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by Sarita1 Goes Bollywood on December 19th, 2006
How old are you? If you are too yong (9-16) it may not be the right time and you may be too young to be a mom right now, dont you think? Or are you thinking about an option like putting it up for adoption? If you are older, and you want to keep it please think about life with baby - what will you do for a job, what happens when you cant get a sitter, what happens when you get called in from work because baby is ill or you need to take care of something. If you are well equipped mentally at any age, then more power to you. When faced with this decision at 18 and again at 20 I was not emotionally capable of handling it and while I wonder what if, I know that I would not have the life, the home and the man I have if I had made the other choice. Think about you and your life, not what dad says - you have to live with this forever, not him.
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by anonymous on December 7th, 2011
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You're reading I'm 5 weeks pregnant. The father wants me to get an abortion. I don't know if that's what I want. I'm feeling pressured to make a decision without thinking it through. I'm worried I'll make the wrong choice and end up regretting it. What should I do?
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I'm 17 (almost 18). And I was considering adoption as maybe a possible option. Thank you for you unbiased advice...it will certainly help me to think more rationally.
by Anonymous on December 20th, 2006
Honey adoption would be a much better option than an abortion if you can't take care of the child. I do not recommend abortion to anyone.
by Valparaiso on January 2nd, 2007
If someone can handle the feelings that come about after they put a child up for adoption - I agree with VALPARAISO. HOWEVER- as an adoptee who met her biological parents albeit through phone and mail only- I can tell you that while they did it because they could not afford a 5th child, they were torn apart for decades about it. They knew my adoptive parents(they were distantly related) and my adoptive parents sent them photos of me growing up and wrote about me BUT when I spoke to them, I could feel their anguish. With out getting into details, something happened which forced me to tell them not to correspond with me again and when they died, although it was inappropriate and just plain stupid of one of my siblings to say this to me, she told me my biological mom died of a broken heart because she never got to see me in person past age 3 months. They told me they kept my photos, center stage on a mantle. Its eerie and upsetting to me and I wish I wasnt told(i was told at age 27!
by Sarita1 Goes Bollywood on January 3rd, 2007
Yes I understand but to me its an easy choice between some pain and killing. It would hurt me to put a child up for adoption just as it would probably later hurt the child. But at least the child would get to live.
by Valparaiso on January 3rd, 2007
I'm sorry, 9??? Should that be, say, (12-16). Sorry to pick on a small point, but that's pushing the envelope a little, don't you think?
by Halskiisaklink on January 19th, 2007
In New York City, we have rapes of children that end up with pregnant 9 year olds. Menstruation can occur in a 9 year old.
by Sarita1 Goes Bollywood on January 19th, 2007
Oh. Sorry I asked.
by Halskiisaklink on January 19th, 2007
Dont be sorry! It happens! Some girls mature much faster than others....
by Sarita1 Goes Bollywood on January 19th, 2007
Isn't the record the youngest pregnancy 9 years old?
by Valparaiso on January 19th, 2007
Ask anyone who is adopted if it is O.K. to take a machete and hack them to pieces. I know of NO ONE who will say 'Yes' and agree to that scenario, adopted or not. Yet, that is the choice we ask minors to make for the innocent who cannot speak for themselves. To kill a child, to snuff out a life barely begun on the assumption that we are 'doing it a favor' is self-righteous to the nth degree. Study the lifes of the adopted of the world, and you will find we as society would have been worse without them and their contributions. I submit that every human life has value and potential, and should be cherished, not discarded like a piece of toilet tissue.
by blessings on January 19th, 2007
Blessings, submit that as an answer next time I'll throw 5 points your way.
by Valparaiso on January 19th, 2007
We're not just doing them a favour, we're doing society a favour - the last thing society needs is another vagrant.
by Halskiisaklink on January 19th, 2007
Well, 'professor', why don't we just line 'em all up against a wall and shoot 'em? Do 'society' a favor! Why, with your sterling logic, we can pull the plug on everyone in the hospitals on life support. And while we're at it, perform euthanasia on all of the elderly and infirm, empty out all of the nursing homes! Yeah, do 'society' a favor. Sounds more like hell to me, but perhaps that is part of your 'vision' for mankind as well?
by blessings on January 19th, 2007
I don't know, I'm just trying to help people. Sometimes abortion is the safest way.
by Halskiisaklink on January 19th, 2007
I wonder if the millions upon millions of silent screams could be heard, would you still think 'they' were '..just' being helped? Sure wasn't too safe for them, seeing as 50% of the patients entering an abortion factory never come out alive.
