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by alliyahglee on July 3rd, 2007

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Me and my husband confront almost everyday.it's because of his daughter.i love my husband but i can't love/accept her daughter.maybe i am too selfish or what, but i can't control myself being jealous at her especially if he give her much attention than I.

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  • by Marj on July 3rd, 2007

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    Take it from me. I am 21 years old and My dad got remarried when I was nine. My Step Mother has the same problem and has never gone away. I have serious damage because of this. My teen years were horrid because my father did not know what to do and they fought alot over me. She would find things to get mad at me about so my dad would think I was the devil or something. I am guessing so it would look like I was causing the problems not her. She even at one point told him she does not feel safe with me in the house and that he needed to takt me to the nut house. (he did) They told him they can not take me becaue I was a NORMAL teenager. I have yet to bring myself to forgive him. For any of it. She made my teen years hell and made my selfesteem really bad because she was always making me feel bad about myself. I mean if my dad is going to chose some female over flesh and blood? I used to cry all the time it was not until I got out of that house that my depression went away it is still not gone but I am doing a whole lot better. She used to say mean things and degrade me in front of friends and tell me I am a whore. I now relize she won my dads affection simply because he is male and she has pussy to give him. Its not right that he sided with her and its still something that happens to this day if I cannot feed myself my dad gives me a couple dollars to eat but tells me not to tell her because he will get in trouble. Its not right I am his daughter and he should be aloud to help me he should not have to walk on eggshells about it just because she is an imature bitch. You on the other hand may not get this bad unless you have kid that you let do and have whatever and let his kid have nothing but hell. YOU HAVE TO STOP. ITS NOT ABOUT YOU. BE AN ADULT. YOUR NOT HURTING YOURSELF YOUR HURTING HER AND SHE DID NOTHING WRONG BY BEING BORN.

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    • You have brought some very important points that need to be explored.

      Yarnlady is happy every day

      by Yarnlady is happy every day on August 29th, 2008

    • My heart aches for you! I had the same issues but from a stepfather. Take care... hugs!!

      Cognition aka Cog

      by Cognition aka Cog on August 29th, 2008

    • My love goes out to you, you lost years with your farther because of a women. I hope this doesn’t happen to this girl also

      armygirl

      by armygirl on October 1st, 2008

    • I do feel bad for you.My situation is not like that,my now 28 year old step daughter and her 2 children ALWAYS come first.Have for years ,thats why I am no longer with her dad.Sad but he and I have a 13 year old boy and now not only does she come before him so do her kids.
      I have been through the other end of the ordeal and trust me it is as cruel as your situation at times.
      I cant even begin to list the REALLY blunt outright things he allowed to happen over and over again.Well after years of being put in the back seat I got out of the car.
      As for our son he sees his dad, and I choose not to say bad things in front of him,but it is PRETTY funny he complains to me about how much dad will do for her and her kids and not him.
      Never could figure this out,other than guilt he felt for not staying married to her mom.We met 15 yrs later, then our son was born which made him even worse when it came to her.Strangely enough, he feels driven to be up her ass even though he missed out on 6 of his sons years when he was in prison.He does not seem to feel he owes him the same attention.

      letitb

      by letitb on February 16th, 2012

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