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by Spixxy on February 6th, 2004

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I cheated on my boyfriend and I want to forget about the whole thing. I think it would do no good if I told my boyfriend but I don't want to be dishonest. Should I tell him?

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  • by Anonymous on October 25th, 2004

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    TELL HIM!!! Please tell your boyfriend, especially before you have sex with him again. I had a boyfriend who cheated on me (had sex) with another woman and then had sex with me again without telling me that he had cheated. I found out shortly after, from his friends little sister who happened to walk in on them, what had happened. When I realized that he had sex with me the next day, I was sooooo disgusted and I felt so disrespected. I did not know if I had contracted diseases from him because he cheated, I felt that I was not sexually satisfying enough for him, and it was just gross to me to know that his penis was in some one else just the day before, when he and "it" were supposed to be mine. Even though he apologised up and down when confronted, I still left him because he did not even respect me enough to tell me that he made a mistake. If he would have told me, I probably would have forgiven him because he was honest and because I loved him and wanted to be with him. Just imagine how your boyfriend would feel if he found out that you cheated from some one else. He would then be left with so many questions and fears, when you could have just had the guts to sit down and explain it to him yourself. You will probably have less of a chance of salvaging the relationship if he learns of your unfaithfulness from some one else, and thinking that he won't is just foolish, there is always possibility. He has the right to know that you betrayed him and he has the right to decide whether or not he wants to forgive you for it. You would be a coward if you did not tell him and I don't think that you would deserve to have him anymore if you don't tell him. Relationships are based on trust and respect. If you can't tell him that you betrayed him then you obviously don't have much respect for him, and you have already proved that you can't be trusted by going out and cheating. Come clean, don't deny him the right to forgive you or not forgive you. You will be a pretty sorry person if you do. Besides that, if he knows you well at all, he is going to be able to tell that something is bothering you. If he asks and you say everything is ok, when he knows that there is something underlying that you won't talk about, it is going to lead to bigger problems. He will wonder why you won't confide in him and though not telling him will keep him around for a while, the lack of communication will eventually lead to a bitter end. An end that will probably turn out worse then if you just tell him and he breaks up with you. Remember, this is coming from someone who was in his shoes in a similar situation. The old "what he don't know won't hurt him" is bull. It's just something that people who are too chicken to be honest like to say, and until you tell him you can consider yourself to be lieing to him every day. Feel guilty now? Then tell him!

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    • Yeah, yeah, boo-hoo!

      jwmbiz

      by jwmbiz on July 23rd, 2005

    • Being this idealistic about a human relationship seems rather unhealthy.

      R Spandit

      by R Spandit on June 7th, 2006

    • I actually think this is a good answer.

      A

      by A on November 3rd, 2008

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