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by Catie on August 16th, 2007

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How do you deal with a violent, rude nine-year-old boy who deliberately breaks rules, swears and spits in your face, hits the family dog etc. Spanking seems so cruel so I don't spank him (should I?), but seriously, I need an effective form of discipline!

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  • by T4 on August 16th, 2007

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    Whats up with you? Your NINE year old son just shows you the finger and you actually let it go? Get a hold of yourself woman! Today he does this to you, hiw own mother, no telling what he will do tomorrow. This is the age when he should start learning to respect girls, let alone women. He does this when he is older and he becomes a disgrace to you and himself! Maybe he is getting into bad company. Are you single? If you arent, ask your husband to hit him but not too hard considering the laws in your place. Like Trojan said, try putting him in military school or lock him up in his bedroom for a week without letting him out(except to give him food and water or bathroom breaks) or threaten to call the police. If he thinks you're just bluffing, pretend you're calling the police whereas you're actually calling a relative or friend (male preferably) and ask him to talk to him. Tell your friend/relative to give your son a warning. See if that works. And you need to control your emotions about hitting him. Do it if its necessary but not too hard as I mentioned earlier. You can also put up restrictions at schools by talking to the teachers like no eating candy in school or something. No sweetstuff at home either until he learns to behave. The more you give in to his stupidity, the more rowdy he becomes. Keep in touch about what happens through comments.

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    • good answer +4

      Subject Matter Expert

      by Subject Matter Expert on August 16th, 2007

    • thnx. yours is nice too. a part of my answer was based on yours.

      T4

      by T4 on August 16th, 2007

    • At times i really think people make stuff up though

      Subject Matter Expert

      by Subject Matter Expert on August 16th, 2007

    • I wonder that too but I have seen behavior just like she is describing before. Even if the asker is prevaricating, these answers shall be up here in AB history for all to read.
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      Indeed, good answer T4!
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      I forgot to add that I would keep in very close contact with his teachers and do it daily.

      Arisztid

      by Arisztid on August 16th, 2007

    • Thank you guys. The stury DOES seem far-fetched but who knows? She...or he... maybe telling the truth. No harm in helping unless you're helping a group of cannibals cook you up in a huge pot with a roaring fire beneath it.

      T4

      by T4 on August 16th, 2007

    • Not necessarily, T4. I have known, personally, two stories like it. One was an ADHD child and the mother did not restrict his behavior. He has grown into a vile hooligan who, I believe, is going to spend most of his life in jail.
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      The other is a mother with two aspurger's children. They are hyper but with good parenting and mild medication, they are actually functioning in school.
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      Before they got the medication correct, the mother and her husband had to sleep with the door to their bedroom locked because the older one (with more severe aspurgers) was violent enough for them to fear being stabbed to death.
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      Now, I hasten to say that the two children I described above are pretty severe and not all aspurger's children have this particular reaction to the illness!!
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      The violence I describe is just ONE way it manifests. Just because someone has a child with aspurger's does not mean that child is going to be violent.
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      My friend was just plain unlucky

      Arisztid

      by Arisztid on August 17th, 2007

    • Regarding the mother with the ADHD child, they are a challenge but it IS doable. I also have known many who have been strict and consistent parents whose children, with ADHD, turn out fine.
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      This one was the result of classic lax parenting.

      Arisztid

      by Arisztid on August 17th, 2007

    • What are ADHD and Aspurger's??? I mean I understand they are some kind of mental problems but can you elaborate?

      T4

      by T4 on August 18th, 2007

    • don't know about tomorrow but in a few years...
      Melendez brothers?
      columbine?
      lee Harvey Oswald?

      human_tripod

      by human_tripod on December 9th, 2010

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