition of using that "+ratings given" to define a troll, in some cases. Here's more - http://www.answerbag.com/q_view/801254 and http://www.answerbag.com/q_view/365592 (includes info about a "Troll List" that was put offsite in Aug, 2007, and Joel's response) ** The Levels on AB(from http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/121301 and extended) Level 1-2 Beginner Level 3-4 Novice Level 5-9 Contributor Level 10-14 Wiz Level 15-19 Authority Level 20-29 Expert Level 30-39 Professor Level 40-49 Brain Level 50-59 Sage Level 60-69 Maestro Level 70-79 Guru Level 80-89 Swami Level 90-99 Genius Level 100-109 Illuminati NOTE from Joel in http://www.answerbag.com/blog/comments/136?page=0& (See #70) - "I'd rather not post the exact points for every level because as many people have pointed out here, we don't want the focus of the site to be points and levels (although you guys could probably figure it out with enough persistence...hehe). We'd rather have people focus on helping others and sharing their knowledge." For more thoughts on points and levels, see the whole thread - especially 150-152. What are ranks for, and how are they determined? - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/4184626 ** Editing Questions and comments - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/2192051 Texting questions/Wrong words: Using wrong words and text questions - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/2467214 Complaining about vocabulary and texting - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/2495657 What's the big deal about using text-speak - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/3144972 How annoying is bad grammar and why it should and shouldn't matter - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/3446208 and http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/4891507 Why do so many questions on AB lack proper spelling, punctuation or syntax? - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/4165511 and http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/6971099 BUT, my thoughts on "the Grammar Police" on AB - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/3533789 Should there be a rehabilitation center for us AB junkies/druggies (those addicted to AB)? (includes links to other ABA (AB Anonymous)-type questions) - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/7501675 If you are applying for a typical 9 to 5 job, do you think it is the right of a company to test your body for drug use? Especially since the drug use is not being done AT the workplace? Isn't this a violation of our rights? - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/8036247 Who answers questions? - Example: General - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/3214823 Example: Medical - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/3014247 Can I ask a single question as "Anonymous"? How? - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/3241609 (NOTE: The secondary account, in this case, is called a "sockpuppet". For a few questions/answers, it appears to be tolerated, but requires a second email address. For DRing people, trolling, being nasty, etc., it's not.) Answering Questions (and Google Info) - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/2260614 Copy others' answers, provide links, or both? - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/3190429 Why don't people just use Wikipedia or a search engine instead of asking questions here? - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/3047069 Answering and taking sides - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/2328618 Losing Answers - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/2252736 Fixing Comments as Answers - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/2707712 Why EDIT remains on ANSWERS - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/2828325 Long Comments - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/2330946 and http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/2363937 and (best) http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/2959058 NOTE: - Comments are entered by clicking the "Add a comment" button below the answer (or below the comment thread JUST below the answer). If it goes off-topic and you're not interested in keeping track, just click the "Unsubscribe from Comments" button immediately below the thread you no longer wish to track. If you are brought back to the question after unsubscribing, or unsubscribe accidentally, simply enter a new comment, and you are resubscribed. I don't believe there is a limit to the number of times you can do this. Question Categories Outside the Bag Subcats - from http://www.answerbag.com/blog/comments/171 "» Could you, would you...? (hypothetical situations) » Deep thoughts (the former crazy thoughts+pondering time) » First thing that comes to mind (impressionistic answers, including fill in the blank questions) » Have you ever...? (actual hard-to-categorize situations) » This or that? (weird and random this or thats only) » Who would win? (weird and random only) What do we mean by weird? Remember, Outside the bag was designed for uncategorizable questions, so we'll be looking at content as well as form." (from AB-Rich's blog) ** Moderation: Reasons for moderation - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/2736920 How to Moderate (My thoughts) - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/3013365 (Note changes in my thoughts about Moderation between May 18, 2008 and Sep 27, 2008. They