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by Chubbychaser84 on April 22nd, 2009

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Why do so few gay men manage a long term relationship? I am gay and in a happy long term relationship. I know I am not like that. Do most gay men value sleeping around and praying on young lads when they get older more? It gives us homos a bad name!

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  • by genius-bag on April 22nd, 2009

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    Im not gay but i was considering that very question the other day!

    Evolutionary speaking a man an a woman get together and form a lasting bond (love perhaps?). This is for the primary reason to bear and raise a child until it can look after itself.

    I dont know if there is a specific part of the brain for this or if its a by-product or a series of neurological connections or whatever. The fact is that something causes a deep bond for a specific evoltionary response (ie for copulation and breeding).

    Obviously this lies on a spectrum with some capable of a very strong lasting bond while at the other end someone may only produce a very weak bond.

    With the added variable of a gay couple the stimulus for this bond is naturally weakened (because genetically and evolutionary speaking there is no chance of breeding, just sex). In this way the incentive to last in a relationship is naturally deminished.

    (note: obviously everyone is slightly different and for psychological and psycho-social reasons, and the reasoning sugested above, many people will stay in lasting relationships).

    Maybe just an interesting theory if anything!

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    • Yes, thanks for that interesting answer. I agree with everything you say and factors such as not bringing up children will severly compromise the likehood of long term sucess. It is probably a biological reason but then again all men are tempted to have sex with other people and as are most woman so I still see indivuals who cannot make a relationship meaningful as weak willed and superficial because I think it is a choice.

      Chubbychaser84

      by Chubbychaser84 on April 22nd, 2009

    • You gota remember too that there is a biological function to initiate lust and attraction. Its there as an evolutionary tool to allow the man to 'spread his seed'. Although controlable to most people its still very powerful (just like hunger or fear for example). There is a similar mechanism in women. I say similar because women, being the child bearers, search for a long term relationship rather than a quick fix.
      But yeah there is definately an element of weak wills. It all depends on what you want and what you see as appropriate or necessary.

      genius-bag

      by genius-bag on April 27th, 2009

    • Thankyou. Very good point :)

      Chubbychaser84

      by Chubbychaser84 on April 27th, 2009

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