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by AndrewMiller on January 8th, 2011

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My friend has been sexually abused by her uncle and doesn't want to tell her parents (PLEASE read full description) Advice please???

My friend has been sexually abused by her uncle for 2 years. He visits her when she is home alone and fingers her (the last time he did so he broke her virginity). When doing so, he always tells her that he loves her very much. She's 16 years old and has had enough. BUT she does not want to tell her parents and this why: Her family(her entire moms side of the family) is very very close! I've never seen anything like it, they're always together. Now she does not want to break that relationship that they have, and the marriage of her uncle and aunt. She is putting her family first, but at her expense! I am really concerned because she has 3 younger female cousins, all going through puberty, who could be her uncles next victims! She does not want me to tell her parents, but I think that I'll have to do so if this carries on. What should I do? Any advice? It would be much appreciated. Andrew Miller, Atlanta GA

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  • by THE SHADOW on January 30th, 2011
    voted: I tell her parents

    THE SHADOW

    if you don't speak up and this happens to her cousins and who knows how many other girls,you will feel guilty because you could have prevented it from happening by reporting it to her parents.the closeness of her family isn't worth what she will go through later on in life.hate will begin to grow inside her and may cause her to be alone and never trust men again,no relationships,no marrage and no children,these are all the things most women look forward to having when they become an adult.nobody should be deprived of their dreams and if this keeps going on,chances are they won't come to light.instead she will keep it locked up inside of her.she needs to be set free so she can fulfill her dreams.you know what the right thing is to do.i wouldn't want to carry around all that guilt.good luck to you and i hope this helped

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  • by Jessica on July 9th, 2011
    voted: I confront her uncle (we are on speaking terms)

    Jessica

    I say you should confront the uncle or just call the cops and report it. She doesn't want to do it because she thinks she will be blamed or shunned from the family. If this doesn't stop or she doesn't tell anyone about it then it will continue, possibly get worse, and she will be forced to live with these horrible memories and regrets for the rest of her life. Reporting him to the police is the best thing you can do for her.

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  • by lemonking03 on January 24th, 2011
    voted: I confront her uncle (we are on speaking terms)

    lemonking03

    You have to confront her uncle. It's not fair for her to go through anything like that. He's disgusting and it has to stop! If that does not work then notify the police and her parents.

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  • by nolan30000 on January 19th, 2011
    voted: I confront her uncle (we are on speaking terms)

    nolan30000

    Do not go behind your friends back, you are not her family it is her choice to protect her familys relationships, confront the uncle if you must

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  • by sissygirl on January 8th, 2011
    voted: I tell her parents

    sissygirl

    I was also sexually abused by an uncle for 5 years, I didn't tell for the same reason, but after I became an adult I found out the the uncle had abused my older brother and a cousin. We are the ones who have had to suffer because of the abuse. It needs to be stopped now and he could be abusing other children.

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  • by dazed on January 8th, 2011

    dazed

    Tell her parents or the police.It's so hard for you as a friend, but her welfare and her cousins come first and no-one should get away with this (her Uncle).

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