may be small, but they ARE there! ;-) What do you think about AB Lawyers - the ones that quote rules at you and get all angry when folks don't quite stick to them? The little question flaggers who say "Flagged"? The self huggers? - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/4125297 Someone keeps successfully flagging many of my questions as duplicates when they are not dupes at all. Why should I bother continuing to ask questions? - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/4128380 Criteria for flagging questions - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/1793305 Moderation Points - http://www.answerbag.com/q_view/99336 Duplicate questions - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/2467076 and http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/2468214 , http://www.answerbag.com/q_view/606512 , http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/2276869 What happens when my question is flagged as a dupe? - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/3100057 Reasons to flag dupes, even years later - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/2943557 Can I get flagged for duplicating my own question? - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/3099699 HOW to flag a dupe when the questions don't come up in the choices - http://www.answerbag.com/q_view/839056 (See Jodie's and my answer) Why you shouldn't take a "nonsense" flag on a statement/"question" personally (these usually occur when someone is in emotional turmoil and they need help of some sort) - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/3455227 Why do people flag question as nonsence if they dont like it. why dont they just pass the question by and not answer it. what if someone [went] and started flagging all question as nonsence. if someone asks a queston weather is good or bad just leave alone. - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/5077019 So what is spam, anyway? - from http://www.answerbag.com/blog/comments/126 "No, not the canned meat product. We've had a flood of posts from people who have authored eHow/weHow articles (full disclosure: eHow and weHow are owned by Demand Media, just like Answerbag) who include links to their articles in their answers, and Answerbaggers have been clicking the spam flag button so often on these, the pixels are wearing off the screen ;). So what's our policy? 1. Answers must be self-contained. If what's posted is only a link or doesn't address the question directly, flag away (except in those rare cases where the question specifically asks for just a link). 2. If the answer does address the question, it can also include a link for more information without being spam. For example, people summarize and link to wikipedia articles all the time. That's fine. 3. Regardless of the content of the answer, if the link provided isn't what it purports to be, flag it as spam or nonsense and we'll review it. We use the above policy to decide which spam flags to accept or reject--and we've approved most of your flags on the eHow/weHow posts, because some of those posters haven't learned rule #1. But we're always open to refining our policy. What are your thoughts about the essential ingredients that make spam spam?" (from AB-Rich's blog) Correcting bad flagging/Resinstatement of questions - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/2830569 If MY question were flagged (good flag or bad) - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/3643388 I had a question marked duplicate which was different than the one I was accused of duplicating. Is there any way to appeal such a ruling? - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/3643294 Moderating "Wrong Category" (My thoughts) Moderating "Wrong Category" (My thoughts) There are many times users will enter questions in the wrong category, for various reasons... The question actually falls into a couple of categories (usually an "Outside the Bag" subcatetory and an "Inside the bag" subcategory)... They can't find the category (use the search routine)... They don't KNOW there the category exists (again, use the search routine or use a higher-level category)... Or, they're just too lazy to look and pick the first category they find. THESE are the questions that should be moderated into a category WITHIN an Answerbag Category. Some are not so obvious - For example: A "First thing that comes to mind when ..." question, unless it's an abstract thought, should go into (and will possibly get more answers in) the category of the subject mentioned, NOT in the "First thing..." subcategory of "Outside the bag". Some are VERY obvious, like "What do you think of Elton John" in the philosophy subcategory - and SHOULD go into the Music Genres and Artists (if not his own) subcat. Be somewhat judicious in changing categories, though. Sometimes, older users know EXACTLY where they are putting a question, and get POed if they are moved (though it requires staff accepting the flag to do the actual move). And, of course, there are those who put questions in wrong categories, setting someone up to get points. There is, of course, little to no way to prove this, but it happens, I'm sure. (In fact, SOME may be doing it in a sockpuppet account to boost their regular account or vice-versa!) - And no... Mentioning this isn't saying anything that people haven't thought of. What do you think about reducing mod points from five to three, to help curb over-zealous "duplicate" and "nonsense" flagging? (Recategorizing would stay at five) - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/1692346 Penalty Box (PB) General Info - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/913474 , http://www.answerbag.com/q_view/641625 , http://www.answerbag.com/q_view/586851 and http://www.answerbag.com/q_view/536165 What CAN'T you do when you're PBed - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/2652313 Can you get points while PBed? - http://www.answerbag.com/q_view/864039 Quickest Ways to get PBed - http://www.answerbag.com/q_view/742184 ASKING to be PBed so you can get other things done - http://www.answerbag.com/q_view/742181 PBed for LIFE (ie:Banned) - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/2952038 (NOTE: The question was about two well-known baggers who were PBed "for life". The answer explains why, programmatically, they are banned until 2035. There are a couple of links in the answer to AB-Rich's answer for that question, and another, similar, question.) Why SOME users commit "Bagacide" (drop all friends, make their account anonymous, and leave AB - usually for GOOD) - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/3030173 How many times can someone "Leave AB for good" and come back willingly, with a new name, before you stop taking them seriously? - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/3933110 Why in the world would someone want to delete their Answerbag account? - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/8191903 Deleting your AB account - http://www.answerbag.com/q_view/783915 Should AB delete (completely) nuked accounts? - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/3508538 Comment Light:The Comment Light - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/2709494 "Why is my "answer" and "comment" orange light is on although i have NO new answers or comments listed?" - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/3125728 Why must I wait? It already knows I have a comment but doesnt want to let me in on what it is just yet? - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/4057321 How can you tell which question or answer has received a comment when the little orange light comes up beside the word 'Comments'? When I click on it, I just get a full list of everything and have to go searching. - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/5491951 ** Extras: Use pic on your computer as your avatar - http://www.answerbag.com/q_view/63142 317 pages of 32 Avatars each (over 10,000 Avatars!) and links to more (if you don't want to make your own) - http://avatars.jurko.net/ A cataloged collection of active Answerbag Avatars - http://books.dreambook.com/irahyn/answerbag.html Besides the AB choices, is there a reason that avatars' can't be shared? - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/6757319 Do anonymous people who leave comments annoy you? Are you annonymous and if so why? - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/7789941 Changing your username - Here's HOW: http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/166939 ... Here's some things to know: http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/3311765 "Prettifying" your Profile - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/2742021 and a more detailed version at http://www.orangefrogproductions.com/ofp2m_faq_abprofile.shtml Color Progression of the AB Bag as it fills with points - http://www.answerbag.com/q_view/510343 Posting Videos - http://www.answerbag.com/q_view/579091 How I Bag - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/2476880 How your percentages work - http://www.answerbag.com/q_view/704744 (including mod percentage) Lag-time (slowness) in Feedback Activity. Finding answers on the question page that don't show up in feedback for a time. - http://www.answerbag.com/q_view/714385 Are there any "undamaged" people on AB? - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/4156200 How long will AB last, and how/why would it shut down? - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/3329825 What are "Points Farmers"? - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/3460745 (See others' opinions by clicking "Read all answers". If you don't, here's the entomology of the term - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/486072 ) What is a sock puppet on Answerbag? - http://www.answerbag.com/q_view/65448 (read all answers) Is it okay to have two AB profiles so you can give yourself points? (sockpuppets) - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/7572272 Information about Kedar - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/5201056 Posting a picture in an ANSWER Also now at http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/3369449 You post a pic in an answer, not a question. If it is an integral part of the question, note that the picture(s) will be posted in your answer, then, once the question is posted, go back and answer your question. 1) Pictures MUST be on your computer. 2) Enter whatever you wish in the answer box. 3) Below the answer box there's a button UPLOAD IMAGE 4) Browse to your picture 5) Click Upload. 6) Do 3 & 4 for each picture you wish to upload. 