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by Anonymous on April 4th, 2007

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I cheated on my boyfriend of 3 years. I got drunk, had my guard down and went through with the sex because I think I needed to see what it would be like with someone else (I have only been with one other person). He is devastated. What d

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  • by Stronghart on May 26th, 2007

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    About being drunk: "vino est veritas." In wine there is truth.

    First of all, both you and your boyfriend should understand that it is not the most important thing about your relationship. Secondly, you have been with him for three years. That's a long time to go without antother relationship. You should do it when you are not drunk, and so should your boyfriend.

    Sex is a gift--to confine it to one partner for a lifetime is narrow and very sad. Pigeons mate for life. When humans do they are suppressing their natures.

    I am not saying to "cheat." I am saying that each partner has the right to have other relationships and that each partner should understand that it is going to happen.

    It works.

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    • I disagree.

      What you are saying is that it is ok to cheat. Yes each partner has a right to have other relationships, but not when they are already in a committed one and at the same time. I would say 3 years is fairly committed.

      And being drunk is NO excuse.

      Asgard

      by Asgard on November 14th, 2007

    • ?????????????????? What kind of answer is that Stronghart?

      MOON_LIGHT_88

      by MOON_LIGHT_88 on June 21st, 2008

    • Well apparently, Mr. Stronghart was high at the time he wrote this?

      SDSD

      by SDSD on February 3rd, 2011

    • Here's what people don't get. Sex is not that important. It isn't the most important thing in any relationship. Marriage is never about sex, and yet in American fiction so many stories and novels present a sexual dalliance as an unpardonable sin.
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      In real life I never thought that should be true. Marriage is the main event. These other relationships bring me into worlds I would otherwise not know. These relationships have helped our marriage. ..I think of all these people who get divorced over minor matters...I don't see how people can live in conventional marriages. "

      Gay Talese has a fifty year marriage with a very accomplished,independent and fiscally successful wife.

      Stronghart

      by Stronghart on February 9th, 2011

    • Thank you Stronghart for putting sex in a relationship into perspective. whenever I see people getting so worked up about this sort of thing, it makes me realise that they see little else of value in their partners other than a means of scratching a sexual itch. fidelity and loyalty are not about who you fuck and when but about how you treat the other person. in my experience, poly-amorous people are often far more genuine, honest and loyal in their partnerships than than the self righteous.

      fluffylucy

      by fluffylucy on February 14th, 2011

    • ASK BF IF HE WOULD LIKE TO JOIN YOU IN A THREESOME.

      Wilber_C

      by Wilber_C on April 11th, 2011

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