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by Pitbull on February 25th, 2007

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I have told my girlfriend a lot about my past, but she seems to use it as ammunition against me. Out of no where she would tell me that she hates me because she remembers what I told her that to her its bad or stupid of me to have done so.

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  • by Ausbabe on February 25th, 2007

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    Whilst it's good to be honest, honesty is someting that can backfire against you. I guess you need to think about whether you really do need to tell her about your past. Would you be putting your relationsip and hers and your safety (mental, emotional, physical and sexual) at risk by not bing honest? And it also depends on how you tell her. You need to be careful of your timing and I guess that if she's not prepared to.

    Unfortunately once you've said what you have, it's no longer your information to control or react to.

    Rather than hating you or thinking you are stupid she may hate the information you've told her because it might put her in a bad position where she needs to now decide whether she will stay with you or not. She may also think that what you did was stupid.

    You may have given her a burden to carry that she's not prepared to have to deal with and unfortunately that's neither of your faults. You weren't to know she'd feel that way and she wasn't to know what you'd be telling her would be so huge.

    Unfortunately, it could break the relationship.

    If you do end things, don't do it because of what happened unles the choice is taken out of your hands.

    I can only hope that both of you remember that the past is in the past and that it shouldn't be brought up unless necessary.

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    • Honesty is the best policy - Oh look, what a pretty bird!

      purplecows

      by purplecows on May 11th, 2009

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