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by mizunderztood96 on December 30th, 2006

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How do you cope with having to let your best friend go? does the hurt ever go away?

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  • by Ausbabe on May 9th, 2007

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    (edit: I didn't realise I'd already answered this so please don't think I'm just fishing for more points)
    Dear Mizunderztood96,
    I didn't have a choice. My best friend (BF) and I grew up together from high school to getting engaged to our respective husbands to be. Two weeks before my wedding (due to an issue that came up from my engagement party), the friendship ended under the most devastating circumstances. I went into shock, depression, mourning and was suicidal for the better part of a year - this girl was my life, my soul, my everything - closer even than my partner (now husband of three years) - she was family to the point where my parents grounded her along with me when we came back home from hitting the clubs hard at 6am one memorable morning. The reason this affected me so much is because I went from having a virtual twin whom I spoke to three times a day practically to suddenly having no-one I could relate to. Suddenly I was bereft and lost and it was as experience I wouldn't even wish on my worst enemy - and what made it all the more traumatic was that she walked away from the friendship with no remorse or thoughts of reuniting. She'd decided she no longer needed me and that was that and there was no hurt on her part as far as I could tell.

    Needless to say, the loss is hard and I'm so sorry you're going through this or looking at having to go through this.

    I'm not sure the circumstances of your loss but it is a loss that is life-changing. When people come and go from our lives they affect the very fabric of our being.

    The hurt doesn't necessarily go away, but being three years into the loss my my best friend, I can tell you that the hurt does become more dull as time passes.

    If we haven't answered your question adequately, try to provide us with a little more information on your situation and we'll have another go at answering it.

    Sincerely, Meg

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    • I was just looking up how to deal with my own loss right now, it hurts so badly. It's not the first time but I really cant believe this is happening and what you said sounds like me and my best friend...Virtual twins. I would feel suicidal. In a way, I do. But, of course, I know better...God it hurts.

      AnnaNotHannaFliesWithItalianMoms

      by AnnaNotHannaFliesWithItalianMoms on September 10th, 2010

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