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by Shady Guy on September 20th, 2007

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I'm an average looking middle-aged guy who's dating a couple of mid-twenties good looking women. Do you think it's only because I have a lot of money and buy them whatever they want?

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  • by Anonymous on October 21st, 2007

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    You know, I wonder why you feel like you have to your girlfriends "whatever they want"? Is it because you worry you don't have enough going for you unless you splash the cash around? The problem with that is you probably are going to attract golddiggers. I'm not saying these women ARE golddiggers - but it is possible.

    Believe me a lot of women in their twenties do find middle aged guys more attractive than men their own age. A lot of women disregard age entirely, they just want to date a nice guy. But you shouldn't have to buy your girlfriends expensive presents to keep hold of their affection - being treated well is nice, but spending time with a woman, listening to her, and being good fun is far more appreciated than anything money can buy. I'm guessing you're a little insecure, right?

    Don't be - I am certain that you're money isn't all you've got going for you, so maybe you need to stop making it your main attraction. Try taking a girl out for a surprise drive in the country and stop off somewhere gorgeous. Invite her over to your house and just spend the evening with a video and a homecooked meal you made yourself. Write her a love letter or an email (you can go steamy sexy or romantic depending on the relationship and the girl)- do things where the value is not measured in money. If she's worth your while she'll appreciate it, if she starts moaning about how she wants to go shopping or to a fancy restaurant she's not worth your time.
    A guy flashing his money around is like the sexy woman who always has her boobs hanging out - you'll attract attention, it just might not be the kind you always want.

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    • Well said Lady F....... sometimes I feel that people are failing to keep up the whole idea of interacting with others on a variety of levels and just fall back to dealing on a superficial basis.... the person is the most important thing at the end of the day, finding out what makes someone 'tick' is a joy in itself and often the other person will love it as they are being seen as a person and not an object to be draped in expensive items.... sorry I will get off of my soapbox now..

      Wanderer

      by Wanderer on October 21st, 2007

    • Fantastic answer, Lady Fuschia. Thanks.

      Shady Guy

      by Shady Guy on October 22nd, 2007

    • Wanderer: As it happens I'm always slightly put off if a guy spends huge amounts of money on me - I mean, everyone likes thoughtful presents- but when it goes into money for the sake of money you start to wonder about what he really values.

      Anonymous

      by Anonymous on October 22nd, 2007

    • lf... how refreshing to find someone who values people and personality above matrerial things.... fancy dinner some evening then we could set the world to rights... BYOB.. W x

      Wanderer

      by Wanderer on October 22nd, 2007

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