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by Freddy Says remove all moderation points on March 13th, 2008

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You have had unrequited love for MANY years. They moved away. You research their address and eventually find it, let's say 30 years after you saw them last. You know they're unlikely to return feelings for you but your heart says "get in touch". Do you?

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  • by Dazed and Confused on March 13th, 2008

    Dazed and Confused

    YES!

    My jr high boyfriend moved away in high school and I lost track of him. :( I never stopped loving him, but couldn't ever find him. OH gosh, he was so cute and we were such good friends for 3 years.

    25 years later I happen to meet up with a former classmate of ours at our 20 year high school reunion (who had met up with him recently) informs me of where he lives and the fact that he is now divorced. And "if she remembers correctly - he asked if she knew where I was."

    My heart fell to the floor!

    25 years - that is a long time. People change. This was not the same teenage boy I feel head over heels in love with, spent hours upon hours talking on the phone to, and who I repeatedly snuck out of the house with. This is now a grown 40 year old man with a life and two kids of his own. I was so very nervous to initiate contact - I loved him SO much back then and thought about him constantly over the years. The fear of those feelings that washed over me again were so powerful, and I was so scared that he'd have no clue who I was, much less have any feelings for me.

    Boy was I wrong. :-)

    Turns out three years ago (before my divorce) he had been looking for me after his divorce, and found me, but never made the call because he saw I was still married.The feelings are definatley still there, and as soon as our youngest children are older, we will figure out how to be together (since we live 6 hours apart.)

    I took a risk and it paid off. But I couldn't know where he was, and NOT try. I would have gone the rest of my life wondering and still having unrequited love.

    Just be ready to let it go if they do not return your feelings.

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    • Wow! That sounds amazing

      Freddy Says remove all moderation points

      by Freddy Says remove all moderation points on March 14th, 2008

    • Yeah, it's like something on Oprah, huh? I'll add another tidbit to this story - 5 years after we graduated, the a rumor got back to me that he died in a motorcycle wreck - so I quit looking for him and married and had kids of my own. He DID have that wreck, and it did almost kill him, but he was tougher than that surburban. :-) So when I found out he was alive, I really almost fainted.

      Dazed and Confused

      by Dazed and Confused on March 14th, 2008

    • So there is hope then...

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      by shadesofgray on March 11th, 2010

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