by Ashley86va on July 24th, 2011

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My husband has always been abusive and controlling. We have a two year old together which makes it hard for me to leave bc she loves him.

He wouldn't change and drinks too much. I thought it would be better since we3 just moved away and he job a good job but it cont. and now harder to leave. He goes CRAZY He even got charged with assault on a family member ( me) an I'm still with him. I defended him to my parents and i don't know why I do that. He hasn't "punched" me but will kick, push, shove, slam me down, put bruises on me. He has know respect for me! He calls me names and when I tell him I'm done with it he tells me to get the F out his house and go be with someone else. And he will say I'm cheating on him if I tell him I'm leaving. He has even went to anger management and done this to other girls. He is 32 and I'm 25. Last night, He started yelling at me for no reason bc I said I wish he'd kiss me more.. he ended up drinking and throwing things.. while I'm crying. He went into our room and I thought he was going to bed so I poured his beer out. He cam back out and hit me with a pillow told me I was a stupid bitch and while I was laying on the sofa to sleep for the night he make sure to take the laptop, cell phone, remote, my covers, and unpluggeg the tv. I know today he has been saying he was sorry but I can't do it anymore. Is there anywhere for him to get help? I'm starting a new job and then I plan on leaving.

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  • by TriniBaby on December 29th, 2011
    voted: leave now

    TriniBaby

    that is alot of abuse, i would suggest you leave him and take out a restraining order for him because he may retaliate in a horrible way

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  • by mrsstephyg on July 25th, 2011
    voted: leave now

    mrsstephyg

    Your daughter is exactly why you should leave. Girls who grow up with abusive fathers are more likely to become victims of abuse themselves. You have to set an example for her. What are you teaching her by taking that from him? You're teaching her to be a victim and I doubt that's what you want for her. Show her that violence is never OK and leave that sorry excuse for a man!

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  • by sazzycat09 on July 25th, 2011
    voted: leave now

    sazzycat09

    you need to protect your child first of all. you take your child and you leave. he has a record for what he has done to you, it will only be a matter of time before department of humans services gets wind that you are allowing someone like that to live around your child before the crap really hits the fan. not to mention you sure dont want there to be a day that he would do something to your child, or even take your child without you knowing just to get back at you for something. you dont want the child to be around that and see or hear all of that. a child may not always understand things as clearly as an adult, no matter what a parent may do to a child (in situations of abuse ~ sexual, physical, mental, emotional) they tend to fight within themselves about what they feel. some may not talk about it and it could come out in different ways, some may talk about it and seek a councelor and talk through it........... no matter what that child deserves to be in a loving home that is stable and not where their mother gets beat, disrespected, and abused.

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  • by Touch_of_The_Masters_Hand on July 24th, 2011
    voted: leave now

    Touch_of_The_Masters_Hand

    You need to get the hell out of there now before he kills or seriously injures you or your child. And grow up btw and stop making excuses to stay. If you stay eventually you or your child will end up dead or maimed for life. She's young enough that she doesn't really know what is going on. Don't wait til she is old enough to understand and hates you for staying with a violent and abusive asshole.

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