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by Athenasocrates on August 16th, 2006

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How common is it for a straight guy to question his sexuality at the age of 30 and kiss a man to find out? Even if he says he didn't enjoy it, how do you know that he isn't really gay or bisexual?

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  • by MyKinKStar on August 27th, 2006

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    There are plenty of men (or women) over the years who've gotten married only because it was the thing to do, even though they never felt right about it from the start. They had children, lived successful lives, and shared what appeared to be happy marriage. However, after years of not feeling fulfilled, they decided to try out what they've always desired and discovered their homosexuality. These men go on to live as their authentic selves and "come out" to everyone, including the children, who are usually old enough to know the truth.

    Is it common for a 30 year old straight guy to question their sexuality? Maybe, maybe not, but it happens, and it can happen at any age. Our life is an ever growing discovery of ourselves, and hopefully we live to learn and grow into who we were meant to be.

    For some, they know what they'd never consider ever doing in their life, only by thinking about it. There's no doubt for them, of what they desire for their future loves. For them, it's not necessarily a choice, or selection, or process of time. This can apply to any sexual preference, like you knowing you'd never eat a giant cockroach. You just know it! Well, unless it's on Fear Factor for $50K!

    No, really, some people only have to imagine doing an act to know they wouldn't follow through with ever trying it for real. Others aren't as sure, because of a fascination or a desire to be cool or because that's what they believe is their true fate. The only way they can prove it as right or wrong in their mind and body is to act on it. If it means kissing someone of the same sex, or more, then that's what it takes.

    It might not be the end of it. It's quite possible he just didn't enjoy kissing that particular man and will have a desire to try it with another man sometime. There's no way to ever be sure. Again, it just is what it is. We are what we are and he'll know when he's ready and willing to accept himself with pride and confidence.

    If you're a friend, support him for whatever he is or will possibly become.

    If he's a lover, then be sure you practice safe sex until he's figured out he wants to be with you exclusively, without exception! These days straight men who say they are on the "down low" or DL, mean they have sex on the side with other men, without letting their woman partner know about it. These men don't think of themselves as gay . . . beecause they still maintain a sexual relationship with their women . . . yet exposing them to HIV and AIDS, as well as any other STD's, without regard. Be sure you know what this man is doing if you're having sex with him and take precautions to protect yourself. Some men are in serious denial about themselves and their lifestyle on the side.

    I hope this helps you some. Take care!

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