by blessings on January 19th, 2007
I'd like to see some references for that.
by Halskiisaklink on January 19th, 2007
I KNOW you are still young, but please try to THINK a wee bit. What is the purpose of these abortion corporations and profitable killing clinics? To perform ABORTIONS. So, a mother and child ENTER, and guess what? Only the mother walks out alive. What 'references' do you need to figure that one out?
by blessings on January 20th, 2007
Whatever. People are capable of making their own decisions, for what's inside of them as well. Killing other people in wars is also legalised murder, so maybe I'll turn my attention towards abortion clinics the day they abolish the military.
by Halskiisaklink on January 20th, 2007
Prof> Sometimes you've got to defend yourself. People want to kill you and you have to kill them first. No one in our military is pressed into service. I'm not saying the war is right, in fact I thought it was a bad idea from the beginning but that doesn't mean we should also kill off unborn children.
by Valparaiso on January 20th, 2007
Don't waste your breath. You cannot not reason with the unreasonable, give logic to the illogical, or expect maturity from the immature. "A reproof enters more into a wise man than a hundred stripes into a fool." (Proverbs 17:10)
by blessings on January 20th, 2007
War isn't just two people enacting self-defence - in this war, American lunatics are dropping bombs on suburban areas, killing hundreds of innocent people. Compared to a little blob of flesh that isn't even sentient, I feel that is extremely perverted.
by Halskiisaklink on January 20th, 2007
'...dropping bombs on suburban areas, killing hundreds of innocent people...', where do you get your news? The funny papers? No doubt your culture comes from 'People' magazine. Your scenario and mortality are greatly exagerated, and your gross stupidity is showing in the term '...little blob of flesh that isn't even sentient...'. Fetal heartbeats, kicking, moving around, responding to stimuli, these all are hallmarks of living creatures, not 'blobs of flesh'. Of course, you no doubt gloat over the child purposely turned in the birth canal so that delivery is feet first, and just in the final moments before the head is fully out, the so-called 'doctor' jabs a sharp instrument in the base of the skull. This 'blob of flesh' kicks and screams, it's little hands clenching and unclenching, but the scream cannot be heard because the face is still in it's mother, only the back of the head is visible. Then strong suction is applied, and the brain is sucked out. This is partial birth abortion.
by blessings on January 21st, 2007
Yeah, well that's life. And out of the near 700,000 innocent dead in Iraq, more than half have been killed by the Americans. Airstrikes are the main contributor (it makes sense when you think about it - dropping tonnes of explosives on densely populated neighbourhoods).
by Halskiisaklink on January 21st, 2007
If you had a bit more of thought before you change subjects, you would recognize my stance against the atrocities in the Middle East. Is this some sort of infantile justification in your reasoning? I for one do not for a minute dismiss your flippant minimizing and justification of genocide in ANY arena to your paltry youth, but rather to your meager or non-existent morality.
by blessings on January 21st, 2007
Prof> So just because of the War in Iraq that gives you right to support abortion? WTF?? I never wanted to invade that damn country in the first place but the president said lets go and 70% of the nation said lets go so we went despite my protests. (Hell my national church body even wrote a letter to the president asking not to invade Iraq) But none of that has to do with abortion.
by Valparaiso on January 21st, 2007
I guess not. Just don't illegalise it and I won't give you any more trouble.
by Halskiisaklink on January 21st, 2007
Well I'm sorry but I don't belive we should be condoning what many people view as murder. I'll give it the exceptions of rape, mother's life, and fatal and untreatable birth defects. But other then that I don't belive anyone should be allowed to have an abortion because the child is inconvient.
by Valparaiso on January 22nd, 2007
What if you can't afford the child? What if you don't want the child to feel like they were just thrown away? What if you fear losing your child and never seeing them again after carrying that child for nine months? I take it you have never been pregnant or a mother. You have no right to judge someone else's decision on something you find yourself wrong. This is not a question of morals, this is a question of what the girl wants to do. I think that the Constitution gives us the right to support what we choose. You can have your opinion, and I will defend your right to have your opinion, but don't force your opinion on other people.
by trinityofwitches on May 28th, 2007
good response trinity! isn't it funny how some people can come up with a list of exceptions for EVERYONE; you never know what your exception will be until YOU ARE THE ONE faced with a difficult choice for instance valparaiso~you say that exceptions should be made for untreatable birth defects? sounds to me like you would consider having a handicapped child "inconvient"; don't you see that noone should ever JUDGE what is best or the "right" reason for someone else? we can offer support and options....but let's not be judgemental.
by abby has super sneaky ninja skilz on December 11th, 2007