I’m at a club, a girl I’ve had a crush on since 7th grade looking hot as ever approaches me and says “do you want to take me home tonight”, I know she’s married and he’s out of town, never liked the guy much either, What’s my move?

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• what about his responsibility to treat others as he himself would want to be treated?

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  by APACHEmeansENEMY on August 13th, 2007

• He's not "treating" the husband anyway at all. If you want to reverse the situation, you'd have HIM being married with a wife who was out of town. HE would be asking HER to come home with him. In that situation, which is an EXACT reversal, you can ask if he would want to be treated the same way he treated her in the first situation...and if he was asking her to take him home, he would obviously want to be treated that way.

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  by Psycho the kid on August 13th, 2007

• he knows shes married...if he did not have this information..it would be much different...because he knows that the girl is married it would be a blatant disrespect of the relationship. I am not real clear about what you mean by your reversal of situation..if its what i think...him asking her to go home..then you didnt get what i was saying.

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  by APACHEmeansENEMY on August 13th, 2007

• Even if you don't agree with me, what says that he has a responsibility to be a nice guy and respect their relationship? There's no obligation there for him...no committment made by him to respect this OTHER guy's relationship. He's only dealing with this girl who obviously doesn't care about her marriage...and if she doesn't, why should he?

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  by Psycho the kid on August 13th, 2007

• cause screwing someones drunk wife, just because you dont suffer from it is a shitty way to treat other people. Just cause she dosent care about her relationship(at the moment)doesnt give everyone else the green light to go around causing suffering to other people.

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  by APACHEmeansENEMY on August 13th, 2007

• The question doesn't say she's drunk...so she's making a completely competent decision. And I just disagree that he has some sort of responsibility to the husband. She's the one that got married and committed the rest of her life to this man she's about to cheat on. The guy didn't make any commitment. He has no OFFICIAL responsibility. If he's a nice guy who cares about everyone and doesn't want to hurt anybody, he probably won't do it. I'm just saying, he isn't bound by anything but conscience

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  by Psycho the kid on August 13th, 2007

• I do understand what you are saying with your point. It is ultimatley her responsibility to remain faithful, after all she married the guy right? i get that part...but i also get the part of the betrayed husband..i've been in that situation. Is one night of sex really worth the pain and damage it would cause to another person? i think we all have the responsibility of considering how our actions affect others.

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  by APACHEmeansENEMY on August 13th, 2007

• ok, well I understand what you're saying as well. I gotta go but it was nice debating this with you!

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  by Psycho the kid on August 13th, 2007

• cool...have a nice day/night!

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  by APACHEmeansENEMY on August 13th, 2007

• but he knows shes married then it is all her fault? no. he's to blame also. so ugh.

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  by Mystical Dim on April 23rd, 2011