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Are you bored of making friends?
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where are the real answers about why people in their 20s never join more and more social groups?
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Well said. I dig your avatar.
by Wickels on May 14th, 2007
thanks ; )
by CHAD on May 14th, 2007
well, there's your answer, add plus.
by volcomsurfer10 on July 21st, 2008
hmmm, i do not like ppl, who only want fun, if the other person is not funny for him, then there's nothing to talk or no reason to hang around, is just wrong.
by digibluez on October 25th, 2008
this is a good answer, but not the best
by soshy29 on January 12th, 2009
real good answer!
by InfoJunkie on January 25th, 2009
That's true sometimes, but not all the time. I know dull people with friends.
by Anonymous on June 27th, 2009
It is true most of the time, I've lived with it for a while-- on the other hand, the friends you get end up being ones you can stand being around for more than 5 minutes.
by Tyrunea on September 15th, 2009
This is SO true =(. I am a very nice person, but since i have grown up with my dad(im a girl) and he was very strict i have kinda not really developed the person i am. and this person that my dad made me develop was not such a socially successful person. i was still a VERY nice girl and funny and everything, but i only really meshed together with certain people. So i watched movies to see how people there do it and tried to do that too... but all didn't work. there are a lot of small awkward silences in my conversations if you talked to me in real life although i AM a more unshy and bubbly person now. but some of that awkward personality is still in me ='(
by TanyaH on November 14th, 2009
Wow, Tanya, your life sounds almost exactly like mine.
by Anonymous on November 15th, 2009
really? =O haha ahhh xD. i finally find a person that kinda understands what im going through! =D haha. i've been searching for one of those in such a long time and i always felt alone =P. did you also become a little less shy now? and more talkative? wikihow has a lot of good help in case ya need any =] ;]
by TanyaH on November 16th, 2009
I'm still fairly shy, but I open up with people I know well. And thanks for the wikihow tip. They do have good articles.
by Anonymous on November 22nd, 2009
That with wikihow is true haha xP. I'm on there for almost everyday for most of the day for self improvement haha xP. It's really great =D.
Exactly the same with me!! =O xD lol people that know me well can't shut me up too easily lol =P and of course if I feel close to them xP
by TanyaH on November 23rd, 2009
Sadly, what a large number of people deem "interesting" for conversation generally involves shallow and artificial "gossip".
Too many people don't talk about what actually matters, and I have no time for that.
by Answer-Bag-2010 on January 31st, 2010
I truly believe some people just give off different vibes and have different looks about them. I have analyzed this my whole life (why do people like some more than others). I have never come up with the perfect answer but I can say this: If you are a shy or stand-offish kind of person, that will limit the friends you will have. It doesn't make you completely unlikable but people don't know how to react or what to say to someone that's not too open about their thoughts. It's just the way it goes, plain and simple, if your more outgoing and confident, you will attract more people. Always be comfortable with who you are. Just because you don't make a lot of friends does NOT mean your worthless. Family is the most important thing anyways! There's always groups you can join or church or classes. It's up to you if you want to make friends if it's that important to you.
by tvb083 on July 20th, 2010
I truly believe some people just give off different vibes and have different looks about them. I have analyzed this my whole life (why do people like some more than others). I have never come up with the perfect answer but I can say this: If you are a shy or stand-offish kind of person, that will limit the friends you will have. It doesn't make you completely unlikable but people don't know how to react or what to say to someone that's not too open about their thoughts. It's just the way it goes, plain and simple, if your more outgoing and confident, you will attract more people. Always be comfortable with who you are. Just because you don't make a lot of friends does NOT mean your worthless. Family is the most important thing anyways! There's always groups you can join or church or classes. It's up to you if you want to make friends if it's that important to you.
by tvb083 on July 20th, 2010
I'm a nice guy and I have found myself alone all my life. I even noticed for years that no one pays attention to anything I say. Its as if I don't even exist. I have went out to eat and not even be noticed to be waitted on. That really gets to me, not even noticed in a public business. I notice the only time I have friends is when they want something.
by Christie_P on January 30th, 2011
exactly like me, no one even listens what i have to say, even if they ask something, they just continue their conversation, as asking me was not a question at all. I feel sick of this world and the people, really tired.
by digibluez on March 14th, 2011
Christie, the same thing happens to me. Online, it is much easier to create a presence. IRL, people don't pay much attention to what I say. In groups of friends or family, I will suggest an idea, and everyone shoots it down. But if another person brings it up later, even using the exact same words that I did, everyone champions it enthusiastically. In school and at home, I was always taught that quiet people are more respected than blabbermouths, but in reality, the opposite holds true. Over time, I have just learned to try to be happy with my own company.
However, I would like to add that being ignored at restaurants may not be a personal thing. Perhaps the cashiers are busy or stressed out and just happen not to notice you. In hectic environments like a shopping center or business, it's often the loud people who get the attention, and the people who quietly browse are ignored because they're not causing any trouble.
BTW, this is one of the most thoughtful comment strings I've ever been part of.
by Anonymous on March 15th, 2011
I think most people have had some lonely times. Maybe you should take a class in adult ed or a seminar at the local library, a book club! Something you are interested in. Volleyball? Eventually you will meet someone you like or you may simply enjoy yourself and give yourself some self esteem as well.
Good Luck!
by Kate_C7336 on April 22nd, 2011
I am shy with no real friends..and just the other day i was asking my self this question. I came to think its because I have a wall built. The real answer is why is this wall here? For me I beleave its because.. Was married 21 years not divorced..My life changed drasticly but I act like im still married. Even flirts become overwealming. Im slowly working at pulling the wall down but still need to think about all the reasons why its there.
by shagdog101 on May 15th, 2012