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by Bjones on December 15th, 2009

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I contacted about 30 women in my area on a dating site; i put up my photo, and made a sincere profile. None have replied; proof im a loser?

Ive resigned my self to die alone now, online dating was my only hope, since im too shy to apprache women in person, and too scared of rejection. (I CANT CHANGE THIS SO DONT BOTHER TELLING ME TO; SHYNESS IS GENETIC). Not even one of these girls responded...this has to be proof that i am undatable right?

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  • by hallagan on March 24th, 2010

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    It's kind of crazy how online dating works the ladys can write all kinds of negative crap on there profile and complain about there inboxes being to full. A guy like you who is honest and has nice things to say doesn't get any responses. So I guess there's just as much a double standard as there is in other things relating to gender roles. I have the same problems I've tallied about 250 women from 2 different profile companys that I sent warm sincere messages to and out of that many dated 5 the longest lasted 3 dates till it ended.

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  • by Don Gorgeous George on December 15th, 2009
    voted: No, there might be some other reason (however unlikely) for not responding)

    Don Gorgeous George

    Dude you need to pull your head out of your ass. What girl is gonna want to date someone with that kind of attitude. You know what a girl is gonna think, "I wonder what kind of guy he would be to our children if we ever have any". Any worthwhile girl is gonna say next. Who wants their kids to be raised by someone with such a negative attitude. You need to improve yourself before you can expect any positive results from worthwhile girls.

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  • by Anonymous T on December 15th, 2009
    voted: No, there might be some other reason (however unlikely) for not responding)

    Anonymous T

    Unless You're seriously ugly or You have written something sincerely stupid
    on Your profile, it's probably just a matter of time (amount of messages
    You send). That's the reality of dating sites for most guys who are not
    Brad Pitt or some Chippendale/stripper/rich businessman.

    Sometimes You may have to spam the whole site and you might get
    1 answer for every 20-50 messages You send. It all depends on what You
    look like on the photo and what You write. I've been playing around with
    these in the past (mostly on a site that's formally not a dating site,
    but a private photo rating site) and it was the same. Women either
    ignore or are rude. And once in a longer while You get some responses.
    There was a time when I got 3-5 dates in a week for a couple of weeks
    due to starting a conversation with hundreds of women by spamming
    them with mostly generic messages.

    But I don't think it's worth the time, to do that.
    I prefer to meet women in the real life.

    But if that gives You insight and some confidence, You might play around.

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  • by Anonomous on December 15th, 2009
    voted: No, ( im just telling you this as a lie...it is you)

    Anonomous

    Love happens when you least expect it...never give up!

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  • by repoecol on December 15th, 2009
    voted: No, there might be some other reason (however unlikely) for not responding)

    repoecol

    The site, where you registered yourself and created a profile, was (unlike AB) probably a quite out-of-date one, so that the members you contacted have unfortunately even forgot about their membership there. Simply have a try on other sites.

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  • by Anonymous on December 15th, 2009
    voted: No, there might be some other reason (however unlikely) for not responding)

    Anonymous

    Maybe you are looking in the wrong areas, or for the wrong reasons. Try something new and be confident!

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  • by curlysue on December 15th, 2009
    voted: No, there might be some other reason (however unlikely) for not responding)

    curlysue

    I didnt read your profile soo i dont know what you said.Maybe those werent recent profiles or something,they didnt get your email.I heard some people say some women on some of those dating websites are fakes.I dont no why but have you tried other websites i know some are better than others.Please do not give up.Im very shy too untill i have had several marguritas .

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  • by sallykins123 on December 15th, 2009
    voted: Yes,probably because you are to ugly

    sallykins123

    its tttttrrrrruuuuueeeeee!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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