How can I tell my boyfriend he is emotionally hurting me without him making me feel stupid?

First of all, you are not stupid. You have the intelligence to ask a very difficult question and that counts for more than you may realize at this time. Now, as for how to tell your boyfriend-I have some bad news for you...Most men realize (even only subconciously) what they are doing when they hurt the women whom they "love". Do not value yourself on what your boyfriend says you are, you are an intelligent woman who can make her own decisions. By asking this question you have acknowledged the fact that his actions are hurting you. Tell him in a calm & rational matter how you are feeling about his actions & words. If he does not understand then leave him. Trust me, once the emotional abuse (yes, I said abuse) is standard then men generally turn to physical abuse in order to dominate and control their women. You will find a man who values your opinions and thoughts without making you feel inferior once you are free to do so.

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totally agree and I speak from experience!
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by lovelustlaughs on November 30th, 2004
Agreed, 100%! Let him know when he hurts you. If he gets mad, blames you, brushes you off, etc., dump him immediately!
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by webgrunt on April 12th, 2005
good answer; you go girl!
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by Answers101 on April 6th, 2006

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