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by Marty Mart on October 18th, 2004

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I blacked out and don't remember kissing my ex right in front of my current girlfriend. My current girlfriend said it's not something she wants to break up over, but I'm devastated. How can I get over this and move on?

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  • by Anonymous on October 25th, 2004

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    Ask yourself, am I going to be a guy who always has fun living in the moment or is it more important to me to step back and think about the consequences? If you chose the first option, then you should probably break up with your current girlfriend and not even read any more of this because you are obviously not ready for the responsibilities of a committed relationship..... If you chose the second option then at least you know that you at want to do what is best for both of the girls.
    You have to figure out why you kissed your ex. Are there still strong feelings for her inside of you? If there are, maybe you rushed into things with your new girlfriend too quickly. Of course your ex will always have a place in your heart, but how big is that place? You don't want the new girl to be a rebound. If you are rebounding with her, then you will probably realize shorlty that you got into the relationship more to help you get over the last girl then to actually build a relationship with this girl. If that is the case, then you should probably end the relationship and stay single for a while until you know that you are over all of the past and are truly free to move on. It is not fair to lead the new girl on.
    If you got drunk or drugged and blacked out, you might also want to stay away from alcohol and drugs, because if you couldn't control yourself once, chances are that you won't be able to next time. Ask yourself if a buzz is really worth losing her over.
    Basically, the best thing that I can suggest is to step back and think about what you truly want and where your feelings are. You obviously don't want to hurt anyone, but you are going to if you don't know what exactly you want. Do you want to see both of the girls? If so, then it is probably best for you to be single so you don't hurt either of them. If you were single right now and your ex wanted to get back together with you, would you get back together with her? If you would, then your feelings for your relationship with your new girlfriend probably aren't as strong as they should be. If you wouldn't get back together with her, then you probably are ready to move on and it was probably just a heat of the moment mistake. If you feel that you are ready to move on with your new girlfriend, then you need to realize that she has offered you forgiveness, and you need to realize that we all make mistakes, forgive yourself and move on by keeping yourself from situations where it could happen again. Like stay away from your ex, drugs and alcohol.

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