How to Deal With a Mental Illness in the Family

Dealing With Mental Illness

• Step 1:
  Educate yourself about the illness from which your loved one suffers. Most of society has only a vague notion of what mental illness is, and knows only what is shown on TV as the definition of any specific disorder. Many websites and organizations offer accurate and helpful information on specific mental illnesses. Friends and family should seek out organizations like NAMI and FamilyDoctor.org online to help them understand and cope with a loved one's illness (see Resources).
• Step 2:
  Remember that support does not mean acceptance. Friends can support a loved one while still calling that person accountable for his behavior. Many mental illnesses are characterized by strange and difficult behaviors. A family can hold a sufferer accountable for taking meds and changing behaviors while still being supportive.
• Step 3:
  Keep in mind that the feelings of a mental;y ill person are just as real as the feelings of a non-ill person. Many people reduce the feelings of the mentally ill to their illness or their symptoms. Often, this is not the case. Sometimes, a feeling is justified, and listening to the sufferer is as important as listening to someone who suffers from a physical disease.
• Step 4:
  Acknowledge that keeping the lines of communication open is paramount to supporting someone with a mental illness. Communicate with the person, care providers and other family members so a community of support can be created for those who need help. Remember that communication is about talking to the person, not just about him. Each person will articulate his own individual needs if invited to. Speak openly and optimistically about the illness and the person's potential for recovery.
• Step 5:
  Realize that recovery is possible, but also highly individual. It is not a straightforward, linear process, but rather is often a back-and-forth experience entailing big steps forward and small relapses. Be patient and non-judgmental, and above all, do not attempt to rush the recovery process. Be supportive wherever the patient is at the moment.