7) Click SUBMIT BE WARNED. There are times it doesn't work correctly. If you DO upload a (or more than one) picture, they MAY NOT upload the first time. Go back to your answer to verify that it uploaded. If not, a) Click EDIT ANSWER b) Do steps 4-7, above, again. Check your answer, again. SOME may not upload right. Keep trying a-b until all pix you wish to upload are in. AB Staff is aware of the problems with uploading images. AB "forgot" your auto sign-in and/or YOU forgot your password - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/3046928 Why are none of my AB setting set for them to email me.....Yet I have like 500 emails a day from answerbag? - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/7858372 ** Suggestions I have for AB - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/3526036 ** Strange things that occur on AB (Read ALL answers and comments)(SOME think these questions add to the "drama" here. Some don't.) How would you feel if another AB member told you not to answer any more of their questions? Do they have the right to do that? - http://www.answerbag.com/q_view/835127 Have you ever been asked, off AB, to remove another bagger from your friends list, or the person who asked you would remove YOU from THEIRS? What did you do and why? - http://www.answerbag.com/q_view/838322 What do you do when someone you respect EXPECTS you to kiss their *ss? Do you? Why or why not? If you don't give in and they threaten to pull their friendship, do you then give in? Why or why not? - http://www.answerbag.com/q_view/839128 Railing against Answebag Is Answerbag a despotic fascist website run by a small oligarch that panders to their favorite users and treats many other users as chum to the shark? - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/3773904 (link is to MY answer. See the others, too.) Who's running answerbag? I'd just like to say you're not doing a very good job. The hypocritical nature of the way this site is run, is just ridiculous. Certain "groups" of people get away with murder, while others never do. Get a grip on your site! - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/3703995 (link is to MY answer... See the other, too.) ** Community Leaders Dealing with Abusive ABers - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/2837436 Do Community Leaders (CLs) actually help? - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/3228541 Why are Community Leaders the only type of person on AB to determine other people's time in the Penalty Box? I see this as unfair? - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/3543731 A CL's POWER - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/2734264 There has been a lot of talk about CL's lately. I think they do a great job. Would you do what they do? Would you sign up to be one? Would you take pride in it? - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/4135282 NOTE: The community leaders are: (see the table at) - http://www.orangefrogproductions.com/ofp2m_faq_ab_policing.shtml#cl Try to resolve personal issues yourself. Be as diplomatic as you can in comment threads. BOTH parties can be Penalty Boxed (PBed) if it really gets out of hand. If you are having issues that require a CL's help, you notice spammers or offensive questions/answers/comments, copy the shortcut (use the URL bar at the top of your browser, or, if it's an answer or comment thread, on a PC, right-click on the permalink for the answer (in the header info), and COPY SHORTCUT. This will put it to your clipboard, and whichever way you contact them, you can CONTROL-V to paste it in your message. You should first try to find them online. Go to their profiles, and look at their Activity Summary. If they have been active in the last few moments (less than five), click on that question, and comment that you need a CL and point out the question/answer/comment (paste the URL there). If THAT doesn't work, use their email. NOTE: Cut-and-paste their email address into your email TO field, and if there are spaces, remove them. I'm not sure why, but AB tends to break some links that don't get translated (ie: Questions and profiles) and email addresses. (Maybe it has to do with length, and maybe the way it's stored?) As a last resort ONLY, try the most recent blog at http://www.answerbag.com/blog (at the top). Click ### Comments, and enter a comment that a CL is needed at whatever question/answer/comment you need them at. (See note from Rich, below). SOME CLs will respond quicker to emails, and some quicker to comments. Only hit ONE CL, if you find them currently online. RICH'S NOTE FOR THE BLOG: - "Please submit reports about individual threads or users via feedback, not the blog. Complaints about penalty-box sentences should be also be sent to feedback, though I am aware of the irony of asking folks who have transgressed site rules to abide by them ;). Understand that all CL-imposed penalties get reviewed by me, and CLs don't have access to people's activity history at the same level of detail as I do. So in those rare instances where we do p-box someone, CLs' penalty recommendations tend to be much more lenient than mine. Galeanda's post is exactly right ("There is a big difference between someone that has never been PBed before and someone who has been there repeatedly and even had their sockpuupet in the PB. And some people calm down and behave after a warning whereas some continue till they get back in the box."), and creating new accounts to complain about original accounts being penalized compounds the problem: using AB in a self-serving manner, rather than respecting the community. Also understand that we can only review what gets flagged or reported. "You let this stand, but not that" assumes we've reviewed both, which is generally not the case." Rejected questions/answers or Moderation - If you get an email that a question or answer you asked, or a moderation you made, was rejected, and you feel it