"Purity Balls" have been in the news recently - they sound like wedding/debutante balls where daughters pledge "purity" to their fathers. Is there anything similar for boys and their mothers, or is all the pressure to remain "pure" heaped on the girls?

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• Thanks for responding.
  I don't understand why people are more concerned about a mother-son purity-themed dance would be embarrassing or uncomfortable for a boy, but not concerned about why the father/daughter one might be uncomfortable or embarrassing for a girl.
  The 12 and 13 year old girls aren't getting STDs and becoming pregnant from each other, or by divine intervention - they get them from boys! Why shouldn't there be similar programs that teach boys to "say no" to having sex with young girls, and encourage them to, and I quote, "give themselves as a gift" to their wives "on their wedding night"?
  I fail to see why such a double standard is OK. It's ridiculous that the pressure is heaped on the girls. It's not surprising, because it's ALWAYS been that way... it's just very, very old and tired, and it needs to die.

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  by Nom de guerre on March 24th, 2007

• I do agree that an equivalent would be beneficial, but I think that it is the image of a mother protecting her "grown" boy that is immascualting. Teenage girls like dances, they like having a reason to dress up and be social, so I can see how that format works for girls. What do teenage boys like? Cars? Sports? I don't know that there is anyway to work in a Purity Race or a Purity Soccer Tournament. In general, these Prity Balls are not THAT prevalent, so I don't think the issue of all the pressure being on the girls is a big one. I do think that girls need to be taught to protect themselves and that no one else can do that for them. Boys will always feel less need to be responsible because they feel fewer of the repercussions. Personally, I think PARENTS need education in how to talk with their kids about sex at an early age and schools need to beef up sex ed and move in to the earlier years.

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  by This Daley has a new bundle of joy on March 25th, 2007

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  Are you one of those testosterone filled mucha-lucha macho guys, Daley?
  EDIT: OH sorry, you is a female ; -;
  
  Nothing about giving an oath of sincerity is immascualting.
  
  And you have a stereotype paradigm of boys, Daley.

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  by FanoBliv on March 30th, 2010