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by Debris - the new slimline version. on July 11th, 2007
If a homosexual person decides to procreate using donor eggs or sperm, would you consider that against their desires or thoughts? I was once told by a lesbian she would never have sex with a man ever to have a baby, but sperm is male DNA. Your thoughts?
by lovebettafish on April 9th, 2009
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Does same sex parenting, single parenting, and kids raised by grandparents show that mothers and fathers are unnecessary?
by Felix on July 7th, 2010
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Some critics suggested that children of gays, along with Samuel D. Cheney, Mary Cheney's infant son -- are doomed to a life of struggle compared to those raised in a more traditional, Ozzie-and-Harriet-model family, with a mother & father. Your thoughts?
by Nosey-Steve on April 8th, 2009
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If a child needs a home and love, why does it matter the sexual orientation of the people willing to give it to them?
by Nosey-Steve on April 11th, 2009
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Do you support adoption by homosexual couples?
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You didn't, but what you must remember is that all children are taesed. Especially adopted ones and that goes even for the ones who go to "straight" homes. And which would you rather an orphanage or a home with two loving parents? And being raised by a same sex couple is so common now the kids don't even think of it unless their parents make a deal out of it.
by P. W. Pasobrio loves Marines on July 11th, 2007
I would much rather a same sex couple than an orphanage or childrens home. But given the choice, which to a degree I was, I would always chose man/woman parents for a child.
Just say, for example it was your little girl up for adoption - would you really be happy for her to be raised by 2 dads rather than a mum and dad?
by Debris - the new slimline version. on July 11th, 2007
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Just say, for example it was your little girl up for adoption - would you really be happy for her to be raised by 2 dads rather than a mum and dad?
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Sure, why not?
And BTW- you should reconsider what you wrote- the "I am not homophobic in any way" part.
How do you feel about children being adopted by mixed-race parents? Other kids could bully them for that. How about fat parents? How about "little people"? Should we let the opinions of schoolyard bullies determine who is or is not a fit parent?
by Magenta on July 12th, 2007
Sure would, Debris, just like I would be for a son. It's the love that matters most to a child not the sex, the race, or the size of the parent. MagentaStudios, or idotic adults for that matter. And, no, we shouldn't let them decide since they've already proven where their heads are. What bussiness is it of their's? None at all.
by P. W. Pasobrio loves Marines on July 12th, 2007
I can't believe that I have been marked down for given an honest truthful answer and bearing my sole on a subject that has actually affected me. Maybe AB is the worng place for me.
by Debris - the new slimline version. on July 13th, 2007
Rather than feeling judged about your answer you should look deep into yourself and think about WHY you were judged this way.
You say you would constantly worry if the child you gave up for adoption went to a same-sex couple. That's homophobia.
Homophobia is an irrational fear of homosexuals or homosexuality.
What you felt is clearly an irrational fear.
by Magenta on July 13th, 2007
I don't actally think that you are in a position to tell me how I felt.
Have you given a child up for adoption, do you know how painfull and scary it is?
I hope that you are never put in that postion because beleive me, it is really very hard.
by Debris - the new slimline version. on July 13th, 2007
I did not tell you how you felt- you did.
You said you would worry more if your child was given up to a same sex couple rather than an opposite sex couple.
That's homophobia.
The point is NOT how hard it is to give up a child, the point is the fact that you consider same sex couples more of a worry than opposite sex couples.
Would you worry more of a black couple adopted your child? Or a Jewish couple? The problem is not the fact that you worry, but the reason WHY you worry.
Have I ever given a child up for adoption? No, I'm gay. we don't tend to have unwanted pregnancies.
by Magenta on July 13th, 2007
I would prefer not to continue this right now as I am finding it a bit upsetting. Maybe we can pick it up again another time.
It wasn't my intention to offend you and for that I am sorry.
by Debris - the new slimline version. on July 13th, 2007
It's not irrational to have a fear based on real possiblities. Being teased because your parents are fat isn't the same as comments that could arise about same sex parents. It wouldn't be just children that could hurt the child. It could be the parents, teachers, the community too. There are homophobics everywhere. It's not right but it still exists. If you live in a religious community it is twice, three times as hard. You would want your child to have a happy home, but all Debris said was she would rather it be a both sex family. And it IS better for a child to have one of either sex to help give it a complete balanced, best of all worlds kind of upbringing if all else is equal. Doesnt' make her irrational or homophbic. She could have a sibling that was gay & love them dearly, love their SO, but still feel like a mom and dad would make the best parent. And if this happened a long time ago, as she said it was, these fears could have been really horrible back then. I'm sorry Debris:(
by Galeanda on July 13th, 2007
Galeanda, your comment was fine except for this:
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And it IS better for a child to have one of either sex to help give it a complete balanced, best of all worlds kind of upbringing if all else is equal.
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This is just flat-out wrong.
There have been many studies done on this over the years, and they have shown that while the NUMBER of parents is important, the SEX of those parents is not. If anything, children raised by same-sex couples are more likely to be open-minded, tolerant, and empathetic to others then children of opposite-sex parents.
It's those attitudes that have to change, and by caving into those attitudes they will never change.
And I'm talking about modern times- this was not even an issue back in the 70's or before. Not only could gay couples not adopt children, they were not allowed to work as schoolteachers. Gay couples would be arrested for holding hands under public decency and obscene behavior laws.
by Magenta on July 13th, 2007
Okay, guys, enough. We shouldn't be making Debris feel bad for this. She did what she thought was best for her child. We may not agree with it, but it's still her veiw. And, no, she shouldn't be getting downrated for it. It's her opinion and has has every right to it. It's not like she was spewing forth filth about homosexuals like a real homophob. She was just going as she's been taught and we need to respect her for that. And I feel empathy for you, Debris. I was almost in a situation where I thought I might have to put a child up for adoption. And I applaud you for being willing to give that child a loving home.
by P. W. Pasobrio loves Marines on July 13th, 2007
Same sex parents would be just as good of parents as opposite sex parents. As for the teasing, well now who's fault would that be? Those who have spread sladerous lies about homosexuals. Kids dont tease children of same sex couples because of the couple, they tease because they were raised to, thanks to idiot preachers, moron politicians, and simply put homophobic bigots, who have nothing better to do in life than to make a group of people feel inferior to them, because of their own issues and esteem problems. Dont punish loving same sex couples and deprive them of the ability, and joy of raising children, because of the ignorance, and stupidity of society.
by sega256 on May 24th, 2011