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by Kristi Kloberdanz on September 22nd, 2005

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My husband signs his IMs to a woman he's been chatting to with 'love.' Am I wrong in being upset?

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  • by mister_c on September 23rd, 2005

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    Wow, very touchy subject.

    I suppose it all depends upon how often he chats to her and what the content of these conversations is. I'm assuming from your question that you have read the conversations and have found nothing too incriminating in them except the fact that he signs off with "love".

    There are many times when I have signed "love Si" (my real name, obviously!) on cards, emails or text messages sent to close female friends. It doesn't mean anything except the fact that I feel close to them and want to show them the level of my friendship. It doesn't mean I actually do "love" them, it's just a friendly gesture. Similarly I put "xx"s at the end of text messages sent to female friends, for no other reason than to be friendly. This could be what your husband is doing. He may feel a close friendship for this women but nothing else. Again, I suppose it depends upon how long he has known her, and also upon whether he knows her personally or if she is just someone he has met on the internet.

    I'm afraid I can't put your mind at rest, though. Because it could all too easily be a sign that he has feelings for this woman. Sorry, but without knowing more about your circumstances it's impossible to tell. The question for you has got to be is it worth the risk to your marriage to admit that you've been reading his conversations or is your marriage strong enough for you to put the doubt to one side and have faith in him?

    Not an easy question to answer by any means.

    Edit: Fair enough Kristi, however your question fails to say this, so I have to go on assumptions. Please consider raising your rating to reflect this, unless there is some point in my answer you disagree with.

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    • Only knowing this woman for a month, it crossed the line. That is too intimate for this wife.

      Kristi Kloberdanz

      by Kristi Kloberdanz on October 8th, 2005

    • She rated you according to her feelings. You gotta respect her for that, Sid.

      Answers101

      by Answers101 on April 6th, 2006

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