by Shyone on March 5th, 2007

Shyone

Question

Help answer this question below.

I am 33 years old with two sons, 13 and 7. I just found out that I'm pregnant. The father says that he is not ready to be a dad. He is preferring abortion. I don't know if that's what I want, but I don't want to force him into a situation. Any ideas?

  • Like
  • Report

Answers. Showing one answer.

  • by An Educated Optimist on August 3rd, 2007

    An Educated Optimist

    Just to echo some of what has already been said: if you have any doubts about ending this pregnancy, please don't do it. That is not something you do just out of consideration for a man who doesn't want to be a man. If you truly do not feel that you can raise the baby, then please consider adoption. So many couples want babies so badly, and are dying to give them the home that you worry you can't provide.

    Oh, and if you choose to raise the baby, don't even think about not making this guy pay child support. Ready to be a dad or not, he is one, and your child deserves every opportunity he can get. Good luck to you and your baby.

    Comments
    • If there are "So many couples want babies so badly, and are dying to give them the home that you worry you can't provide", why are there so many foster children?

      Who?

      by Who? on March 28th, 2008

    • Fair question; the answer is, most people want to adopt a baby. Foster children are usually ones who were taken from their homes well into their life. But as far as unwanted pregnancy goes, there is a huge long list of couples who would like to adopt and have not gotten a baby yet.

      Incidentally, I do encourage fostering/adopting older children. However, it's not what most people are looking for.

      An Educated Optimist

      by An Educated Optimist on August 3rd, 2008

    • I wouldn't want to foster kids who are only going to get put back into abusive situations but if it was just for a while to let a family get back on their feet, it could be different. Most people want to adopt a baby because they think it will be easier to bond with a baby than an older child.

      Tenaciouscj

      by Tenaciouscj on July 2nd, 2009

    • Like
    • Report

    3 comments | Post one | Permalink

Want to attach an image to your answer? Click here.

Did this answer your question? If not, then ask a new question or create a poll.

You're reading I am 33 years old with two sons, 13 and 7. I just found out that I'm pregnant. The father says that he is not ready to be a dad. He is preferring abortion. I don't know if that's what I want, but I don't want to force him into a situation. Any ideas?

Follow us on Facebook!

Related Ads