Here is some information which has relevance. I gave this answer to the question: "What are some tell tale signs that someone is cheating?" .
"Another possible indicator is the "strained accusation". Sometimes a guilty party accuses someone else of the same type or category of deed. The accusation is strained, but yet could seem believable. In other words, the accuser is guilty of the 'sin' or a similar type 'sin'. This often can be observed with criminals who get upset about something supposedly done to them of which they themselves are also guilty of having done. An example: "Where have you been?...I think you are having an affair with so-and-so...." when your routine has not changed a bit from the normal. It could be an indicator."
It is actually very common to see these strained accusations in areas other than "cheating". Extremely critical people who strain to grasp for 'reasons' of how someone else is immoral in some way are often culprits of hidden, undisclosed immoral deeds. "He is always mean to me. He always says these mean, mean, nasty statements... ...and he did this other mean thing... ...and there was the time he did this...." The accuser here probably has a bag full of times of being mean.
Actually, you can take this one step further. You have probably noticed that some people are very critical in general disposition and easily find faults with another (or...ha!... an answer on this site). Typically, the more critical and fault-finding (without also viewing the plus sides or understanding the viewpoint) that a person is, the less affinity or "liking" for other people that person has. The more critical the individual is, the colder the individual is. The criticalness may not be expressed and you see this with the "silent type" of individual. Criticalness which typically is strained also means that a person has an "incorrect estimation" of things, (i.e. evaluations are poor because the understanding or the whole picture of things is not fully looked at). But a key element here is that the hyper-critical person has done stuff to others which are less than noble or pure. For example, a cold-blooded person is critical and has by that very nature done cold and heartless things to others. It could be rudeness, invalidation, nullification, slander, gossip, verbal abuse, bad temper, "slams", physically hurting another, stealing, crimes, etc. It is an unfeeling approach to others. This nature does not include a full understanding. In short, "sins" or misdeeds against others make a person more critical in nature and also make a person partially blind in being able to view the full perspective. Another example, is that you will see the "super-critics" on this website demean the answers of others without offering a full conceptual answer of their own. And also they are not really motivated towards seeing a betterment of well-being of others. The purpose of a strained-critic is not really to improve conditions, but rather to make less of others...(which supposedly would then elevate self after having done things which one should not really be proud of). This kind of routine of not making others feel good or genuinely trying to assist others, of course, has been going on for awhile...the person has this general type of misdeed history...and also, now, the super-criticalness. Always know that the strained-critic has not been nice to others and has not been a "good boy".
Another thing that I should mention: Chemicals and/or toxins. There are many chemicals, drugs, preservatives, metals, and other foreign substances which can affect a person's demeaner. Many substances have a tendency to make a person more easily agitated, more irritable, more aggressively hostile or anxious. You can test this for yourself. If someone you know starts taking a medication or drug, watch to see if their behavior slightly starts to change over the next few weeks. This aggression is easily observed with many street drugs such as amphetamines. You can test it on yourself with different substances. Some things, even sugar or aspirin, may have an effect on your outlook a day or two after taking them. I don't recommend this: You can certainly see a resulting agitation if you take a strong flouride treatment for your teeth. It is a toxic substance. That is why toothpaste is not supposed to be eaten (plus it has soap and other things in it). Flouride compounds are sometimes found in psych drugs. Anyway, my point here is that if your sister is regularly taking any kind of drug or unhealthy substance, it can affect her demeaner. It could make her more mean-spirited.
By the way, this isn't a strange idea. It is just common sense. When a person's body isn't doing well or is achy or sick or polluted with foreign substances, the person then feels gripey and unpleasant. It is that simple. When you are sick physically, you probably have less tolerance for some things.
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