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by alieninastrangeland on April 26th, 2007

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Can re-establish trust after repeated cheating (years ago) and (now) watching porn (alot) and sneaking to do it? Would that nagging doubt ever go away?

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  • by Ullyses on April 26th, 2007

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    I was once told that the secret of a successful marriage is to have an extremely short and selective memory. If you will always remember what has happened in the past then you will colour every future judgement with that. In that case you will always have your nagging doubt. If, however, you choose to forget what has previously happened then you have a chance to move forward. I can't say which is the better for you - only you can do that - but if you want to keep your marriage you can't doubt your relationship.

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    • Understanding the specific reasons/causes for the cheating is something than one can do, however not to be disillusioned by the lack of character and morals that allowed this behavior is rather impossible. Maybe that is why the partner who has been cheated on will always feel that, if circumstances once again occurred, the person would cheat or lie again.

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      by alieninastrangeland on April 26th, 2007

    • Then it becomes a question of how the circumstances first developed and the likelihood of them happening again. If there are ways to make it less likely then these might give some comfort. If it remains likely that the circumstances will again happen, and the partner has such a lack of will, then there is no point in continuing the relationship.

      Ullyses

      by Ullyses on April 26th, 2007

    • Thank you

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      by alieninastrangeland on April 26th, 2007

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