is in error, you can ask for its reinstatement in a couple of ways: 1) Reply to the email. State your arguments as succinctly as possible. Rich or someone else on staff sees each of these emails, and will double-check. If you receive a response, be happy. They get (I'm sure) HUNDREDS of these requests, as well as all the flags they must review, all the CL notes, all the... you get the idea. 2) Go to the question in question (use the link in the email), scroll to the bottom of the page, and click FEEDBACK. State your case (it's a small box, but allows a LOT of characters), and submit it. The same people will see it. Remember, though... If you get a question that was flagged reinstated, it COULD be flagged by the same or another user... immediately, or in the future. Do you respect the decisions that the AB staff makes? Really? If they were to make a decision right now, that affected you, how would you feel? Would you accept it and move on, or question their practices? (Please elaborate, there are a lot of variables) - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/4210262 What are some things I've learned and figured out about AB? Remember! Answerbag is a social place. People will ask questions, answer them, and discuss in the comment threads. There will be those with strong opinions. There will be those who believe THEY are right and anyone who doesn't believe in what THEY do are wrong. And some will become vehament about their beliefs. If you can't see both sides of an argument, you will proabably be one of them when YOUR beliefs are attacked. Let it go. Ignore those who don't discuss but attack. It's hard, but it gets easier with practice. If someone attacks your beliefs and refuses to back down to a discussion, leave the comment thread - UNSUBSCRIBE. There's NO REASON to put up with it, nor is there a true reason to fight back. Remember that in sports and other places, the one who returns fire or punches is usually the one who gets in the most trouble. The same is usually the case here. I'm not saying you don't have the right to defend your beliefs. And AB is a GREAT place to DISCUSS them, respectfully. But when someone obviously loses that respect and lashes out, leave them thrashing at nothing. Oh, and for those who feel that DRing people and attacking them is great fun, you need a new hobby. Bullies are not tolerated here. The CLs and staff and many long-time users have declared war on intolerance. Take a look at your "+ ratings given" at the bottom of your points box. If it's below, say 80% or so, you have given a LOT of Downrates (DRs - "Not Helpful"s), few Uprates (URs - think "thumbs up"), and everyone who looks at your profile knows it. It is NOT a "badge of honor" to have this known about you. It makes people believe you are a troll or an AB stalker - One who follows certain people around, DRing their questions and answers, usually without leaving any type of comment). People will avoid your questions and answers, and you will probably lose a lot of friends if this percentage keeps going down. Rethink. Isn't it better to argue a point, leaving the points alone (No DR or UR). You can get the recognition you so strongly crave if your arguments are good this way. And for those who are DRed a lot, by trolls, kids, or jerks - Who cares. Yes, it may hurt your Q & A percentages, and some of your Qs and As may end up in the negative (usually not for long... MANY others pay attention to this, and if they are good, you will eventually be URed). The points do NOT count against your points for levels - You will STILL go up in levels based on all positive points you have received. I don't get POed about it, any more. If I feel my answer was good, then I just put a comment to the DRer there... Something like "DRer - Explain how this answer does NOT answer the question, or how it is NOT helpful". If nothing else, when those positrollers (people who visit others' qs & as and give points away to them) see it, they may or may not up the points. Who cares. At least you have made your comment, and let it go. ALSO NOTE: NO ONE but staff can tell WHO DRed you unless the DRer TELLS you they did. (Even then, someone may take "credit" when all they really meant was "I don't like your Q or A". You can't even go by the times, because someone may be commenting at just about the same time a "drive-by" DRer hits your Q/A. If you get a whole lot of DRs, report it to the CLs who will report it to the staff. You can also take a screen shot, and include it in an email to admin@answerbag.com. Give them the time-frames, and anyone you SUSPECT may be DRing all your stuff (and maybe those who answered YOU). There's nothing YOU can really do, but this. Again, if you retaliate, YOU could be caught and PBed, too. Besides, since there's no real way of you knowing if a certain person or people did or not, you could be wrong. AB is a place to ask questions. It's a place to get answers. It's a place to have some lively (not nasty) discussions on numerous topics. And, it's a place to have FUN. Try it like that. You might find you like it a lot more than you thought you did. BTW: Did you know you can revisit your old questions and answers, and give points (to a max of your level) even if you gave them points when you were lower level? I just found that out. COOL. Time to revisit MINE! ;-) If AB shut down, what would be the last thing you'd want to tell your fellow ABers? - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/3054898 -BigDaddyBS |
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